0:02 - Welcome to Your Wednesday Night Live
31:16 - The Future of Marriage and Relationships
31:29 - The Challenge of Modern Dating
51:29 - Society's Changing Dynamics
55:34 - Lessons from Our Current Society
56:59 - Navigating Modern Relationships
1:04:31 - The Challenge of Attraction
1:05:00 - Navigating Relationships and Expectations
1:06:16 - Excuses and Taking Action
1:14:30 - The Reality of Marriage Trends
1:15:36 - The Dynamics of Dating
1:17:00 - The Role of Women in Society
1:20:48 - The Importance of Life Insurance
1:24:08 - Choices and Consequences
1:33:44 - Perspectives on Relationships
1:39:48 - Overcoming Personal Challenges
1:53:15 - Understanding Societal Narratives
1:58:22 - Becoming Your Best Self
In this episode, I share my thoughts on the current state of society and its impact on personal relationships and individual responsibility. I address the decline in local subscriber numbers and how that reflects a bigger trend regarding engagement in meaningful content creation and consumption. I emphasize the importance of community support in a commercial-free environment, where the focus can remain on genuine discourse rather than ad revenue.
The discussion unfolds as I reflect on my journey through philosophy and economics, drawing on historical paradigms like the French Revolution to illustrate the human tendency to subscribe to systems that diminish personal agency. I delve into the interplay between government and individual freedoms, examining how capitalist philosophies have evolved into a climate where reliance on state systems impacts personal responsibility and societal structure.
I've witnessed a troubling trend where individuals resign themselves to negative narratives about their dating lives, influenced by societal expectations and perceived standards of beauty. I challenge those narratives, urging listeners to confront their biases and actively engage with the world around them. Starting with personal anecdotes, I explore how self-awareness and responsibility in relationships can lead to greater satisfaction and fulfillment. The conversation shifts to how societal changes have made romantic connections more challenging, particularly for younger individuals navigating a landscape rife with distractions and digital influences.
Throughout the episode, I discuss the impact of food on mental health and behavior, bringing to light surprising studies that link diet with violence reduction in prisons and juvenile centers. This segues into a broader commentary on health, lifestyle choices, and their implications for societal wellbeing.
The core of our conversation revolves around the social contract that once united generations—a contract that appears to be breaking down, particularly for younger individuals who feel disenfranchised and disillusioned. I argue that young people today are left with fewer pathways to secure relationships and build families as traditional systems seem to favor individualism over community connection.
I also touch upon the modern complexities of masculinity and femininity, exploring how changing roles and expectations have created a discord in dating and relationship dynamics. I strive to provide a blueprint for how individuals can reclaim their agency in a world that often discourages personal initiative, emphasizing the value of building genuine connections.
As the episode wraps, I reiterate that meaningful change starts with individual responsibility and an unwillingness to accept defeat in the face of adversity. I encourage listeners to confront their narratives directly, to challenge perceptions that limit their potential, and to take proactive steps towards creating the lives they desire.
This episode is a call to arms for self-improvement, societal engagement, and personal growth amidst an era where the stakes have seemingly never been higher.
[0:00] Good evening, good evening. Welcome to your Wednesday Night Live.
[0:02] Oh my God, is it the last show of... No, no, we've got one more to go. It's the 29th of January 2024, and it is time to settle in for a gorgeous, deep, leather-sex couch sofa of philosophy P. Diddy lubing. Well, I think I just rendered myself a star witness in ongoing trials. There we go. Always good to have a plan.
[0:31] Plan. Just as we start here, you know, I do occasionally check the numbers on local subscribers, the ones that count. So we're down about 10 to 12% over the last year or so. In terms of number of subscribers, not all of that is on you, of course. Part of that is on me, not going back on mainstream social media, or at least on Twitter. But if you could see your way to setting up a subscription, I would be thrilled beyond measure. It does help in terms of motivation. there are also i don't know if you have these if you follow numbers but uh you know for your job or whatever but there is always a little bit of a dip when you see the numbers go down so if you could spare your way or see your way clear to a couple of bucks a month it would lift my spirits and of course help pay the bills which is almost as important as lifting, high spirits no bill payments that's a different matter so if you could help out i would really really appreciate it you do get some absolutely fantastic bonuses 12 hours deep dive as only i can do on the history and meaning and current applicability of the french revolution well over 100 great premium podcasts and call-in shows that were too spicy for the mainstream and access to four or five different StefBOT ais it really is amazing, So, yes, if you could help that out, I would appreciate it. I would appreciate it.
[2:00] So, fredomain.com slash donate to help out the show, fdourl.com slash locals. If you can, you want to try it out for months, see if you like it. We do also do donor-only shows. And also, you can go to subscribestar.com slash fredomain. Just remember, you know, somebody has to pay. Why not you? Because, you know, if we do this commercial-free, right? This isn't exactly the same as a commercial, and this is fairly rare. But we do the show commercial-free, which I think is really to the benefit of, can you imagine, somebody's digging into their traumatized history as a child, bawling their eyes out, and it's like, this VPN could be yours for the low, low price of blah, blah, blah, right? It would be a bit odd and jarring. And so somebody's got to foot the bills. Why not you? Why not? I hate to say step up because it's such a male thing, but why not step forward? Step forward and uh throw a little you know whatever you fund gets stronger whatever you don't fund gets weaker so i think we've done fantastic work over the past 20 years and hopefully here's to at least 30 more i was just thinking i was thinking back to hey it's a funny thought it's a funny thought i think back so now i'm old enough i think back to the people who were adults when I was a kid.
[3:18] So, 40 years ago, believe it or not, 40 years ago, I was 18. 40 years ago, I was 18. Ah, a fresh-faced, young, spanking, shaggy-haired, brill-creamed 80s dude. And yeah, so I was, 40 years ago, in 1984, I was 18. And of course, the adults were 30 years older, felt like, you know, the people in charge and so on. So now, 30 years from now, I'll be 88. Wait, why does that seem familiar? I'll be 88. And so a lot of the people who were kind of in charge and adults when I was a teen are dead.
[4:11] Are dead, are dead, you know, and not an insignificant, not an insignificant number of them. And this is a funny thing, you know, I don't wish ill upon anyone because, I don't really waste my time. I'm terrible at holding grudges. I mean, I will hold a grudge, but it's not a conscious thing. Like every now and then someone who did me wrong in the past comes to a bad end or has a bad past in their life. And they're like, hmm, what's that slight flutter of butterfly pleasure I'm feeling in my loins. Is it my wife working in the room? No, it's actually the downfall of an enemy. But I don't sort of hang on to it. I certainly don't really plot for it. I used to do that in the business world, but not anymore. But when I was in my teens, since I got into philosophy at about the age of 14 or 15 or so, I got into philosophy at that age, started arguing for sort of free markets and small government, and back then I was a minarchist, not a.
[5:13] And of course all the teachers argued how essential and necessary government was, for our survival you know it's pretty it's a pretty simple thing that the government does it takes over something and then people who only think of one variable i did a whole podcast on this today which you should check out called an invitation to unintelligence which was the nicest title I could come up with. Black Hole of Stupidity seemed a bit abrupt, but even though it's my year of bluntness, but not necessarily in show titles and thumbnails. But a lot of them were like, the government, then you think, well, if the government's taking it over, only the government can do it. I mean, slavery was a giant government program to pick food, which held the entire economy of the world back for, you know, tens of thousands of years.
[6:09] So, a lot of the people who were teachers and elders and priests and so on, even people's parents, who rolled their eyes at my youthful naivete that human beings could spontaneously self-organize around the mechanism of voluntary price, basic Austrian economic stuff, that's an Austrian school, not the economy of Austria.
[6:33] Which is apparently about either invading other countries or letting other countries invade them. There really seems to be no middle ground in governments. Either we go invade everyone or everyone comes to our... Anyway, so all of these people, and I do wonder sometimes how many of the people who rolled their eyes at me, scorned me, marked me down. Let's not forget that there are pretty significant scholarly penalties, for telling the truth. I wonder, of course, how many of them ended up being unalived, in a sense, by governments. I mean, the waiting lists in Canada for healthcare are absolutely brutal. It's one of the reasons I eat well and exercise. You do not want to be at the mercy of socialist medicine, right? That's really not where you want to be at all. And i wonder how many of them you know got locked up for the last couple of years of their life, under the covid stuff i wonder how many of them got injured i you know medically i wonder how many of them couldn't get health care because of all of this stuff and i just i wonder i do wonder about this.
[7:47] I mean, my personal belief, I'm sure that there'll be statistics of this at some point, I'm like 97% accurate in the things that I've talked about. And someday we'll compile a list, maybe AI can do it for us. Yeah, maybe, James, why don't you make that as a project? Compile all the things I've been right about. Maybe don't use any of the woke AI. In other words, you can only use an AI that's been invented in the last eight minutes. But I do wonder if the people who you know just had absolutely blind trust in the endless benevolence and virtue of government, I wonder if they end up being treated by badly being treated badly by governments later on in their lives and then I wonder if they ever think back about that, blonde blue eyed yapper planet known as my forehead and say, I wonder if that guy might have had a point.
[8:55] That guy, you know what? I mean, I really did. I really didn't mock him relentlessly. I mocked him down. But now I can't get health care. He said government health care was a bad idea and immoral. And looky la, I can't seem to get a doctor. Like the average wait to get a doctor is months and months and months in Canada, and then the average wait to see a specialist is ungodly. Ungodly. So, yeah, it's just appalling. Well, everybody knows I had to flee to the States to save my life. I had these statistics here somewhere.
[9:44] Yeah, one in nine people working in Canada work, sorry, one in four people working in Canada work for the government. Government makes up almost half of the Canadian economy. And of course, if you count unfunded liabilities and national debt, it's way more than that. Way more than that. I had the numbers here. Yeah, Health Canada apparently received over a million reports of COVID vaccine adverse events, according to records. Well, that is not ideal. In America, these numbers are wild, right? 74% of adults in America are overweight. 50% of children are overweight. 50% of adults have diabetes or pre-diabetes. 30% of teens have diabetes or pre-diabetes. 40% of 18 and under have a mental health diagnosis. Young adult cancers are up 70% and 1 in 36 kids has autism. According to, I haven't verified these so be skeptical and this is as of November, this is from Carnivore Aurelius.
