0:02 - Introduction and Cafe Life
1:35 - Social Media's Impact
5:57 - The Driving Experience
9:10 - Video Games and Lore
12:28 - Learning and Education
21:34 - Fashion and Self-Expression
30:46 - Work Dynamics and Gender Differences
34:41 - Movie Plans and Wrap-Up
In this episode, I host an Ask Me Anything (AMA) session where I dive into my experiences and observations from my new job at a café, share thoughts on the impact of social media, and discuss personal challenges concerning attention spans in today’s technological age. I candidly talk about the work environment, including the unique dynamics created by language barriers with my co-workers. While I generally enjoy the café’s environment, I find the experience mixed due to a particularly nitpicky colleague who's keen on giving unsolicited advice, which often feels unnecessary.
As the discussion unfolds, I ponder the broader implications of social media, pinpointing how platforms like Instagram and TikTok create unrealistic expectations for behavior and appearance among young people. I resonate with the idea that these curated glimpses into others' lives can distort our self-image and daily routines, potentially skewing our perceptions of normal life. I highlight my own struggles with navigating attention spans in our digital world, and how I’ve noticed a decline in deep conversations among my peers, often replaced by short bursts of content consumption that leave little room for meaningful engagement.
We transition into the realm of video games, notably discussing my experiences with Baldur's Gate 3. I reflect on my gaming habits, revealing that I have completed the game multiple times, each time exploring different character options and stories. It becomes clear that gaming serves as both entertainment and a form of escapism for me, while I also express an appreciation for the lore and narrative depth that enrich the gameplay experience.
Throughout our conversation, I also touch on societal issues, including the way today's youth presents themselves, particularly in fashion choices that can appear controversial or misguided. I express my personal views on navigating friendships, relationships, and the importance of authenticity over superficial trends. I wrap things up by addressing the challenges of growing up in today's educational system, touching on the need for practical life skills to be prioritized over rote learning, and share a humorous anecdote about my early driving experiences.
The episode culminates with a lighthearted discussion about a cinematic outing planned for later, where I’ll revisit Gladiator 2, promising to share my initial reactions with the audience, ensuring a playful atmosphere as we conclude. Join me in this multifaceted exploration of modern youth experiences, workplace anecdotes, gaming adventures, and the value of direct communication and authenticity in a rapidly changing world.
[0:00] All right, you hold that. We're here. I hold it. Can I just put it there?
[0:03] No, hold it up a little. Okay. Now, you're going to be doing most of the talking. I may not have much to say. Jesus Christ. That was so loud. Dear God. It's like a machine gun. As you can tell, guys, Canadian winters are very fun to drive in. They are here. Our car is not working. No, I'm kidding. We're good. Okay, so we're doing an AMA for Izzy. Me. Ha ha. I'm not very good at intros, as you can tell. However, I will pretend to be good at intros And we're going to start Thanks for the input Beautiful, Okay, question number one How is work going at the new cafe? It's going well I like the cafe It's an interesting environment Because there's some language barriers Between me and my co-workers Because their English is not very good But it's a really nice environment Way less stressful than the other place I worked at.
[0:57] Which was everyone was like nitpicking everything i have one co-worker who's like that but everyone else is pretty chill and so that's sorry just so those of you who don't know and everyone's had this experience at one time or another yeah it's the co-worker who pretends she's a boss oh yeah not exactly a boss because my boss is still chill like if i say like an authority maybe yeah yeah but yeah she's uh she's she's really annoying but everyone else is okay the only problem is that I do have most of my shifts with her.
[1:26] The biggest problem with the workplace is when I say I have most of my shifts, I mean, I have two days a week when I was hired to be put on close to full-time.
[1:35] Yeah, they were aiming for full-time and it's just not that many hours, which is a shame. And sometimes like the manager will send out like updated hours throughout the week. So maybe I have like a 13 hour work week, which is good for this place, which is kind of ridiculous. But then she puts out an updated one where it's like, it gets reduced to like 11 hours or something i'm not a bad worker because they have basically two full-time people and then everyone else gets like 10 to 15 hours a week which is really bad because they did say they were putting me on for close to full-time and i got more hours when i'm training they gave me a bunch of hours because it was like come in these three days yeah for like long shifts you can see how the cafe operates for a day but once i'm out of training it's like not much but it's not a bad workplace just as long as I get less shifts with that one co-worker I'll be happy yes so she just every time you make even the tiniest mistake for the rest of the day she's like oh but don't make that mistake again no no it's not it's worse than that because like I know how to mop right everyone knows how to mop and then she'll come out and she's like what are you doing and I'm like I'm mopping the floor like you asked and she's like.
