0:10 - Welcome to Wednesday Night Live
1:00 - Birthday Plans and Trivia Wins
3:09 - The Philosophy of Modern Dating
10:20 - Men's Responsibilities in Relationships
19:05 - Marriage: A Discussion on Children
27:45 - The Challenges of Aging Women
33:02 - Understanding What Good Men Want
43:16 - Tips for Asking Out a Barista
46:28 - Cheesy and Dirty Pickup Lines
54:40 - Navigating Modern Relationships
58:13 - Closing Thoughts and Farewells
In this lively episode, I share a personal and humorous glimpse into my life as I mark the lead-up to my daughter's 16th birthday. As she prepares to embark on her dream of becoming a Formula One racer, I reveal the little moments that have crafted our journey together, hinting at what birthday celebrations lie ahead. A spontaneous night out for trivia with friends resulted in some lighthearted revelry—peppermint shots included—adding a playful twist to the evening that finds me more on the loopy side than usual.
As the evening unfolds, I dive headfirst into the complexities of modern dating, tackling the misconceptions and behaviors that characterize today's romantic landscape. With a blend of anecdotal experiences and philosophical musings, I draw a vivid analogy between the initial excitement of starting a new job and the dating scene. This exploration reveals a tendency among women to enjoy the perks of dating—akin to those first few days of work when no real responsibilities are assigned—without fully committing to the long-term implications and obligations that come with relationships.
I discuss the challenges that arise when women desire the benefits typically associated with marriage and family life, yet hesitate to engage in the responsibilities that come alongside them. Drawing from a variety of perspectives, including a role-play inspired by a conversation I had with a caller about relationships and expectations, I dissect how modern relationships sometimes lack the foundational elements they need to flourish. There’s a specific focus on the financial dynamics at play, raising critical questions about what is expected of partners within relationships and the often-overlooked implications of those dynamics.
Throughout the episode, I further explore the societal pressures and perceptions surrounding the roles of men and women, especially concerning dating and family. I highlight the often unrecognized expectations placed on men to be the primary providers and challenge the notion that this is inherently beneficial for women who do not wish to engage in familial responsibilities. This leads into a probing dialogue about the underlying motivations driving individuals in relationships and how these motivations can lead to disconnection and discontent when they aren't aligned.
As the conversation progresses, I reflect on the shifting priorities of women in their 30s and 40s, particularly regarding their professional achievements and the search for meaningful relationships. I candidly assess the realities women face when they wish to settle down later in life, emphasizing the importance of understanding the innate desires of quality partners and the fears that can stem from unmet reproductive timelines.
In a lighter vein, I also engage with my audience through some spontaneous humor and commentary on dating tactics, including pickup lines that range from cheesy to hilariously inappropriate, underscoring the playful interaction that seeks to break the tension surrounding serious discussions on relationships.
The episode wraps up with a call to action for deeper reflection on personal values, collective societal expectations, and the always-compelling question: What does it truly mean to build a life with intention and meaning in modern times? I leave my listeners with food for thought as they navigate their own relationships, wishing them well and encouraging them to explore the many nuances of love, commitment, and family.
[0:00] Yes, good evening, everybody. Welcome to your Wednesday night live a little bit later on this year of our Lord, 18th of December 2024.
[0:11] Can you believe it? My daughter is going to be 16 tomorrow, which means she can finally achieve her dream of becoming a Formula One racer. It's going to be going to be quite exciting. Oh, sorry. A bit of food between my teeth. You get to see slightly loopy Stef tonight. I don't normally do this, but I was out with some friends tonight. We were playing trivia, and we won. And apparently, the prize for winning trivia is all of the peppermint shots in the known universe.
[0:45] So I only had two, but that's two more. I mean, I can't remember the last time I really had any alcohol. So you get to see me slightly loopy. Slightly, slightly loopy, Stef.
[1:00] Just showing that podcasting is just another one of the occupations that you can do drunk, it's always important uh it's always important oh she's born a day after you hey uh happy birthday happy birthday outlet for braining was it is he day is he what is it is he's idea if you do do for you to do the later show no we just we had some friends in town which i haven't seen for a while so that's why we went out and, won ourselves some trivia won ourselves some trivia I was going to ask what car are you going to get her, I'm not going to get her a car one of my daddy warbucks, I might have the head for it.
[1:42] No, that just seems pretty decadent, to be honest with you. That just seems pretty decadent. But we have a good day planned for tomorrow. It's going to be a lot of fun. It's going to be a lot of fun. All right. So if you have questions, comments, issues, challenges, problems, I will attempt to get my alcohol sudden brain to do some philosophy. A Hot Wheels car. Yeah, maybe one of those. One of those things that loops around the tracks or something like that. New glasses. No, yeah, kind of. I just, um, these are kind of reflective, right? So if I stare into the lights, it's like, I have a good idea known as a square light of inspiration. So then I have to keep looking down a little bit, but I don't normally use these glasses. They're a bit reflective, but they're just the ones I happen to grab. Merry Christmas. Thank you. Thank you for your tip. I really, really appreciate that. Imagine sitting across the bar and being terrified that Stef was on the opposing team. Yes, yes, yes. There were some pretty, some pretty challenging questions too. I will tell you that as well. You had to guess the name of songs from emojis. It's quite something. It's quite something. My wife is fantastic at that kind of stuff. She's got this visual intelligence that is incredible for me and very impressive. Very impressive. So yes, freedomain.com slash donate if you'd like to help out the show. It's more than humbly, deeply, and wonderfully and gratefully appreciated. it?
