Why Men Pay for Dates! Freedomain Livestream - Transcript

Introduction and Technical Difficulties

[0:01] Good morning. It's Sunday morning, 11 a.m. on the 21st of January, 2024.
We're here to make moral arguments and take coffee enemas.
And I'm all out of coffee.
All right. Yes, we're back. Sorry about that. Slightly false touch, but we're good. We are good to go.
Good morning. You've never seen me on Facebook Live.
Well, I'm sure that's just coincidental I'm sure that's just by accident I'm sure that's just by accident Yes, yes, yes.

[0:42] Well, yes, lots of stuff to talk about today I'm happy to take your cues, Your pool cues, that is Steal my daddy's living out of, Steal my daddy's living out of So, steal my daddy's cue And make a living out of playing pool From an old Rod Stewart song So, I'm all ears, like Prince Charles.
How do you go through life with those FM flappers? Some people do, right?
I have these, like, ears that are pretty much, I don't have them.
I have the ears of a lizard.
They're just holes in my head with, I don't know, vaginas around them or something.
But yeah, it's, some people do go through life with the real flappers.
I remember seeing a meme. It was this guy, he was a Middle Eastern guy.
As a kid, he had these total flappers.
And then he looked pretty good looking when he was older. But he had headphones on. He was like, here's how I grew up. And somebody was like, take off your headphones.
But I think you can get, I'm not saying that anyone should, because who cares, right? Everyone has their flaws or whatever. But you can get them pinned back, I think.
All right. We're starting off deep, baby. Ears.
Ears, that's what matter.
Matter all right.

[2:02] Unhinged ai speculation is the only thing propping up the economy of the united states, it's actually kind of not totally false let me say that again unhinged ai speculation is the only thing propping up the economy of the united states that's quite funny that's quite funny um Um, how many, how many, okay, let's, let's start, let's start deep.
We're going deep, baby. We're going deep. All right. Let me ask you this.
How many varieties of potatoes are there?
Uh, I do not count as a potato, although visibly, physically, you could easily be understood for mistaking me for a potato, eyes and Irish.
But let me ask you this how many varieties of taters are there?
I had no idea. I had no idea. Let me see if we can get people to puzzle this one out.
Let me just go here and make sure I can get all the questions.
Good morning, Cas Barrett. Let's do our little greetings here while people are chatting.
I think I'm going to have to refresh this one because I'm not getting anything there.

[3:24] Let's see here Sorry, let me just go through these good mornings while people are typing this Because it's important that we sound off, Won't be late now I wasn't late, I was just here You need a shift, Steph, live stream today Actually, I did end up watching that movie, The Shift I found it not great Not great.

[3:47] There is a video of Vox Day where he talks about Stefan Spanning from YouTube.
First, I thought that he would bash, but you were positively surprised that he was in good faith. Yeah.
Yeah. He's aight.
Hope you're having a fantastic Sunday. Holy crap. I had like nine hours of sleep.
I had nine hours of sleep. So when I have a cold, which I get every couple of years.
Um, but, um, I don't sleep too, too well with the cold and I don't like using, you know, the stuff that knocks you right out.
Morning, Naomi. Morning, Naomi. Nice to see you. Morning, Philip.
So let's see here. Yeah. I, I, so I didn't sleep too well on the sort of week and a, I don't know, day or two that I had the cold.
And then last night I was just, you know, those mornings where it's like, it's so cozy and I have an elephant ass ass weighted blanket i literally i'm like i'm like the guy with the in the circus with the nails of the board of the elephant standing on him if if i can breathe without discomfort it's just not quite heavy enough for me uh i have an elephant uh ass weighted blanket that it's about as heavy as a bad man's bad conscience so this morning it was just oh so cozy and you do this little thing where it's like ah maybe i'll just you know what i'm gonna mull over the topics i'm gonna talk talk about in the show.
Wake up again. Ah, you know, I really should think about what become.

[5:15] Floored. Just floored. Recovery. Good morning, Mario.
Good morning. Good morning from Europe. Your headphones are not glitching.
I, in fact, was glitching.
So a number of potatoes, potatoes, a number of varieties.
If you had Dumbo ears, would you get them pinned back?
It's pretty cheap surgery. I think I would.
I think I would simply because when I was younger, of course, I was a runner. I was a runner.

