0:04 - Welcome to Friday Night Live
0:27 - Waves of Violence in the World
9:07 - Parenting Insights and Experiences
13:05 - The Dangers of Inattentive Parenting
16:43 - The Complexity of Shopping and Consumerism
22:15 - The Nature of Vanity
23:53 - The Dangers of Untested Self-Perception
37:04 - The Price of Vanity and Its Isolation
47:48 - The Impact of Vanity on Relationships
1:01:00 - Confronting Aggression Born from Vanity
1:13:38 - The Effects of Propaganda on Women
1:19:05 - The Symbiotic Relationship with Pets
1:39:31 - Navigating Real-Time Relationships
In this episode, I delve into various philosophical topics, bringing a blend of empirical reasoning and personal anecdotes to the conversation. We start with the stark realities of life, reflecting on mortality and the challenges it brings to our understanding of existence. I mention Scott Adams, whose health condition has drawn interest, and ponder the complexities of life and death that we all navigate.
As I transition into the subject of escalating violence globally, I express my frustration at the criminalization of self-defense and how societal perceptions shape our responses to acts of aggression. I draw on historical references, including Alexsandr Solzhenitsyn, to highlight how labels can dehumanize individuals, making it easier for society to accept violent repercussions against them, fostering a culture of helplessness.
I move on to reflect on personal experiences and the notion of violence emanating from unchecked beliefs or societal labels. The principle of opposing violence is crucial, and I challenge listeners to consider the moral implications of their stances on figures often vilified in public discourse. I stress the importance of standing against all forms of violence, irrespective of personal biases.
The dialogue then shifts to parenting and personal anecdotes about my family's experiences. I recount a frustrating incident at a coffee shop, revealing my concerns about parental inattentiveness and its consequences on children. These observations lead to broader reflections on modern parenting, societal expectations, and the nuances of child-rearing in a rapidly changing world.
Through humor and personal stories, I share thoughts on the challenges of balancing personal pursuits, such as writing my new novel while observing the dynamics of parenting at coffee shops. I elaborate on the frustrations of being in environments where attentiveness to children seems lacking, illustrating broader societal issues surrounding family dynamics.
The discussion then transitions into the theme of love and relationships. I explore the concept of vanity, particularly in how individuals assess their self-worth against the backdrop of societal expectations and personal achievements. I caution against the perils of vanity that stems from inflated self-perceptions, urging listeners to engage in self-examination and embrace humility.
Throughout, I advocate for a rational and empathetic approach to relationships, echoing the importance of mutual respect and understanding in both romantic and familial contexts. I underline how true emotional connection requires honesty, openness, and the courage to confront uncomfortable truths about oneself and others.
In closing, I address the complexities of navigating interpersonal relationships against a backdrop of often contradictory societal norms. I encourage listeners to maintain a sense of humility while engaging with the world, emphasizing that empathy and introspection are key to fostering meaningful connections in both personal and public life.
[0:00] Welcome, welcome, welcome to Friday Night Live, 23rd of May, 2025.
[0:04] Hello, loud and clear. We are going to talk philosophy, all things rational and empirical. And of course, I am dying. Well, we're all dying, I suppose. Although it's nice to see that Scott Adams' odds went from 0% to 30% because he's trying some new treatment.
[0:28] That's interesting. and a positive and of course i wish him the very best in his treatment that is uh, what is up uh my nipples it's cold out what's up with you hey is it a matter for you so uh i am thrilled to get your questions and comments i certainly do have some thoughts which i'm, overjoyed to share with you even a few controversial thoughts that I am in fact overjoyed to share with you but I'm happy to hear your comments as well so in my inbox people asking me about sort of the increased waves of violence that is going on in the world have you noticed that is that I don't think it's just me um I think it's fairly fairly safe to say that there is a smidge or two of a violence going on in the world people getting shot and attacked and and so on and um it's um it's tough obviously i wish it were different i spent most of my career and almost all of my adulthood.
[1:48] Fighting and working hard for reason to resolve disputes rather than blood-soaked rainy pavements where people land and it's tough it's tough it's tough to see um it's tough to see uh self-defense is criminalized and that's left-wing policy as a whole is to criminalize self-defense i don't know if you've ever, there was a criminal that did, created significant ire amongst a bunch of policemen in Florida, and they shot him 35 times, 39 times. And people said, the reporters of, why did you shoot him 39 times? Well, we ran out of bullets, couldn't shoot him more. So self-defense is criminalized, and Solzhenitsyn talked about this in the Gulag archipelago, where if you're stabbed by a criminal, well, the criminal is just expressing his nature, but if you resist it, then you are bad.
[2:57] And evil is all about creating a sense of helplessness in the virtuous, because if you can create a sense of helplessness among the virtuous, then they will not fight you back. Despair is the foundation of fifth and in particular sixth generation of warfare, these bad things are happening and there's nothing you can do about it that's the essential battle that we're facing now my particular philosophy i shouldn't say it's mine hopefully it's a universal philosophy i'd be thrilled to hear your thoughts as well but my particular of philosophy is, when it comes to seeing these increases in violence around the world.
[3:45] Is to say, well, who opposed the violence that was threatened and enacted against me when I was speaking and touring and all of that? Who opposed that violence against me? Because, you know, the way that violence spreads in society, it's very common. It's almost blindingly predictable. How does violence spread in society? Well, they pick someone and they apply endless negative labels to that person, right? Endless negative labels. And then they use violence to silence that person. And because that person has negative labels attached to him or her, usually him, then people are like, well, I'm not going to defend that guy. He's a bad guy. And then the principle is broken. The principle is broken.
[4:37] So those who did not oppose the violence that was enacted against me when i was out there making a productive and rational and empirical case based upon science reason and evidence in society and of course promoting zero hatred in fact everything that i've done in my public life has been with the goal of reducing hostility, hatred, and tension between the sexes and various groups and so on. So those who did not see fit to oppose the violence that I was subjected to, you know, I find it hard in my heart to rouse a lot of sympathy for people who are facing the violence that is almost the inevitable crop of what is sown when you don't oppose violence in principle say well this guy is a bad guy so you can be violent against him this guy's a Nazi you can be right okay well you just broken principle and now you're saying that violence is an acceptable response to words violence is an acceptable response to mere words.
[5:52] So, I obviously wish everybody the best, but if you didn't work to protect me, I wish everyone the best, but I don't see how it's my business anymore. All right, let's see here. Hederava says, 20 weeks pregnant and feeling the baby kicking a lot. Been listening to Peaceful Parenting, and it wants me to have a million more babies, and this one isn't even done baking yet. Oh it makes me the baby kick course the typo yeah yeah that's very nice that sentence made little sense but it's okay all the blood is going to the baby have low expectations well, massive congratulations massive congratulations uh even now you know my daughter is going to be 17 this year and i've been spending the last couple of weeks teaching her how to drive.
[6:48] And every time I see babies and marriage in a movie it moves me beyond words. Marriage is the most beautiful thing in the world and babies are the greatest thing in the world and the two are two sides of the same coin. So congratulations I wish you the very best I hope you have a reasonably comfortable pregnancy and the baby is nothing other than out of the primordial home. So I hope that you have a wonderful pregnancy and easy birth and that the bonding and the breastfeeding, which can be surprisingly tricky at times, goes well. And I love what's going for you in your life. Congratulations. And I wish you the very best. And I hope you'll keep us posted about how things are going. Yeah, I.
[7:45] I was, I was annoyed today. And honestly, this, you know, if you've got questions and comments, I'm thrilled to hear them, but I'll keep talking until they come swirling in. But I was annoyed today. So I went to do some work. My wife was vacuuming and, no, I won't make that joke, maybe. But my wife was a vacuuming and it's kind of tough to do work in the noise and, so what happened was why are we going here why can't the site be reached yes we're here okay, so I went out to a cafe to do some work my daughter was doing some work as well and And I try, in general, I try to sit apart from parents. I do. I try to sit apart from parents. Oh, why is the internet out? Are we back? I think we're getting a couple of hiccups here.
[9:01] Hmm.
[9:07] Yes i was just saying that i was annoyed and uh i think we're back let me know i'll be back, had a a wee hiccup.