[3:09] So, hit me with the why if you would like me to explain modern dating to you. Hit me with the why if you would like me to explain modern dating to you. I can, I will. You may be skeptical because I'm not the springiest of young spring chickens on the noble planet, but I can tell you if you would like me to explain... Modern dating to you, this I will do. You may be skeptical, but I hope I've given you some cause that I do not make baseless claims. And in this case, I will explain it to you. Although ahead of time, you will say, come on, guy's 58. He hasn't been to the dating market since the Deluvian era. But I'm telling you, after I explain it to you, you will be like, damn, Um, he's still got it. He's still, he may not have it in five minutes from now when he passes out, but right now he's still got it. All right. I will explain dating for you from the female perspective as F. I will explain dating to you. All right.
[4:17] So, you know, when you get your first professional job, like a real job, you get your first job, what's it like? Well, you go in, you're dressed to the nines and you got your little briefcase and, and you're ready to roll and you're happy and excited to be there. And do you do any real work for the first couple of days? Nah, not really. You're getting some policy stuff. You're meeting with HR. You're being shown where your stuff is, getting your logins, being shown what you can use, what you can't use, get your email set up. Like it's just a bunch of prep. And you know, there's all these people are like, hey, new guy, new girl, let's do cake. Let's go out for brunch. You know, like it's a lot of fun. You don't do any work, really. It's a lot of fun. Feels like a party, but you still get paid. I'm sure you can see where I'm going with this. I don't know what that wink was. It's just basically a stroke. And it's sort of like when you go to school, like the first day or two of school, you're just figuring out where things are. You know, you're getting introduced to your teachers, going over a little bit of the curriculum, maybe getting some books from, and you're meeting old friends and so on. You don't get any homework. You're not really learning much, but you're kind of having a lot of fun. Your first couple of days at work first couple of days at school don't really have any work to do it's a lot of fun you get paid at work but you don't really have to produce anything.
[5:40] Hit me with an a if you agree with this general assessment i think we've all been there it's kind of a lot of fun i remember when i was first when i first went to the nationals i went couple of years. And when I first went there, I was like, they only take like 1% of people who apply. So I managed to sort of eek in there. And the first week we were just creating stuff and having fun and there weren't any classes. And I was like, is this, is this, is this theater school? But anyway, then the classes started and it got more sort of regular anyway. So, so you go to your job, you're getting paid. It's a lot of fun and nothing really is demanded of you for the first little while. So that's women dating.
[6:31] And they would rather, in the main, for the most part, in the modern world, they would rather just keep dating. Because it's fun. You get paid and you don't have any responsibilities. I was talking to a caller today who's going through a divorce. And it's with a Ukrainian woman who is 21 and super attractive, and you know she wants to get married and a lot of sympathy it's a war torn region but she wants to get married and you know she might like to do something in photography and maybe go back to school for a while maybe get a job in a coffee shop, and you know maybe in eight years or so she might want to have some kids, right so i did a role play pretending to be him of course he's pretending to be her and it was like okay so i make 80 to 90 thou a year and you're gonna make like, 30 to 40 k max you know maybe maybe less if you're in school you'll need financial assistance But let's just say, let's just say that you make a differential is 40K, right?
[7:59] So you make 40K, I make 80K, right? And I said, let's just forget about all the complicated before after tax stuff and just use the bare numbers. So for eight years, I'm contributing 40K more a year.
[8:18] For eight years, I'm contributing 40 more K a year. So after eight years, I've paid $320,000 more than you have for our shared lifestyle. How did he meet her? I'm dating Ab. So.
[8:49] So I said, okay, look, if you're having kids, you're running my household, you're raising the next generation, and you're being a great mom, I have zero problem dumping 320k into the family over eight years. An extra 40k, more, whatever, right?
[9:09] But if you're not running the household and you're not raising my kids, what am I paying for? What am I paying for? Why would I pay an extra $320,000 to have a woman be my wife when she's not running the household and she's not raising my kids. That is a sort of foundational question about modern dating. Because the whole point of a man paying extra is to show his generosity, to show that he's got additional resources to give to the woman to run the household, raise his kids. And that's why men pay for dates in the same way that your employer pays you for getting trained or just showing up and getting sorted out and you know all that the propeller heads swarming all over your equipment making sure it's locked down and you get access to everything and all that right.
[10:20] So, in the role play, she said, well, it's the man's job to provide for his wife. No, that is incorrect. That is where you are wrong. It's not a man's job to provide for his wife. It is a man's job to provide for his family, his children. Now, to provide for his children, he has to provide for his wife. It's a man's job to provide for his children. And if the woman is not producing children, it is not the man's job to provide for his children.