[5:55] And I think I would not like that lack of aerodynamics and the roaring sound.
Plus, of course, I was a, I don't want to say a champion swimmer because I wasn't that great, but I did all right.
I think I came in top seven in Ontario in swimming, so I did okay.
But I would say that swimming just got incredibly boring.
Yurgle, gurgle, gurgle. Yurgle, gurgle, gurgle. Can't talk. Can't listen to music. Yurgle, gurgle, gurgle.
Really boring, but I think it would not be very water dynamic, so I'd probably get them pinned.
Did you see the December jobs report? About 1.5 million lost jobs.
Well, was it 73% of the jobs that were recovered were simply jobs that were lost during the pandemic?
There has been absolutely... If you'd kept the trajectory that Trump was under, which was 3 million new jobs, there'd be way many more jobs.
It's all mostly nonsense.
Hi, Steph. I'm having Having trouble telling if a woman likes me.
What are the signs she will give off if she does?

[6:58] She will know how many potatoes varieties there are.
Don't you hate when you dream you've woken and gotten ready and then wake and realize you were still sleeping? I don't hate that at all.
I don't hate that at all. I suffered from insomnia at one point in my life while I was going through a completely radical, climatical, absolute tearing Nagasaki thunderous tsunami crash of my, the destruction of my old life.
I had terrible insomnia for, I don't know, like 16 months.
And so for me, uh, I never hate when I dreaming, I, I welcome, uh, sleep.
I love sleep. Uh, sleep is knits up the raveled sleeve of care and it's knits up the ragged sleeve of care.
I, I, cause I had the whole, I had to learn learned that speech uh for uh when i played macbeth when i was a younger man and so no i i never have any complaints about any any form of sleep it's all gorgeous beautiful wonderful and restorative uh i and of course i get i get dreams actually i did a really uh wild dream analysis yesterday i'll put that out this week a really wild dream analysis so no i've no no complaints ever.
There are, there are more than 4,000 varieties of potatoes.
There are more than 4,000 varieties.
In the USA there are about 100 varieties available, but they all fall into seven categories.

[8:24] Do you know? This is like useless, it's not useless trivia if there's ever a potato famine.
What are the seven categories of of potatoes available in the U.S.
Don't worry, we'll get to deep philosophy in just a little while.
In just a little while. What are the kinds of...

[8:47] Potatoes. You know what? That's it. I'm done philosophy. We're just doing trivia shows from now on.
That's it. It's just trivia. Sleep is a superpower. Yeah, yeah. No kidding. No kidding.
Uh, right. I will get to your, well, so I will answer that question.
Uh, somebody, Naomi says, nice to see you again, Naomi.
I need to tell you something about the YouTube ban. Many creators have tried renewing their appeal after years of being banned and they got released, least, including me. I haven't announced it yet.
Ah, interesting. Interesting.
Um, I consider it unlikely. I consider it unlikely.

[9:24] But, um, we'll see. All right. I'm having trouble telling if a woman likes me.
What are the signs she would give off if she does?
Well, if a woman is only giving off signs, she's not worth dating, in my humble opinion.
In other words, if you have to kind of to read tea leaves try and figure out the constellations she did this she flipped her hair and that's all this body language reading signs and so do you know the only thing that makes a relationship survivable there's only one thing that makes a relationship survivable worth pursuing and worth keeping and that little thing is directness directness directness who Who wants to read tea leaves? Who wants to try and puzzle out?
Well, she sent me this text. Guys, what do you think it means?
And then I didn't hear from her for like two days.
And then she asked me how I was doing, but then didn't reply for a day.
Like, what does that mean? Does she like me? Does she not like me?
And it's like, you are way better off if she doesn't like you.
Because if she likes you and she's that indirect.

Relationships of Indirectness: Tea Leaves and Mixed Signals

[10:31] Oh man, you ever been in one of these? You ever been in one of these relationships?
Relationships of indirectness where you've got to, you ever, you ever have that where you just have to read tea leaves and, and try and figure out whether, whether someone likes you or doesn't like you as available or not available, or they're there, they're not there.
They, they have positive signals and then they have negative signals.
They're friendly, then they're cold.
You ever, you ever be in one of those washing machine relationships round and round and suds and cleaning and turning and which way is up? It's just crazy making.
And, uh, I, uh, I think I did. I think I only did one of those.
I think I only did one of those in my life.
And I think I only did it for a couple of months and then I did not.

[11:33] So, yeah, if you, so communication, yeah. So, the way that.