[9:24] Yes, we're back. Okay. So I was at a coffee shop and there were two women with two kids and the women were chatting away and having their wee little coven convention. And the kids, one of them was maybe 18 months, was just sort of crawling and walking around, maybe 20 months. And the other was more of a more of a baby maybe 12 months so i assumed that it was each, uh it was a child of each one of the the moms and you know you ever have this thing where you're watching a movie and there's people driving and they keep looking away from the road you know like they're talking about some big plot or you know something that's going on in the movie and rather than looking ahead and driving they look to and i hate that because you just know you just know that I go out walking after midnight, that the Patsy Cline, you know, side smashes is coming out of nowhere. Like anytime somebody crosses the street these days, a bus is going to send them into orbit. And so if you're watching a movie and they just keep looking at the passenger rather than ahead of the road, you just know bad things are going to happen, right?
[10:40] So when parents have toddlers around and they're not watching them they're chatting away and having their carrot cake i get tense because it's it's countdown it's countdown to catastrophe and you know the little boy was kind of hanging off the edge of a table and you're just waiting for that thing to come over and crash down on him and you know the little baby was sort of rolling or the toddler, toddler baby was rolling around on the couch just waiting for him to fall off, And I was working on my new novel. I'm trying to write a sociopath. It's tricky. I mean, it's very much not part of my personality. Although I think I've known a few. I think I've known a few. But I'm trying to get that nature. It's a very foreign mindset for me, but I'm really working to explore it as a whole. So I'm working on a very challenging chapter with a sociopath.
[11:45] So i bet part of me is like looking over like it's not going to end well and i should have said something but my choice was to not anyway so eventually the there's a huge scream and i look over and what's happened is the boy has somehow levered a pretty heavy painting off the wall and it fell on his fingers. And one of the moms said, well, it's not lunch until someone ends up crying. And the kid was pretty hysterical. I think it slammed down. I still remember being a very little kid and closing. The door was closed. I had my fingers in the inside of the door closed. I still remember that sound. Squish crunch. I didn't break anything, but it was pretty nasty and it's just um um it's terrible it's terrible to me i just this inattentiveness and this um well we're here to have lunch and like you you you cannot especially kids at that age first of all there's nothing for them to do at a coffee shop like what are they going to do it's completely boring what are they going to do at a coffee shop it's really sad and they're just going to fuss and fudge it and fidget around until something bad happens.
[13:06] And then the mother, the boy who's, the painting landed on the fingers, and the mother, the mother was holding the child and patting the child's back, and then the phone rang, and she took the call. It's like, your kid just got his fingers crunched. He's crying like crazy. He's kind of hysterical, and you take a call? I don't know. I don't mean to be overly crabby. I i don't mean to be overly crabby because i do see some good parenting for sure and these weren't terrible parents to me just inattentive and that inattentiveness is really tough did you ever have that let me ask you guys did you ever have that as a kid, where you're just stuck and bored while adults are doing adulty things and you're not free to leave to me it's like you know go meet in a park let the kids roam around a little or whatever it is, right? Not in a coffee shop where there's nothing for them to do other than fidget until disaster strikes, because they can't protect themselves at that age, right?
[14:08] I remember my mother was, I mean, like a lot of women, she was a shopper. Women do like to shop as a whole. I mean, it's not like there's much for men at malls, right? Women love to shop. And a retail therapy, do they call it? And apparently, apparently there's just nothing. Like if you want in a movie or a TV show, if you want to show a high status woman, it's pretty predictable, right? What do you do? Well, she comes home. She's got the cinched waist, flared, little black dress on, flared waist, little black dress on. She's got some great heels on. She's got oversized sunglasses, a big floppy hat. And she's carrying bags from boutiques you know this is how apparently this is like the greatest thing on earth for women is to buy a bunch of useless nothing but icing no not even any cake adornment crap and that's just the most amazing thing and that apparently is the greatest thing it's like that scene in the movie pretty woman where julia roberts is not getting much attention from, to sales clerks, and then she comes back later. Look at all the money I spent elsewhere. Big mistake. You work in commission, right? Big mistake. And it's like, ugh, right?
[15:32] Oh, that I don't understand. I mean, when it comes to shopping, God help me. I mean, it's one of the great things about being married, which I'll talk about a little bit in a sec, but my wife will make sure that I am kept in the clothing that I, well, need and deserve. And I will, you know, it's funny because, and this is maybe just getting older, I don't even particularly like shopping for electronics anymore. Fortunately i don't need any new electronics um even though i don't know my phone is like six years old and so on but i bought the stuff that i needed to a couple of years ago and now i don't need anything new which is nice and i i will not upgrade.
[16:15] I will not upgrade i just can't do it well with one exception i double upgrade a larger tablet i did upgrade one but that's because it had a non-clear screen which i read outside so yeah I won't, I won't upgrade. Uh, it's just too much, too much work. It's too much annoyance. Uh, and, uh, I just won't, won't do it. And, uh, so I, there's nothing that I like shopping for anymore. And my wife's not a big shopper either. Um, I keep telling her, Oh, let's go buy something. She doesn't really want to.
[16:44] Um, but that apparently is, is the very greatest thing, uh is a a thin woman with big sunglasses and a pretty face walking in to a house with a big giant hallway like a big giant entrance hall with curved stairs and marble and she's got hermese bags and versace bags and donna karen dkny bags and weird shoe manufacturers with, half martian names crazy but my mom she used to love to shop and she would drag me around my brother went to boarding school before i did and i remember that year in particular.
[17:28] Just endless amounts of sitting listlessly in stores with no seats like you just find some place to sit right just fine i remember at one point i piled up some clothes to sit on and everyone got really mad at me um just uh just shopping just shopping she has all this stuff she could have been playing with me we could have been having fun together but no, she's got all this stuff and now she doesn't have this stuff anymore because this was like 50 years ago uh more than 50 years ago in england so that that crap is all gone all that all that shit and that stuff and that useless crap is gone you ever see those those videos where there's there's two that come to mind one is a british cleaning woman and she's just in there cleaning up people's houses and there's no relatives who care about it no kids who care about it or no kids at all and she's just picking all of these photos up oh look at this you know this photo's framed all these photos and albums it just goes in the dump it just gets and even if you have kids, within a generation or two nobody knows who anyone is.
[18:33] We're all destined for dust in history. So, oh, the other one is if you see the videos of the Japanese cleaning company that has to go into really old homes with really old people. It could be newer homes, but yeah, really old people. They've died. Nobody's known about them. They've got a kid maybe somewhere on the other side of the island or maybe somewhere else, South Korea or something. And they go in and they the dead person is finally found out through the smell and this company has to go in and they try and get in touch with the kids and they say we got all this stuff here the kids are like i don't care just toss it or recycle it or give it to charity or something i don't care about any of this stuff and all the stuff that was lovingly gathered and held onto and cleaned and dusted and all the stuff you accumulate disperses like face droplets in his knees to nothing to nothing all right, somebody says uh.
[19:47] Quite a bit older while my parents were separated being taken with my brother by my mother when she did things like go to the hair salon brain numbingly boring nobody to talk to nothing to do yeah i guess at least kids have tablets these days but yeah the hair stuff my mom had uh thin hair, cloudy hair and so she spent some time of course trying to thicken it and make it look cool, and i i still i can't stand that stench of hairspray i just i can't stand it i can't stand it because it just brings back you know 50 and 50 plus years and still, somebody says oh this is the pregnant lady yeah i was left alone for long periods of time my mom left me in a bathtub with a glass cup and it broke and i sliced my foot on it she would recall this story with amusement because of what i said to her hurt self big one which tells you how young i was when she was just being inattentive not sure what she was doing many such cases yeah isn't that wild I mean, I've told this story before of my father, my late father, wanting to finish a game or two of tennis and letting me crawl around until I went into a garden shed and drank some weed killer, which could have had something to do with this and this. Anyway, so, yeah, church was tough. Yeah, church was tough. See, church, it was so boring, nothing to do, can't speak. Then after church, my mom would stay and chat with friends. Yeah.
[21:11] Someone says my mom was a bit like that. She was more about telling me what I was doing wrong on a continuous 24-hour stream of conscience rather than inattentive. I would have preferred inattentive. Not sure, though.
[21:28] Someone says, you have the right to be crabby. Had an asthmatic child come into the ER a month ago. It was disgusting to see this mother complain about her child having asthma. Called her dramatic and at one point said, with everything we've been going through with her, kids wouldn't recommend it. she said that in a jokey manner in front of the kid yeah.
