0:06 - The Power of Mistakes in Relationships
1:17 - Integrity in Communication
8:33 - Understanding Helplessness and Frustration
10:43 - The Impact of Feminism on Women's Security
11:00 - Postpartum Depression and Modern Parenting
22:02 - Loneliness in the Age of Online Interactions
25:36 - The Fantasy of Debt Relief
30:39 - Male Reproductive Rights and Birth Rate Collapse
35:40 - Closing Thoughts on Relationships and Society
In this episode, I delve deeply into the dynamics of relationships, focusing on the critical question of whether mistakes are permissible within them. The conversation begins with the acknowledgment of the pervasive anxiety induced by hypercritical partners, who foster an environment where one feels compelled to double-check and second-guess their actions. This foundational inquiry leads me to assert that a relationship which does not allow for mistakes can result in a stifling atmosphere, devoid of relaxation and genuine enjoyment.
We explore the significance of honest communication in partnerships, specifically around seemingly trivial decisions such as choosing a restaurant. I share insights on how miscommunication, often rooted in expectations and assumptions, can lead to frustration. Using this scenario as a lens, I dissect the nuances of accountability, emphasizing the need for clarity—if one partner claims their preferences weren’t considered and yet previously stated indifference, we must question the sincerity of that position.
The discussion progresses to the concept of integrity in relationships and the importance of recognizing when one may be projecting their unresolved frustrations onto their partner. I highlight how feelings left unexpressed can breed passive aggression, where one partner’s dissatisfaction manifests as conflict. This reflects a broader pattern of behavior in which unresolved emotions can cyclically entrap both partners in a dance of negativity.
As the dialogue unfolds, I ascertain the role of gender dynamics in communication and self-expression, probing the societal narratives that can confound honest dialogue. I address the implications of our societal conditioning, particularly how feminist ideologies may influence expectations and perceptions about relationship roles. By critically examining the notion of security that women inherently seek within a marital context, I argue for the evolutionary need for stability, countering the narrative that independence negates the need for committed relationships.
Towards the end of the episode, we discuss the broader implications of societal structures on intimate relationships, especially focusing on men’s reproductive rights and the resultant impact on family dynamics. I contend that the imbalance of power in this context exacerbates relational strain and fuels a generational reluctance towards marriage and child-rearing.
Throughout the episode, we engage with listeners' questions, linking these themes to personal anecdotes and experiences. The concluding thoughts reflect an ongoing commitment to fostering authentic dialogue, encouraging listeners to confront their beliefs and the complexities of their relationships, all while maintaining a foundation of truth and mutual respect.
[0:00] Somebody says, Chris says, your description of hypercritical parents and one triple checking things and second guessing fits my experience.
[0:07] I often second guess myself and triple check things. Yeah, for sure. I mean, it's just a foundational question is, are you allowed to make mistakes in a relationship? Are you allowed to make mistakes in a relationship? Foundational. If you're not allowed to make mistakes in a relationship, it's going to be pretty terrible. You can't ever relax because you you mean you are going to make mistakes i'm going to make mistakes everyone's going to make mistakes and if you're not allowed to make mistakes in a relationship, then you're never going to be able to relax and you're really never going to be able to, enjoy yourself and you're going to surrender to someone who is hypercritical and and because you in a sense give them power over you then they will be tempted to use that power over you most people if you hand them power will just take it and just take it and it's really rough on people's personalities to see that right most people you offer them power they will just take it and if your parents brutalized you you have an instinct to surrender power because you don't have power. Very tough.
[1:18] All right, so let's get back to the sort of feminist propaganda.
[1:22] So I think you kind of have to push people towards integrity. So if you, let's say there's a situation, like the sort of typical situation where you say, where do you want to go for dinner? And she says, oh, I don't mind, right? Wherever, it's fine. And then you say, okay, we're going to go eat Greek. And then you go there and she says, I don't really feel like you took my preferences into consideration, okay?
