https://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-13962381/Men-refusing-lifesaving-CPR-women.html
0:04 - Men and CPR Hesitation
2:06 - Social Media and Its Impact
4:21 - Military Training and Gender Dynamics
5:49 - Legal Risks of Helping
8:20 - Consequences of Weaponizing the Legal System
10:04 - Evolutionary Biology and Ethics
13:53 - Societal Responsibility and Male Hesitation
The lecture explores the societal and psychological factors contributing to men's hesitation in providing life-saving CPR to women, specifically highlighting a significant study from the Daily Mail that reveals a troubling trend—one in three Britons, primarily men, are reluctant to assist a woman in need due to fears of inappropriate touching. This finding emphasizes a broader cultural conversation about male anxieties and the perception of masculinity in emergency situations, particularly those involving physical contact with women.
The discussion introduces the complexities surrounding emergency medical interventions like CPR and defibrillator usage, notably the necessity of removing clothing for proper application. A significant portion of male respondents indicated discomfort with this requirement, raising concerns about potential repercussions, including accusations of sexual harassment. Contrary to male respondents, only a small percentage of women shared similar reservations, prompting an examination of the contrasting societal pressures faced by men and women. The lecture underscores an essential point: traditional gender dynamics and the evolving roles of men in society are at play, shaping their responses and willingness to engage in life-saving efforts.
Additionally, the lecture touches on real-life incidents that demonstrate the backlash faced by men when attempting to assist women in distress. Reports of men being accused of harassment during attempts to provide help paint a vivid picture of the rising caution that men are adopting in public spaces. The fear of social ramifications—becoming embroiled in controversy or facing legal challenges—often outweighs the instinct to help, resulting in a disconcerting societal trend where bystanders abstain from intervening during emergencies.
The conversation further delves into the evolution of gender roles and the implications of social media hysteria and movements that prioritize believing women's accounts. These cultural norms have inadvertently created a chasm, causing men to be perceived as potential aggressors rather than helpers. Drawing historical references and cases from South Korea, the lecturer discusses the evolution of women's rights movements and how they have interacted with expectations of male responsibility in emergencies.
The overarching narrative addresses the fragility of social bonds and the evolutionary perspective informing human behavior. Men, driven by instinct to reproduce and protect their social standing, may subconsciously weigh the risks of intervening against the potential fallout, including reputational damage. This dynamic, influenced by societal narratives surrounding consent and the consequences of misguided actions, leads to a disheartening conclusion: as men opt to remain bystanders rather than risk reputational harm, the very fabric of communal support and mutual assistance frays.
Finally, the lecture issues a call to action, urging society to reassess its response to men’s reluctance to help and to cultivate a dialogue that fosters understanding rather than condemnation. It posits that addressing the underlying concerns can lead to a more supportive environment where men are encouraged to help rather than fear repercussions. The end of the lecture encapsulates a plea for a nuanced perspective that acknowledges the complexities of human interaction in crisis scenarios, ultimately advocating for empathy, understanding, and constructive change.
[0:00] So, this is interesting. This is an article from the Daily Mail.
[0:04] Men are refusing to give life-saving CPR to a woman. A woman? It should be a woman. Because they're afraid to touch their breasts. One in three Britons are afraid to give a woman CPR or to give women CPR because they are worried about touching their breasts. A study reveals the same proportion of men, 33%, also feel being accused of, quote, inappropriate touching when giving women chest compressions. However, just 13% of women have the same reservations, okay? Sexual taboo, no, it's not that. It's just amazing how people just don't seem to understand or never have any curiosity about male concerns. Like, it's just, it's amazing. Ladies, if you're watching this, and I know that some of you are, to be on the male side of the social equation is to be condemned for every preference you have that does not accord with a woman's direct wishes, right? Male opinions are viewed as Tourette's outbursts, you know, just kind of unpleasant against the will, except, well, Tourette's is, I guess, people are victimized by the disorder. So just so you understand, can you imagine that you would be roundly condemned, attacked in the most vicious ways, humiliated, and put down if you expressed an opinion that went against the grain for a male. Well, that's what it's like being a man, right?
[1:28] So there's also a defibrillator is important as well. But for a defibrillator, there's pads that need to be placed on bare skin in the chest area. So half of male respondents stated they would feel less comfortable using a defibrillator on a woman, knowing that they have to remove her clothing, including a bra. And 31% of females surveyed, right? Nearly a quarter of all respondents admitted they're less likely to give CPR to a woman in public than a man. So anyway, that's interesting.
[2:06] So the problem is, it's a combination of social media plus hysteria, plus believe all women. Oh, and institutions. that have to investigate absolutely everything, right? So there was, I think it was in Australia, there was an ENT technician.