[21:48] James says, there was also the time I was around six when my father had to purchase a wallet for his father's birthday and I was suffering from an ear infection, fever. I would get yelled at if I hid in those circular pants racks, so I just had to sit there. Oh yeah, the woman says, my mother dragged me through stores a lot too. In comparison, I'm an efficient shopper. I go in with a mission and then I leave ASAP. If I want to peruse, I just go on the internet and order it. I just can't browse in stores. What a waste of time. Yeah.
[22:16] Oh by the way don't forget and of course if you tipped last night i'd appreciate it we're doing two two uh two shows in a row uh freedomain.com slash donate to help out the show would really really appreciate it i would really appreciate it um yeah i've never been much of a gatherer and uh my daughter we actually just went today and and donated a pretty big item to, a secondhand store they're actually gonna have a bidding on it and all of that so we go through and we we clean out like all of our kids stuff is has been donated and and for other kids and all of that so we we try not to uh to gather and we try not to gather because i mean that's that's just tough for people down the road right people down the road someone's gonna have to deal with all of your crap when you're dead and uh the less the better that is the better as a hole for sure. Look at that. The internet doth be staying up. Excellent.
[23:16] So I wanted to talk about vanity, but if you have questions or comments, obviously it's your show. I want to get there for you, but I do want to talk about vanity. I had an interesting conversation about that. and I wanted to share my thoughts about it. And I'll get your thoughts on it as well. And I'm just going to refresh here to make sure I'm not stalled on messages. No, I'm not stalled on messages. You're stalled on messages. No problem.
[23:53] So there's a number of ways to be vain. And I wanted to talk about the two most common ones, the two major ones that keep you vain a vain, is when you have an untested high opinion of yourself, You have an until I'm a great writer, but no, but you never show your writing to anyone. You never try and get it published. You never try and get an audience, right?
[24:23] You know, uh, I'm a great songwriter. I really great at writing songs, but you don't play your songs to anyone. You don't go to cafes and strum away. And this is strumming. Apparently it's universal. I speak sign language. So when you have untested high opinions of yourself, um, you ever see these like American gladiator things? I have a number of quasi-toxic traits. One is imagining that I can do those crazy obstacle courses and make it. And it's like, I absolutely couldn't. I remember trying one not too long ago with my daughter. I got about halfway through and I'm like, hmm, this, if I continue, might be fatal. So I stopped it. My toxic trait is, you know, well, it looks easy for them. Dunning-Kruger, right? Well, it looks easy for them. Therefore, it's going to look easy for me. I remember doing some karaoke contests in the past, and I did okay.
[25:17] Got a couple of rounds in and, you know, got cheered and voted on to the next round or whatever. But then towards the end, you know, the truly silver-throated angel voices come out. And I remember watching some guy do, you know, Oh, my love, my darling, I've hungered for your touch a long, lonely time. Unchained melody, but in the correct key. And it's got crazy falsettos and a huge range, the Righteous Brothers. And he just soared through it. And I'm like, well, isn't that nice? Bye-bye. Good luck with everyone. I will not be passing this round. And I didn't, right? So you, and it's not like I thought I was going to win or anything like that. To me, it's just kind of fun to get up there, belt a song or two, and see what happens. But...
[26:01] Vanity is having an untested high opinion of yourself. I mean, I will not lie. I have a very high opinion of myself as a philosopher. I think I have realistic views of myself, but I have a high opinion of myself as a philosopher. And one of the challenges, you may disagree, I may be wrong, I'll just be honest and tell you what I think.
[26:31] With regards to what I do in this show, one of the reasons why I ask you all for, your questions is that, I mean, I still have stuff to talk about for sure, but I think of the number of major problems that I have solved in the realm of philosophy, and I believe that I have solved them. I've debated them endlessly. I've gotten lots of feedback and push back and refined them. And I've solved the problem of secular ethics, solved the problem of free will, solved the problem of love, solved the problem of simulation theory, solved the problem of metaphysics and epistemology, and solved the problem of morality in relationships and all of that. So I've just done, well, a lot. I've done a lot. And again, it won't be seen for a generation or two, everything that I've done. Philosophy is the slowest moving of the disciplines? By far. By far. Because there is not, there is almost nothing practical in philosophical advancements for anyone who's alive. If it's an advancement in physics, let's say, then that can translate to engineering, can translate to business, can translate to profits, and so on. Like quantum mechanics allows for the modern computer.
[27:48] Theory of relativity allows for uh equals mc squared allows for nuclear power and so on right so uh various uh chemical and physical formulas allowed for the internal combustion engine and trains right so so physics i mean they do say yeah physics advanced science advances one grave at a time right it takes a new generation but philosophy is much slower much slower because philosophy is, is almost universally negative, particularly moral philosophy, is almost universally negative, for everyone who currently exists, because everyone who currently exists has embedded in a particular moral paradigm, their relationships, their business, their friendships, everything is sort of embedded in a particular moral paradigm. And if that moral paradigm has proven to be false.
[28:40] People's lives are revealed to be conformist catastrophes. And it's like the peaceful parenting thing. Oh, yeah, the philosophy of parenting, right? I'm the philosopher who's tackled the philosophy of parenting with the greatest depth and clarity that has probably been achieved. I've got a whole theory of mental health and psychology and self-knowledge and all that kind of stuff. Not that I'm a psychologist, but, you know, I have a theory of sort of how the mind works.
[29:07] So I've done... So much that I don't want to just invent things, you know, if it's been, I mean, I've been almost 20 years doing this, right? And in public, I'm 20, I'm 40 years, right? Now, 40 years of pretty applied thought I've solved a lot. So I have a very high opinion of myself as a philosopher. And of course, my call-in shows how to take self-knowledge and apply it to practical decisions within the world that is, within the choices that people make in their life. I've connected abstract theory to practical empirical decisions in a way that has not been done before, at least in the way that it's sort of recorded and published before.
[29:50] I got a whole theory of dreams and their purpose. Like, really, I've just, I've covered the gamut. And I'm very humbled and grateful for my ability to do that. I did not earn my ability to do that. I have that ability. And I've tried to do the best I can. And of course, you know, I've explained why disparate groups have disparate outcomes. And so all of this and my predictions have been pretty good. So I've done I've done a lot. And so I thought when I was little, I thought, gosh, I have something really great to offer the world. And I tried for many years to offer my skills and abilities to the world. Finally when uh podcasting uh came along and the middleman the middlewoman in particular was removed between me and you right i didn't have to go through other people to get from me to you i could as i do right now tonight talk directly and.
[30:51] So i felt or had an instinct or a thought, that I was going to have great things to offer the world. And then the technology caught up, which I am, again, immensely humble, humbly grateful for. I mean, I'm sure there've been plenty of smart and smarter philosophers throughout history, but like in my novel, Just Poor, Mary O'Donnell, right? They did not have any way to get their thoughts in a permanent way out into the world. I'm not smarter necessarily at all. I just have the right technology at the right time. And of course, I've done my debates, I've done my public speaking, and I've put forward many predictions, and I've had, I mean, in many ways, every call-in show is a debate between truth and historical inflicted delusion. So i have pride in what i have provided to the world because it's not vanity because i've i've tested it right i put the books out i've i've had the debates i've had the pushback i've had the feedback i've had uh the criticisms and i've worked with them and all of that so that's.
[32:14] Tested. That's not vanity. That has been put to the test. So vanity is when you have a high opinion of yourself that you refuse to submit to empirical tests. Oh, I could be a great movie actor, a great television actor. Well, you should go and audition, or if you can't get a part, you can write your own stuff or whatever, and just try and find a way to sort of make it happen. I mean, one of the reasons why I ended up doing a couple of documentaries, and I would have done more, except they were choked off from distribution through suppression. Whereas I saw hoaxedmovie.com, Mike Cernovich is great, and even more relevant now than it was when it first came out. But Mike Cernovich's great documentary called Hoaxed, hoaxedmovie.com, seeing what I was able to do at the end of that movie, it was like, yeah, I should probably be in the camera more in a natural setting, and so on, right? Freedomain.com slash donate. And...