[2:41] Kitchen. And I'm like, because you told me to mop the floor. And she's like, well, I told you to clean the kitchen. I'm like, well, I can't do everything at once. And also there were a lot of food orders. So I did clean the kitchen earlier today, but it's gotten dirty since. And she's like, well, why don't you go clean the kitchen? And then five minutes later, she'll be like, why is it not mopped? So it's, it's that kind of person. Like you can't win no matter what you do. Yeah. Yeah. And yeah, go ahead. No, go ahead. No, you go. Well, I've obviously trained you in that from birth. Yeah, right. That was very sickly familiar. Yeah, yeah. Okay. Hi, Izzy. What is the number one problem that people have these days? One word answer. I'm going to co-join the word social media. Go on. Or I'm just going to say like tablets or iPhone or whatever.
[3:23] I mean, they said one word answer. I guess I got to move on. No, no, no. That's a one word introduction. One word introduction would be like social media or like digital stuff like that stuff. I think it's messing with a lot of people's Just like attention spans would be the biggest one. I think it sets a lot of unrealistic standards just for anything. Like whether it's like how you should look or how you should act. I see these videos and most of the ones I see are people actually making fun of them. You see, oh, my morning routine. And you get up at freaking like 5 a.m. And have like you do everything. Like you clean your entire house. You do this. And then they say all this stuff. Like now I drink a cup of boiling water with like half a lemon. And it's just like, I have an ice bath, do 400 crunches. Yeah. Yeah. It's one of those things. It's not even like the stuff with like how you look or how you act or what you do for work. It's just stuff like, like that as well, where it's like having, I want to say quote unquote unrealistic standards for how to live day-to-day life. I know some people just watch them for entertaining, but I feel like for a lot of people, it really seeps in.
[4:29] I think there's a lot of them, sorry to interrupt, there's some of them that are like, your job sucks. Because my job is like, well, I come in on the bus. Those as well, yeah. And then, you know, they have frothy lattes. And then I do a little bit of work. And then we do cool stuff on the roof among the potted plants. And it's like, nobody has a job that's that good. I want to make six figures. And it's like, nobody's job is that good. Yeah, so it's a lot of stuff where I think it just sets, I want to say, unrealistic standards. And I know that is kind of an overused term nowadays, but I think it's kind of real for social media. And again, the biggest one would be ruining attention spans, especially among younger people. So how's that playing out for you and your set? I don't mind. Like, I think my attention spans are okay.
[5:14] They could be better and they were a bit better before I discovered YouTube shorts, but or really Instagram reels or anything like that. That's just like those short, like minute long clips. Minute? They're bad. Minute? Minute is like an extended movies for those guys. Honestly, but I know I see it in a lot of my friends, just like, it doesn't even really matter what, like whether you're telling a story or you're in class, they're just like fidgeting and bored and you should be able to sit through a 30 minute thing without like. Or hear a normal human told story. Yeah. Or hear a normal story without trying to interrupt and make joke constantly and stuff like that. Obviously they're teenagers. I'm a teenager, so it is what it is, but you should have a little bit more attention span just for anything.
[5:57] Well and i think we combat that a little bit with longer stories we combat that a little bit with longer conversations we combat that a little bit with longer dungeons and dragons even watching okay like people say like oh it's bad to binge watch movies or shows i think watching like 40 minutes or sorry watching like two or three episodes of some series on netflix or whatever is way better than watching an hour worth of shorts or half an hour worth of shorts because at least it's a long continual story you can think about the plot i don't think you should be doing that every day but still like it's so much better to watch a long movie or a few episodes of a show.
[6:34] Short videos on real Instagram or Twitter or whatever it is. Are you excited to learn how to drive? Wait, wait, one other thing. It's the sort of absence of socializing without computers. Oh, yeah. I would like to see my friends go for a day without their phones. It would not, it could not. Or just get together to chat or like, but without like, here's a funny meme. Here's a funny short. Here's a, you know. No, it's ridiculous. We'll go to some theme park like Canada's Wonderland and we're in the lineup. It's like a 10-minute lineup because no one goes to Canada's Wonderland. I mean, they do, but it's like we find the right times to go, right? It's a 10-minute lineup. They all pull out their phones.