[1:49] And the answer to that is, I did. I did. Like, factually, I did. I asked you where you wanted to go for dinner. And you can do this in a way that's not hostile or anything. You say, you didn't take my preferences into consideration. It's like, but I did. I asked you where you wanted to go for dinner. And you said you didn't mind. So, I chose Greek. Now, you're certainly welcome to change your mind, right? If you say, I don't care where we go for dinner. And then I say, let's go eat Greek. And you say, well, actually, I don't really want Greek. So, that's fine. But it is not a true statement to say, I did not consider your preferences enough. I asked you what you wanted. And so I would give her an analogy, right? So let's say that I'm a waiter and you're a customer, right? And I say, what do you want to eat? And you say a club sandwich and coleslaw. And then I bring you a club sandwich and coleslaw. Would you then say to the waitress or the waiter, you didn't take my needs or preferences into account enough? Well, no. Right? If I go to a store and I buy a cell phone and they didn't talk me through, you know, what do you want? What do you need? And I buy the cell phone. Do I then get to take it back after they sort of train me on what was useful or helpful about the cell phone and ask me about my needs? Do I then get to take the cell phone back and complain that they didn't take my needs into account enough.
[3:14] Right? So it is not a true statement. And look, we have to have truth in relationships. We have to have truth in relationships. That has to be a standard by which we evaluate and judge things. We have to, have to, have to. Because if we don't have that, then anyone can say anything and nothing is real and nothing can be negotiated. So with your girlfriend, your partner.
[3:38] You say to her, where do you want to eat? She says, I don't care. I don't mind. And then you choose a place and she says, well, you didn't take my needs enough into consideration. The answer to that is, no, I did. I asked you where you wanted to go for dinner. I did that. Like, do you remember me asking you? Now, if she's like, yes, but it wasn't enough, then it's like, but you said you didn't care where you went for dinner. Was that true? Right? This is really, really important in a relationship. Was that true? Is that factual? Was that true? So if she says, it was true that I didn't care where we went for dinner, it was true at the time, but I've changed my mind, right? Then say, well, if you say, I want a club sandwich with coleslaw to the waitress, and then the waitress brings you your food, and then you say, I've changed my mind. I don't want that anymore. That's different from saying to the waitress, you didn't take my needs into account enough. You can change your mind, but I'm not a mind reader. And, you know, one of the things that I think is a bit more true of women than of men is you really have to push back against this fantasy of mind reading.
[4:53] My guess is that your girlfriend is discontent about something. Your partner is discontented about something in her life, and she's taking it out by frustrating you. Feelings not expressed get transferred to others, right? What you don't talk about, what you're not honest about, you will re-inflict on others, right? So in her life, she probably feels stuck and helpless. And so she's recreating that emotion in you because she's not talking about her feelings directly. You know, this is passive aggression. Someone who's angry but won't admit it will provoke anger in you. Like if someone's angry with you or at their life or whatever, but won't admit it, won't talk about it directly, they'll simply provoke anger in you. Somebody who's helpless and frustrated in their life, somebody who's helpless and frustrated in her life will recreate that helplessness and that frustration in you.
[5:40] So the first thing you need to do to get people to speak honestly about their emotions is to get them to recognize when they're lying. Now, this is not some big moral thing, right? She may not even be particularly aware of it. But if she says, you didn't take my needs into account enough, and you say, well, no, I actually, I did ask you where you wanted to go for dinner. Then it's not true that you didn't take your needs. Now, enough is really, really a slippery slope, but that's a hole with no bottom. Like, what does it mean to take someone's needs into account enough? I mean.
[6:15] I mean, it would be kind of annoying if the waiter came back three times and said, okay, you ordered club sandwich with coleslaw. Are you sure? Is that what you want? Anything else? You want me to bring the menu back? You'd be like, no, I already put my order in. I'm hungry. Just please bring me the food. So if the waiter came back three or four times asking you if you were sure that that's what you wanted to eat, you'd probably get annoyed, right? Or whatever. You'd be a little confused, right? So that's a no-win situation, right? So if the waitress brings you your club sandwich and coleslaw, if your waitress brings you your food, and then you say, that's not really what I wanted, you didn't take my needs into account enough, then the next time the waitress is going to ask you three or four times if you're sure that's what you want, and you'll say, I already told you what I want. Please just bring me my food. I'm hungry. So it's a no-win situation. So your partner, almost certainly in my view, just my opinion, we can do a call-in show if you want, freedomman.com slash call. But your partner is, in my view, almost certainly in a helpless and frustrated situation, which she's not admitting to herself or being direct and honest about with you.