[33:11] How does vanity tend to be sustained the most? How does vanity tend to be sustained the most? So I think there's two ways. Thank you very much, Grime Time. I really, really appreciate it. I'm very kind. I humbly and gratefully appreciate your support. It's very helpful to the show, and I really do thank you for it. So there's two major ways that people keep their vanity cooking and intact. Thank you, Matt. And the first is to be a big fish in a little pot. To be the best actor in a small town, right? Oh, hoaxedmovie.com is no longer valid, it says. James, but you go to fdrurl.com slash hoaxed, fdrurl.com slash hoaxed. And it will go to Mike Zunovich's page where you can get it. Yeah, I mean, didn't they yoink that out of Amazon? Even after people had paid for it, they just took it away.
[34:19] Wow, hoaxed movie is gone. How strange. I wonder why they let that happen. Could have just redirected it somewhere, right? But thank you. I appreciate that. So yeah, when I went to Glendon campus of York University, which was fairly small and I was you know I hate to sort of say it but you know I was the best actor in a university which had only a couple of thousand people right and.
[34:45] And I know that because I was cast as the lead in every play. I never even had to audition. And so I played in a wide variety of, I played in Harold Pinter. I did a play called A Slight Egg. I was the lead. And I did another movie, sorry, another play where I had to play a guy who got paralyzed halfway through. And I remember the director put duct tape all the way down my body so I would know what not to move. And I played in Chekhov's The Bear as the butler as a comic role. And uh i was uh anyway so i was just casting a bunch of stuff and really enjoyed it and uh so i thought gee you know i'm pretty good actor and so i went to the national theater school i auditioned and they take like one percent of people 68 out of 1600 and i got in and uh they liked my acting they said because i went in for acting and playwriting they said forget the playwriting you're a good you're a great actor you should stick with that and um and then they found out about my politics and kind of turned on me like a bunch of cornered rabbit jack i was gonna say jack terriers but i probably should say pitbulls and um so then i went to theater school and you know i was kind of the middle i was kind of in the middle i was kind of in the middle i was certainly people better than me for sure um and i was kind of in the middle and.
[36:05] And so I put that to the test and found my sort of limitations. And I'm very glad that I took theater school. I'm very glad that I learned how to use my voice and how to connect my emotions and the body work that was done, the Tai Chi, the movement work, the Alexandra technique, all of that was great for getting sort of mind-body connected. It was all really, really great stuff. And as it turns out, I have way too many words of my own to spend my life mouthing other people's language, right?
[36:40] If you're a big fish in a little pond and you stay there, it's more likely that you're going to be vain. You don't put it to the test. You have to keep increasing your challenge and skill level until you figure out where you sit in, I say in reality, but in something empirical and objective, right?
[37:05] I know the guys who the guy who's the best player uh in you know i i love volleyball myself love volleyball and if you're really really good in volleyball and you then don't continue to but you still play you just keep playing with people who aren't very good then you're gonna have an inflated sense of your own abilities because you're not testing it by upping your skill set upping your skill challenges right so that's really really important if you think you'd be a good manager work to be a manager and find out so vanity is, inflated it's turned tumoresque or cancerous in a way by staying a big fish in a little pond, always keep trying to do better to challenge yourself more to take on more challenges and And that way you avoid what is a pretty terrible curse called vanity. Because vanity keeps you addicted to something that is unreal. And if you believe things that are unreal, if you believe things that are unreal, you can't...
[38:22] Be close to anyone like i remember when i met my wife i she said how was your day and i said oh great thank you uh i said it was great i got my first book published and she said oh i'd like to read it and so on now i like my writing my fiction writing in particular and i'm really really enjoying this new novel it's really different for me it's really challenging and really exciting, and because you know i think i'm a good fiction writer and particularly my novel almost which freedomain.com books it's free you should definitely check it out but uh if i thought i was a great writer and my wife thought i was a bad writer there would be an awkward disconnect, right and i don't know if you ever had this in life most people most people have had this in life at one time or another, where, you know, you meet some girl, she's, oh, I love to paint, and I'm taking this art course, and this, that, and the other, and then, she shows you her paintings, and they're bad. They're just bad. They're just bad. That's really tough.
[39:46] That's really tough, so if you believe things if you believe in things that you don't understand you will suffer if you believe things that are false or at least not empirically verified, then it's really awkward for people to be around you because they don't accept what it is that you believe and it's really tough for them it's really tough for them what do you say you know you're not really as good as you think you are ah you know you believe this but yeah right so, You know, if I say to my wife, I like to sing karaoke on occasion, she says, great. If I said to my wife, I want to be a professional singer, she'd say, no, it's not really a thing.
[40:34] So the price of vanity is isolation, right? You are alone with your inflated opinion of yourself. And when you have an inflated opinion of yourself like vanity and insecurity like the old simple mind song right vanity and security are two sides of the same coin that vanity is a superstructure of insecurity because you won't put it to the test right you won't put it to the test.
[41:03] And i mean i remember many years ago i used to go to karaoke downtown with a friend of mine and the guy who was the karaoke host um once bored the living pants off as both for an hour telling us the plot of his space rock opera that he'd had sitting in his desk for the last 10 years you know he wrote this whole space rock opera and he was telling us the whole story and it's like why are you telling us a story go produce it go record it go you know whatever right i mean you know he he was a instrumentalist he was a singer and it's like get some people to record your, intergalactic space opera or whatever it is right but don't tell us about it just i don't know what's the point right just make it happen so isolation is the result of vanity and all that punctures your vanity creates detonated holes that lets the love in because love is to some degree based upon respect and if you believe things about yourself and refuse to put them to the test then, people sense the vanity the vanity means they can't respect you, And if they can't respect you, they can't love you.
[42:29] Honesty is necessary but not sufficient for love. And vanity is lying to self and other about the extent of abilities. Yeah, Joe says, on my previous job, I knew I was underpaid. So I went to look for another job and got a $20,000 raise on my new job. Yeah, put my theory to the test and got $20,000. Yeah, absolutely. Absolutely.
[42:54] Put it to the test. I think I have valuable things to say to the world in terms of philosophy. Put it to the test. Put your philosophical arguments out there and, or whatever it is you're going to do. So, sorry, that's number one. Number one is big fish in a little pond. You stay in an area where you are the best. You know maybe you you're really into chess right and so you just hang around the park where they do this rapid chess stuff and maybe you win a bunch of stuff but you won't enter into any genuine competitions right so that's number one number two number two and this is this is particularly true i'm going to say this to the men it happens to the women as well but i'm going say this to the man in particular the other way that you foment and wall yourself off with the high bricks of vanity is to compare your strengths to other people's weaknesses and this is brutal in dating horrendous this breaks up more relationships than any other single thing You compare your strengths to other people's weaknesses. So my wife is instinctively, ferociously, almost demonically organized.
[44:20] I have organized thoughts. My wife has an organized family life. And these things are complementary, right? So if I were to say to compare my own, I don't know, intellectual creativity to that of my wife's, that would be comparing something that I'm ferociously strong into something she's good at, but not as good. Whereas, of course, if my wife were to compare her, I would say innate, but her immense capacity and enactment of organization, her keeping things running, keeping things. I mean, one day when I'm old and even grayer, I will tell everyone how complicated life is sometimes and then you'll appreciate what my wife is doing. So if i were to say the good the essential good is intellectual creativity.
[45:17] I say well i'm stronger i'm better at that than you are so i'm superior right, my strengths against her and it's not a weakness but not as strong if my wife were to say well you know being organized is uh is the most important thing in life and i'm way better at it than you Therefore, I'm superior to you. Oof. You ever have, you ever have people like that in your life? You ever do that? People who like, they compare their strengths to your weaknesses.
[45:52] And call you inferior or deficient or wrong or bad. You know, I have these scraps of memory, right? My memory, nothing's connected. It's all free-floating. I have these scraps of memory. And every single time I say to my wife, I vaguely remember this. She's like, it was here, on this month, in this place, on this day. This was the weather. Here's why we were there. Like, she just remembers it all. Amazing. What is it they say? Women make the best archaeologists because of their ability to dig up the past. No, and she uses it for the power of good and keeps my brain organized. Or if I say, is that a new jacket? Did I get a new jacket? Wait, did you buy me something? She's like, no, no, no. You've had this jacket for, you know, three years and 14 days, and we got it on this place for this reason and that purpose and blah, blah, blah, right?