[11:11] Political liberals and the non-religious are the most likely, significantly most likely to be diagnosed with a mental health condition. Who is the least likely to be diagnosed with a mental health condition? The religious and political conservatives. In a while.
[11:34] In prisons replacing junk food with whole foods reduced violence by 80% this seems not believable to me this seems I just be up I will.
[11:47] I will tell you this right up front so I you know I'll put the link here oh you know there seems to be some decent studies but who knows right So this is from Valerie Ann Smith. In prisons, replacing junk food with whole foods reduced violence by 80%. In juvenile detention centers, replacing junk food with whole foods reduced violence by 91%. Food is the most powerful intervention for mental health and behavior. Quote, if you give prisoners healthy food, swapping out all the crap they eat in prison, there's a 56% reduction in violent crime. If you add a multivitamin, it's an 80% reduction because they are all nutritionally deprived. The same has been done with adolescents in juvenile detention centers with clinical trials. The kids are disruptive, violent, aggressive, oppositional, and suicidal. Stopping the SAD diet filled with ultra-processed foods and seed oils instead, giving them whole foods, there was a 91% reduction in all violent behavior. Oppositional behavior, the need for restraints went down, and suicide went down 100%. Suicide is the third leading cause of death in that age group. It went down 100%. No suicides. The SAD, sorry, that's the standard American diet, full of ultra-processed food, excess carbohydrates, sugar, and seed oils disconnects the amygdala from the frontal lobe of the brain. The frontal lobe is the grown-up in the room, the adult, your higher self. The amygdala is part of your reptile brain, your lizard brain, it's going to fight or flee.
[13:13] Physiologically, these parts of the brain are connected. This is a quote from a tweet. But what happens if you eat crap? They get disconnected. And so you're constantly reacting from your amygdala with no grown-up in the room, which is why we see this level of divisiveness and hatred and all the upheaval we're seeing in society now. I think a large part of that has to do with our brains being constantly triggered by this reptilian insult that is driving behavior you a change. A bit of an odd language situation, but all right. When we just look at the other data to support this, it's not just a theory. Oh, this is a quote from Dr. Mark Hyman. All right. Well, I will give you guys the link. It is interesting. It is interesting. And I'm going to just do, I'll bookmark this. And of course, I will maybe do a bit more of a deep dive in my sort of social media review. But let me, why, why is it so hard? Why is it? Oh, I guess it's already in the book box folder. I guess that's why it's hard. So I'll put this in, you can review this at your own leisure. But it seems to me odd that junk food would disconnect different parts of the brain. But again, I'm not an expert, and there has been some significant surprising stuff out of science that's turned out to be valid. Of course, right, in general. All right.
[14:37] What do you think of a ban on corporations owning single-family homes? It seems like that, or French Revolution-style violence is the only way people under 30 will be able to afford to own housing.
[14:51] So, I mean, authoritarian structures as a whole, what they do, of course, what they do is they appease the crazy to make the lives of the sane increasingly impossible, the sane revolt, and then they pay the aggressive to control the sane. Right so you just make it progressively more impossible more and more impossible for people to have a life in other words you break a social contract the social contract is okay society okay okay okay there's stuff that you want me to do that i don't really want to do because you know i'm a young guy and i'm energetic full of testosterone and so on so there's stuff that there's stuff that you want me to do i don't really want to do it you know come on man i'm young and stronger this is like the mindset right i'm young and stronger than the old farts i'll just take their stuff. Right? I'll just take their stuff. I mean, there's some old guy with a car, say, the young guys, or at least this is what the biology says. There's some old guy with a car, why not just drag the old guy out of the car and take his car?
[16:13] So how does society tame this? Well, it tames it with religion, it tames this with morality, but that's been diminishing. So what it does is it says, okay, technically you are faster and stronger than all the old people with all the stuff, but, but here's the deal. Hear me out. If you obey the rules, then you can have their lives and it won't be taken away from you either. Right? Because if you're a young guy and you take away all the stuff from the old decrepit guys, well, you're going to get old and decrepit. Then guys are going to just take stuff away from you and throw you off a cliff, right? So obey the rules and you can grow into having lives like the old guys and you'll be not at the mercy of younger, stronger people when you get old. That's kind of the deal, right?
[17:01] Obedience in return for a path to success. And fundamentally, the social contract is utterly broken. See, this is sort of a practical thing about society that's really important to understand. Societies that facilitate reproduction are the only societies that can survive or deserve much respect. Let me say this again. From an evolutionary standpoint, societies that facilitate reproduction are the only societies that can last or deserve much respect. Because the purpose of human life, the reason why we have human life, the reason why there are male and female, of course, is reproduction.
[17:46] Now, reproduction requires certain things. It requires a relatively benevolent relationship between the sexes, right? Men and women have to kind of like each other. They can ribbit each other. They can josh each other. They can make fun of each other. They can roll their eyes. but there has to be a fundamentally positive relationship between males and females. That's number one. Number two, there has to be some kind of sexual monogamy for two reasons. One, so that you end up with a one-to-one ratio, so you don't end up with a small number of men having all the sex and a large number of men with absolutely no stake in the continuation of society. That's number one. And number two, you need sexual monogamy so that men are invested in their own offspring. Right because if a man is having sex with a bunch of women he's not invested in their in his offspring because he doesn't even know if they're his uh his children right he doesn't know he don't he don't know baby, So society has to provide conditions wherein men as a whole can be reasonably guaranteed access to reproduction, to having families. Because of course, if men don't have families, their testosterone levels remain extraordinarily high and their aggression levels remain extraordinarily high, right? A man's testosterone goes down when he gets married, goes down in particular when he becomes a father, which is a good thing, right? It's a good thing.
[19:15] So society at the moment what does it have to offer, a young man there's no path forward like depending on how you read the numbers, half to 60% of men have checked out of the dating market, it's hard to overemphasize what an absolute catastrophe that is. And so, if you are a wannabe tyrant, what you do is you make it increasingly impossible for young men and young women, but in particular young men, to marry and to be tamed through family and reproduction. The purpose of male aggression is to get a mate, and then the purpose of male aggression is there to sustain the family. So what you do is you make it increasingly impossible for young men to date, marry, settle down, become fathers, and then they start pushing significantly for social change. And then, because they're pushing significantly for social change, you have the capacity and the excuse to increase your control over society, which leads to worse and worse outcomes. Thank you.
[20:43] And of course, the gynocentrism of female-dominated voting patterns. And women will always, always, always, always dominate democracies, right? With one person, one vote, women will always dominate democracies.
[21:00] For a number of reasons. They live longer. They need more from the government, right? They need three things from the government. They need security for children. They need health care and they need old age pensions and the more they get of those things from the government the less they will be interested in compromising with and working with men the men can then are then harvested to pay the taxes off the women's requirements, because a man can choose to go hungry a woman cannot choose for her children to go hungry, a man can choose to limit his spending a woman cannot choose to limit her spending because her children need resources right so you make it increasingly impossible you back men into a corner which says your genes are going to die out unless you do something your genes are going to die out unless you fucking do something that's the perception that the men have kind of hard to argue uh that people are getting kind of pissed off and desperate now of course with pornography and That's the one-two punch to keep what would formerly be a bigger change out of the social marketplace. But you understand this is why the incels are demonized, right?
[22:18] Incels are demonized because incels have no stake in the social situation. I'm not talking morals here. I'm just talking about evolution, society, cause and effect. So the incels, the men who can't get a date, they can't get a date.
[22:35] They can't get a date because women's hypergamy used to be limited by a lack of resources, right? So women would want the Chad, you know, like it's the good-looking guy with the giant house, the Darcy, the Christian Grey, you know, the vampire guy. So they want the super hot guy with the giant house and the infinite resources. Sure, I get that. Yeah, why not? Sure, absolutely. And it's sort of like when I watched a movie, it's a pretty not great movie called The Fisher King, but I still remember this from many decades later, there was a picture of an absolutely gorgeous woman reading Nietzsche, right? Wouldn't you want an absolutely gorgeous woman reading Nietzsche? Sure, yeah, why not? Why not?
[23:19] So women, the reason why nature programs women to aim for the very top and to, quote, not compromise, is that their desire to reach for the very top used to be limited by the sort of nightmare scenario that is described by Amanda Wingfield in The Glass Manage. Where she says, oh, you don't want to become one of these old spinsters, barely tolerated, sitting in attics, not wanting to say boo to anyone, passed from place to place, some sister-in-law, some brother, nobody wants them there, and they have to hide themselves away and do whatever pathetic little services they can, and they're always at the mercy of other people's kindness, and it's a pitiful, desperate, awful, godforsaken life.
[24:12] That's what Laura, the daughter, is facing if she doesn't get a man. So women could, yeah, sure, aim for the top. Yeah, aim for the top. Absolutely, aim for the top. But if you aim too high, you get nothing.
[24:29] You get nothing. If you aim too high and you don't want, so Laura, it's an example of this, right? So Laura is a character, and you should probably watch the Paul Newman directed one with a young John Malkovich and Karen Allen and Amanda Woodward.
[24:50] It's really good. I don't think that John Malkovich quite gets the Tom thing, but anyway. So in the story, in the story of The Glass Menagerie, which is kind of modeled under the, the writer had a sister who went kind of schizophrenic or crazy. So there's a really overbearing mother. There's a pathologically shy woman who's in, who's like 27 or 28 years old, which is really old, you know, back in the 30s for marriage. And you.
[25:19] She has so many drawbacks, right? She is super skinny. She had pleurose. When she was younger, one of the characters remembers it is Blue Roses, right? You had Blue Roses. So she had pleurose. She walks with a limp. She's got a kind of stutter. She's pathologically shy. And her mother is trying to get her to go to secretarial school. So she at least have some kind of income and maybe meet a guy. But she got too nervous to go to school. she's like got this absolutely crippling social anxiety and so she basically just walked around in the freezing cold and went to movies and only pretended to go to secretarial school and her mother is completely full of despair that this you know half physically deformed pathologically shy uh skinny girl you know just stays home and dusts her collection her glass menagerie collection it's all very, very pathetic and sad. And there's lots of people in the world like this. It's, you know, this is the, oh, look at all the lonely people. Ellen Rigby stuff, right? They're everywhere, man. You dip down into that world of the last broken, leftover people. Oh, man, it's brutal. Absolutely. It will break your heart to get one atom of the suffering that goes on under the cover.