[7:12] Guys, use your words and talk. And obviously, I mean, they can and definitely some of them do. So, like, if it's six of us going, there's usually two or three that will go without their phones all the time. So, we'll talk and then the other three will be showing each other videos and stuff like that, right? It's like, guys, it's 10 minutes. It's like, well, when I was a, I guess about a little younger than you, I was still in England and we all used to watch Dr. Who. It gave me serious PTSD, like the upside down garbage cans known as the exterminate Daleks. But there was one kid who had real hippie parents. They had no TV. Yeah. And he could not participate in like half the conversations because the brain rot was real even back there. Well, genuinely, like when I, before, I think when I, what am I trying to say? Last year, I didn't really do much, anything on social media, and I still don't do much, but if I watched, I don't know, YouTube, I'd watch some game lore video or something that doesn't have anything to do with current events. The only current events would be the game came out a month ago or something like that, right?
[8:15] My friends would say stuff like memes or trends, and I'd just be like, what are you on about? Because I had like no idea. Or they'd make a joke, and I'd just be staring at them like, what? So it's definitely, I think you should do a little bit of social media to keep up with the trends, but just not. The extent that a lot of people do it nowadays are a problem. Sorry, hang on. This has caused me a fair amount of personal pain, and I'm just going to unpack this for the audience. So ever since Baldur's Gate 3, we've been looking for a game to play. Wait a second. Can we got a game up there on Baldur's Gate? We'll get there. We'll get there. So we've been looking for a game to play. Now, one of the things that's been personally the most painful to me, and I'm not just talking about like recently, but like in my entire life ever.
[8:56] Is you're very much into video game lore, right? And so I'll find a game and I'll say, this looks interesting. And what do you say? You say, oh, the lore for this is incredible, right? Yeah, but the game sucks. But my hope will go up.
[9:10] Because if you like the lore, I'm like, oh well we should play then and you say there's a reason i watch the lore and don't play the games i do not have the time to invest in like a 20-hour game follow all the story and get it done soon enough that i don't forget what happened a month ago when i started playing okay i watched the lore video and then maybe i'll watch some gameplay and if the gameplay looks like some just the same old same old shooter it doesn't matter what same old shooter you have and you don't have to spend 30 on a new game to get the exact same gameplay style as the game we already have i love all the backstories in lord of the rings would you like to read lord of the rings no because i've already read it i'm not going to re-watch the same war video twice all right i'm i'm i'm trying to listen to what you say with calm and rationality but okay i'm failing i'm trying though let's move on are you excited to learn how to drive and get your license i'm excited to drive i'm not excited for like the freaking like year-long process to get my license It's...
[10:08] It's like, take this test, which I think I can do fine. I'm like, I know the basics and I'll study a bit and stuff like, right. Right. But take the test, pass the test. Then you have to drive for a year with another supervised or supervising driver. No, no. The technical term is nagger. Yeah. A nagger in the car. Don't forget your turn signal. And it's pointless because like. Check your blind spot. I'm never driving with mom or you. Fair. Gonna get like someone else. You'll hire someone. Yeah. I'll hire someone. But then it's like, and then do that for a year or eight months or whatever it is. I don't even know. And then like, take this. Oh, also you have to do that. Then if you want to get it in under like 16 months, you have to go with like a driving instructor. Look, I get it. You know, driving in Canada is complicated because the roads get icy and it gets way harder when it's icy. But like, I don't like that. It has to be like a year and a half to two years sometimes when some people are just going to be better at it. I'm not sure whether I'm one of those people or not. Maybe I'm just not going to be good at driving and I'm going to really need all that training. I have a feeling that's not going to be the case. But we'll see. All I'm saying is that some people are going to be better at it. Some people are going to be worse at it. And it should be custom to each person. So I have a tiny little story about driver's licenses. Yeah. So many years ago, when I lived in downtown, when I worked downtown, of course, at Caribou, and I was in a rush. I was going to therapy.