[11:01] Right? This makes sense, right? Now, whether you agree with it or not, whether you agree with it or not, this is the general perspective. So women will sometimes or maybe even often complain, that men make more than women do and okay let's when men have generally evolved you know more aggression more testosterone bigger stronger more efficient little bit more of an ability to concentrate for a long period of time so men have kind of you know evolved to be more productive or why have men evolved to be more productive so that their excess productivity can go to feed pregnant and breastfeeding wives, mothers, and their children, right? And the man's children, right? So why are men more economically productive? Because we have to be, because it's our excess productivity that goes to feeding our families. I'm sure this makes reasonably good sense to you. I'm sure, I'm sure, I'm sure. What the heck, where did my, uh, did I close something I shouldn't have? Did I? Did I? Did I? No, I didn't. Okay.
[12:28] So, hit me with a why if you follow the argument, which is not to say that you agree with every aspect of it. And because why is the woman getting an extra $320,000 over eight years? Why? Why is the woman getting an extra $320,000? Well, normally it's because, well, honey, you're giving up your economic productivity in order to run the household, raise the children, be pregnant, breastfeed. So I am providing you the excess resources so that you can.
[13:08] So the human race can continue, right? What's the point of all these excess resources if the human race, say, doesn't continue? Why do men provide these extra resources for women?
[13:24] Well, it's not for women, it's for children. But the prerequisite for having children is women being, in general, for a while economically disabled. Pregnant, breastfeeding, tired, sleeplessness, physical challenges and damages of child outbirth, and so on. I mean, if you've ever been around a pregnant breastfeeding woman, babies, toddlers, babies, infants, they're basically vampires. Like, just hang off the jugular and slurpy mommy. I mean, it's a beautiful thing as a whole, but they're kind of takers, these little pink cherub vampires. And women can't get much done. And that's just, you know, I only have one kid, but with multiple kids, of course, it's, even worse, right? I mean, we end up with these giant brains because we take so long to develop and someone's got to pay for that development. And in general, it's the men. So modern dating is women wanting the benefits of the first couple of days at work without ever having to do any work. So you can show up to some new job, you spend a couple of days getting oriented, maybe the first week you don't do that much, you start to sort of, so why do they pay you for that week? So you work later. So you do the actual work later.
[14:47] But imagine if you just keep jumping from job to job, new job, new job, new job, new job. Well, you get all the cake, you get to get paid, you get fun, no responsibilities.
[15:03] Then just jump to a new job. That's dating. This is modern dating. Modern dating is over and over a first week at work. No big, heavy responsibilities, no business travel, no weekend work, no late night work, no difficult employees. You're just kind of having fun and getting acclimatized. And then before any actual work shows up, off you go to the next job off you go to the next job that's modern dating, that's modern dating it's women wanting the benefits of dating which is a prerequisite for the work of having a family it's just wanting to go and keep getting new jobs, and never having to put in the work that the dating is a down payment for.
[16:09] So, that's why it's very hard to get women to settle down because there's always a new job they can jump to. Always a new job they can jump to. And so, if you say, no, you need to stay in this job, now the hard work begins. They're like, nope, I think I'll go to a new job, get some more cake, have some more fun, get some more lunches, have some more propeller heads swarming around my technology, and I'm going to vanish before the hard work shows up. Why would I want to be around for the hard work, man? That first week is a lot of fun. It sort of reminds me of the last day of school when I was a kid. The last day of school was a blast, man. I remember we would divvy the boys and girls back when we knew what these things were. So you divvy the boys and girls up, have them sit on either side of, and there would be trivia questions, the boys versus the girls, and everybody would find it hysterical and funny. And it was like a blast, man. I love that. Right? I loved that last couple of days.
[17:15] So if you say, like, I'm dating with the intention of getting married and having kids, then you're saying, um, I'll pay for the dates. It's just a down payment on our mutual endeavor to continue the human race. But no, this is a new job to get to, some more cakes, some more lunches, some more fun, some more little parties, and getting to meet new people, and, you know, and then just shh, right? Now, of course, the economy couldn't work if people just kept jumping from job to job every week and never actually did any work. The economy would collapse. Well, of course, the birth rate is collapsing because all of that is happening. dating is more fun in the short run than getting pregnant and having raising kids.
[18:01] So, what are women getting paid for? I just want a guy who, like, funds my lifestyle and spoils me. No, excess male resources are for children. Excess male resources are for children. And do not give women money if they're not interested in having children. That's all that can save the world. It's the only thing that can save the world. You don't give women money if they're not interested in having children. Because your money is for the children. Otherwise, you're pillaging the brilliance of your ancestors in the economic productivity of men for the sake of sex. That is sterile. Sterile sex. Sucks. Literally.
[19:05] So, what is a married woman supposed to do if she doesn't have children? I don't really understand the question. Marriage is for children, right? Marriage is for children. Like roads are for cars. Bikes can ride on them, but they're not for the bikes. Roads only exist because of the cars. And marriage only exists because of the children. Somebody said a lady admitted to me on a date on to both acknowledge we weren't a match that she went on five dates a week and boasted she saved our meals and free drinks and ballroom dancing at the local club we were both past the children's stage you know trading sex for money is kind of whorish enough i don't even know what to call trading sex for a fucking falafel is, that's so gross, so gross.