[46:46] Amazing. Amazing. Amazing. amazing i remember often that i have clothes that's kind of the limit that's kind of the limit for me but my wife remembers everything organizes everything and she's just incredible it really is i i it's a force of nature it is like watching uh you know i'm i'm like a tornado going through the town um my wife is like watching the reverse of the tornado going through the town she puts everything back together makes everything whole again it's really amazing and beautiful and wonderful to be around. I think it's complimentary. I think that my strengths are my strengths. Her strengths are her strengths. I have huge respect for her strengths. She has huge respect for my strengths. We work together well. I appreciate her strengths. She appreciates my strengths. And it's a good team. It's a good team. We are a good team. However, if I wanted to be vainglorious, then I would define the things that I'm naturally strong at as the cinquanon, the most important things, the essential things, what it really means to be human, right?
[47:49] AI can organize things, right? so if i wanted to be vain and thus isolated and tremulous in my self-assessment and subject to the you know if you're vain then somebody who's perceptive and honest is your enemy and you're gonna fight them like crazy right so if you're vain then that's gonna be how it goes and you don't want that in life you don't want to be um like a guy who's on the run a felon who's on the run you don't want to be like that how he feels when there's a cop around right and and so if there's an honest and direct person who's around and you are vain they are your natural enemies you are their natural prey in a sense right so you have to um stay away from those people and you have to keep you have to keep your friends away from those people and it's all just a bunch of management a falsehood requires way too much management in my view plus you don't have to remember that much if you tell the truth it's all real so another way that people get trapped in vanity and therefore isolation and and i think often depression and so on is.
[48:54] To compare their strengths to other people's weaknesses and define their strengths as more important than other people's strengths you know creative people can do this all the time right they do this all the time people who are good at making money say well making money is the is the key people who are very artistic say well art is the essence and people who aren't artists are just somehow lesser square and bourgeois and like we all have our strengths and weaknesses and the purpose of marriage along with love and respect and children I mean one of the most functional aspects of marriage is you want to marry someone whose strengths and weaknesses complement your own right.
[49:38] So, you want to be in business with people who complement what it is that you're doing, not who do exactly the same thing as you're doing, because then you'd be competitors, right? So, find people who complement your strengths. In both senses of the word, they'll have a slightly different spelling and pronunciation. And avoid vanity by avoiding.
[50:08] Thinking that what you're naturally good at is the most important thing in life and everyone else is somehow deficient because they don't have your natural abilities, right? That's really, really important. And humility lets other people in, lets other people have feedback and influence in your life. And humility, and it's funny because, I mean people will I'm sure it's kind of boring and inevitable people will take what I said earlier about my achievements and say oh how vainglorious and they just they just apply these negative labels rather than think anything through but of course anybody with at least two-thirds or three-quarters of a brain would recognize that the reason I achieved so much in the realm of philosophy was not vanity at all. It was humility. It was humility. So when I really sat down and thought about ethics, morality, I'm like, I don't have a good definition. I mean, I've studied a whole bunch of good definitions, but none of them really satisfy me. I don't have a good definition of morality. I've been studying philosophy at that point for like over 20 years. I still don't have a good practical, empirical, testable, verifiable, syllogistically provable definition of philosophy. That's humility. I've been studying something for 20 years or more, and I don't have an answer to the most essential question in that discipline. That's humility.
[51:36] When people would ask me about free will, I wouldn't have a good definition of free will. Free will is our ability to compare our proposed actions to ideal standards. And there are these phases, like these storms and these seasons and these paroxysms that go through this community, or at least used to. And for quite some time, James will remember this as well, but for, it felt like about two years, it was like, bam, bam, bam, determinism, determinism. And out of the fires of that brutal bulrog whip combat, I came up with good definitions of free will and debated them a lot with people back in the day. I still remember one guy who was a determinist, a staunch determinist, asked him about his childhood and he'd been locked in his room by his parents for most of his childhood. Well, I can understand why free will is a challenge because you were caged. so, not having good I mean it's like people would say well what is love? what is love? Hojo well I didn't have a good answer I didn't have a good answer, love is an essential aspect of happiness happiness is the purpose of philosophy.
[52:59] That wasn't Ned Esferatu was it? I don't think it was him. I think it was someone else. And I didn't have a good definition of love.
[53:14] I, when I, before I started the show, shortly before I started the show, one of the reasons I started the show was my big breakthrough as far as DROs go. Oh yes, that's right. That's right. Nils, well, it was public, right? So, I didn't have a universal consistency to my non-aggression principle because I created exceptions for the minimalist, minochist, objectivist state until, you know, literally a week or two before I started my show was when I had the breakthrough. I started writing articles about it.
[54:03] So, the achievements that I was able to surmount were the result of humility. I refused to pretend to have certainty about that which I was not certain about. Boy, that feels like a bit of a convoluted sentence. I refused, and this is the Socratic argument, right? I refused to pretend to know that which I did not know. I refused to be certain of that which I was not certain of. That's humility. And that's the lesson of Socrates. Socrates went around questioning everyone who said they knew what justice was, they knew what virtue was, they knew what the gods wanted and so on. And he would question them and they would fall apart. So Socrates said, I'm the wisest because at least I know that I know nothing. That's humility. To wipe everything clean, right? To wipe everything clean. You see, the funny thing is I was not sure I was going to have a whole show on me tonight, but I do, I do. Thank you for these great questions and comments.
[55:19] So the achievements that I have, I keep wanting to say the achievements that I have achieved because I am big brain, big words, but the sort of peaks that I've climbed, the achievements that I have made. I can't stop. I can't keep saying the achievements. What I have achieved. I have achieved through Socratic, deep, robust humility. To wipe the sleep clean, blank, blank page, right? Blank, right? If I write a chapter and it's bad, I just scrap it and start again. That's humility, right? This is not good. I'm not going to edit it. I'm going to scrap it and start again.
[56:08] What I have achieved, I have achieved through humility. And because I was humble enough to say, I don't know what, I don't know what virtue is. I don't really have a strong definition of truth. And I don't know what free will is. And I don't know what love is, and I don't know how to translate abstract values and virtues into practical decisions within relationships, and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, right? And I had a lot invested in minarchism. Thank you, Jimmy. I had a lot invested in minarchism, really did. I mean, it's the foundation of everything that I had worked to believe in for many, many years. I had 20 years invested in a minarchism and objectivism, and to say, hmm, doesn't do it. It doesn't make it. It does not make it. It does not achieve it. It does not get what needs to be gotten.
[57:10] Right? I mean, that was a Galileo who took the bowling ball and the banana or whatever it was, and everyone thought the heavier thing would fall faster, and it turned out it didn't because he actually tested it. I'm not sure. I'm not sure. I don't know. I don't know. Is it true? I'm not sure. I don't know. I'm going to throw this thing in because I had the thing open. Freedomain.com slash books, the present. You should check it out. And just download the, just put it in your podcatcher. Download it, listen to it. You'll love it. It's a great book. It's a great book. So vanity is imaginary achievements that vanish when you do, because they're not based on anything real. And humility is genuine achievements that outlast you. Vanity is mortality. Humility is eternity. Immortality. Immortality.
[58:06] I write because, nobody else is writing what I want to read in particular with fiction, in particular with fiction I write because nobody else is writing what I want to read and I assume that I'm not alone in wanting these things and I was actually quite right people really do like my novels and I'm very pleased for that, avoid avoid avoid vanity it's a drug it's tempting as hell i get that i understand, avoid vanity it isolates you it makes honest and direct people your enemies it strips people of their respect for you and it has you surrounded by other vain glorious fools each of whom of all of you are propping up each other's imaginary achievements or, fake progress.
[59:07] And it contributes enormously, I'm not kidding about this, vanity is foundational to violence. I mean, let me ask you this, have you ever in your life confronted someone's puffed up beliefs in their own abilities, talents, or achievements? Have you ever confronted someone, could be in family, could be extended family, could be a friend, could be a lover? Have you ever confronted someone's vanity? What happens when you confront someone's vanity? What happens when you start to poke around the house of cards that props up vainglorious, inflated megalomaniacal or narcissistic self-imagery.
[1:00:08] Yes, they did not like it, to say the least. Well, lies must always be defended with aggression. The truth fends for itself. Lies must always be defended with aggression. Chris says, yeah, they did not like it, to say the least. Mitch says, yeah, and they started screaming at me almost immediately. Right right right abuse comes from vanity so you think of parents right i think of parents who's like well my kids just obey me they should just listen to me they should just do what i say damn it i'm right they're wrong how dare they question me blah blah blah well they'll end up uh escalating even to the point of violence, right? It's bad. Thank you, Chooks. I appreciate the tip.