[7:21] So what happens is because she's not being direct and honest about her own helplessness and frustration, she puts you in a situation of being helpless and frustrated. So the debate to me is, you didn't take my needs enough into account. That's not true. I asked you where you wanted to go. Can we accept that? Like, do you remember me asking you? Yes, but it wasn't enough. And it's like, but enough is subjective, right? Enough is subjective. So if I assume that you're telling me the truth, like I have to assume you're telling me the truth, because if I assume that everything you're saying, honey, is a lie, I don't know how we can have a relationship or if it's false or wrong or a trick or some weird trap or something like. So if I ask you, where do you want to go for dinner? And you say, it doesn't matter to me, I assume that you're telling me the truth, right? I mean, I have to assume that. Because if I assume that you're not telling me the truth, I don't know how to have a relationship with you. Does that make sense? Thank you, Tyreek. Does that make sense? I have to assume that you're telling me the truth. Now, if she can get to the point where she admits, you know what, you did ask me where I wanted to go for dinner. I did say, I did actually say I didn't care.
[8:33] So it's not about the dinner so you get somebody to say it's not about the dinner, it's about something else and then you've got to get to that something else if that makes sense, I feel that internally, Stef, spot on. Now, if I had to guess, Trogaz, and again, I know you're donors, but if you would like to, if you would like to.
[8:54] If you find this helpful, feedamanda.com slash donate, a tip or right here on the app, a tip would be gratefully appreciated. So my guess is that the reason why she feels helpless and frustrated is you're referring to her as a partner and not a wife, right? Have you married her? No, I assume not. maybe you have kids together, but she doesn't have the ring, she doesn't have the wedding, she doesn't have, she can't call you her husband. A partner is for tennis, husband and wife is for children. So that would be my guess. And she doesn't know how to talk about that with you because she's been full of feminist propaganda. And therefore, the feminist propaganda is don't need no stinking man, which flies in the face of women's need for security in marriage. Marriage is like, it's not even a close second. Marriage is the safest place for women to be in the world, To be in a stable marriage, particularly with the father of her children, is by far the safest place for women to be. And women crave security, which is natural because it's smaller and weaker, right? So women crave security. And feminism has told them they don't need security, which puts them in a constant state of anxiety and danger, right? They can't assess risk very well. So women have evolved to need male protection.
[10:04] There's nothing wrong with that. It's just a fact, right? Which is why they can afford to be smaller and weaker and put more of their energy into making babies. So women have evolved to need male protection and there's no safer or more secure place for a woman to be than in a marriage with a man. I mean, there's lots of abuse, of course, from women to men and from men to women, but it tends to be more in non-marital, non-mother and father of children relationships.
[10:30] How come women did not suffer postpartum depression on the larger scale during the times when women were having an average of five to 10 kids? Wouldn't they have been subjected to more stress and being overwhelmed than the modern day woman? Certainly, I could certainly see that being the case.
[10:44] So in me, to my mind, again, it's just amateur idiot opinion, so don't take it particularly seriously, but maybe it has some value. Postpartum depression is a dim primal lizard brain memory of having been neglected and abandoned as a baby yourself.
[11:00] So if you have some mom who's like emailing and texting and on the phone all the time when you're newborn and then puts you in daycare at a month or two or three and doesn't breastfeed you and so on, I think postpartum depression comes from loneliness, neglect, and isolation experienced as a baby. And that didn't happen in the past because women didn't have made up air-conditioned email jobs.