[11:31] And I was late. And I turned too quickly, and I crunched the door of my car. And I was really upset because, you know, there's my first car and all of that. Yeah. And it was like, I never got it fixed because it was like 2,500 bucks to get fixed. And it was like no harm to the car in terms of like drivability. But anyway, I called up my insurance company and I said, can you get this fixed? And they said, well, yeah, but your premiums are going to go up. And then they said, wow, your premiums are really high. I wonder why that is. So it turns out I had not completed the final written test because some new graduated license thing had come into place. I'd never completed the final test of the new graduated license thing, so I couldn't get better insurance rates. So me crunching my door saved me probably about $15,000 because I wouldn't have called my insurance company and found that out otherwise, which is why it's really hard to know whether things in life are good or bad. It's like I crunched my door. Oh, that's terrible. But it saves me $15,000 over the next couple of years.
[12:29] And so, yeah, it's hard to know sometimes whether things are good or bad in the moment. But anyway, that's just by the license story. Yeah. Next one. Can we get an update on your progress in Baldur's Gate? Yeah, I've played through it like five times. No, I thought it was four. Five, because I did one with you. Well, we didn't finish that one together. Yeah, we did. I came back for chunks of it. Well, you came back to help me with the end. Well, the end and also the story. You're like, what? What?
[12:57] No, it was tough for you to play with me directly because you were so astounded by my skill that... Okay, guys, I completed the game on the moderate difficulty, like the middle, without... I did not use a single consumable aside from health potions. I went through... No scrolls, no other potions. No scrolls, no other potions. I think maybe once on the final boss fight, I used one of the bombs. I forget exactly what they're called, but not like a magic item, like one of the bombs you find places and health potions. That's all I used. Now, I didn't actually tell you this, but I did it, hang on, I did it on super hard, blindfolded, using only my tongue on a touchscreen to move the characters around. So that's got to count for something. That's literally pointless. Well, no, because I wasn't pointing. I was using my... Sorry, that's okay.
[13:42] But I played through it multiple times. I just wanted to get more familiar with the rules of D&D. And also I thought, look, we got it on sale, but I still spent like 60 bucks on that game. I'm getting my... Money's worth. That's what I'm trying to say. So it was over the course of a year. I didn't do it all in like a month, but it's been over a year now that I had it and I've played through it a few times. Now give me some of the variety of the ways, forget the one with me because we've been doing that together. Now with the other four, that's why I was thinking of four. So in the other four, did you still play sort of medium difficulty? Yes. And what were the different approaches that you took in the game? I didn't really take different approaches. I just, I thought, well, Well, I haven't picked this option before, so I'll try that for dialogue-wise. So, similar characters, but you just chose different choices, right? Look, I started out with a lot of different characters. I was barbarian. The first time I played through, like, solo, I was a ranger. So then I went for the next three, I think, or, yeah, three. It was barbarian, sorcerer, and I think I was going to do rogue, but it's basically really similar to ranger. I can't remember what the other one was. Oh, it was druid. It was druid. However, my big problem was that every time I'd get about halfway through and be like, this sucks, and I'd go back to Ranger. Hang on, but why did the other characters class it sucks? Okay, because barbarians are boring. It's just hit, hit, hit. The sorcerers, well, I already have so many men.
[15:09] That it did not make sense to double up on a magic user. Most of the... Like, Gale's a wizard. Shadowheart's an NPC. Or, sorry, an NPC. Sorry. Gale's a wizard. Shadowheart's a cleric. Karla... Karlaq? No, Karlaq's a barbarian. Sorry. Why do I not even remember his name? The buff guy with the strength lower than Shadowheart. Hal, Hal, something. He's a druid. Basically a wizard. There's that other... Jahira is a wizard. Or, sorry, a druid. And, like, everyone in the party is a druid. will's a warlock which is basically like a fighter druid sorcerer thing so every time i did something that wasn't a ranger or barbarian i was already doubling off on magic users barbarians as previously mentioned are boring and i have to have a starian in the party so i can't really be a so i had to go with ranger favorite favorite npcs ranked top four top four why is this tough Well, the first one is not tough. I would say Asterion, yeah, number one. The personality just outshines. Tell me what you love most about Asterion. The absolute morally gray aspect of everything he does. He's not quite evil. He's definitely not good. Chaotic neutral? Maybe a tiny bit evil. Chaotic neutral, I'd say. Right. Yeah, honestly, just really funny character. I did get the sense that he might be a big gay.