[1:01:00] It's bad.
[1:01:09] When certainly with regards to my mother when my mother when I would confront my mother's, falsehoods about herself oh you know what's funny I'm wondering why I'm a little goggle-eyed and reflective bro has the wrong glasses on there we go I have my these are my these are like a couple of generations old which is fine for reading this stuff but not too not too goggle-eyed and like two finding Nemo fish tanks on my face. But yeah, if you look at aggression, I mean, I remember, I've told this story before, I keep it very brief, but I remember a woman who claimed she had psychic abilities and I said, we should go collect the amazing Randy's million dollar prize. He's got a prize in Vegas to anyone who can prove psychic abilities and it doesn't work that way. She kind of turned on me. It's the same thing with astrology, right? Astrology is kind of a shit test, right? Can I rope you into crazy? Can I feminize you, right? Men are not supposed to believe in astrology because we're men. I mean, a lot of women will and whatever, right? But astrology is a woman's shit test to find out if she can push you around or if you're too lustful to be a man. Will you shut up and nod when she talks about all of this arse in Moon's Venus kaleidoscopic constellation crap?
[1:02:33] Yes the positions of the sun determine your nature when you're born it's just a shit test, right don't don't don't fall for it don't don't fall for it it's just a shit test to see if she can bully you and push you around that's what it exists for along with an appreciation of Taylor swift so yeah when people have delusions and uh you know i remember a friend of mine when i was younger had a great great belief in his judo skills great belief in his judo skills and i was like, You know, I've never really seen you, but you're kind of short and tubby. So he ended up entering into a judo competition and got crunched by a giant Russian judo fighter and ended up in hospital and was out of commission for six months.
[1:03:35] All right. And Sepanta says, I did against my father a lot in yesteryears, sometimes without realizing it. I would get hostility, a deathly glare, petty passive aggressiveness from him. At times, he will go to full on rage and him threatening to kick me out of the house, saying I'm effing useless and that I'll live in a nearby tent city, all while I feared being assaulted. But I would egg him on even more. I'm not making a case for the existence of psychic abilities, but some people do have a really strong intuition, not really supernatural, but if somebody is superstitious, I'd like to see how they, I'd see how they could believe that. Oh, yeah, yeah, people have very strong intuitions, for sure, for sure. I mean, sometimes in call-in shows, I harp on a particular topic without having any clue why it matters, and then only an hour later, oh, that's why, it's just intuitions, for sure. And of course, our dreams are very intuitive about our lives, and that's something we all can gain access to, I mean, every night if we want to process them, right? How to pass a shit test, how to handle them, why do women do them? Why do women do shit tests? Hit me with a why if you'd like to know this, and of course not all women do, right? But hit me with a why if you'd like me to answer this one. I want to make sure I'm not just focusing on one person's questions, but rather providing value to the community as a hole. It's a hole.
[1:05:03] Don't forget, freedomain.com slash donate. If you'd like to help out the show, I would very much appreciate it. Yes. Okay, so the shit test is she doesn't know if you can be pushed around by a stronger personality. Do you have self-control? So the way that you pass a shit test is you say to the woman without hostility um yeah that i don't believe that that's not really true i mean it's fine if you do i'm just you know i don't i don't believe it i mean don't as a man don't ask me to believe in astrology my balls will fall out of my pants like just don't i mean if you might you can go talk about astrology with your female friends but you know like um when women say uh what what do you think of these heels i'm like well i'm not i'm not a woman and i'm not gay so I don't have any opinion. They look uncomfortable, what can I tell you, right? Women will try sometimes, some women will try to put you into the role of either gay or another woman. And as a man, you have to.
[1:06:05] Oh i'm getting together with my female friends be great if you drop by it's like no i don't wanna no go have your go have your girl time and that way when you go have your guy time you know, so a women have a for the male view but peculiar set of beliefs a lot of women not all right obviously and i guess it's part of the charm of of women having those beliefs right a lot of magical thinking and it's kind of hard to gainsay that in a way because we men we have to fight for everything we get but you know any reasonably attractive woman has a conveyor belt of resources floating her way just for breathing just for breathing you know just just don't don't be fat and if you resist the conveyor belt of food you get a conveyor belt of resources and even now you can be fat as long as you vote the government will send you endless resources just to buy your vote and enslave you to the state. So men, we're just, we're pillaged and put down and exploited and scorned and marked and attacked, and we have to fight for everything.
[1:07:12] And we don't know what it's like to be a reasonably attractive woman, right? We don't we don't know so for me it's hard to criticize women too much because i don't understand what it's like to have every media outlet every goddamn politician and 90 percent of men drooling over you praising you exalting you and defending you and attacking anyone who attacks you i mean you know what it's like every time i'd say anything mildly critical of women back on my social media days you'd have the endless ball-less simp army come flowing down the mountainside like an estrogen avalanche to try and bury me and loyalty to women is like.
[1:08:03] So I don't know. I don't know what that's. I don't know what it's like to put out an opinion. And if somebody mildly disagrees with me to have 10,000 people viciously attack that person, I have no idea what that's like. I have no idea what it's like to walk down the street and have you know every other man want to take me to dinner every other person want to take me to dinner and buy me things and and take me to capo st lucas and whatever right i don't i don't know what it's like i don't know what it's like to be sophie rain to make 47 million dollars on only fans i have no idea i have no idea how How unreal is that? Women are the natural aristocrats of testosterone subjugation. I don't know what that's like.
[1:08:57] Men have to fight and work for everything. Women have this conveyor belt, particularly with the state, but also with this conveyor belt. No, the conveyor belt's not supposed to last forever. The conveyor belt's supposed to last for about a year, year and a half during the wooing phase in your late teens before you get married, shacked up, and have babies. But now, with the state, with the state, man alive, God help you, God help you. You just, this is why these women remain, you know, kind of infants, a lot of women, right? Not all, obviously, but a lot of women remain infants into their dotage because they get praised endlessly by the media that wants to uh subjugate them and control them they get praised endlessly and women respond more to emotional arguments than men men respond more to data and facts and empirical evidence women respond more to emotional arguments which is why netflix, versus uh i don't know fbi crime stats but, To be kept in a state of being worshipped your whole life is to be kept in a state of late teen immaturity. And men, we have no clue. I mean, maybe a couple of men. You know, maybe Stephen Tyler and Brad Pitt or whatever are in their prime. Maybe. Maybe.
[1:10:25] A few men, but the vast majority of men, we have no idea what it's like to be that praised, that defended. To have, you know, 10,000 simps, you can, you don't even have to snap your fingers. You know, like I was reading a little bit last night from my ancient Taylor Swift tweet from six years ago, five and a half years ago.
[1:10:44] And, you know, the moment that women are upset, all of these men are like, how dare you? Like, I don't have any idea. I have no idea. I have no, I mean, I couldn't even get people I'd worked with for years to defend me when I was deplatformed. But, I mean, this pathetic, you know, they don't work out. The simp army that comes and you have affronted a woman how dare you with their imaginary silk gloves and the field of battle the pistols at dawn nonsense so i don't know what it's like no clue no clue in my wildest dreams i can't imagine what it's like to have you know education pandas to women every major major media institution from fiction to non-fiction well they're both fiction panders to women governments politicians pander to women feminists pander to women you've got the male feminists who pander to women uh you've got uh the the federal reserve panders to women you've got affirmative action hiring panders to women it's just it's i talk about vanity right i mean the best way to keep women unlovable is to praise them forever and that way it provokes their vanity which means they can't ever get close to anyone.
[1:11:56] It's horrendous it is a genuine magical horrendous satanic psyop to keep praising women to the point where they're absolutely unbearable to be around again not all women right but the women who swallow this shit yeah like the schrodinger's feminists right.
[1:12:18] I am both empowered and a victim, depending on how things go, right? And to have everybody want to hold your hand and tell you it's not your fault when you fuck up. Can't imagine. What do men say to other men when we fuck up? You fucked up. Fucked up. Right? Oh, it's not your fault, honey. It's the mean patriarchy. I mean, and so the more that education in the media panders to women and praises women, the more they become allergic to honest men, right? Direct and honest men. That's horrendous. And it does breed a lot of violence and aggression for women, right? So, sorry, let me just. The shit test is an attempt to emasculate. No. The shit test is an attempt to find out if you will lie to get things. Are you dishonest? Right? That's what a shit test is about. Right? So a woman doesn't want to get married to and have kids with a guy who turns out to be a pathological liar because he's just going to cheat on her and he's not going to work hard. He's going to get fired from his jobs. Other men aren't going to like him because he lies.