[11:25] All right somebody says just found out just found out i'm expecting baby number three third one to be peacefully parented and breastfed too thanks Stef for the encouragement on the parenthood journey fantastic i'm thrilled i'm thrilled beyond words congratulations that is beautiful and wonderful and lovely and i couldn't be happier for you here's a question a suggestion that if you want your woman to choose where she wants to eat dinner ask her the morning of the day before you plan to go out. Is that correct or helpful? Well, there's a guy who says he's got a hack, right? And he says, hey, guess where I've planned for us to go to dinner, right? And she says, oh, X restaurant. And like, that's right. And he sort of hacked it. But it doesn't get to the basic question, right? The basic question is what's going on on the underneath that somebody's reproducing frustration in somebody else's mind. Thanks, Stef, it can be tricky holding people to account, can't it? They have to commit to being honest and rejecting mind reading. People want to have their minds read because they don't want to be assertive and say what they think and need.
[12:30] That's a joke that requires some visual explanation, so I won't do it. Somebody says, oh, this is the person with the baby coming. All right. I've been wondering about the frequent use of the adjective endless in your fiction writing. Could this be a word that often enters your writing because immorality has effects that go on and on, whereas morality gives sustainable, endless happiness? Since morality is the central focus of your writing, eternity is often evoked in your mind as you write the various scenes and characters.
[13:02] Endless. There is something that the historian Paul Johnson wrote, I think it was about Tolstoy, Tolstoy, I think it's the opening to Anna Karenina or near the beginning, where he says every happy family is alike, but every unhappy family is unhappy in its own particular way. And he wrote back, Paul Johnson wrote and said that that's surely the opposite of the truth, that unhappy families show particular patterns that are just grindingly repetitive and the same. And a family's happy people have significant degrees of individuation and individuality. You think for yourself, you reason for yourself, you are more naturally yourself. Unhappy families demand conformity to anti-rationality, which means everyone just kind of gets stamped with the same stupid mold. Whereas happy families allow people to be individual and celebrate their individuality, and therefore, there is a lot more variety and singularity in happy families. So, there is a certain amount of endlessness to unhappiness. There is a certain amount of endlessness. It's the tinnitus of misery. There is a certain amount of endlessness to it. And I think eternity and repetition is hell. So, for instance, defensiveness, right? So, So if somebody criticizes you and you just get mad and yell at them.
[14:27] You have a hysterical hyperreaction, then your state of mind is endless because you can't be corrected. If you're walking in the woods, your direction is functionally endless if you never change your direction, right? If you never consult a map, you never consult all trails, GPS, you never take anything. Nobody calls you and says, hey man, with your GPS, you're heading in the wrong direction you need to turn around. So if you reject feedback, then your direction is endless. And there is a certain amount of just absolutely grim repetition in people's lives. And endlessness every day is just like the last, and there is no progress. There is a certain amount of endlessness in people's lives if they reject feedback. And the feedback can be from reason, from philosophy, from others, from thought, from principles, and so on, right? So the purpose of life is to grow. And the purpose of defensiveness, anti-rationality, and general hostility is to not grow. And to protect, usually in appearance or a corrupt culture, by refusing to outgrow it. Outgrowing your parents is a really challenging thing.
[15:40] Outgrowing your parents is a really challenging thing. It feels like you're breaking with the entire chain and cycle of life. It's really difficult to outgrow your parents. And that moment of sort of transition when you burst through the ass ceiling, so to speak, the asshole ceiling, when you break through that, that there's this shattering of everything. And that's when you truly become yourself, when you are no longer circling under the endless dysfunctions of dysfunctional parents. So I hope that helps. I would imagine that that's probably what it has to do with.