[20:04] Anytime I try a serious conversation the women move on right, Jimmy says the modern woman works in a public sector job being paid 130k plus a year has a child with the government paid maternity leave for at least a year, stuffs the child into child care paid mostly by the taxpayer while she goes back to a government job, then the child moves on to government schools. What's the point of men? Well, you know that the purpose of raising female wages is to lower the birth rate, right? It's not an accident, right? I mean, obviously it's to buy votes, but I think the foundation of purpose of raising female wages artificially, right? All the government jobs and all this sort of equal pay for work of equal value, all of these violations of freedom of association, which is the forced association of this to force people to pay women more than they would otherwise be able to earn in the free market.
[20:56] The purpose of raising female salaries is to lower the birth rate so that you chase money at the expense of children. When money only exists for children, money results from the, like, I don't want to talk in fiat currency, but wealth exists for the purpose of having children. That's why humanity has to produce a lot more than it consumes from a calorie standpoint, right? A man who's got a wife and a bunch of kids needs to produce like 10, 12, 14,000 calories a day because he's got his own 2,500 to 3,000 calories. The mom, 2,000, maybe 2,400 if she's breastfeeding. You got kids, teenagers, you know, this sort of famous meme of like, what's for dinner? says the teenager 20 minutes after consuming $50,000 at a Thanksgiving, 50,000 calories at a Thanksgiving lunch. So we men, we have to produce ridiculous amounts of excess calories and a shelter and so on, right? So why are we so economically productive? Why are we so good at creating and providing energy, strength, shelter, calories? Because there is, and remember, half of the children died before the age of five in general throughout history.
[22:22] So why do we have all of this excess productivity so that we can provide for children?
[22:29] That's it. Wealth exists for the sake of children. And people who have wealth without at least trying to have kids are just pillaging, just pillaging as a whole. Good luck fighting simping. Women act as a cartel. Men do not. No, I don't think that women do act as a cartel. Because women would benefit if men, if they didn't have to sleep with men. But it, right, these strike breakers, right, the scabs, so to speak, right? Throw only fans on top of it all. Stef, where do you think such women end up like? Do they end up like Rachel's reporter aunt in the book, The Present? Well, she would be a good example of that for sure.
[23:16] Yeah, there's a lot of that there is a sort of fairly significant tsunami of mental health issues coming down as women sail up and out and pass their fertility and attractiveness window.
[23:37] There is a big, big wave of estrogen madness coming down the pipeline. When women who have staked their entire sense of self on being desired by men, and, you know, it's wonderful to be desired by men for a woman. It's wonderful for a woman to be desired, for a man to be desired by women, for women to be the foundation. It's beautiful, but it's supposed to be there to, right, cement the family structure for the sake of the next generation. So when women and and you know you see these these tiktoks and i wouldn't want to overgeneralize you see these tiktoks the women are they're so smug like the hot women are so smug right and i understand that because men are throwing resources at them they get i mean talk about super stimuli it's madness right it's madness super stimuli is is when we don't have a shut-off point.
[24:33] For excess stimuli, right? Like, you know, if it sounds too loud, you cover your ears, like it gets painful, right? It's frustrating if you can't hear. It's painful if you do hear, you cover your ears. So we have a, right? You get too full, you stop eating or you throw up, right? So there's an excess that we stop. But there is, I can't remember the technical name for it, but there is stimuli that there's no cap to. So birds like to sit on larger eggs. But if you put an ostrich egg in, clearly this is bigger than the whole bird it will still sit on it because just larger eggs are better and there's no cap there's no top to it right it's not like oh there's no.
[25:12] There's no median right there's no aristotelian mean there's nothing in the middle of the bell curve so the birds the bird doesn't say well bigger eggs are good man but this this this this egg's way too big this egg's bigger than me it's just like bigger eggs are good and there's no ceiling to that right which is i guess what cuckoos prey upon right there's no there's no top to it it's like the elevator that keeps going up and up right and for women.
[25:40] Male sexual attention, there's no cap to it because we're not designed to have a cap because we're supposed to be in monogamous relationship and the cap is then brought in by society. It brought in externally. So men, maybe it's men with pornography. Like you see these guys, like they're caught with like, you know, 14 gigabytes. So where's the cap, right? And so for women though, there's no, I don't think there's much of a built-in cap. Like that's that's too much right that that's i said this about before with right guards too, and with women the big weakness is vanity with men the big weakness is status get a bugatti right and so for women it's like the vanity thing when do women say oh this is too much praise right like don't that's too much come on don't be silly right, so
[26:37] Women, can so quickly get addicted to male romantic attention, male sexual attention, and I'm sure it's a turn-on, and maybe a masturbatory aid as well, but there doesn't seem to be much of a cap to it. When do women say, or when have women said, this is too much praise from society, We're not that great, you know? Well, the free market is supposed to be the cap on this, right? The free market is supposed to be the cap on this. That if a woman keeps chasing after male attention, she doesn't settle down. She doesn't get access to male excess productivity. She may not be hired that much. And then she sails into old age without enough to retire on. So the cap on this is consequences in the free market, right?