[26:39] Of like below the radar of those who are socially competent is this entire fucking tribe, of broken washed out lonely despairing people who just are shuffling along day by day and the reason being the reason they have to shuffle along day by day only looking at the tips of their shoes as it waddles through the mud is because if they zoom out and they see the shape of their lives as a whole, they won't want to live. Like they can only, like the single issue, one thing at a time, no larger picture. They avoid any kind of philosophy, any kind of larger picture, any kind of self-assessment or self-criticism, because if they look at their lives, it's just, too empty and broken and useless and pointless for them to want to continue. So there's this whole world down there. So that was a sort of cautionary tale, right? A glass menagerie. It's a glass menagerie.
[27:41] Because Laura, the young, well, not 27-year-old woman in the glass menagerie, she was really into the football captain in high school, right? She was really into the football captain in high school. And she still remembers that one time he asked her to sign her book and he was nice to her, right? There's another thing, you know, being nice in a world of desperately lonely people is, is Russian roulette, man. I mean, maybe there are a lot of chambers, maybe there's only one bullet, but you keep spinning it, man. Sooner or later, you're going to get a stalker because they're just people. They're so desperate, so lonely. These are the women who go to the doctor with ill-defined, I just don't feel great, just because they want the doctor to take their pulse and hold their hand, like they're that desperate for any kind of human contact, it really is, you are water, a tall glass of water for people dying in the desert.
[28:38] So, she kind of bonded with the top guy, the guy who went out, the cheerleader, the, football quarterback because he was nice to her once, so she kind of fixated on that and did not end up going out with guys who were at her level, right? Because this woman is like she's like a one, right? In terms of like sexual market value, right? She's not particularly pretty. She's got a bad limp. She had a childhood disease. She's pathologically shy. She has no social skills, right? So, but that doesn't mean that she can't get married. Ones exist because ones mated. Thank you.
[29:18] Ones exist because ones mate it so women yeah they want to aim high sure everybody wants to aim high everybody wants the genius supermodel with a billion billion dollars what yeah sure whatever right who cares right everybody like every old kids say i'm gonna be bruce lee when you see your first karate movie whatever right you know you uh you see rocky and what started Rocky and Schwarzenegger pumping iron kicked off the whole muscle kick in the 70s for Schwarzenegger in the 80s, I guess, for the Rambo stuff, right? So I'm going to be that. And it's like, well, no, you're not. I mean, these men are genetically gifted. I assume they take a lot of supplements, and it's their job. They train, you know, three, four hours a day. It's their job. So you're not going to be like that. Just so you know, just so you know, you're not going to be like that.
[30:12] So women would aim super high that's fine it's great love it and there would be a risk right, which is the higher you aim the more likely you are to fail right so if you want the quarterback you want the head cheerleader you can go for that but if you fail, you might fail big you might fail really big and you might end up with nothing, but there's no way that women can end up with nothing anymore right Amanda Wingfield the mother in Glass Menagerie is terrified for her daughter because Amanda Wingfield is getting older the son is just chomping at the bit to get out and be a writer, and what's going to happen. She's gnawed with guilt and fear and anxiety about what's going to happen to her daughter.
[31:16] What future is she going to have? What future is she going to have?
[31:30] Now, she would end up with nothing, right? She would end up with nothing. I'm going to see if I can find, it's a really good, it's a really good speech. Barely tolerated spinsters oh I don't want cards I don't want flash cards.
[32:08] Oh right, there we go, I know so well what becomes of unmarried women who aren't prepared to occupy a position. I've seen such pitiful cases in the South, barely tolerated spinsters living upon the grudging patronage of sisters, husband or brother's wife, stuck away in some little mousetrap of a room, encouraged by one in-law to visit another, little bird-like women without any nest, eating the crusty humility all their life. Is that the future that we've mapped out for ourselves? Well because she's also worried like where's she gonna go when she gets old so normally the daughter gets married and then the mother moves in with the married daughter's family right, when she gets old i mean she probably knows notices that her son is well because of course the writer turned out to be gay right so amanda wingfield who's you know sort of a classic narcissist.
[33:19] So it's all about her. The only thing is about her. She needs a place to land. So she needs her daughter to get married. So, so she's, this is all projection, right? She can't really notice. This is why her daughter has no personality, right?
[33:38] So and she warns her daughter she says, Amanda the mother referred she chose a handsome man she chose a man for looks and she says no girl can do worse than put herself at the mercy of a handsome appearance.
[33:59] So Amanda I mean, this is a whole complicated thing about one of the primary jobs of parents is to sell marriage to their children, right? To sell marriage deep. This is why I asked callers, do you want, do you want, the lives your parents have? And if you don't want the lives your parents had, have, then you're going to have to choose something significantly different. So you got to sell you got to sell marriage to to your kids and of course amanda didn't, which is why both of her children neither of her children reproduced like and this is the real woman it's funny because uh tennessee williams i read a biography of his many years ago and uh his his mother came to this and basically the entire character of amanda wingfield is based upon his mother and of course she's has so little self-awareness that the his tennessee williams mother came to see the play and said, where on earth did you get that woman from? That's wild. Who on earth could that be based on? I just don't know. It's pretty wild. It's pretty wild.
[35:15] So women used to have to choose. They couldn't aim too high. Because the other thing too is that if you aim too high, like let's say that you're a five, a woman, you're a five and you aim for a 10. If you aim for a 10, or you aim for a nine, you eight for a seven, eight, whatever, you aim high and you get rejected, then you're no longer a five. It's a complicated gamble that people go through with this kind of stuff. A woman's a five, aims for a 10, gets rejected, or maybe has a short relationship, sleeps around with a nine for a little bit, hooks up with an eight, you know, by the time she tumbles back down, she's no longer a five anymore. She's like a two or a three.
[35:59] Because a woman who aims too high when she returns to her original place is now viewed as dangerously, narcissistically vain and delusional by the men, right? So we all know this story of the woman go through the 304 phase, right? They call it the hoe phase or whatever, right? So they go sleeping with the chads and they go all over Europe and, you know, and so on. And then they have to settle for some guy in their 30s. But because they've been sexually programmed to respond to significant amounts of male status and attraction, they're discontented with the guy they end up marrying. So they divorce him after a couple of years and take his money and the kids.
[36:46] Because you want to marry someone who's satisfied with how attractive you are. You don't want to marry a woman who's constantly dreaming of, jamie dornan swimming in liquid gold or something like that right you just you don't want to um, because she's just going to be dissatisfied and she's going to look at you and you know she's just going to find you she's settled for you you're not who she really wants and she just has an unrealistic, like if a man genuinely believes that he is worth a thousand dollars an hour, how is he going to feel about having to take a job at minimum wage?
[37:33] He's going to be discontented, as opposed to someone who's absolutely thrilled to get a job at minimum wage. Like when my daughter got her job, right? She's thrilled to get a job at minimum wage. As opposed to some guy who's like, I'm a lawyer, man, but I'm just, I just can't get it together. And he'll just be discontented, frustrated, tense, and volatile, and not a good worker and prone to leaving.
[37:55] So women had to very seriously calibrate who they went for. Now, a five, yep, you can get a six. A seven is really pushing it.
[38:05] And again, if you aim for the seven, like you start off at a five, you can get a five. You aim for a seven, you fail, you're going to get a three or a four. Right? So you end up with less. It's a gamble, right? And gambles have stakes and wins and odds and losses and all of that, right? So in the past, women had to be ruthlessly realistic. This is sort of the, I don't want to speak for her, of course, but this is sort of the Pearl Davis, the pearly things with a Z on X. This is sort of for a holy mission is to try to get women to be realistic about what they can, what kind of commitment they can get. Getting a man to have sex with you is about as easy as getting one man to shake hands with another. You just walk up like this and most men will shake your hand. And they've done these studies where attractive women try to pick up men in bars and it works like 95% of the time, and you do it the other way around, it works like 5% of the time or something like that.
[39:01] So that's her job, which is to say, so women put on all these filters, they put on four pounds of makeup, they get all this plastic surgery, they get liposuction and so on, and they think that they are that attractive because of how men respond to them online. And she says, no, you have to be realistic. You have to be realistic. Because if you can't get women to be realistic, you can't, you can't sustain society. Like, I'm not kidding about it, it's literally that serious. If you can't get women to be realistic about their own level of attractiveness, then the women are going to constantly aim for men who are out of their league.
[39:40] And that screws up pair bonding, it screws up monogamy, it screws up marriage, and it destroys the birth rate. Because women are going to aim high, high, high, which they can get if they subsidize with sex in their 20s, they can go a couple of points up. Right? A lot of men, if you talk to them, they're like, I remember talking to guys up north in a bar one night when I was about, I don't know, I was like 19 or whatever, I was walking up north, and they talked about, sorry for the coarseness, but whatever, right? They talked about the wolf fuck. And the wolf fuck is when you're at the bar, you're up north, you've been in the bush for a long time, you've missed the touch of a lady, and you end up, though, you put your beer goggles on late at night, you end up inviting back to your motel some woman who's just not who you want to be seen in daylight with and so the wolf fuck is the woman's lying asleep on your arm and you'd rather chew your own arm off than wake her so you can get out maybe it's her place or whatever right so you know how wolves will chew their own leg off to get out of a trap chew through your arm so you don't wake her up that's the wolf fuck and so uh most men if you talk to them honestly have uh one or two instances where they're well their standards may have dipped just a smidge for the sake of.
[41:07] Sexual activity. And so just that reprogram, that woman then says, well, if I got one, if I got a man to sleep with me, I can get a man of equal quality to marry me. And it's like, nope, No, you can't. No, you can't. So, this was also, again, not wanting to speak for the late, great Kevin Samuels, but Kevin Samuels was also, this was one of his missions too, which is he would ask women, you know, same couple of questions, right? What's your height? What's your weight? Last time you weighed yourself, what's your dress size? And then he'd play, right? I mean, the women were overweight. and he would say uh how would you rate yourself one to ten fresh faced your own hair right out of the shower just your face you can't use seven right and women would rate themselves eight and nine and he'd be like no beyonce's an eight and kelly roland is a nine or something like that rihanna's a ten something like that right and he would say because he was a professional image consultant and he would say he'd have the zoom picture of the zoom video and he'd say no you're six you're cute you're cute there's nothing wrong with cute right but if if women have inflated an inflated sense of their own attractiveness society cannot continue.