[16:13] Right. Looking for your questions or comments. I'm happy to hear them. A Sisyphean task trying to please someone who doesn't know and or won't say what is bothering them. So sometimes it's hard to know what's bothering you. And you need other people to sort of drill in and ask you questions about what's bothering you. Sometimes it is hard to know. And you need, I mean, this is one of the reasons, like, you understand, we outsource a lot of our thinking to those around us. This is like if you think of like dogs or jackals or hyenas they outsource a lot of their hunting, to the people around them right or to the dogs around them it's the same with people right or how to gatherers sometimes you'd hunt alone but a lot of times you'd circle the beast and right so we out dogs and pack animals and social animals we outsource a lot of our, success to those around us right you think of the the sort of amish putting together and raising a bar, right? They can do it in a day or two, right? Because they outsource a lot of things to do with raising the barns to those around them, right? I'm thinking of Robert Barnes. I just refresh here. I should unpin that.
[17:26] So when it comes to thinking, self-knowledge, sanity, we outsource a lot of it to those around us. Yeah, I'm sorry, my internet's down at the moment. I have to use my cell phone, which is why I'm not in the studio. So there's only a certain amount that I can do with regards to the video, but it'll be fixed tonight. Just lower the settings and I'm sure you'll be fine.
[17:47] So it's hard to know what bothers us sometimes because we rely upon other people for self-knowledge. I lost you for a bit. Bad connection. Quick question. Why is now all of a sudden the world going to collapse? You've been worrying about this for years. I'm not sure I follow that, what does that mean? When have I said the world is going to collapse now? And I've said this for many years, it's functionally impossible to know when the economy is going to hit its crisis, because we don't have access to the information that other people do. So, I mean, for instance, this is from the Kobisi letter on X, the Bank of Japan owns 52%, Sorry, the Bank of Japan owns 52% of all domestic government bonds. By comparison, life insurers, banks, and pension funds hold 13.4%, 9.8%, and 8.9% respectively. According to Bloomberg, the Japanese government now holds $7.8 trillion of debt. This makes the Japanese government the third most indebted government in the world behind the US and China. Furthermore, the Bank of Japan holds a whopping $4.1 trillion of government bonds on its balance sheet. Japan is in need of a major restructuring. Yes. That's, I mean, completely catastrophic, right?
[19:07] Eye, maybe nobody knows exactly when it's going to happen because the real economic data is nothing to do with what's told us. I mean, you saw this, I think, over the last couple of months, the estimates of job creation under Joe Biden were radically revised downwards, right? So economic news and information that we're getting is almost all propaganda and almost none of it is to be believed, like even a tiny bit. If your DNA was stretched out, it would reach to the moon 6,000 times. Isn't that wild? Pretty wild. Japan needs Bitcoin, yeah, yeah. All right. Really loved reading The Fountainhead. I'm really loving reading The Fountainhead at the moment. There's almost as many paradoxes or contradictions in there are Cash 22. Okay, please, please check your messages before you send them to me. Just proofread them, for God's sakes. Particularly with Rourke and Dominique. Relationship. Is this a literary tool of the era, do you think? To put people out of their assumptions. I don't recall you using it much in the present or the future. How about this next book? I'm sorry, I don't. To pull people out of their assumptions. I don't know what any of that means. I apologize if I'm missing something obvious, but I don't know what that means. Ayn Rand said that Dominique Francais is herself on a bad day.
[20:27] All right, let's see. What else do I have here? This is from Mario Norful. I don't know if this is true. Air Force General drops bombshells. 80% efficient space solar power is here. Retired Lieutenant General Stephen Kvast just revealed that the X-37 space plane has been secretly demonstrating solar power beaming that crushes every energy source on Earth. The tech is simple. Capture intense solar power in space. Convert to radio waves. Beam to Earth receivers. No weather interference, no atmosphere losses, just pure energy. He says, the experiments in space are showing the promise of initial efficiency levels of 80% efficiency. So now you're talking about an immediate jump of 60% efficiency. Current energy systems, wind, solar, nuclear, fossil fuels barely hit 20 to 30% efficiency after transmission losses. Space solar delivers 80% straight to your grid. We'll see. We'll see if that's true. I would consider that a disaster as a whole. Atlas Adams touched on how many of the people on earth are unhappy, even the ones with digital wristwatches. Many solutions put forward to deal with it, mostly involving the movement of small pieces of colored paper, which is strange, as it's not the pieces of paper mostly which were unhappy. Yeah, I remember when I was a broke kid, I would, I loved science fiction.