[2:26] Who actually let's let's go and let's find out about this some korean men are refusing to help women a few days ago a woman in her 20s lost consciousness and fainted when she was on the subway apparently there were a bunch of men in their 20s and 30s who refused to help and saying something to the extent of it has nothing to do with me which got the women on the internet pissed according to korean woman the reason being all able-bodied korean men have to serve military service they do learn cpr in the military so it was expected for men in their 20s so uh i mean that's the first thing, right? So there are a lot of men in the modern world who view themselves as serf captives of women through the state, right? So if a woman runs into trouble, if a woman has a kid out of wedlock, if a woman doesn't save for her own retirement, if a woman is heavily in debt, she runs to the government and the government forces the men, often forces the men to pay. Since the country needs defending, women want equality, but never in the realm of selective service. In fact, the great, late great Phyllis Schlafly opposed the Equal Rights Amendment back in the 70s, I think it was, the Equal Rights Amendment, and was able to successfully oppose it, although lots of women wanted it, by pointing out that this would mean that women would be, susceptible to selective service and the draft in the case of wartime, and then women ran away from equality when it came to sacrifice.
[3:49] So men feel that, a lot of men, right, feel that women are kind of hypocritical about this and that they are forced to pay for women's mistakes.
[4:02] And they've also been told, and this is the age of social media, right, and believe all women, as I said. So if a man is taken out of context, right, because this is the other thing too, people consume, it's not just women, of course, but people consume a lot of media where stuff is taken out of context and then form snap judgments based upon incomplete information.
[4:22] So if there is some man.
[4:25] And he's perceived to be, quote, groping, right? There's a lot of trolls out there in the world constantly trying to spread harmful, false narratives, right? And so somebody's going to slow down the video, and they're not going to give the context, and then the guy's going to be in trouble, right? And he's going to be in trouble because even if he's cleared eventually, who wants to go through that kind of investigation, who wants to get their name tarred and smeared, and you never know when that lightning strike of going viral is just going to hit, and then your life is never the same, right? It's like that woman, I mean, way back in the day who made that tasteless joke about AIDS in Africa and then woke up to a completely destroyed life, right? Just because you never know. So we've been told to believe all women and we've been told that a woman always needs to provide consent. And certainly in the West, probably less so in South Korea, But certainly in the West, a man is probably a little hesitant to do CPR, which can be quite violent, right? I mean, CPR can sometimes break ribs and so on, right? But if the woman has breast implants, is it possible that they could damage and leak? He gets sued, right?
[5:42] But women have been told, women have told a lot of women, right? Not all, of course. A lot of women have told society they don't need men. They can do it all by themselves.
[5:49] And so there's just this sort of fundamental shrug. And women have set up, a lot of women have set up these institutions or approved of these institutions where you believe all women and everything needs to be investigated. It just can't be dismissed with like a roll of the eyes and come on, he was trying to save your life, give me a break, right? Everything needs to be investigated and that can take, you know, six months, a year, it can be expensive, kind of stressful, that kind of stuff, right? So, you know, the social bond is actually pretty fragile, right? The social, I mean, if it's just some stranger, I mean, you're going to have to do a calculation. Is the life of a random stranger worth my life being destroyed by some social media hysteria, some false narrative, her suing me, even if it gets dismissed eventually? It's expensive and time consuming and stressful. So what is the life of some stranger worth, right? It's in 30s who likely just got out of the military to jump into hell because they know how to do CPR. But a lot of the men on the train didn't. Their reason being, they did not want to be accused of sexual harassment. There were a few incidents where men were actually accused for sexual harassment for trying to help the women. Back in 2014, a South Korean woman had actually tried to sue a male EMT paramedic for doing CPR and doing chest compressions on her.
[6:58] Of course, that is tough, but the question is this. If the woman, and I don't know the story behind this, but if the woman tried to sue an EMT for trying to save her life, then was that woman severely penalized? Was she charged? Did she have to pay huge fines? Did she have to pay his legal fees?
[7:27] What sanctions did she go through? Now, if she didn't really go through any sanctions, then, yeah, then you're toast, right? Then people are just going to let other people, you know, good luck, good luck. I mean, because if society is going to let, not just women, of course, but in this case, a woman, if society is going to let women do horrible, egregious things that break the social con, is going to break the social contract, then if society, and you know this could be the legal system but if society as a whole does not act against that woman in other words let's say that a woman does this and let's say the government doesn't do anything to to punish her for uh using the legal system in this horrible way well uh is that woman then shunned and ostracized by other women as a whole because like in other words is female in group preference going to overtake a basic survival instinct right are these women going to.
[8:20] Shun this woman because this woman is putting their lives and the lives of their grandmothers and aunts and cousins and daughters and so on in danger? Are they going to shun this woman? And is the media going to rail against her and say, look, by weaponizing the legal system against men who are trying to save your life, you're putting us all in danger? Or did it just kind of fade? So if If women choose other bad women over good men, right? If they choose a woman like this who seems to have weaponized the legal system against someone trying to, a man trying to save her life. If other women are going to choose that woman over bad men, then that's, men notice this. We're pattern making, we're pattern recognition machines.