[42:28] Society cannot continue like it's it's it's essential for and and this used to be happened this used to be dealt with in the free market which is women who had an inflated sense of their own potential, ended up not reproducing. So yeah, aim high, absolutely aim high, but be realistic, and realize that if you aim high and miss, you get less, right? It's like double or nothing. Maybe you'll get the double, maybe you'll get nothing, but without the or nothing, women can just, the typical path, right? They get more attractive men than they deserve in terms of marriage by sleeping with men. And they go through this and get increasingly frustrated that men won't, settle down with them, won't marry them, won't give them children, won't commit to them. Men have commitment issues. It's like, no, you have judgment issues.
[43:24] Men don't have commitment issues. You're judging a man's desire for sex as if it's his desire for marriage and children. And it's not. It's not. For most men, sex and commitment, for obvious evolutionary reasons, for most men, sex and commitment are overlapping circles at best. You can have sex with commitment. You can have sex without commitment. And if the major value or the significant value that the woman brings to the relationship is sex, then he will not commit. A man will not commit to sex. A man will commit to virtue. A man will commit to loyalty. A man will commit to honesty, integrity, you know, fun, happiness, stability, like all the qualities that will make a good wife and mother to his children. But a man will not commit to sex. For the simple reason that men have to have multiple partners in order for tribes to continue because men die in hunting accidents, they die because they cut themselves while putting a fence up in a farm, they die in war, they die all the time, right? And so men needed to decouple sex from monogamy or at least have them be overlapping circles.
[44:46] So yes, a man will have sex with you, but he's not going to marry you right and this shows up in another one of Tennessee Williams plays The Glass Menagerie sorry A Streetcar Named Desire where one of the guys says to the woman when he finds out that she actually had a total hoe face that went on for a long time, he says I'm not going to marry you now I'll have sex with you I'm not going to marry you you're not clean enough to bring in the house with my mother he's quite a little over attached to his mother, but he's quite attached to his mother, you know? And then she goes completely insane. And honestly, I, I, I hate to say I learned all of this from my mother, but I learned all of this from my mother. This is not, you know, how if I stared so deep into the estrogen whirlpool of, bad resource allocation, because my mother could get men to date her. They could get, she could get men to sleep with her. She could get men to fly her out to another country to, But she could not, she could not get the man to marry her.
[45:48] She could not, and she ended up, as I read in my teens, when I first read Tennessee Williams, she ended up with nothing. She aimed high. She aimed high. I saw the guy, she aimed high. She could not get the men to marry her. They'd sleep with her. She looked great on their arm. She's a very beautiful woman, very slender, which, you know, for a woman from Germany is in her, you know, 40s, 50s, 60s, not the most common scenario.
[46:27] The Angela Merkel potato seems to be more of the template, but she could not get them to marry her. And I'm sure she, I mean, I know she wanted them to. She aimed for the super good looking guys, super successful guys, super wealthy guys. And they appreciated, you know, my mother is very intelligent, good conversationalist, very attractive, and so on, but not stable enough to marry. And she was also a single mother, and she also probably spoke bitterly about her ex, you know, to discharge the emotion, which also discharges any potential of getting a ring on your finger. So we have a society now because women outvote men always be the case women outvote men as i mentioned because of uh of age population and incentive right of incentive um women are desperate to get government money men are not as desperate to deny them government money.
[47:20] And, in the past women who aimed too high, were quite likely to end up with nothing and that tempered there right, it would be like if in horse racing you were betting on horse racing like squid game style you're betting in horse racing and you can't ever lose money on the long odds you can't ever lose money on the long odds, right like the 20 to 1 pays 20 to 1 because the horse is like, some u-shaped head into the glue factory three-legged wobble butt right.
[48:03] So if in horse racing, the 20 to one, you could never lose money, then people would only bet on the 20 to one. And, you know, maybe they'd win once in a great while, but, you know, but if you couldn't lose money, but the reason why the bets are all calibrated so that the horse most likely to win pays very little and the horse least likely to win pays a lot. So women go for the long shot because the government will catch them on the downside. If they fail, the government will pay for their kids, the government will pay for their housing, the government will pay for their health care for their retirement benefits it will pay for their kids dentistry everything right the government will pay for everything so they can aim as high as they want and then there's a you know, there's a whole industry of insulting men because men are making rational choices right this is whole there's a whole industry it's in it's called feminism it's called leftism it's called a wide variety of things but there's this whole industry that has grown up to shield women from the consequences of their own bad choices by insulting men, right? So Peter Pan syndrome, well, where did the Peter Pan syndrome come from? This is men who don't grow up. Well, men are not allowed to grow up because men are denied, many men are denied decent jobs and they have no particular opportunity for housing and women have been poisoned against them. Men grew up in order to become fathers and husbands and fathers. And if there's no real possibility of becoming a husband and a father, why would you bother growing up?
[49:29] Men are lazy. Well, men work hard because we have a 10 to 1 ratio of providing resources to wives and children as opposed to what we need to live on ourselves. So it's not that we're lazy. It's just that why work extra hard if you don't have a wife and kids? Well, maybe you'll work harder when you're younger because you want to date and you've got to pay to play, right? But yeah, I mean, this is why, I mean, people talk about the sort of birth rate crisis. And I mean, there's lots of stuff that's going on. But the most foundational thing is that men defer to women and pay for women, and in return, women give children to society.
[50:11] But if women can get resources without providing children, we know statistically they don't provide children in general. And if women can get the benefits of commitment without the drawbacks of commitment, right? So the benefits of commitment for women are a man who will pay your bills. Like, you know, that famous meme, like, hear me out. It's only fans, but you have only one fan, and he pays everything for your whole life. But there's a woman picture of a woman with kids right so women in order to gain resources, provide children because men have evolved to provide extra resources for the sake of children, so a woman gets she gets paid for herself on the grounds or on the basis of providing children to the man if she provides sex without children then the man will generally choose that.
[51:09] And of course, the last thing I'll say is, of course, as we know, as men and women get into their 30s, the value of men goes up and the value of women goes down. Early, it's the reverse, of course. In their early 20s, the value of women is astronomical. The value of men is very low because they're broke. Men get into their 30s. Women get into their 30s, then the reverse happens, right?
[51:29] So women aimed high in their 20s and men aim high in their 30s. But men aiming high in their 30s means getting relatively unspoiled, untraumatized, unbroken up with unbroken women in their early to mid-20s, which of course is then ferociously attacked by all of the, oh, it's like pedophilia, man. What would you have in common? It's like, sorry, man. Marriage isn't about having things in common. I mean, evolutionarily speaking, it's just about who's got the most resources and who's got the most fertility.
[52:03] And it's very unusual in evolution and in history, it's very unusual for there to be a lot of successful quality available men in their 30s. That's like unheard of, because they would have been locked in and held onto by women throughout their 20s and 30s, right? So the fact that there's all of this is really unusual. So all of this flips around, and then you end up with a cohort of incredibly bitter women.
[52:30] And wisdom is fine unless it's too late. And I, you know, we can get mad at this if we want. It's just a simple fact of human nature. Wisdom is fine unless it's too late, right? I mean, David Lynch quit smoking in 2022 after like starting smoking at the age of eight, probably too late to save him, right? I mean, I remember reading this article that was a Q&A with a doctor in the Toronto Star, like i don't know 40 years ago or whatever and it was like i was in an article and the guy said yeah i quit smoking i'm in my late 50s my doctor says it's not really going to do much for my health but you know i was tired of stinking and spending money and taxes are too high and all of that kind of stuff right so it's too late right what's i mean every smoker dying of smoking smokes his last cigarette right and then after that he's quote quit but it's too late to save him right, And so for women to try to wise up, make better decisions in their late thirties, it's too late. It's too late.
[53:35] For women to say, if I expect a man to provide value to me, I have to provide value to a man other than sex and status, because sex and status don't make children. Sex and status don't make children. Marriage, pair bonding, and fertility, that makes children. So for women in their late 30s to suddenly say, oh my gosh, you know, I need to, well, of course, men, we're not stupid, right? I mean, there's this whole thing that portrays men as stupid. men are cunning like foxes right and really really smart and we look at a woman in her late 30s and say oh now she wants to cooperate and be nice and now she seems positive about men and so on and it's like no she's just running out of time like it's not believable it's not a real thing i mean i've said this before but it's kind of like there's this endless scenes in movies where the good guy the bad guy has the gun and he's dominating the good guy and then the good guy gets a hold of the gun, and the bad guy's like, whoa, hey, no violence, let's talk things through, man, like, I was kidding, you know, but nobody thinks that it's a change of heart, it's just a change of power, it's not a change of heart, it's just a change of power. So, women have the upper hand when men are young, and men have the upper hand when you get into your late 30s.
[54:53] And you see these, again, I don't know if it's a psyop, I don't know if it's real, but you see these women, like, with tears, like, oh, what's so wrong with me, why is it, I'm over 40, but I, you know i i have a nice house i i cook i'm a good conversationalist i make good money why can't i get a boyfriend it's like because that's not what boyfriends are for boyfriends, are for test driving the father of your children and nobody can father your children.
[55:19] Everybody thinks that sex is about them. Dating is about them. No, this is all about children. It's all about the production and having of children. Uncouple that. Society cannot sustain. All right. I hope that helps clarify things.
[55:35] It's just a lesson. Our current society is just an inoculation, a giant inoculation mechanism against future societies doing things as completely retardedly.
[55:46] All right. sorry about the long speech let's get to your questions question can you use beautiful women as a motivator online sorry that was really like william shantner pauses there question can, you use beautiful women as motivator can you use beautiful women as a motivator online while you struggle and grind to improve your sexual market value in other words is there a difference between lust and being thirst trapped and simply admiring a beautiful woman's physique as an external motivator. I find myself more likely to endure discomfort when I see there's a potential price of women who are simply thin and take care of themselves. Even if I get a woman who's a six and not an eight, I think the motivation could improve me from settling for a four or five who might be easily jealous. I'm not talking about simping or XXX content, just enjoying what you see. For women who put themselves out there while what's in your current locals is trashy. Oh, current locale. Sorry, locale is trashy working on moving. What are the pros and cons of following accounts that post pretty women? If we know, we'll never date them, but we feel a greater sense of urgency to better ourselves.