[21:37] And I remember reading the opening to Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy, but I could only buy one book a month, I could only afford one book a month, because I was paying like bills and rent. And I remember reading that one over and over thinking like, oh, should I buy it? Should I buy it? Didn't you have some real spicy stuff you wanted to talk about during this donor-only live stream? Certainly could be, but people have lots of questions, so I can do that another time. All right, let's see here.
[22:03] So this is an interesting one, I think. So according to the New York Post, when you have a creator, like an OnlyFans creator or some sort of sex worker creator.
[22:17] What percentage of chats between creators and their top spenders are non-sexual, right? So, you're throwing a bunch of money at, God help you, throwing a bunch of money at women online who are doing sexual content online. So, you're throwing a bunch of money at the women, and what percentage of chats between creators and their top spenders are utterly non-sexual in nature. I find this really quite fascinating. See if you can put a guess. Somebody says 80%. What else have we got? Oh, how to tell if people are listening passively or doing other things, which is totally fine. I'm just pointing at whether people are typing or not. Well, is your bang on, you know, bang on, Hidden Dragon. Yeah, it's 78%. I mean, 2% is variable, right? 78% of chats between creators and their top spenders are about everything except doing the deed. The hottest topics? Pets, work, childhood memories, TV shows, hobbies, basically the mundane stuff they reportedly can't talk about with their real-life significant others. But I don't get why men can't talk about the mundane stuff with their girlfriends and wives.
[23:38] Interesting. And this woman wrote, it's not surprising at all, this is in response, I waitressed at a strip club when I was in college. Men would often pay dancers or waitresses to just sit next to them and talk. No nudity, nothing sexual at all, just talking. It was really sad. I learned a lot about men at a very young age this way. Well, men in strip clubs, it's not men as a whole. Isn't that wild? Isn't that wild? This woman writes, 78% of men are so boring they have to go on OnlyFans for someone to listen. Somebody else says, that's because if you talk about that stuff with your girl, you become single very quickly. Somebody writes, geez, my wife is the only person who has the pleasure of being bored to sleep with my mundane stuff. She's the only one who can sit through a 30-minute rant about things like the nature of what money really is. The purpose of the Old Testament tabernacle designs in Leviticus and health insurance company fraud. In her I have my only captive audience, even though I know she's just listening. Sometimes because she loves me.
[24:35] And so James guessed 60%. Somebody said very few as they're hoping to establish an actual relationship with them. OnlyFans gonna fail as soon as next year, possibly as soon as next year. Why? Is that because of AI? AI pornography? Ah, yeah. Well, most people don't have big thoughts, right? Most people aren't great singers. Most people don't have big thoughts. And so they wanna share their thoughts with their wife, right? They wanna share their thoughts with those around them, but they're afraid of being boring. And maybe that's got something to do with it. So I thought that was really fascinating, just how lonely people are, that they'll pay thousands and thousands of dollars to a kind of sex worker online. And through that process, they just talk to them about mundane things. And of course, I doubt that they're talking about, I doubt that they're talking with anyone. Sorry, I doubt that they're, maybe they're talking to AI, but they're probably just talking with a bunch of keyboard warriors in Mumbai who are pretending to be the woman, right?
[25:36] Somebody wrote, I'm bored and nosy. How much debt are you in and how old are you? And people wrote, somebody wrote, about $93,000 in debt, but I'm currently sitting in Puta Faiyata drinking a Long Island. Sarah says, I'm $175,000 in debt, but I forgave myself and now I'm currently sitting on the beach at the Polynesian resort in Disney sipping on my $20 drink. Assika wrote, I'm 37. I forgave myself and identify as debt-free.