[27:45] But there is going to be a lot of craziness coming down the pipe. Women will sail past, or I guess it's already happening, they're sailing past 40. And there is like a little silver thread that just breaks. They used to call this women of a certain age. Women of a certain age. And what that means is a woman who's too old to give you kids.
[28:15] And so what happens, of course, is women who aren't married, they'll date around a bit. They'll have maybe some relationships, a couple of years, five years, six years, here and there. But then they sail past 40 because they haven't had kids. They've devoted a lot of time and attention to their career. And so they have money. And materially, a lot of times, they're fairly okay. Fairly okay. And then when they want to settle down, as you say, if the woman's making 100, 120,000 a year, then she wants a guy who makes more and who's single and who's attractive. But a guy who makes six figures plus, who's single and attractive and 40, doesn't want a woman who is single and 40. Why? Because he wants kids. For the most part, he wants kids. Men want to leave a legacy. Because a man's excess productivity starts to feel pretty freaking hollow if he doesn't have any children to chauffeur. At some point, you just get tired of buying shit, don't you? Just get boring. Oh, I guess I could get a new iPhone. What really does that do for me? I get Twitter 5% faster, right? Like, at some point, there is this, what's the point of it all? There's a great scene from the movie Shadowlands.
[29:42] Where the Anthony or C.S. Lewis, the character, turns to another academic and says, don't you ever just wonder what the point of it is all? The guy's kind of guilty. It's like, well, yes, of course, of course. What's the point? Because he was single, right? The point of love is love, virtue, fertility. Love, virtue, fertility. Love, virtue, fertility. You guide your life by those things. You cannot go wrong. Love, virtue, fertility. Or to put it in its proper sequence, it is virtue, love, fertility, right? Be virtuous, allows you to fall in love, fall in love, gives you healthy and happy fertility, children, and a good family life. So as the women sail into their 40s, right? And you've seen these memes, like women on tears, and they look young and all of that, say, I have a good income, I have my own house, I'm a good cook, am I really so bad? It's like, but man, sexuality exists for the having and raising of children. It's the only reason we're sexually dimorphic. It's the only reason the penis and the vagina exist. It's the only reason we have lust. It's the only reason orgasms feel good. It is for the having and raising of children. That's it. That's what it's for. It's not for recreation. It's not for money.
[31:01] It's not for fun. They're not toys. Genitals are not toys. Fun to play with, but not toys.
[31:12] So the women are sailing in. They make good money, so they want a guy who makes more money because of hypergamy, right? They're well-educated, and so they want a guy who's at least as well educated, if not more educated, a successful woman, materially successful woman, educationally successful woman, who's 40, 42, 44, she wants a guy. More successful, or at least as successful. But this is part of the female vanity curse that is just destroying. And I don't blame women for this. Men get mad at women about this, but come on, man, if you were handed $10 million at the age of 18, you wouldn't handle it that well either. And women are handed that equivalency in terms of attractiveness when they're 18, and they don't handle it well either, right? You'd be the same. You'd be the same if you were an attractive woman, come on. Nothing magical about this. So.
[32:14] The curse that is hitting modern women is one thing, and one thing only. So, the curse is they do not ask what good men want. Now, I know what guys like, I know what boys want, gay boys like me. The Waitress is a pretty bad song, kind of hypnotic, a bit of a brain rot. But yeah, so men want sex. I mean, that's pretty obvious. Men lust after women. And again, that's a beautiful part of life, but it needs to be sort of focused in its proper area and element. But men want sex. That's biologically programmed. What do good men want?
[33:02] What do good men want? If women were to organize their lives around what good men want, they'd be happy.
[33:15] But when you see a woman who's, say, 40-plus, desperately to settle down, a quality man looks at her and says, are you stupid?
[33:31] Like, you know women's fertility window is much shorter than men's. You know that 35 is geriatric pregnancy. Are you stupid? Did you not know this? And did you not have any other women in your life who would tell you this? Are you surrounded by women who just don't tell you basic facts about how men age, right? So if a woman says to herself, what does a good man want? Well, he wants a woman who's not promiscuous. He wants a woman who's loyal, who's moral, who has integrity, who's hardworking, and so on. And who wants kids. And who wants kids. Because to withhold the gift of life that's been a chain for four billion years straight to you, to withhold it from the next people because you want a new fucking video card, is trash thinking almost beyond words, almost beyond redemption. Almost. What does a good man want? And if a woman says, okay, well, a good man, does he want my money? Does a good man want my money? Does he care if I make a lot of money? Does a man... And let me ask you this. Lots of guys here. Lots of guys here.
[34:49] Have you ever cared about a woman's income if you want to have a wife and kids? As a man, right? Have you ever cared about a woman's income if you want a wife and kids? I mean, to ask the question is to answer it. Of course you don't care about a woman's income if you want a wife and kids. Why not? Why not, you selfish bastards? Why don't you care about a woman's income if you want to have a wife and kids? Why would it not matter to you.
[35:35] Somebody says uh no they don't care the less she makes the better she won't settle down if she makes too much yeah that's part of it for sure for sure i care about her debt if any yeah for sure for sure yeah that makes sense but that's part of her income right if if she makes a hundred thousand dollars, but she's a couple of hundred thousand dollars in debt, then she's not making any money, right?