[56:59] I don't know, man. This seems overly complicated. I mean, I know that I'm an old fart and I know that I'm a long way from modern dating.
[57:11] Planet but why don't you just chat with some reasonable women and ask them out, go talk to them uh most men don't talk to women so just go talk to women and uh be nice and friendly and you know be open to say them saying no or not being interested of course that's totally fine but yeah just go chat with women and and ask them out i'm not i'm not sure i quite understand all of this yes but if i look at this and like all of this is just sorry it's just a bunch of bullshit just go talk to women and ask them out right so i i don't have any big uh pieces of advice other than that all right um what do i think of the ban on corporations owning yeah that's what provoked the last speech what do i think of a ban on corporations owning single family homes more force leads to more force leads to more force leads to more force i don't like escalating force.
[58:18] Strange, you're down on subscribers. You've gotten some shout outs recently. I thought would drive that up. Such a shame people really are missing out on the show of a lifetime. Well, thank you. Just up my sub 10 minutes ago. Thank you. Thank you so much. I really do appreciate that. You also when you the more you look at beautiful women are you programming yourself to find normal women unattractive right.
[58:45] Cathartic thought i have about boomers is that they'll never get to experience how great life can be in the absence of boomers yeah yeah, somebody says 30 minutes ago i recommended free domain to a woman at a insurance agency i told or how Stef has changed my life for the better with self-knowledge and making better choices in life, especially relationships in which went straight to the website. I do recommend Stef to people who are curious and want to improve. Thank you. I appreciate that. Stef, since you were into acting, did you ever consider joining the Blue Man Group? You certainly have the head for it. Oh, boy, you know. Boy, you know, it's wild. It's wild how unoriginal people are. Like, honestly, so I'm a bald guy. And I've been a bald guy for like, I don't know, 30 years, right? And if I could tell you, they're like five jokes. They're like five jokes. The Blue Man Group is one of them. And I suppose it feels, so this is a basic empathy thing. I'm not offended. Like, what do I care? I'm happily married and I actually love the way I look, if that means anything. So I'm not offended by anything. But here's the thing, right? This is like a basic empathy thing. The basic empathy thing. Not empathy for me or my feelings. Just, this is empathy to others, right? To others. So.
[1:00:11] If you're talking to a bald guy, and you think of a bald joke.
[1:00:18] Think of the bald guy's life, because if you've thought of that joke, probably a hundred other people, or a thousand other people, have thought of that joke, and maybe shut up.
[1:00:30] Or at least come up with an original joke, something that's not obvious, like, oh wow, the Blue Man Group, they're bald, Stef's bald, Stef should join the Blue Man group because bald is bald yes phil collins i get it yes there are bald guys like phil collins there are bald guys like woody harrelson there are bald guys like fraser crane or kelsey grammar or whatever right yes i get it yes billy corgan yes yeah i get it yeah yeah bald guys and so it's just an empathy thing which is like there's a great simpsons about this where there's a boat show and there's a pretty woman standing by the boat and guy comes up and says, do you come with the boat? And she's like, and then the next guy comes up and says, do you come with the boat? Right? So if it's an obvious thing that you're saying to a bald guy, which is a bald joke, have some compassion and some empathy for the fact that we've heard it all before. To come up with an original bald joke, not that easy, right? It's not that easy. And so my concern is nothing to do with me again I actually really like being bald it saves me a huge amount of time I love the way that I look I'm very happy with my giant philosophy robot from the future vibe I'm great with that.
[1:01:51] So, if you're going to say something to a bald guy that is a blindingly obvious joke, the compassion is, maybe he's heard it before. Especially, you know, if I'm older, like I've been bald for like 30 plus years, maybe I've heard these jokes before. Maybe, maybe. It's just an empathy thing, right? And again, it's not empathy to my feelings. I don't care about it but what it is is empathy for the weariness of the same jokes over and over.
[1:02:32] Alright, I recommend Stef constantly too but I think the problem a lot of the time, is that people don't actually want to change ironically the first time someone linked me to a Stef video after I complained about my life I just said something like neat I never watched it I only started listening years later, His content is too confrontational for most people who only want to complain. And if they only want to complain, they shouldn't be here. What is this word gooning? Goon. What does this mean? I'm going to have to look this up. Goon, gooning. It's a slang, right? A goon, a thug hired to intimidate or harm opponents. I knew that. A fool. Is that what a goon means? Awkward, stupid person. Okay. Cheaper, inferior, cask wine. Oh my. Cask wine. How inferior. Mwah, hot hot. All right. All right. Demastus swings in energy to the brain from tons of carbohydrates will have an impact. They did randomized controlled trials in mental institutions back in the 70s. These things have been well replicated. It's not everything, but it definitely has an impact. While I do remember having the occasional donut in high school and being like half passing out in the afternoon.
[1:03:57] Um, the longer you go without looking at the pretty ladies online, the more attractive normal ladies become. Yeah, I think that's true.
[1:04:11] All right, let me get to your comments. Gooning, long master basin sessions that last several hours or even days. Days? Hours? Okay. Okay. Oh, I guess these are neats, right?
[1:04:32] All right so let me just get to your comments uh i had a long old rant earlier on so, i'm gonna have to get back to where you all were, yes uh actually lissy and i were just talking about a show i will do one we'll do one this week yes the easy show is a very popular.
[1:05:01] Da da da do do do do do do all right so let's see here there's no normal women around where i live though.
[1:05:16] I was in a training with one attractive woman and lost all interest in any online women it literally feels like a self-fulfilling prophecy of loserdom if i don't let myself look at pretty women, single moms that abuse their kids that are fat and tattered are the norm here, yeah well then you gotta move, but you can't take a bus to a nicer neighborhood and chat with women there come on man, this all just god, it drives me crazy all these excuses well there's just fat women around get on a fucking bus go somewhere, get on a bike somewhere yes, oh my god I grew up in this matriarchal manner. So I grew up in these little trashy rent control bullshit roach infested apartment buildings full of trashy people.
[1:06:05] I had a miracle wheel thing called a bicycle where I went places. Also, you can get on a bus and go places. There may even be a subway where you are, where you can go nicer places.
[1:06:17] So rather than chat with women in my neighborhood, I got on a fucking bus went to a different neighborhood and chatted with the women there, you think the problem is whether you look at pretty women online or not no the problem is you've got a bunch of house of cards excuses you call a structured life, see here's the thing man, life is short It's really fucking short. Blink and you miss it.
[1:06:56] I give people one shot these days, and it's been this way for a long time. One shot in my life. Somebody has a problem, I give them a solution. I'm pretty fucking good at solutions. That's why there's a queue to talk to me about life problems, because I'm pretty fucking good at solutions. Now, if the first thing I hear is yes, but boom, done, I'm out. I'm despawned. I don't care. I don't care anymore. I've just completely uncoupled. I don't care. Go live your fucking life. Right so when i when you say is it good or bad to look at pretty women online and i say why don't you just go talk to some nice women and he's like well there aren't any nice women around here i'm like okay because i have no no interest whatsoever in pushing people who have no motive power themselves i'll be straight up with you because it doesn't take more than three maybe three and a half maybe pie brain cells to say well Stef says i should go and talk to some normal women or some reasonable women or some nice women well there aren't any nice women around here.
[1:08:13] But i can get to some other place where there are nice women now i know what you're going to say is you're going to say, well, it's a small town. Okay. But you see, I'm telling you what the solution is. I'm not telling you every step because you're not fucking stupid. I'm not going to tell you every step. You need to talk to nice women. You need to talk to reasonable women. Well, there aren't any. Okay. Then, then don't. Then you look at women online and your gene pool will die out. Your entire fucking ancestry will weep and you'll let it all fall to the ground. But if it's like, well, Stef, but this, well, how about, you could do this, yeah, but this, okay, well, you can bypass it by doing this, yeah, right?
[1:08:59] I don't have time because when I invest time into trying to solve people's problems who have no motive power themselves, I don't want to get drawn into something where no problem solution is being sought. Like there's no actual solution that's being sought. What the person is trying to do is they're bored and frustrated with their own life. So they come out into the world and they say, I'm bored and frustrated with my own life. What should I do? And then people give them suggestions, and they just totally block those suggestions. Yes, but, yes, but, yes, but, and then everybody ends up bored and frustrated. No, thank you. No, thank you. All right. He says, I've been without a girlfriend for 13 years. I think this is the same guy. You don't understand how hopeless it can make you. People think I'm a fool for not flinging and hooking up. This community is not normal and increases our standards. I think some healthy-looking women should have the same effect. Why else are you here? Do you need to be reminded of, quote, thinkers as well? Sorry, let me just make sure, because that's a little unclear. That's a little bit unclear.
[1:10:23] But whether it's the same person or not, he says, I've been without a girlfriend for 13 years. You don't understand how hopeless it can make you. What are you, like somebody in the Sahara saying, I've been without rain for 13 years. You don't understand how thirsty that can make you. I've been without a girlfriend for 13 years. Sorry, it's just not true. None of this is true. It's true that you've been without a girlfriend, but that's the result of your specific choices. There are lots of lonely women out in the world who would love to go on a date. Lots of lonely women out in the world who would love to go on a date. Are they online uber goddesses? They are not. Are you? No. Am I? No.
[1:11:22] So you weren't without a girlfriend. You chose to be single. You chose to be single. Right? So did you say, well, I'm shy. Okay. I get that. I was shy as a kid. You got to work to overcome it, right? Shyness is a form of selfishness. And it is a form of narcissism. Because you're shy because you were treated badly as a child. And then you react to people in the present as if they're your parents, which is making it all about you. So shut up and get over yourself and go talk out there in the world because not everyone is like your asshole parents. And for you to treat the world as if, Can you imagine? Would I get married if I thought all women would like my mother? I'm not going to let her win. That way I'm not going to let my mother, who's like really, really far out there. I'll get my mother define what femininity is, what marriage is, what wives are, what mothers are. Ew. Stop letting your asshole parents define the world that you live in. That's selfish. It's making it all about you. Well, what if people are mad at me? What if they reject me? what if you gotta serve at me, okay?