[1:13:38] So pardon me got the sneezes tonight but so a woman has to find out if a man is a liar before she has kids with him how does a woman find out if a man is a liar she says something that's untrue, deep down and she knows it's untrue deep down and she knows that he knows it's untrue deep down and she sees if he'll just pant and lick her leg and agree it's just a manipulative liar, now that's all on the one hand on the other hand if he's like well that's bullshit and how dare you like really aggressive stuff then he's too irascible and ill-tempered to have kids with, so it's not an attempt to emasculate it's an attempt to find out who's a pathological liar, Jared says, women want to know that the men around them aren't solely persuaded by pressure or hotness. Yeah, for sure. For sure.
[1:14:42] And you, like, for the men here, like, just please, please understand this. You and I as men have not been subjected to hundreds of billions of dollars worth of directed focused obsessive propaganda like we don't know what it's like, so I mean most propaganda hits women, most propaganda is aimed at and hits women, you know it's pretty easy to be brave in a battlefield knowing that no one's ever going to shoot at you right, pretty easy to be honest and direct and empirical when you've been the victim of propaganda rather than the target of propaganda.
[1:15:43] And women score much higher than men in the trait called agreeableness, which in its extreme, well, in one Aristotelian extreme is irascibility and ill-temperating. The other is hyperconformity and aggression to questions. So we don't know. We don't know what it's like. We don't know. You know, try being born a woman, especially an attractive woman, be subject to all this propaganda, to be praised relentlessly, to be elevated relentlessly, to be called perfection and good and great and wonderful while the sneering is all at the boys and the troublemakers and the don't listen and fidget and we'll drug the shit out of you if you're not interested by my boring woke lecturers.
[1:16:28] And then you hit puberty and every man casts roses in front of your feet and rolls out the red carpet and asks you out and does things for you and wants to bring you a coke and wants to take you to Cabo San Lucas and then every show is about how wonderful uh girls are and how terrible boys are and everything you turn on every movie you go to and every musical and everything everything all the time and that politicians are all like oh the strong brave women and independent women and women of the backbone and women blah blah blah and everyone praises you all i mean it produces psychosis that the the vanity of your average european queen or king doesn't come close to the inflicted estrogen cocaine vanity stuffed up the noses of women from babyhood onwards. Like, please have some, have some pity. Have some sympathy.
[1:17:31] Is that why people keep throwing money to women on only fans to keep them hooked on it and then no good men wants her no i don't think that's it because no uh only fans arises out of masturbation culture that a lot of men consider a masturbation to be um a valid sexual orientation these days and so uh you you you you give women money on the internet you give money to women on the internet because when a woman receives a gift from you that triggers your lizard brain to think that you have sexual access or a potential there thereby right so if you give a ring to a woman or you give a present to a woman if she's married or engaged or has a boyfriend or not interested in you she'll say no to your gift right but if she accepts your gift it means you have a chance so it's a way of enhancing the pleasure of masturbation I assume I don't know I assume But that's the way that it works. And of course, what's the 80% of, a significant proportion of the OnlyFans women are just prostitutes. They're just reformed prostitutes, right? Or half-reformed prostitutes. They have a history of sex work, which means that they've been training to do that kind of work for years, but safer.
[1:18:45] But of course, 80% of OnlyFans customers, fast majority men, are married, right? So it also comes out of the deadbed sexless marriages, right?
[1:19:06] This woman says, not entirely sure how I evaded this psychosis, but it all seemed really lame from an early age to me. And I was always kind of an outcast. As a result, I don't have female friends, so you know. Oh, yeah. You really have to not care about being ostracized to stay sane as a woman. But like, if you're comfortable with ostracism, chances are you've got other issues, LOL, yeah. Yeah, it can be self-sabotage at times as well, right? For sure.
[1:19:37] Yeah, I mean, I've had to be the human shield for this stuff with regards to my daughter. To deconstruct it, right? I did a show, The Truth About Frozen, many years ago. Because you have to deconstruct this kind of stuff. Make children aware of the propaganda and what's going on. Really important. Really essential. Essential for parenting these days. So, sorry. Somebody had a question. What do I think of Harvard? Harvard in the yard. What do I think of Harvard? Trump's ban on Harvard accepting foreign students? Was it something like that? Now, hasn't this been overturned? Hasn't this been overturned by some, I mean, the activist judges? People don't vote for the judges, really. They vote for the president, but the judges keep interfering with the will of the people. And it doesn't go well from here, right? um what happened with trump's ban on foreign students.
[1:20:50] I think was it just was it just harvard yeah the trump administration's recent actions targeting foreign students primarily focus on harvard university so uh in may 2025 the trump The Harvard administration revoked Harvard University's certification under the Student and Exchange Visitor Program, effectively barring the university from enrolling international students for the 2025-26 academic year. Harvard could no longer host new foreign students, and it's approximately 6,800 existing international students. About 27% of its student body were ordered to transfer to other schools or face loss of legal status and potential deportation.
[1:21:28] So, yeah, it's a lot to do with the anti-Semitism and so on. So, had ties to the Chinese Communist Party and so on. So, let's see here. a federal judge is ruling holding nationwide student status revocation. Judicial oversight may limit the administration's reach. So, what do I think about it? I mean, what was I reading that.
[1:22:05] Was it President Xi in China? His daughter was, or one of his kids was at, an American university. It's wild. It's wild. So, I think the idea that.
[1:22:26] The idea that you would let people from countries utterly devoted to your destruction come and study in your universities, it's kind of incomprehensible to me. Now, again, this should all be free market stuff. the government shouldn't have any power or control in any of this kind of stuff but yeah it's uh it's crazy yeah the show is 2714 the truth about frozen so, it's uh pretty bad if uh u.s universities or any sort of country's universities if those universities are heavily devoted to massive amounts of income from foreign students And I don't know how it is in the States, but at least the last time I checked here in Canada, foreign students pay many multiples of the price of domestic students. Right? Like, it's crazy. Let me just tap that. Foreign students.
[1:23:37] New Canadian media. Oh, that's from 2023. International students face unlimited tuition increases at most Canadian universities. Despite making up just 17% of students studying in Canada, international students contributed 43.5% of all tuition fees collected in 2020. So, yeah, it's heavily subsidized for local students.
[1:24:00] Uh, let's see here. In the U.S., the average tuition at public four-year institutions, 2024 to 2025, was over $30,000 per year for internationals versus $11,600 for state residents. Yeah, so, I mean, you just get massive amounts of money from foreign students, which means that you're gonna inevitably end up pandering to foreign students how much espionage is happening um to to you know to to train let's say albonia right that's sort of made up scott adams country right so to to train let's say albonia hates america wants to destroy america right then to train an albonian engineer is more dangerous than training an albonian soldier right so why would you why would you train the the people of a country that wants to destroy you.
[1:25:02] Again none of it makes any sense from a sort of rational logical self-preservation standpoint but again with government all corruption is possible until it's not so those are uh those are my thoughts or to put it another way like let's say it's a free society it's a free market you know like uh i talk about in my novel the future freedom.com books but let's say that would you want would you want to subsidize and pay for and donate to a university that trained.
[1:25:39] The enemies of your society on how to better harm and destroy you makes no sense at all i mean let's let's take a sort of extreme example it's not that extreme it's an extreme when we think about it can you imagine during world war ii can you imagine british universities training german engineers and arms manufacturers and weapons manufacturers oh yes come over as long as you're paying three times the tuition we're happy to train you on how to better build v2 rockets to decimate our cities madness madness um somebody says this lady this is going to be a silly question. Don't program me, I say. But I say, I love my cat. And I ask my husband if he also loves the cat. And he says, no, because the cat cannot be virtuous. So we can love our pets even if they're not virtuous. So we need more words for love. I have affection for my cat, seems cumbersome. I mean, it's fine to use the word love. It's just not the same as the way you would love a virtuous person. Right? Look, I'm not, I'm not the language police, obviously, if you want to say you love your cat, that's fine, right?