[36:01] It's a nice positive during the interim before she has kids, but no. Right. So the more money a woman makes, again, there's exceptions. This is a general trend. The more money a woman makes, the less happy she's going to be as a mother, because she's always going to sit there and say, because, you know, there's times when being a parent is kind of dull, right? No question, right? Babies, toddlers, I mean, they're a lot of fun, but, you know, it's a little repetitive. And so if she was some high-powered lawyer and then she's wiping the fifth diaper of the day, is she going to be content and happy? No. Because she's going to sit there and say, I used to do legal briefs and I used to argue in front of the senior courts and now I'm just wiping butts and singing Baby Shark all day. She's going to be discontented. And she's going to think of all the money she's not making. And it's going to be very tough for her to take time off because she's invested so much in becoming a high-powered XYZ accountant, doctor, executive, lawyer, whatever. She's put so much time and effort into that, that if she quits, she's going to feel ridiculous. Which is why, I mean, I'm telling you, man, this is going to be absolutely shocking for women who haven't really thought about this stuff, and I'm sure most of you guys have.
[37:22] It's actually I was a young, successful man, and tell me if you haven't experienced this, it's going to blow people's minds. When I was a young, successful man, I decided to make some decent coin in the software field. Did I care if the woman was just a barista at a coffee shop? Did I care if the woman was a cashier at a supermarket? If she seemed a young, positive, pleasant, and attractive? Did I care? Did I care? It's kind of almost incomprehensible for women. It's almost incomprehensible for women that we don't care. We don't care. If you see that woman, you get that particular click, right? You see that woman.
[38:16] And you get that thunderbolt, that lightning, that click, that chemistry, whatever you want to call it, you don't care. You don't care, again a little incomprehensible to women but when you're a young man successful young man you don't have to be successful but let's just say reasonably successful you make enough to maybe start a family right to a young man you look at that, really pretty young woman behind the counter and you say ooh if I take her away from all this It's kind of a dead-end job. I take her away from all of this. Kind of a dead-end job. I take her away from all of this. I set her up in a nice house. I fill her up with babies. Give her a purpose. She's going to be thrilled.
[39:06] She's going to be thrilled. Whereas, because what is a man saying to a woman? A man is saying to a woman, you're going to have to give all this up. You're going to have to give all this up because I want you to fill you up with babies. I'll fill you up with babies, run a household, raise some kids, maybe homeschool, right? Hopefully homeschool. You're going to have to give up all of this. Now, if there's a woman who's at a coffee shop, what's she giving up?
[39:31] 12 bucks an hour, right? What's she giving up? Not much. So you have more to offer her. If she's a high-powered lawyer, so you're going to give all this up. You're going to give this up. And of course, you think about the other women around her, right? And the other men and women around her. If she's just working as a barista, she's working in a coffee shop, she's doing whatever, they're going to be like, go! He wants to marry you. He wants to give you babies. You're going to get to live in a nice house. Go, enjoy. God bless. Fantastic, right? Whereas if she's some high-powered lawyer or accountant or doctor or something, they're going to be like, oh, come on, man. You could give all this up. You worked so hard to become a doctor. You worked so hard to become a lawyer. And all of the people, like the law partner firms are going to be like, oh, you can't quit. If you quit, then you're never going to work in this. You're never going to work again. If you quit for a substantial period of time to raise these kids, I know, maybe it's legal, maybe it's not, but I'm just telling you how it is for real, for real, you know, it's a one-way ticket to exit, Phil, right? So everyone's going to be down on her, and, you know, women, maybe a little bit more than men kind of group thinkers.
[40:51] So as a successful young man, are you going to feel like you are offering this woman the world and she's going to be thrilled to take it, or are you going to feel like you're going to ask her to make these massive compromises that everyone's going to dump on her for. Is that a stable basis to raise kids? Right?
[41:15] Probably not probably not somebody says i recommend high-value men search for, farmer girls sorry i thought that was former girls i found an angel but she's married i think yeah women who work with their hands women who work in practical ways can be a very big plus and positive, right? If you have assets and income and marry a waitress, you will get destroyed in a possible divorce. Not if you marry a virtuous waitress. This emotional drive is talked about in Crime and Punishment in one of the side plots. I remember reading that when I was 19 and how it at home so well. Oh, this is Sophia. Sophia, the prostitute. Even if she's not financially successful, men can't compete with the attention they get from hundreds of men on social media. I asked a potential girlfriend if she was prepared to not have single men follow her online, and she said no. But she also wanted me to marry her and take her to my country. She also wanted, she was also a single mom. Oh, come on, man. What are you doing? What, don't bring those trashy decisions here like they're not trashy? A single mom addicted to male attention.
[42:40] Wait, are you saying the woman with a terminal social, a terminal sexually transmitted disease isn't sleeping with you? Oh no, how terrible. I'm not saying this woman had, I'm just saying that that would be the analogy. You couldn't date the serial killer oh man oh how sad you must be very sad, entitled single mom addicted to male attention and she what were you pursuing a woman like that for my gosh man crazy are you mad are you mad.