[1:12:36] So, hide from the world because your parents were jerks. But don't think it's because it's anything to do with the world. You're just letting your parents win. Been without a girlfriend for 13 years. Were you in a North Korean labor camp? If not, I have no patience. I have no patience in this nonsense. You chose to not date. Say, well, I don't know how to talk to women. Okay. Did you practice, read books, go to seminars? Did you practice little by little? Did you work at improving it? Did you blah, blah, blah, blah, blah? No, you just sat there like a toadstool on your dysfunction and let it take over your life? That's a choice. And I say that because if you want to choose different, you've got to start making excuses.
[1:13:39] Have you seen the graphs marriage rates by women born in the 70s 80s 90s virtually all of the 1990s birth women who will marry have already married and the s curve has already leveled off, okay yeah so you can let you can let graphs determine your dating choices and options, what can I tell you, yeah I think you can get Glass Menagerie on YouTube I think it's actually free, All right.
[1:14:31] Weird to think that most of my female classmates are about to hit the wall. Time is running out.
[1:14:47] That's why somebody says, that's why I always focus on morals when interviewing potential friends or mates. Any woman who doesn't have tattoos, rainbow hair, odd piercing is 50 pounds overweight, or a single mom has potential to me. The demographic is non-existent here. Yeah. So you've chosen cheaper rent over getting married. Okay. I don't think that's a good deal, but let's not pretend it's not a choice. It is a choice. You've chosen a familiar, cheap, trashy neighborhood over moving someplace better. I came across a single mom yesterday who didn't mention her kids in her profile. Says someone, I forgot how much the dating app filters keep me filtered from desperation.
[1:15:36] Well, in general, it's better to meet people in person because you can read the whole body language and you can't get fair fished and so on, right?
[1:15:52] So, another thing is that women are discouraged from dating blue-collar guys, because blue-collar guys, it's part of a sort of genetic thing. So, blue-collar guys who work with their hands, manual labor, practical, factual-based stuff, right? I'm not talking, skilled, unskilled, it doesn't really matter as far as practical stuff goes. So, people who work with their hands, blue-collar guys, people who do manual labor, those people are more practical, tend to be more free market, tend to be more conservative. So by programming women to look down upon blue-collar guys, they are trying to prevent those practical genes from reproducing. All right. Yeah, we would tip more on Izzy shows on average.
[1:17:00] Well, I mean, women have bonded with other women, and this is again part of a, you know, I assume a fairly sinister agenda, but women are encouraged to bond with other women rather than with men. Because then it's easier to program women if they're hive-minded with other women than it is if they're actually bonded to a man who's going to be a bit more skeptical of things.
[1:17:25] That was a good copycat of the fan sound, yeah. Men can have the flaw of expecting sex because they did something nice. Women can have the flaw of expecting a relationship for giving sex. I got to tell you, I mean, I've known countless men over the course of my life. So this is not scientific, but it's also not just completely anecdotal. I have never once met a man. I think this is a mythical beast, right? I think it's a mythical beast. I've never once met a man who expects a woman to have sex with him, because he does something nice I've never once met a man who expects a woman to sleep with him because say he helps her move or because he picked up her dry cleaning, because he was on the way or because he rented a movie like I've never once met a man like that, and again I've known lots of different men expect sex because they did something nice Now, women can have the floor expecting a relationship for giving sex. Yeah, for sure.
[1:18:38] That's somewhat incorrect to someone. Women who support themselves act the same way, including towards men, as those receiving government benefits. Women who support themselves? Sorry, what women? What women are these?
[1:18:56] I don't, I don't quite follow.
[1:19:00] So are you saying that in a totally free market, let's just play this out, right? Women who support themselves. So in a totally free market, let's say that you are a manager and you are looking to hire somebody and give them a significant amount of responsibility and a significant amount of travel. And let's say your choice is between a young man who just got married and a young woman who just got married. Who are you going to give the job to in a totally free market? In a totally free market. And let's say you didn't even ask them. They just volunteered this information, right? Let's just say men on average work longer hours, are more willing to travel, work more overtime, work more consistently, take fewer breaks, take fewer sick days. Certainly if they have kids, they take fewer days off to take care of kids. So in a free market as a whole, if the man, all other things being equal, I know that's a bit of a cheat phrase, but let's just use it for the moment. In a free market, if you have the choice between hiring a young man or a young woman, for a difficult, challenging job with a lot of responsibility, a lot of travel, and it's going to require a lot of endurance and you don't want them to quit.
[1:20:28] Who are you going to hire?
[1:20:33] See, there are no women in the workplace whose employment is not affected by the state. Let me say this again. There are no women in the workplace whose employment is not affected by the state. And we know that because those laws exist.
[1:20:48] This is not me. I'm not making anything up. I'm not pulling anything out of my arm, but that's actually real.
[1:21:03] Women have been brainwashed into believing making and raising children is less work than working, it's less oh it's less worth than working sorry i was trying to fix what i thought might be a typo that's my bad not yours sorry about that it's less worth less than working yeah well but it's you know honestly it's more fun to go to a job sometimes than to raise kids when they're very young, right? I can understand that. I can understand that. But most women, which is the same for most men, they don't have any kind of career. They just have some job. Just have some job.
[1:21:40] Many women will get careers out of fear. They don't want to depend on a man because he may abandon her or die. Or she may not find the kind of man she wants. I've definitely heard of women who feel forced into their strong, independent path. Well, you know, you know, that's what's interesting about what's going on politically at the moment in the U.S. In that government workers as of early February are going to have to go to work. Some of them have not been in the office for years, except maybe twice every two months, sort of back to back, and maybe not even that. And if you watch the graph, Reddit use from .gov accounts goes up during the workday and down mornings and evenings. So there's a lot of them posting on Reddit, a lot of them have side hustles, a lot of them don't really work. And of course, what's funny is a lot of women saying this, some men too, a lot of women are saying, I can't come into the office because I don't have any childcare.
[1:22:40] I don't mean to laugh because it's like, it's tragic for the kids, but you can't come into the office because you don't have childcare, which means you're taking care of your children while being paid to do something else. What? So what's happening, of course, is that the reality of actually being a working person is going to start to become clear. And of course, everybody knows that the, uh, the civil service government workers and so on is significantly female, right? It's a big subsidy to have them not have kids, right? It's really sad. I mean, one of the best ways to up the birth rate is to let the free market take care of employment and see what happens then. That's just what should happen, right? Because everything else is an initiation of the use of force. Somebody says I can understand this fear the fear of women because my dad died at 57 my mom was 52 she didn't even qualify for social security at that point this put her in a bad spot because she had zero work experience she lamented that she wished she completed her nursing program early in life it is very scary to me as a young woman too to consider that if my husband died I'd have no way to survive financially, what the hell are you talking about I don't understand what are you talking about.
[1:24:09] What, your mom chose to be broke at 52 your mom and your dad, chose to be broke at 50 when she was 52 I'm sorry maybe I'm missing something blindingly obvious here so I apologize if I'm speaking out of turn but it's called life insurance, life insurance get it when you're young get it when you get married it's pretty cheap, you can pay a little bit extra often they can invest it for you end up with free premiums, so when your dad died at 57.
[1:24:52] Your mother should have received a significant amount of money, from life insurance, now if they chose not to get life insurance I have no sympathy because that's a choice they saved a hundred bucks a month for decades or whatever it was going to be, if they'd taken that hundred bucks a month and put it in bitcoin she'd be fine anyway so they chose to save they chose to roll the dice hey I don't want to pay twelve hundred bucks a year or two thousand bucks I don't want to pay any of that for life insurance because we'll be fine okay, I'm not going to force anyone to buy life insurance but if your wife doesn't work and you don't have life insurance I don't even know what to tell you.
[1:25:42] Well, what kind of ridiculous life is that? Well, I don't really have any savings, and my wife doesn't have any job experience, but I'm sure I'm going to make it to 90, so we don't need any life insurance. Oh, but they couldn't afford life insurance. Bullshit. Bullshit. It's dirt cheap when you're young. you get married look I'm not a life insurance salesman I'm just telling you my particular opinion you get married you get life insurance you get disability insurance you get this shit because stuff happens in life now if they were like cross her fingers right.
[1:26:30] To me people who don't have life insurance, I don't it's like trying to drive blind well maybe you'll be fine maybe you'll just be really lucky but a lot of people aren't, so maybe I'm wrong and I'm happy to be corrected on this but I do not understand what the problem is, if your mom and your dad and you because you're a smart woman you understand economics right you think you're a fear woman right yes it's a young woman right so why didn't you tell them guys, you're in your 50s shit happens what happens if dad gets disabled what are you going to do what happens if somebody gets hit by a bus what happens if somebody has a heart attack what happens if somebody like what if you got right so why didn't they have life insurance.
[1:27:28] I'm sorry, like, I can't have sympathy for people, when they make choices that don't pan out. Because they're choices. You know, there's lots of people who pay life insurance their whole lives and end up dying when they're 90 and paid way more into their life insurance than they get out in premiums. So do we look at those people and say, well, that was stupid? No. You chose, your parents and your family and everyone chose, I assume, not to have life insurance. Now, maybe you got life insurance and you got cheated and okay, I have sympathy for that. That's not too common. So what's with the fear? I don't understand why if my husband died, I'd have no way to survive financially. I mean, come on, you've heard of life insurance. You've heard of life insurance. I mean, it's on TV all the time. you can't turn on TV in America in particular wherever you are without you know, premiums triple in the case of an accident no medical exam life insurance is everywhere, so how are they broke? Well they broke because they chose not to get life insurance okay like I think that's sad but don't tell me this is some existential female risk they just rolled the dice and they rolled badly.
[1:28:57] Ah let's see here oh sorry somebody talked about this and the woman replied, my dad refused to get life insurance his whole life because an employee of his started policies on him and other employees in the 80s before you needed permission from both parties two of his co-workers mysteriously died within weeks of each other and the employer collected the life insurance he quit and never consented to life insurance for the rest of his life, well that's just stupid like sorry that's just i mean sorry that's just stupid that's just stupid.