[16:29] My gay guys are fairly strong. Oh, yeah, fair. Hard to argue. But, like, posh British, not, like, bottle water. Yeah, posh British with good teeth. Yeah, debatable. But, yeah, I found Asterion really funny.
[16:43] I would say, this is, like, everyone agrees on this, but, like, Karlaq would probably be number two. And what? Because she's got more personality, and she's not super standoffish. You just have to do, basically, good actions. But her quest is lame, bro. I did not like her quest. and having her meant you had to have Will in the party as well kind of because you didn't have to but he would show up because their quests are like entwined and I did not really like Will I thought he was a very boring character, I thought the quest stakes were too high save the multiverse it's like can we just save a town or like no it's got to be the giant in Baldur's Gate I mean like the character quests yeah sorry.
[17:22] And I like the Mind Flayer. What? Yeah. Oh, the guy who shows up near the end. He's with you the whole game. I know it's not exactly a party member, although you can get him on your team at the end. He's a dream guy, right? The Emperor, yeah. I thought he was a very interesting character and I wish they went more in the backstory. Maybe they did. Maybe I missed it somehow because there's a lot of choices you can start taking when you get into the actual city of Baldur's Gate. Yeah. But yeah, I thought that was a very interesting quest. All right. So I think that was four? That was three. Oh, three, sorry. Those are the top three. Top three, okay. Very good, very good. yeah i can't play barbarian i mean because i keep looking at the screen and thinking the webcams on and just pointed at me oh got my protein playing his carlack oh gosh no the the mind flayer yeah right all right so that's good was so nice is there anything else you wanted to mention of all this no great game one of the greatest games i've ever played it was really good yeah question question one out of 2.5 do you hide how cool you are around trashy people or do not come by them often you know here's the thing trashy people think i am really uncool because i don't do like drugs and drink at the ripe old age of 15 so yeah trashy people don't don't like me and they don't think i'm cool so i don't really have to hide anything we've certainly met a few relative contemporaries without the most ideal healthy lifestyles yeah question two out of 2.5 if you could press a button and make everyone around you as talkative as you were would you press it? No. No, I wouldn't. I think people need to be their own levels of talkative.
[18:51] Where is this? Question 2.5. Even if people were awkwardly chatty, didn't make much sense? Oh, you mean even if so, you pushed it up, you made them more chatty, but they were just awkwardly chatty? No. Oh, crap.
[19:03] No, I wouldn't press it either way. Awkwardly chatty being British is, I mean, I would choose probably an amputation of a limb than a life full of awkward chat. What do you think of the clothes? Young girls slash women, 10 to 16 age range are wearing examples like crop tops and miniskirts. I personally find it kind of creepy slash not so savory.
[19:23] What percent, like when you did your month in school, what percentage of the girls? All of them, all of them. With the exception of some of the weird kids, everyone wore booty shorts crop tops like corset tops skin tie leggings and everyone it didn't matter if you had the figure for it or not everyone wore it i would say i'm not really a huge fan i used to be really against it but right now honestly i couldn't care less if you want to be that type of person i'd rather you display it through your clothing than me wasting the chance to get to know you so i think it's like a marker of people you might not want to get to know right yeah yeah the one thing I like about the modern world, it's like the blue-haired women with their nose rings, and it's like, you know, they're just being right up front. This is a dangerous frog because it's brightly colored, and they're saving everyone a lot of time if they want to. Like, if you want to take that hint, you can take it very easily and not waste time. Like, before, when crazy people were more cloaked in normality, you'd waste, as you point out, a lot of time trying to get to know people and finding out they're crazy later. Yeah, true. So that's what I mean. Like, if you're so much about people by the way they dress. And I will see people and I'll be like, well, I could be friends with you and I couldn't be friends with you based off of how they dress. And honestly, I think that's helped to be pretty accurate with what I've judged and what I've actually noticed by maybe people becoming friends with them. How do the theater kids dress as a whole?
[20:47] Like crap. They're like, they'll, they have their own style, but it just looks like crap. Like they put effort into their outfits, but it's like put effort into making them look good, not making them look quirky. Theater kids really annoy me, I'm gonna be honest. And I say this, I am in a play.