[43:17] Crazy stuff uh you can of course remember to donate on the app both on rumble and, on locals you can do it on the app you can of course also donate and it is muchly deeply humbly and gratefully appreciated at freedomain.com slash donate yes that's right freedomain.com slash donate if you go to fdrurl.com slash locals you can also join up to a great community which i think is a good idea oh it's nice to be nice to see people taking some profits off bitcoin isn't it down to 143 canadian from like 155 156 i love it i love it i hope people take more and more profits get them out of those paper hands and into the hands of diamond assertiveness that's what we want that's what we want.
[44:11] Any tips on asking out a barista who is behind, uh, the counter? Well, the way that I would do it, um, go in a couple of times, go in a couple of times, chat with her, make a couple of jokes, have her appreciate your time and attention, right? I haven't told this, it was a joke. I did this when I was in my early teens. I went up to a woman working, a girl, a girl, obviously a girl working at McDonald's and said hi i'd like a sunday so big i can't see monday.
[44:49] Smooth hey man got her number so yeah go and make a laugh a couple of times and uh and say uh hey how about breakfast shall i call you or nudge you, so so I would just, put my number on a piece of paper slide it across and say don't know if you're single if you are love to get a coffee with you well maybe not a coffee because that's your job maybe an anti-coffee so, just yeah put the ball in her court yeah if she asks for your name for the coffee just give her your number and see what happens yeah that can be right I'm over 50, so a single mom is sort of unavoidable. Were you married before? Are you a widow? In which case, massive sympathies. But how are you over 50 and still single? I'll show you a sunset if you show me a dawn. That's nice.
[45:58] I used to know a couple of other pickup lines. but let's do that, shall we? Cheesy pickup lines. We got to have some, right? We got to have some. Got to, got to, got to get back. These are going to hurt. These are going to hurt. I get it.
[46:28] No, I don't want to continue. what are you doing all right what do we got.
[46:42] Oh, no. No, these are no good. Do you know what? You look beautiful in my arms. No, no, no, no. I can't do these. I'd give up my morning cereal to spoon you instead. It sounds like that's a guy in a joker mask in an alley. It's a good thing I have my library card, because I'm totally checking you out. If I could rearrange the alphabet I'd put you and I together this cop was pulling over this woman and he thought she was drunk and he's like okay I want you to start the alphabet, from M with M start the alphabet with M and he's like Malfabet, are you Siri because you autocomplete me? no no these aren't bad these are bad, All right. I can't do cheesy. That's the wrong. How about dirty pickup lines? Let's just go straight. Uh, let's just go straight. All right. What do we got? God, stop. Why pop-ups? What is this? 2012?
[48:05] All right. What do we got here?
[48:13] Um oh I think we okay I don't know if these are in in any kind of order, oh god, are you a pie because I'd like a piece of you that sounds like Maori cannibal pickup lines oh my god you're so sexy my zipper is falling for you oh my god.
[48:44] No. Nice pants. Can I talk you out of them? No. No, I can't. So some of them are very good. None of these are any good. So, sorry. We are not in the right place. Are those generated by AI? I have no idea. Finally, sequel to the Dad Jokes podcast. Yeah, there are some good ones. that are kind of cheesy and funny, but that is not one. All right. Curious on your thoughts. If you think Bitcoin mining is worth it nowadays, would simply buying at this point be best? I mean, it's just costs and benefits, right? It's costs and benefits. I mean, Bitcoin mining is still worth it for some people because it's still happening. I went up to a woman working in a bikini store, and I told her, I know it's a bikini store, but I couldn't not tell her she's beautiful. She showed me her wedding ring it's nice it was my first approach in a long time and I was just building up muscle alright.
[49:55] Alright, is that a mirror in your pocket because I can see myself getting into your pants nice, that dress is really becoming on you then again if I was on you I'd be coming too it's a bit labored how much does a polar bear weigh enough to break the ice nice, oh yeah if you're a Chad enough guy you can say that you went to jail for beating up your wife or girlfriend and they'll still be like eh well eh well.
[50:44] Oh god i find your lack of nudity disturbing that's your ringtone, oh my god that's horrendous, oh my god now these aren't dirty enough i mean if you're gonna go dirty just go completely filthy I don't know, this is all so tame and mild. I don't believe in any kind of half measures with these things. If you're going to go dirty, just go so filthy that the joke is illegal in most countries. That's my particular approach. None of this kind of maybe sort of half stuff. Nope. If you're going to go dirty, go to the kind of filthy that Jesus himself would have trouble getting a stain off your soul. And I don't think I can find those very easily. Or probably don't want them in my search history anyway. Yeah. yeah yeah yeah like i don't know if you've ever heard the phrase the uh cfm shoes cfm shoes, just check my battery life and it's at 69 percent, oh my god.
[52:07] Oh that's horrendous, Are you Jafar because you magically turned me on? No, that's no good. This is way too polite. Way too polite. All right, sir. Any other last questions, comments, issues, challenges? Love to hear from y'all. If there's anything else on your mind that I can help you with, got a couple of great call-in shows coming out. I did a really great smoking couple of call-in shows. and I've also been doing a series on Kropotkin, the anarchist thinker from the 19th century and that stuff's coming, that's come out for donors now. There's still one more, one more, James, just so you know. There's a series of three on those, analyzing, I'm really, really working hard to try to understand why.