[1:29:30] So he worked for a, what, this is his theory that the employer murdered people? So he didn't get life insurance to protect his family because his boss murdered co-workers for life insurance? That just sounds like, I mean, I don't know. I mean, okay, so he got freaked out about life insurance and did not protect his family. And his wife, what, let him do this? My husband is okay with life insurance though so that's good okay so my friend my friend my sister in reason what are you doing what are you saying it's very scary to me as a young woman too to consider what my what if that if my husband died i'd have no way to survive financially and then you know all about life insurance. What are you doing? Please don't conform to these stereotypes of women and money.
[1:30:32] Oh my God. Being nice and friendly doesn't work anymore. Oh boy. We've got some really pathetic black-hearted doom mongers in here. Yeah, maybe it'll cost me another couple of subscriptions, but what the hell? No, come on, man. Being nice and friendly doesn't work anymore. Yes, because that kind of bitterness is really going to win you a quality woman. Being nice and friendly works with nice and friendly girls. That's right, James. And they are already in relationships. So we need to know how to make do with trash planet girls. You know what? You are excused from talking to women. You don't have to talk to women. You don't have to talk to women.
[1:31:18] All right, yeah ask all the tall guys if they played basketball am i not providing value to you guys just out of curiosity because it's like low tip low tips last two shows low tips, got like 50 bucks and change 55 bucks i feel like i'm working hard i feel like i'm working hard, wife material women exist but basically cannot be found out in public, if you surrender to bitterness, you just lose in life. I mean, come on. Do you not think, do you not think that I might have had some reason to surrender to bitterness? Think that, I'm not saying I'm the only person, I'm not saying I'm the biggest person to, but do you not think that it could have been a little bit tempting to me, you know, having had my life's work destroyed four years ago, do you not think that it might have been a little bit possible for me to succumb to bitterness? Or everyone who betrayed me as a child, or everyone who betrayed me as a young man, or all of my colleagues who vanished the moment that the heat was turned up with me, even though I helped start a lot of their careers. Do you not think it's vaguely possible, vaguely possible, that I could have surrendered to just a little bit of bitterness?
[1:32:39] Yeah, yeah, the jokes are tall men, right? So there's a card, right? There's a card, right? Yes i am tall i am 6 10 no i'm not kidding yes that is tall no i do not play basketball i play volleyball yes seeing the tops of everyone's head is weird yes the weather is nice up here this has been a great conversation yeah everybody thinks they're so original, dating for young men is way way harder than you think Stef you know what i was hearing the same goddamn shit when i was a teenager too and i was in my 20s all my friends were complaining about that oh it's so hard man it's so hard they say well you find it easier because you're really good looking it's like then i started losing my hair i still got to talk to women well you find it easier because this that and the other you you find it easier because you have all the time in the world then i started working really hard as an entrepreneur but still able to chat with women well you it's just bullshit it's just bullshit.
[1:33:41] It's just bullshit.
[1:33:45] I, it was a horrid lack of foresight on my dad's part, definitely not defending it. Yeah, the life insurance thing, this is a woman, seems obvious now. It just wasn't something my dad set up. So yeah, it is kind of a silly thing. I said, it's like a childish perspective. All this happened when I was a child. I'm sorry about that. Sorry. So your father was pretty old, I guess, then when you were, you were a kid. Sorry about that. And that's another thing too. Jesus, man. So, your father was an older dad and didn't have life insurance. That is like, I'm not trying to turn you against your late father or anything like that, but that is just so unbelievably irresponsible. Okay, be an older dad. Whatever, right? Biologically, it's possible. You're rolling the dice with your sperm quality, but whatever. Be an older dad, right? So, if you were a kid when your dad died of 57, then this guy decided to be an old dad. That's not an older dad. That's an old dad. And didn't even get life insurance. Had no savings. And your mother had no job skills.
[1:34:52] I can't even tell you. Like as a father myself, that is so unbelievably irresponsible. I can't even tell you. Destructive. That's a man child. I don't even know what that is. So bring a life into this world. have no savings, no life insurance, and your wife has no skills. So here's the thing, though, my friend, is that you came in saying, yes, but my father and my mother, she had no skills, and she couldn't even get Social Security, and I'm so scared. And it's like, but none of that, like, stop doing these narratives. Stop. What you want to do is you want to say to people, my father didn't have life insurance because he was stupid and selfish in this way, which he was I'm not saying in all ways but in this way my father didn't have life insurance died without a penny to his name he had young kids, my wife his wife had no skills no money please for the love of all that's holy get some life insurance as opposed to well this weird thing happened where my mom ended up with no money and I'm terrified like don't do that don't do that please, because that's spreading this weird kind of dissociated can't rely on men fear stuff when this was absolutely preventable for nothing, virtually.
[1:36:17] You can do a lot of things right, and you put in good faith effort and still get no dates. Okay, so you can follow EJ here, and you can be full of despair and hopelessness and see how that pans out for you. Yep. I mean, it's a fork in the road, right? The fact that most men aren't talking to women in public means that you have a bigger opportunity.
[1:36:45] Yeah no sorry i just i had all of these guys when i was younger and i would i hated going up to talk to girls i was scared i still remember going to ask the first girl i asked out my heart pounding i i still remember that i i felt like i was you know swallowing bitter apples uh whole like it was terrifying i remember doing that million mile walk across the dance floor and going up and down the darkened row of girls in a junior high school and looking for the girl who was good-looking enough that my friends wouldn't make fun of me for dating her but not so good-looking that she'd never go on a dance with me. So, I mean, it's a horrible rite of passage, and it's horrible. And I'd sometimes get shut down, and I remember asking some girl out, and you get the, well, you know, not individually, but maybe we could all go out as a group sometime. You know hey you know it happens it happens sometimes you get the yes sometimes you get the no and you just got to keep trying and be positive and enthusiastic and you don't let a woman who can't see your quality rob you of your own sense of quality because that's letting a blind woman tell you you can't see.
[1:37:58] So, no, I heard all the black pill shit from when I was, God, I remember in grade six. In grade six, Greenland Public School. Dom Mills, I remember. Grade six, we had, it was my first dance. It was my first dance. I was 11 years old. I asked a girl to dance with me, and we did the straight-armed Christian side-hug dance thing. Totally fine. I still remember who it was. And then afterwards, my friends and I, we gathered. I still remember exactly where, right across. From the school there was a little little clearing and we we we talked for like two hours about i tried this girl i didn't try this girl we exchanged ideas and notes people were like they made fun of how i danced uh because i didn't know what the hell i was doing just straight armed nonsense right and uh you know we we told the guys uh you i can't believe you didn't ask a girl and and you know we encouraged and we mocked a little bit and we just reinforced and like you just and then you go back and you shortly after that i asked out the most uh the most popular girl in school and uh you know you know the story you want to go swimming on friday she's like but who.
[1:39:08] Oh she wasn't quite that bad she was actually nice about it but i wasn't going out with her and you just what do you mean like and all my friends were like oh you can't get girls out with you oh they're just too selfish oh they only want the pretty boys oh they only want the jocks, black pill black pill back the bullshit the same shit from when i was 40 years ago 50 45 years ago people were saying the same shit oh it's really tough out there you don't know man you got this accent like bullshit do you know the number of girls that i talked to over the years who who were desperate for a guy to ask them out and he just never did fuck, it's insane.
[1:39:48] It's insane you can do a lot of things right and put in good faith effort and still get no dates yeah you know what I put in a lot of good health effort I still got cancer so what, yeah you can do the right things and you don't get the outcome you want so what you're going to do if I can do nothing that's what you're going to do good thing your ancestors didn't have the same, ballless approach to dating that you have you just you you work yourself up you get confident in your own value you talk to women and you see if they appreciate your value if they don't appreciate your value fantastic move on right i had a yoga teacher i used to hang around and chat with her after class way out of my league physically way out of my league physically i had a desk job back then so but you know you just you know you try and it doesn't work you move on until you find someone who appreciates your I don't know it's just weird, it's just weird.
[1:40:51] All right. Stefan, in 2025, they all have blue hair and the kind of nice ones complain about you if you visit a college campus or something and aren't a student there, you get kicked out. Yep. Yeah, absolutely. Okay. I'm not going to fight you. I'm not going to fight you at all. I'm not going to argue with you. Yep. It's hopeless. Yep. You're right. I'm not going to argue with you. For you, it's hopeless. Yep. And good luck. No more effort will be expended. Stef, you're underestimating how hostile almost all women are to almost all men. No, but you're the hostile one. This is how basic and non-self-aware you are. You're hostile, and you think that the women are hostile. Nope. You're friendly, and women are friendly. Do you think I have no contact with teenagers? My daughter's a teenager. Do you think I have no contact with teenagers? Do you think that? Do you think that at all? I have more contact with teenagers than you do. Oh, my God.
[1:42:01] So if there's a woman who's hostile, then move on. That's good. That's good. I'm not scared, says EJ. It just seems pointless to bother after such. Yeah, yeah, that's fine. Yeah, nope. I got it. You've let the doom scrolling and the black pilling win. All right, let's see here.
[1:42:31] Let's, uh... If you can't get a date, you yourself, you overrate. It's true. Thank you for the tips. I appreciate that, guys. He also never had health insurance. most of his money was tied into his business, too. Most of the money was tied into his business, too.
[1:43:02] After 60, you should probably have enough assets to live off for the rest of your life, assuming you had a decent job and put away a small amount into index funds of the course of one's life, right? Yeah. Yeah, you should also get a will done. Absolutely. I believe that. I've been keeping my sub. I own my cringe. I've been enjoying the show, Stef. Thanks, Mitch. I appreciate that. You are providing value. I just haven't gotten my stipend yet. But yeah, I appreciate you ripping apart my parents' silly narrative, which I adopted and just hadn't thought about very much. Well, the problem is you're spreading it too, right? You're spreading this fear. Oh my God, I can't be home with my children. I have to keep a job because what if my husband dies? Like, it's not good. It's not good to repeat your parents' bullshit.