[21:04] Not just a play. A musical, which is even worse. But no, I want to be like, I enjoy acting. I enjoy singing and stuff like that. So which is why I'm in it. But like theater kids, they're so annoying. Like they think they're all that. And it's like, okay, you know what? You can act and you can sing, but you're weird. And no one except for theater kids wants to be your friend. So you're not all that. Okay. If you, sorry. If you were to design an education course, doesn't have to be school related. What topics would you cover and how would you structure it?
[21:34] Hunting yeah that would that would hunting would be i would i would do that i hunting would be very cool i think you need to have very practical education i would do manufacturing like how to have a class in school yeah like how to build stuff how to do stuff like clearly i'm very.
[21:53] I'm clearly an expert on the topic how to build stuff that would be like a big one Okay, sorry. I know this is big content related, but what kind of stuff? Any stuff. Just how to build stuff. Doesn't all matter. I would definitely do like a hunting class. I would do like a gun safety and weapon safety class and how to do like self-defense. I feel like I would have, I would do sports. I've taken a few PE classes throughout my high school days or years. They're all bad. They don't teach you how to play the games. They just like throw you into it and expect you to know. Make your motivational poster. No, not that. I'm talking about the PE class or the fitness class. Oh, sorry. But they just throw you into the games and I ask like, hey, I don't really know how to play this. And they're like, they'll teach you. No one does. I'll ask like five kids and they'll be like, yeah, so basically just like run up and kick it. I'm like, well, then what do you do after that? And they'll be like, we'll run to first base. And I'm like, okay, but what determines whether I run to first base? And they're like, well, if the guy catches it, I'm like, what guy? So it's annoying. It is an IQ, an empathy test to ask someone to explain something to you. Oh, it's ridiculous. Like.
[23:00] So I would definitely take a sports class and like, here's some basic games. Here's how to play them. Let's play them. That kind of thing. And I would say those would be like the major ones. If you're talking younger kids, definitely like up until high school, I would teach like English, math, history, whatever, science, like all that stuff. Geography? Maybe. Yeah, I do some geography. But honestly, I've not learned anything useful in high school. I think there have been some decent writing assignments that I enjoy. But if you don't enjoy writing, then there's no point to it. And if you enjoy writing, you probably teach yourself. Yeah, well, the only things that get taught in high school from what I've seen are like case specific. Like I'm learning, I'm in algebra three or something. I don't even know. I don't remember the term of it, but I'm in grade 11 math and like, great. You know what? It's boring. It's unenjoyable because I don't like math and I'm not going to take a career where I need to be doing math for a good chunk of it. And even nowadays, if I have to math question, Guess what's going to be around in 10 years to answer it? AI.
[24:03] Photos and everything sorted. With Google, you can already take pictures of your work and it just solves it. Right. I don't, I mean, I wouldn't know that for any reason in particular, but... I've heard of it. Yeah, I've heard of it. Yeah, I've heard of it. So, basically, high school is like the higher education that is case-specific for what you want to end up doing when you're older. Right. It's not general knowledge. I think you should only get general knowledge and then any, like whatever you want to do with your life, you'll learn it for the fun of it or not the fun of it, but for the usefulness of it. Like if I end up opening a restaurant, I don't need to know how to dissect a frog.
[24:39] Well, sorry. And I know these are your answers. I'll be real brief about it. Yeah, go for it. So when I was in my mid-teens, I was with, I was friends with a group of very smart and talented guys. Every single one of us knew exactly what we wanted to do after high school. And yet you're not allowed to specialize. I knew I wasn't going to do anything with math. I knew I was going to do stuff with creativity, English, writing, computers, philosophy. And that's all I ended up doing with it. I knew exactly what I wanted to do. Every single one of my friends was like, well, my wife, I want to be an English professor. What did he become? And I want to be an economics guy. He became an economics guy. Like every single person knew exactly what they wanted to do and they weren't allowed to specialize. I think from, genuinely, I think from grade four onwards, I knew 100% I am never going to have anything to do with math in my life. The only thing I can think of that I may have to do with math would be like graphs and like statistics for the cafe. But even then, that's the kind of math that you do not need four years of algebra to do. No, you do not. I can understand statistics at the age of eight. Okay, like it's not, that's what I mean. It's just, it's entire education for whatever you want to do, case specific to your work.