[1:26:52] You just have to look at the evolution, right? So why is it that we have great affection for our pets? Because our pets are essential for our human survival, like particularly, you know, winter and farming communities, right? Winter-based, snow-based. So cats, of course, are essential for keeping vermin out of your winter food stocks, right? Now, that's why we have. I mean, I feel this very, very strongly. I have this immense attachment to animals. Very powerful, very powerful. Of course, my ancestors were landowners and farmers and so on, right? So when my daughter holds a frog, right? She doesn't really do it as much anymore. But when she used to hold frogs, if every now and then the frog would jump from her hand and land on something hard, like, I don't know, tarmac or concrete or something like that, I'd be like, oh, I'd feel it. Like I'd be like, please, God. And I'd always have to turn her away from, she'd hold the frog and, oh, look at the frog. It's so cute. It's a beautiful frog. Please point it to the grass. So if it jumps, it lands on something soft. And we'd have these disagreements. She'd say, oh, but they're fine. It's like, yeah, but it's not nice. Not nice. And so, and it was the same thing with the ducks, right? The ducks were our pets, right? We have had dozens of ducks and we've taken them from, you know, ducklings all the way to flying around. And if the ducks...
[1:28:22] Would be limping oh okay i have this this and i think it's common right and it's a bit of a white thing right that this is the real care for animals and so on and so uh pets we we bond with them very deeply and powerfully because they're essential for our survival like we could not survive without pets at least not very well i mean you need cats you need dogs your livestock is essential and you have to have that attachment and that connection to your your pets so please understand you're programmed that way and that's not to say don't feel it right that's fine i mean i'm i'm programmed to feel hungry that doesn't mean i can't enjoy a meal so but but please understand like you're you're programmed that way you're programmed to have devotion to your pets because if you have devotion to your pets your pets will have loyalty to you and will be much more likely.
[1:29:23] To protect you to help you right to to like you need you needed dogs for protection and warning uh and and sort of herding sheep and so on right so we have a very strong attachment and listen, the intellectual understanding of this i'm not i don't mean this to diminish the passion and connection that you have with your pets. I don't mean that at all. At all. Like, enjoy it. Relish it. My daughter and I, was it yesterday? My God, the days are blurring. I have to ask my wife. The days are blurring. Yes, yesterday we go, we went to a cat shelter. And, you know, I give my donation and we go in and we play with the cats. And she loves cats, loves cats. And they're great. They're wonderful, wonderful creatures.
[1:30:13] We, you know, blood pressure goes down when you pet cats and they just love dogs are wonderful. And, you know, to have something so excited when you come home is beautiful. And so to love your cat, beautiful, beautiful. But, you know, would you feel the same about an armadillo?
[1:30:32] Probably not, right? So, I mean, you have this connection to these creatures. I mean, what was it? I saw a video of somebody in Thailand flicking a cockroach off somebody's head. It turns out the cockroach was his pet or something like that. Like there are people who have pets that are completely incomprehensible to me. Every now and then there's some lunatic in Florida who has a freaking alligator in the bathtub or something. Or people have, what was it? Was it Tom Green?
[1:31:00] Some creepy, he always played some creepy guy, right? The comedian. And he was like playing a creepy roommate who would feed dead rats to a snake like the fact that people have these pets it's weird to me it's weird to me when it evolved to have snakes as pets at least not in europe so there's nothing wrong with your attachment and your affection and your, love for your cat it's just it's programmed in by our ancestors in other words those with greater affections i mean it's again aristotelian mean right so those with no affection for their pets did not gain the protection and loyalty and survival bonus of having pets those who had too much attachment to their pets ended up not getting married and become the eponymous eponymous cat ladies right like i was talking to this woman at the cat shelter and she said oh yeah sometimes we'll come across crazy old women who've got like 100 cats and then we've got a huge problem right because where do you where do you put them right so uh think of it as um.
[1:32:07] It's kind of like a codependence or symbiosis or am i having a brain fart is it what is that thing i think it's symbiosis oh embarrassing every now and then, uh that may but does not necessarily uh benefit each other, symbiotic relationships, mutual benefit to mutual harm. Okay, but what is the one, I should know this, what is the one that is mutually beneficial, right? Mutualistic relationships found in lichens. All right. What is the one that is mutually beneficial? I really should know this. I'm sorry that I don't. Help me, people. Don't leave me twisting in the wind. I'm not a biologist.
[1:33:10] All right mutualism mutualism or interspecies reciprocal altruism is a long-term relationship between individuals at different species where both individuals benefit okay i don't feel too bad about that because you know you have this oh what's that word what's this word and then you're like ah somebody says it you know that's why okay i wasn't i wasn't sitting here about to, um uh james trying to lead me astray symbiosis looks right mutualism yeah mutualism thank you james um i had to look it up james is like terrifying when it comes to trivia uh he will win every time every time so uh that's the clownfish right the clownfish and the anemones the territorial fish protects the anemone from an enemy eating fish the anemone stinging tentacles protect the clownfish from its predators yeah okay so um yeah mutualism we protect, we protect, oh you looked it up too James, don't say that. So mutualism, we protect the pets, and we breed the pets, and we feed the pets, and in return the pets, in a sense feed us, right? Symbiotic was correct, it has nothing to do with harm, that is not correct. Sorry about that, sorry about that.
[1:34:36] The term is sometimes more exclusively used in a restricted mutualistic sense where both symbionts contribute to each other's subsistence. But technically, it is not that way. Technically, it is sort of a codependent relationship or an interwoven relationship that could result in positive, neutral, or negative. So um it's a common use is mutualism but mutualism is technically more correct so, welcome to my ted talk all right uh did i, yeah so biology dictionary says symbiosis the close living relationship between organisms from different species with benefits to one or both of them.
[1:35:33] Symbiosis this is from britannica symbiosis any of several living arrangements between members of two different species including mutualism commensalism and parasitism both positive beneficial and negative unfavorable to harmful associations are therefore included and the members are called symbionts. Okay, so just that. I'm going to go with Britannica rather than donor. Oh, wait, I'm so sorry. Britannica doesn't donate to me. Oh, yes. Oh, donors, you are so absolutely correct. I'm bathing in your wisdom. It's going to regrow my hair and make my nose even nosier. Sorry, don't stand corrected. If you donate to freedomaid.com slash donate, I will send you feet pics.
[1:36:21] Alright unlike my opponents who send you defeat pics alright, what the hell are we talking oh yeah so cats so yeah cats is um totally fine uh enjoy love affection right but you it's programmed into you it's programmed into you right which is why we eat pigs pigs are not pets and most people are comfortable even though pigs are much more intelligent we eat pigs and we're comfortable with that but we will not eat cats and dogs, because we're horrified by that and all of that is baked into our dna, all of that all right all right um oh i'm so sorry there was an rtr question further up, yes there was can i do a search of the comments i will get to the highest here we go, i have a question says somebody from an hour ago sorry me and my wife my wife and i are struggling with RTR, real-time relationships. It says to express emotions in real-time using I statements, but how do we navigate a situation where my wife is bringing to me some emotional upset, but during the conversation she says something that is upsetting to me and feels insensitive? I want to be there for her and listen and help her with her emotions, but also be honest and adhere to RTR by expressing my emotions. How do we navigate this without silencing each other?
[1:37:48] If she's talking about her feelings without blaming you or ascribing causality to you, why would it be that upsetting i mean if my wife stubs her toe and says ah that really hurts am i right am i upset no she's just using her i statements if she says to me i stub my toe it really hurts and you're default you're you're to blame right maybe i left my weights in the whole way or something, right? Okay, well, I'm gonna feel bad, right? But I am to blame, so.
[1:38:21] So, if she says something that is not RTR, in other words, she ascribes causality to you, and blames you, attacks you, so to speak, then say to her, that's not exactly RTR. RTR is when you honestly express what you think and feel, but without assuming that it's true, right? And in particular, your feelings, right? If your wife does something that upsets you, You say, I'm upset. I was upset after you did this. I'm not sure exactly why. I'm not saying it's your fault, but this really upset me. I mean, that's not going to make someone defensive, is it? Is it? I mean, unless they're really defensive, in which case that needs to be talked about as well, right? We need to be curious about our emotional experiences, right? Something can upset me. It might have nothing to do with what I think the cause is, right? So now just to be open about all of that so all right uh boy look at that the time flies the time flies and um.
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