[1:43:50] All right. Somebody says, it's okay, Stef. Well, same woman says, I think it's okay, Stef. My late father married my evil mother. And when I think about it, I realize how much he enabled through evil. I have found memories of him more than with my mom, but he was guilty of setting things up very poorly. Oh, so you're saying that an evil woman ended up broke? Isn't that a good thing? Isn't that a good thing? Shouldn't evil people end up in a bad situation? Isn't that kind of just in a way? It's silly narratives like this, which do inspire women to be career women, even if it's ridiculous. No, but you spreading them. It doesn't just happen. You're spreading. This is why I fought back so hard about this, because you're spreading this falsehood that harms people. Sorry, I'm just being honest, right? You're responsible for the things you put out in the world. And if you're playing, oh, my mother was such a poor victim and my father just died and it was so unfortunate and it's like, nope. Most men, No, I'm not reading you, EJ. Sorry.
[1:44:57] Stef, you have the dopamine and oxytocin from all your previous relationships with functional women. You're right, though. I don't talk to women. I'm kind of neurotic about how they're going to be Karens and call the police or simply going to turn on me if we're in a very public place. I think it might be a characterological trait. My mind naturally floats to danger scenarios. I will talk to any woman that smiles or is positive, but I don't see them in most places. Right. So I didn't overcome any problems, right? I didn't overcome poverty or being the victim of child abuse. I didn't overcome that to be, you know, a fairly decent boyfriend and a great husband. I didn't overcome, I just have dopamine and oxytocin for my piece of relationships with functional women. You think all of my previous relationships were with functional women?
[1:45:44] See, you're just making up shit. And it's fine. You can try in your own mind, you can try and strip me of any honor or pride I have in the work that I've done to get myself from where I started in life to where I am. You can take that away. You won't take it away from me because it's in me and I know that it's within me and I take great pride in that. But you can say, no, Stef, you just got programmed by dopamine and oxytocin because you had just had all these great relationships. You didn't earn anything. You just got programmed by biochemicals because of all of these great women you dated. It's like, well, if they were great, why did I get married in my 30s if they were also great? They weren't all functional, of course, right? So you're just stripping away any kind of pride you perceive me that i might justly have in working to overcome fears and working to do better and working to become more functional and and do that which is hard you know all that kind of stuff just saying well you but steve you didn't earn it you just had dopamine and oxytocin from all your previous relationships with functional women it's like okay so then it's not possible for you okay so you've just programmed yourself, to make something impossible. I think that's sad, but hey, it's up to you. It's up to you. All right.
[1:47:08] It seems like general social etiquette no longer exists. Parents used to train their kids how to interact. I think this is all quite gone. It's just more black pill stuff. There are lots. See, are you looking at social media and think that's some real fucking life? It's not. It's not. It's like going to the ER and saying, my God, everyone's dying. It's like going to the graveyard and saying, my God, nobody's healthy. These are very like there's a whole sane world out there of normal people i'm like i'm not telling you this theoretically i know i see i meet i interact i don't spend my whole time in the studio or at home i'm out there in the world i'm chatting with people i'm talking with people i'm doing things with people i'm meeting new people i you know i do a lot of sports and social activities and there's a whole world of normal people out there. I mean, the Trump vote didn't come from nowhere, people. Stop blackpilling. Stop consuming the same shitty material and think that you're learning anything about the world.
[1:48:19] No, you have, Honor. I'll shut up and try again. Thanks for the fighting. You're great at this. Do what is hard or decay. That's the only rule of life. Do what is hard or decay. Lift weights or get weak. Breathe or die. Get up or waste your day. Eat well or get sick. Do what is hard or decay. That's all there is. And doing what is hard will only delay the decay. It will not eliminate it, right? I mean, I've had a lot of failure in my life. I've had some successes in my life. What is your option? Curl up and roll over and go all armadillo, tortoiseshell. What's your point? What's the point? You're hungry, you go out hunting, you don't get any food. What do you do? You just curl up and die? Nope. You say, okay, well, I guess I'll have to go out and hunt while I'm even hungrier tomorrow. Do what is hard or decay. That's all that there is in life. Was it always easy to be doing my show? It was not. It was not.
[1:49:47] What's my choice? Let the bad guys win? Give in to despair? Give in to resentment? Give in to bitterness? Nope. Not interesting. I don't let the bad guys win. I mean, they can win out there in the world, but I'll never let them win in my mind. So, you want to have excuses for not doing what is hard because you're afraid to fail. And I sympathize with that, and I understand that. I really do. And I'm sorry about that. But there is no failure that equals not even trying. There is no failure worse than not even trying.
[1:50:37] You'll want to throw up. You go talk to a girl. You'll feel so nervous. You'll want to throw up. Your palms will be sweaty and it'll be horrible. And you go and do it. And then you'll curl up and you'll be sad and hurt and cringe. And then you'll make yourself go and do it again. And the next time it'll be 3% easier. And then by the 30th time, it'll be easy. I don't understand why that is not common knowledge. When I first picked up a tennis racket, I hated the game. I did not understand chess when I was learning it at the age of four or five. It took me a while. I understand it. It was kind of frustrating. I remember when I had to first start setting up this show as an XML feed. There was no documentation. It took hours and hours and hours. And I was going nuts. But what do you do? Do you just stop? No, you can't stop. You just keep going. What do you mean? You just stop.
[1:51:36] You're just providing yourself. And I understand. Listen, I sympathize. I'm not blaming you. It's a natural human condition. But you're just making excuses well I can't because society well I can't because women well I can't because of social media well I can't because feminism oh my god, you're doing exactly what the bad guys want you to do the bad guys only want to supply you with excuses so that you'll castrate yourself, and like please understand if you're a man and you're not talking to women then you might as well castrate yourself. Like genetically, it's the same thing, right?
[1:52:20] So the bad guys, they don't torture, imprison, enslave, and shoot you anymore. The bad guys, what they do is they hand you excuses. And you understand, there's a whole industry of hostile-to-reason people generating endless memes and themes of excuses. And there's a regular conveyor belt of excuses from the bad guys to try and get the good guys to die off. I'm not kidding about this in any way, shape, or form. So you are being psyoped, because all these people are like, well, I didn't fall for the COVID psyop, or the this psyop, or the that psyop. It's like, if you're blackpilling on dating, you're falling for the most important psyop. Do you think it's all just organic? All of these, you know, women are terrible, and all of it.
[1:53:15] Do you think it's organic? you think it just happens that you get shitty memes about shitty women do you think it's just spontaneous no this is not spontaneous, just go read up on fifth or even sixth generation warfare.
[1:53:33] They're trying to lure you into taking yourself out of the future. They're trying to get you to despawn from the cycle of reproduction. I mean, you know that your ancestors had kids during plagues, during famines, wars, and with highly credible preachers screaming at the top of their.
[1:54:07] Red bearded lungs that the end of the world was nigh and the comet was going to end everything. People, your ancestors had children during the fall of the Roman Empire. During the Black Death, during the Dark Ages. But you're like, ah, you know, women are kind of hive-minded it in that kind of program. Again, none of this stuff is organic, really. It's not just a psyop and so many men are observing the same reality. Yeah, it is just a psyop. I'm not saying every instance of it, of course, right? But you told me you don't socialize that much. So you're just getting it from online and you're just in a circle jerk. You're in an echo chamber, right? When you are a failure and you are justifying your failure, and I say failure, I've been a failure in my life. I'm not trying to say you're just a failure, but when you're failing in this area, what happens now is people who are succeeding don't want to be around you. The only people who want to be around you are people who will help justify your failures to you, and you can justify your failures to them, right? So success begets success and failures beget failures.
[1:55:28] This is my lived experience of approaching women not working. Right. Your lived experience, brother. You're hostile. Now, you can go some other place where people go, oh, you're right, women are terrible. I'm telling you, man, you're a hostile guy. You're a hostile guy. Do you not think that quality women can smell that coming off you, that you're hostile and tense and bitter? Work on your hostility and your tension and your bitterness.
[1:56:00] I mean, there was an old Mad Magazine cartoon from many years ago where the guy comes, he's got this, he's an older guy, he's got this lazy hippie son, right? He's like, man, you gotta go and get a job, right? And the guy, his son is like, okay, fine, man, I'll go look. And then he slouches up and leans up at the counter at a department store and he's like, you don't like... I mean, you don't need any help around here, do you, man? And then he comes back, he didn't get any jobs. He's like, but you can't say I didn't try, man. It's like, be positive, be friendly, be enthusiastic, be happy. Because if you're bitter, hostile, and negative, no quality woman is going to want to respond to you. He says, you're right, Stef. My sister has made the same observations that my bitterness shines through when I'm talking to women. Bitterness comes from entitlement.
[1:57:05] Bitterness comes from entitlement. Women don't owe you shit. They don't owe you a smile. They don't owe you friendliness. They don't owe you positivity any more than anyone owes you a paycheck or healthcare or a house or anything. Nobody owes you shit. You got to go out and earn it. Do you think that women should respond to you and you're angry that they don't? They don't owe you shit. Stop being a socialist of eggs. Go out and earn things, right? Nobody owes me eyeballs. Nobody owes me references. I mean, I think if you consume a lot, there's an implied obligation to owe me some support because you are consuming. But nobody owes me anything. I have to go out and earn it and the quality of what it is that I'm doing.
[1:57:57] If women aren't responding to you positively, you've got to change something. And if you think that women owe you some sort of positive feedback, and then you don't get it, and therefore you're angry, women are right to avoid you. Come on, man. Just do the basic fatherhood test. The basic fatherhood test is, if I have a daughter who met someone like me, would I be enthusiastic about her dating him?
[1:58:23] You have a daughter. She meets someone like you. Tells you about you as the father she meets someone like you as you are now your daughter meets someone like you as you are now would you be like go out with him again this is great, I bet not, this is the outside in test, this is the outside in test.
[1:58:56] Become the kind of man that you'd be enthusiastic, for a friend's daughter or someone who was younger to meet. It's just a mindset or your own daughter, right? My bitterness results from years of trying and being shut down. I used to be cheerful and enthusiastic and was ground down by rejection. Okay, so you've learned nothing. No, no, sorry, I'm out. I'm tapping out because you're just telling me that you have no control over your inner state and the world has just beat you down. Come on, man. The world's been rejecting me for 45 fucking years. I'm still doing my thing. So I have no patience for that. And you're just not going to have people around who have any kind of success, who want to be around that kind of stuff, because the idea that the world defines who you are internally is not just a lie. It's a pathetic excuse. All right. Thanks everyone so much for a great evening. Freedomain.com slash donate to help out the show. Lots of love from up here, my friends. I will talk to you Friday. Bye.
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