[26:05] And somebody else writes, $28,000 in credit card debt, $1,000 medical, $100,000 student, $18,000 on my car, love being alive. Jillian writes, $22,000 and $72,000 all student loans. It's okay though because I forgave myself. A woman, Cheyenne, wrote, currently 23. And I almost went and added it all up, but I can't afford the grippy sock vacay. This would send me on. Grippy sock vacay? I don't know what that means, and I'm frightened to ask. Please don't tell me. I'm sure it's foul. It's so unlike.
[26:37] Do you know people significantly in debt? And I wouldn't necessarily count a reasonable car that they need for work or a mortgage because you need a place to live, whatever. But do you know people who just A, are in debt and B, don't freak out about it? I mean, I was in debt for a little bit of time after I graduated from my master's degree. I borrowed some money for school and I scrambled to pay it off as quickly as possible. I've only been in debt once or twice in my life. and I will eat ramen noodles and my own toenails to get it paid off as quickly as possible. Chris says, I was driving but listening intently. A tip is coming your way for this and the last stream. I found value in the part on vanity and humility, last stream as well as everything in today's stream. Thank you very much. Thank you. Somebody says yes regarding debt. They're not really in my life, but yes. Now, women tend to be significantly more in debt than men. And the reason for that is that women have I mean for some it's the reality but for a lot of them it's the fantasy that they can just get into a relationship, and have a man pay off their debt.
[27:47] Right they have this fantasy and for some it's reality for most it's a fantasy sorry to repeat but it's an important point women always have this fantasy that they can just have sex with a guy get into a sexual relationship with a guy and have him, pay off their debt, which is why I think they tend to be not particularly bothered by debt. And that's pretty rough, man. That's pretty rough. And of course, the other thing that they have, and this is just another way of getting men to pay their debt, right? The other thing they do is they believe, and this is with good reason, that what they can do is they can just complain to politicians and get the politicians to forgive their debt, right? That's plan B. Let's get the politicians to forgive their debt.
[28:41] That was the case. Didn't Biden try it? I didn't really follow this or remember it too well. But didn't Biden sort of go on this thing that he was going to forgive all of the women's... Oh, well, sorry. He was going to forgive a lot of student loan debt, which is significantly held by women. So yeah, they're just taken bar of because they're going to sex or complain their way out of debt. Sex or complain their way out of debt. Somebody says, overall, my net worth is in the green, but I do have a medium-sized line of credit going. I just don't want to sell my investments to pay my line of credit. That's fair. Any thoughts on collateralized Bitcoin loans? If you were going to turn that money around and reinvest in Bitcoin, how would you go about it? I'm not sure what you mean by that. Do you mean borrow to buy Bitcoin?
[29:29] Obviously, I can't give anybody any financial advice, but it depends very much on the interest rate that you're getting. It depends on the collateral you have to put up, and it depends where you are in the Bitcoin cycle, which is where nobody knows the Bitcoin cycle. Nobody knows. Nobody knows what the price of anything is going to be tomorrow or five minutes from now. So I can't give you any advice on that. Now, 49 and debt unsecured. I won't be able to, I won't be able to be repaying. I'm basically caught at my current employer who wants me to quit. I'd rather see if I can make this work to my advantage. No options so far elsewhere. I'm not quite sure I follow that, but it sounds vaguely positive. So, yay. Coin has the same number of users as the internet had in 1999. We are just getting started. It's very good. Okay, so the spicy topic. I guess you have any other questions or comments. We'll just spend a few minutes on this spicy topic and let me know what you think.
[30:25] So, I mean, in general, women evolved to consume resources, men evolved to produce resources, and that's because human babies take forever to grow, and women have to expend resources to do that. So, the birth rate collapse.
[30:40] We've talked about this a number of times before. The birth rate collapse. How much fit do you think has to do with men's lack of reproductive rights? Big question. Understudies for men is worth following on X, in my opinion. But male reproductive rights, they put an image out, right? Woman can choose to not be a mother during pregnancy, regardless of what is best for the child. She can choose all of that. She has that reproductive right. The man cannot choose.