[25:50] What else? What's the other question? Okay. How would you feel when introducing for the first time your boyfriend to your dad? What would be your dad's reaction? I mean, it's already kind of happened. Yeah. I'm not. It was very. We won't get into details, but I thought it was fine. It was fine. Yeah. It not. I mean, it was not serious. The relationship is no longer active. No. And so what just, we won't get into details, but we had a fairly lengthy drive. Yeah with me and the guy and you and it wasn't i don't think we weren't in a relationship at that point but it looked like it was going that way yeah but i mean it was more than just platonic right yeah yeah yeah you don't go on a date with platonic yeah yeah i mean i thought it was fine i enjoyed chatting with him and obviously uh he was a pretty nice guy when we were chatting obviously a very smart guy lots of potential so that that's kind of in the rear view and i hope you thought I was fine with him. Yeah, you guys, you and Ma are definitely good. Yeah, so it's happened and I'm obviously, anybody who likes Izzy has a big plus next to their name in my mind, right? So it was a nice chat. Yeah, he was definitely a nice guy. Just not for me. Yeah.
[27:03] And I see no more questions that we have not answered. Oh, there's more questions. What, the literally not that serious? That's the only one we can do. Name a few things that you think are literally not that serious. Answering this question no I'm kidding I'm kidding that's a funny question very meta I'm sorry I'm sorry that was funny but that's a good question there's so many things and usually I just say it's literally not that serious like.
[27:29] Mom asked me five times to put on boots and i say mom we're walking for three minutes on a sidewalk i don't need boots i will instead of saying that like i may have used to say mom it's literally not that serious so just by the by so today we went to have a visit morning tea with our neighbors yeah we went to have a morning tea with our neighbors so they've been friends of us for like i don't know 13 years 14 years really really nice couple yeah and i shouldn't because you know mom takes great care of us and i really really do appreciate all of that okay but like but fact is it's two minute walk not even and mom comes out with the kind of of of coat that you would put around somebody who's going to go up everest yeah i was gonna say exactly the same thing like i can't fit through the door and i'm like that kid from the christmas story yeah yeah she's like telling me like put on boots it's like it's not there's like not even an inch of snow i don't need boots I'm already wearing socks and track pants. Going to the neighbor's house. That's when I said, mom, it's not that serious. Go come outside. It's not that serious. She wanted to drive over. They're literally next door neighbors. They're not like neighbors as in on the same street. They are next to us. She's like, let's drive. No, let's not drive. It's not that serious. We're going to be cold for like a minute. Right. It's not that serious. That's, that's something that's not that serious. Do you think people at work, do you think.
[28:54] That one co-worker. Yes. Miss, ma'am, I know how to work. I'm sorry. I know how to mop. It's not that serious. You do not have to explain to me in great depth how to mop. I can't even understand what you're saying because your accent is so thick because you've not bothered to take proper English lessons. So it's not that serious. I know how to mop. I'm 15. I'm almost 16. I've mopped quite a lot in my life. I know how to mop. It's not that serious. or like when she's like here is exactly how you pour the milk to get this perfect shape it's like it's not that serious i can do a heart and the boss said that's latte art enough right it's not that serious she messes it up just as much as i do so it's like okay anyways we have a bicyclist i know those trapping us on the road are you bicycling it's cold out that is that serious we found a counter example yeah or like those people who put up like 400 christmas decorations like guys it's not that serious well when you were in school were there things that.
[29:53] Other kids thought were very serious or important no no one cared no no i mean i don't know someone gets a pimple and you're like oh my god like oh no no one cared no one cared they're like literally my generation everything is not that serious if you're if you're stressing about something if you're overthinking something and you vent to someone they'll say girl it's not that serious it's not that deep you're fine it's not that deep he is just a guy it doesn't matter it's not that deep it's just it's just a boy boy problem but then of course they get to like nothing is that deep and it gets a little bit too nihilistic yeah or it's not nihilistic but a little too carefree and then you end up making stupid decisions because you're like well it's not that serious i can just try this drink right it's not that serious it's like yeah it's a handful of pills at a party but it's literally not that serious they're just some pills like that's what Yeah, so it can get too far, right? It gets too far sometimes.
