Call In Shows

Stefan has a deep conversation with a caller about his troubled past, including his mother's death, past relationship struggles, and current marriage challenges. Stef explores the caller's traumatic upbringing, substance abuse issues, and difficulties in his marriage. Addressing his aggression towards his wife and the influence of his abusive grandmother, Stef discusses breaking harmful patterns and working towards healing. Emphasizing the importance of prioritizing family well-being, understanding emotional needs, and fostering healthier relationships, we conclude with a call for positive [...]

In this conversation, we delve into various callers' personal struggles and relationships. One caller discusses their tendency to raise their voice excessively, potentially due to traits of autism and past traumatic experiences. Insights into emotional detachment and communication challenges are shared, with the caller's spouse emphasizing patience and direct communication in their relationship. The discussion also touches on tumultuous pasts, including a caller's challenging relationship with their perceived neglectful mother and another caller's turbulent post-divorce experiences with [...]

Join me as I engage in a poignant conversation with a caller who bravely shares their journey of self-discovery, navigating family dynamics, addiction struggles, and enabling behavior. We emphasize the importance of self-awareness, seeking help for addiction promptly, and fostering accountability for healthier family relationships and personal growth.

"I would like to discuss some serious personality traits that are holding me back from achieving my goals(having a family, career, and growing in virtue). These traits include lack of assertiveness, indecisiveness, laziness, addiction, and more. These issues are extremely prevalent in the realms of dating and school. I would also like to gain clarity on my upbringing to help understand why I’m so dysfunctional. If nothing changes, I’ll be in serious trouble. Thank you Stefan for all you do."

"I am 35 and very much stuck in life.

"I suffered a lot of violence in my childhood, from my parents and from other children in school.

"I hold bachelors degree in computer engineering(software development), but I have never worked that professionally.

"Currently I work as a dishwasher in hotel in [X], but that is so depressing. Low intelligence and/or traumatized people like myself working there...I am not finding a way out."

In this episode, we delve into personal experiences and struggles shared by callers. Topics include societal pressure, childhood trauma, academic challenges, cultural identity, relationships, self-image, and coping mechanisms like pornography. Callers discuss feelings of abandonment and neglect, tracing these emotions back to family dynamics and fears of rejection. We explore the impact of neglect on self-worth and offer insights on improving social skills, self-perception, and rebuilding self-worth in healthier ways.

Hello Stefan,

This is time-sensitive, as I likely will make a decision within a week. Here is some background:

I've been seeing a girl long distance for several months. I am physically fit, have a solid income, and work full time after completing my undergrad. We briefly met on a dating app in college and rekindled the relationship over a year later. Our relationship is long distance, so we call regularly, and I visit each month as my work schedule allows for decent time off.

We share many values and goals, and both come from similar backgrounds—our families are together, and our parents [...]

In this compelling discussion, we deeply explore the profound impact of challenging family dynamics on individuals by sharing experiences of callers coping with manipulative and toxic relationships. Themes include vulnerabilities in relationships, the concept of sexual market value, childhood trauma, parental relationships, establishing moral boundaries, confronting past traumas, and seeking autonomy amid deceit and manipulation. Through poignant stories, reflections, and insights, we unravel the intricate layers of family relationships and the transformative journey towards healing, personal [...]

In this heartfelt episode, we address a caller's concerns about her brother's questionable upcoming marriage. The caller discusses her worries about her brother's sensitivity and his fiancee's past actions, including engaging in OnlyFans and overspending. Seeking advice on managing this delicate situation within the family, we analyze the family dynamics and the impact of the caller's mother's avoidance of difficult conversations to maintain relationships. Exploring upbringing influences and missed opportunities in addressing sibling bullying, we delve into the caller's family history, [...]

In this profound discussion, I delve into the personal struggles of a married woman as she navigates conflicts with her husband and confronts unresolved issues stemming from her upbringing. We explore the impact of familial dynamics on her current challenges, particularly dissecting her brother's behavior and the parental influences that shaped it. By unraveling past traumas and evaluating the role of parental support, we uncover the deep-seated roots of her struggles and highlight the importance of self-reflection in understanding and overcoming familial complexities. Ultimately, we encourage [...]