[53:02] Why people believe socialists claptrap. I'm absolutely, I can't just say what is wrong because the question is Why is it perpetually wrong, and why is it still so perpetually compelling? So if that's available for donors now or for the supporters now i would really appreciate your support and you can get those at fdrurl.com.
[53:28] Slash locals sign up there you can also go to subscribestrl.com, slash free domain and you can get them there uh i won't do this right now but hit me with a y, if you would like me to go over the Shooter's Manifesto from Wisconsin, the 15-year-old, and actually newly minted, I think she was November, newly minted 15-year-old girl. Of course, it hit me pretty hard because my daughter is 15. I can do this maybe tomorrow. Hit me with a Y. Oh, no, I can't do it tomorrow. It's a birthday, but it'll be Friday or the weekend. Hit me with a Y if you'd like me to go over this manifesto. It's quite deep and powerful, although fairly atrociously written, but, um, okay. If you're interested, uh, I will go over that because there's a lot, actually it's quite a lot of fairly horrific depth in all of that and all of the usual suspects when it comes to a traumatized and problematic childhood. So, okay. All right. I appreciate that. I will, uh, I will go over that for sure. All right. Let me just go and check here see if there's anything that i am missing here.
[54:40] Yes okay i appreciate that i will listen and do that, uh Stefan old shows you would say things about how the audience probably isn't isn't interested in your personal life would that be an example of managing both sides of a relationship i'm sorry I don't quite understand that, but, uh, is that, is your hat free domain radio brand? Well, just free domain. Is that something people can purchase? I will, uh, look at, I'm not familiar with Rudolph Steiner. My boomer parents are about as much older than me as they could be. And their advice is out of touch accordingly. My friends with Gen X parents get much better advice about dating career. Any thoughts on this? I would you know as you age and of course i'm an older parent right so as you age it is really really important to try and stay up on current events uh among young people right i'm not talking about gen a 11 and under brain rot because that's just cringe but if uh if you have kids right it's really really important that you stay up on what's going on for younger people as best you can. It's part of the general responsibilities of being a parent.
[55:55] But you might want to tell your parents to spend some time, like your older boomer parents, to spend some time trying to get up on your life, right? Get up on your life so that they can continue to provide you some value, right? I mean i know with my daughter i have to adjust i mean i do have to adjust my advice my daughter with the recognition that she's a girl not a boy which means there's going to be some differences in terms of social comfort and so on right, god this is dirty pickup lines that might get you into trouble i'm not usually into hunting but i'd I'd love to catch you and mount you all over my house. Hey, girl, I'm a fully-fledged meteorologist, and something's telling me you're in for a few inches tonight. I don't know if few inches is where you want to go with that.
[57:00] Oh, my gosh. Why don't you let me be your personal sealant and fill your kraken? Oh, my God. Oh, my God. Uh what can you start printing out some missing person posters i'm gonna have you tied up for a long time oh my god are you an echo friendly kind of girl the condom in my pocket goes out of date tomorrow so why don't you help me use it oh my god you want to know the difference between a unicorn horn and an erection. I don't have a unicorn horn right now. Nice. Nice. Oh, my gosh. Oh, yeah, okay, some of these are fairly illegal. Oh, my gosh.
[58:14] My nutritionist told me you are what you eat and I want to be a beautiful woman, oh my gosh, can you do telekinesis because you've made a part of me move without even touching it also known as oh my gosh Thanks for listening.
[58:48] If we get to work now, we could have a 4th of July baby by next year. Well, that's nice. You know, there's space on my apartment floor that's perfect for your clothes. All of these sound vaguely serial killer, don't they? Or maybe it's just the way that I'm doing it. Oh, my gosh. My fridge is full of your favorite breakfast food for when you wake up underneath me. See, that sounds like you just had a heart attack and died on her. I didn't know if he was coming or going. Oh, my gosh. Oh, my God. Oh, my gosh. No, I can't do that one. That's definitely illegal. Oh, my gosh. I mean, Australian culture, I love going down under. Oh, my gosh. Oh, God. Okay, yeah, maybe. I don't get that one.
[1:00:07] All right. Don't use any of these. Does this rag smell like chloroform to you, well since it does and you're already limp i guess i can put you in my windowless van, yeah it you know the line between riz and serial killer appears is not quite as wide as i thought it was gonna be all right okay so before the end of the night um thank you for coming by later everyone if you're listening to this later freedomain.com slash donate to help out the show i really really would appreciate it hope it wasn't too goofy for you tonight but i thought some of those were kind of funny uh including the ones that i was afraid would become a ringtone and i'd get a visit from somebody in authority so have yourself a uh a wonderful night we'll talk to you sunday morning and um if you all want to send any birthday wishes to izzy uh you can post them on the free domain.locals.com or on subscribes.com and I'm sure she would love to hear them. Have yourself a beautiful, wonderful, lovely, tasty evening, my friends, and go forth and multiply. Bye.
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