[31:09] So, the second is, the woman can choose to abort and to suggest that she keep it in her pants is offensive. The man cannot choose. And the man is told, well, you have sex, it's your responsibility. If you didn't want to have a baby, you should have kept it in your pants, but you can't say that to women. The woman can choose to give the child to the state and let the state subsidize this choice. Yes, the man cannot choose. The woman can choose to change her mind and under the safe haven law can drop her baby off, no questions asked. Yep.
[31:40] Being talked about in a Dr. Phil from many years ago. This woman was incredibly cruel to her daughter. And Dr. Phil was saying, well, why didn't you, if you don't like being a parent, if you don't like your daughter, you could drop her off at a fire station. You can drop her off at a hospital, at a police station, no questions asked. You can stop being a parent, no questions asked. You can just change your mind and not be a parent. And the man cannot choose. The woman can expect the state to force the male partner to subsidize her choice if she chooses to raise the child. The man cannot choose. The woman can expect to be subsidized by the other parent, even if that other parent is proven not to be the biological parent, because this is in the best interest of the child. The man suck it up and pay up. And I think this is under-discussed as a whole, which is men's lack of reproductive rights is, I think, a central factor in the collapse of the birth rate. The natural tendency to cuck to female upset has created a world, a civilization, where women are constantly appeased and praised and held not accountable for the choices, whereas men are enslaved and exploited.
[32:56] This is a sort of a function of statism as a whole, right? It's a function of democracy, which is you give women endless choices and subsidies, and you give men endless responsibilities and enslavement. Men get more practical degrees than women on average, more economically productive degrees. I mean, the number one degree for moneymaking is petroleum engineer, which is like, I don't know, like 90% men or something like that, right? In terms of, and then of course, you have to not just look at the degrees that women get, but you have to look at whether they actually end up working in that field, right? I was talking to someone the other day, his wife got an engineering, sorry, his wife got an accounting degree and then decided to be a stay-at-home mom. It's kind of catastrophic for society, right? They put all this money to training women and then they don't want to work in that field or, I mean, I know a number of women who trained in engineering and don't work in engineering, which is, you know, again, pretty catastrophic for society because they waste money on training women who don't work in the field. And it happens to men sometimes. You have to do a little bit more with women. And then also what happens is they, the price of the remaining engineers goes up because there's less competition.
[34:07] So yeah, male reproductive rights, you're just not going to get them. You're just not going to get them. Under statism, in a free society, you would get male reproductive rights. But I do think that, and this particularly, why is it accelerating now? I think it's accelerating now because there's a generational lag in these kinds of things. So in my generation, I grew up in the 70s, in the 1970s. I know some of you think 1870s, let's go with 1970s. For my generation, where we grew up in the 1970s, we saw and get ripped apart like jackals in family court divorce situations. So then, the next generation is very hesitant to marry.
[34:51] When you start, the woke stuff. It started in the late 70s, early 80s, but it only accelerates when the children who were raised on the woke stuff themselves become teachers. Because when I was a kid, the teachers were mostly, you know, boomers, and they were raised in a more rational and non-woke post-Second World War environment. So there's an accelerationism that's a generation behind that happens with these kinds of things. So it's the same thing with reproductive rights. you make men terrified of marriage when they have seen people get torn apart in a family court and especially, you know, sexual abuse allegations in divorce and so on. It's really, really tough. So you scare people, scare men away from marriage. It's, you know, was it, where were we at, sixth generation warfare or something like that, right?
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[36:01] Chris says, I have a few female co-workers who are engineers, but very few of them appear satisfied working as an engineer. I'm guessing they would rather be raising a child or two, right? Somebody else writes, I have a female friend who was in the middle of a divorce with children involved, despite the ways the courts are skewed against men. She seemed to have a list of reasons that the courts are skewed against women. She said she didn't want to push for 50-50 custody due to the bias of the courts. Yeah, that's anecdotal, but interesting. Thanks so much for everything you do. I appreciate that. Thank you guys so much for your support. Freedemand.com slash donate to help out the show. If you hear this in some context and lots of love from up here, my friends, take care. Have a wonderful day. I'll talk to you soon. Bye.
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