[9:05] Paramedic wasn't charged or convicted with anything. Since he was reported, he still had to go through an investigation. There was also another story shared of. Everything has to be investigated, right? Everything has because people can't just make common sense decisions so they need some stupid rubber stamp committee for everything okay sorry let me just go back here a sec, for doing cpr and doing chest compressions on her although the paramedic wasn't charged or convicted with anything since he was reported he still had to go through an investigation there was also another story shared of a korean guy going off the steps in the subway station and there was a woman in front of him seemingly about to fall he put out his hands and tried to grab her from the back to prevent her from falling the girl freaked out and called the police on him and he ended up in the police station. That being said, these are all the men's side of the story. They'd rather be a bystander than getting their names tainted with SA. This all seems a little crazy to me. I mean, I get it. If you don't want to touch the person because you don't know what's going on, at least call for help. Well, maybe they did. So this is just basic evolutionary biology, right? Basic evolutionary biology. And that's where most of our instinctual ethics evolved, right?
[10:05] Our instinctual ethics evolved with evolutionary biology. So it's not that complicated, right? You just have to look and say, okay, so if there is some accusation of inappropriate touching or essay against me, my name gets associated with that. I go through an investigation. And again, you never know when the media is going to turn that blinding spotlight on you.
[10:27] Then my chances of reproduction go down enormously. My chances of reproducing my genetics goes down enormously because even if I'm cleared in the end, you know, there's a shadow over me and so on, right? So the man says, okay, well, I share genetics with this random stranger for sure, right? I guess in South Korea, it's fairly racially homogenous or ethnically homogenous, So yeah, I do share some genetics with this stranger who's maybe dying or whatever, right? But I assume that they're older women, and I said beyond reproductive age, so it doesn't exactly help spread the genetics. But even if they're not, it's just some stranger, some woman. And if helping a stranger harms your own reproductive chances, is most men instinctively will not help the stranger. Like, this is not that complicated, people. I don't know why people have such difficulties with this. I mean, it's fine to be sentimental about, oh, help the woman and so on. I get all of that, right? But a man, the men who survived throughout the brutal evolution of the human species, it's an unfortunate freeze frame for the woman, but the men who survived in the blood sport of human evolution were the men who made correct decisions about reproduction, right? Those are the men who made correct decisions about reproduction. And we can all do the math, right?
[11:54] If helping a random stranger.
[11:59] Has a significant chance or a chance even of putting your own reproductive success at risk, then you will often, your instinct will be to not help the stranger. I mean, and even if we say, well, but the media, what are the odds? The media is going to, she's going to accuse you and the media is going to focus on it and your name is going to be perpetually associated with this. Okay. Let's say that none of that happens, right? Let's say that she just files charges or let's just say that she files a complaint and your regulatory board or the police or whatever have to go through a multi-month investigation. That's going to cost you, you know, whatever X amount of crazy money, right? Well, um, what are, um.
[12:43] Like that has, what's the old saying, right? You can beat the rap, but you can't beat the ride, right? So you can get off on the charges, but you can't erase the process of having gone through it. That's going to change who you are. And it's going to make you a little more jumpy. It's going to make you less wealthy, of course. And the stress is going to make you less attractive, both in the present and afterwards. And so, yeah, the duty of the organism is to reproduce. And it's very nice to help strangers. but unfortunately, society as a whole, and I'm going to put the onus a little bit more on women here because they tend to have this believable women set up all of these institutions that have to investigate everything and so on. And they have, a lot of women, right, have either put down men and said that we are irrelevant and unnecessary and toxic and all of that.
[13:33] But it's not so much that the extremists among women have said and done all of that. it's that most women have not risen up to oppose it, which means that they don't feel particularly bonded or attached to their fathers, uncles, husbands, sons, and so on. So yeah, I mean, women to a large degree, and some men, of course, have turned over the narrative to a lot of extremist women.
[13:53] And that has put all women at risk. And compassion and justice and affection for men would have solved all of this decades ago. But as usual, it just looks like everyone's going to have to learn the hard way. And rather than saying to men, why don't you want to help? And what's wrong with society that you don't want to help? Because listen, men love to help. Like we absolutely love to help. I mean, what a great story. What a great experience having saved a life. So then if men are hesitant to, right, I mean, society has a choice, right? And society's choice is to say to men, why do you think you're hesitant about this? What do you think is going on that you're hesitant about this, help us understand so we can fix it. Nope. You just condemn the men as horrible, uncaring, unthinking, unfeeling cowards, and you attack men more, and the cycle continues until people finally... Ah, Lauren. freedomain.com slash donate. Thank you for your support. Bye.
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