[30:46] Like messing up a food order or something at work, yes, it is that serious. That's like $10 worth of food wasted, right? But when it's like, do you get the heart in the center of the cup or a little to the left? It's not that serious. So the coffee's a coffee. Okay, but we are technically talking about coffee. Okay, it has 20 grams of condensed milk. It has one pump of white chocolate, a shot of espresso and steamed milk. It's going to come out the exact same every single time whether the heart is in the center or to the left it does not matter you ever have this with that maybe with that worker with someone else what used to drive me nuts sometimes is people would say do you know how to do this and you'd say i'd say yes yeah and then they'd show you how to do it and it's like do you know they do that i just said yes or they'll say do you know do you know how to make this yes i know how to make this i've made it five times i'm like how and i'm like oh okay so i i explain it and like no you have to put it in this order on the bread and I'm like no like you asked me how and I listed the ingredients that go in the sandwich obviously I'm not gonna put the mayonnaise on top of the lettuce I'm gonna put it on the bread.
[31:56] And then she wastes both our time. She has a bunch of drinks she's supposed to be making, but she's going to show me how to make the sandwich too. I know how to make the sandwich. Which isn't even needed to be made in the moment. No, like the sandwich, I have to wait until her drinks are done anyway. So the sandwich should realistically be done when the drinks are done because in this workplace, they have to come out at the same time. There's a certain type of person. Maybe it's this type of person. They want to feel smart by pretending everyone else is dumb. Yeah.
[32:20] And they can be some of the most sandpaper in the eyeballs, grating kind of characters. Yeah, they really are. Also, I want to say something. So the last cafe I worked at was entirely women. There was not a single man anywhere in the vicinity. But this one has a decent amount of men. Let me tell you guys, like, the difference between closing with women versus closing with the guys, it's crazy. What I close with women, we get out of there 45 minutes. And I'm not talking about difference between the cafes. I'm talking about this cafe specifically. If I close on Monday with like two other women or one other woman we're getting out half an hour to 45 minutes after close if I close with the men five minutes after I still don't know what magic they're doing I don't either I genuinely don't get it I think maybe like trusting me if if they say like or if they ask me do you know how to do this aspect of the clothing a closing has someone shown you how to do inventory and I say yes they're like great and they go off and do the rest of their thing. So they assume you're being honest and competent. Yeah. And if I have a question, I come to them and I'll be like, I don't remember how to do it for this partner. Do I need to check the ones in the storage as well? Yeah.
[33:27] Then they'll be like, yeah, you do have to do it in storage. And they'll be like, no, you don't. They don't say like, they don't wander off from whatever they're doing and follow me back and say, well, you have to do these ones and these ones. They'll just say, no, do it in storage. And I'm like, okay, go to storage and do it. So it's a lot more efficient with guys. Interesting. So it's like at the old cafe, you were working in an HR department that occasionally served coffee. Yeah, no, I really was. But even here, the difference between the men and the women's crazy. But yeah, I'll just say that. There have been a few studies. Which do not exactly argue against what it is that you're talking about. Guys. The men tend to be a bit more micromanaging and men tend to be a little bit more, yeah, we'll trust you to do it. I'm starting to understand the pay gap.
[34:09] And I'm starting to kind of agree with it, bro. No, because like literally when you have the guys closing, you're not wasting a full hour of pay or three quarters of an hour of pay on clothes or after clothes. And if you're clocked in for seven hours, you don't end up staying half an hour later and having to pay them an extra 10 bucks. Right. Right. So I'm starting to understand why women are paid a little less. Well, I can't officially talk about any of that on the show, but I'll show you some diagrams later. Valid, valid.
[34:41] That's all I have. I have a question. For real this time. Thank you, everyone. Oh, let's tell them what we're doing because this might be a twofer. Oh, yeah. We are. A twofer day. We are going to go. We're actually driving right now to watch the movie Gladiator 2, which I have already seen, actually. But we are, I saw it with my mom, but we are re-watching it. And I've made you promise to replicate. Well, no, this was me, actually, my idea. You're going to replicate what you said to mom, right? Yeah, so basically, if we get to a certain point in the movie, I'm going to be like, oh, I think that guy is that guy or whatever, right? But I'm not going to say it because I already know. I'm going to say it because that's what I said to mom when I watched it the first time because it'll be like watching it again the first time. And like, yeah. And we will do a review. Yes, sir. So, which will be great. I'm looking forward to it. So thanks everyone for these great questions. Freedomain.com slash donate. And we'll talk to you after the movie. Bye.
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