[11:44] The way that you tell if a woman likes you is she seeks you out.
She seeks out your company.
She expresses happiness when you are around.
She comes and talks to you. She responds to your texts.
She seems to initiate contact or does initiate contact.
Now, she may not initiate. She may be one of the women who prefers having a man ask her out, which I think is a plus in general.
But yeah she will she will seek you out she will say she enjoys your company she you know when you're in a social situation she will gravitate to come over and and talk to you she will laugh at your jokes she will engage with you she will ask you how your day was it's really not complicated and i hate to say it's not complicated like you guys are dumb but if you have If you have a woman who can't express in any way that's comprehensible that she likes you, you are going into an N-dimensional, Escher-based, lower intestine maze from which few male souls ever emerge intact.
You are going into tea-leave reading, and what you're going to do is you're going to go into somebody... See, directness is confidence, right?
Directness is confidence. Confidence.
If the woman likes you, then she should, I mean, this is how we've all come to be, right?

[13:09] Her being interested in your hobbies is a big one, means she wants to have more in common with you.

[13:15] Well, just interested in you. I mean, it's not about hobbies or not.
Your hobbies may be really boring.
You know, I'm into stamp collecting.
Okay, there's only a certain amount of interest you can muster in that.
And there's nothing wrong with stamp collecting. I did it when I was a kid.
But I still have an album somewhere on the planet and it's probably worth something or other, although maybe that's all come and gone. Maybe that's all come and gone.

[13:43] But, yeah, she seeks out your company.
Just, it should be easy.
It should be easy.
When I hung out with my wife, she sent me an email. I really enjoyed that. We should do it again.
Easy. Direct. Know what's going on. Have someone communicate with you.
Have their inner state be available to you.
So why would a woman be, and men are like this way a little bit, but I think a little bit less, so why would a woman be indirect?
That's a big question. Why would the woman be indirect?

[14:22] Naomi quite right. If a woman likes you, she might not know how many types of potatoes there are, but she will find out for you.
And then what she will do is she will say, of the more than 4,000 types of potatoes, I have hidden about 3,500 on my being somewhere.
And yes, my friend, although we may be on public transit, it's time for you to play.
Find my potatoes. And see, that's something that's clear.
I think that's more of a German thing, but I think that's quite clear in terms of how a woman will signal to you that she's available.
Find the potato is foundational.
It's why Ireland was Ireland.
And that's something that you've just, I dare say, you have to keep your eye on that.
Because potatoes okay never mind never mind we uh we're hurting we're hurting why why should my only why should my daughter be the only person to suffer through dad jokes why i must know why.

[15:25] All right losing it'd be nice if i had a train of thought i would lose it but apparently lots of sleep just means you get scatterbrained staff we're breaking up in the atmosphere sphere.
Thank you, Ari. I appreciate that. Happy Sunday, Steph.
I appreciate that. Of course, if you would like to tip, you can do that.
And who knows, with enough tips, I might actually form a train of thought.
Yeah, I just feel like anything is possible with nine hours of sleep, just about anything.
I just wanted to point out that's very funny.

[15:59] So let's see here. Does she keep Moet and Chandon in a pretty cabinet?
I think she does. All right.
Let's do a wee bit of bitty, itty bitty coins.
Itty bitty ditty coins. Oh, oh, I didn't get this. Oh, seven categories of potatoes.
Fingerling, petite, purple, red, russet, white, and yellow.
Which I also think are the anniversary presents in hell. So...
Let's see here with regards do you know that bitcoin has now become the second largest etf in the world the bitcoin etfs are now, the largest etfs in the world behind silver second largest also during the beginning of With the pandemic, Sid's sudden infant death syndrome, Sid's death dropped exponentially. Why?
I don't know. I don't know.
So, it dropped 75% in 2020.
Isn't that wild? I don't know why. I don't know why.

[17:23] So, let me see here. Let me get to where I need to get to. Can I get to where I need to get to? I cannot, because I can't scroll.
Unless I use my middle mouse wheel, which gives me a cramp.
All right. Let me get down to it.
So, yeah, the Bitcoin ETFs, I know the price isn't cooking like crazy, but the Bitcoin ETFs are really doing quite well.
The journalist who tried to cancel Novak Djokovic, Djokovic? Djokovic, sorry, Djokovic. The tennis player with the intense thatch of thick hair.
So the journalist who tried to cancel that tennis player because the tennis player wouldn't take COVID, the COVID vaccine, collapsed and died while covering the Australian Open.

[18:21] So, Newsweek reports this is a while ago first human ancestors came from Europe not Africa 7.2 million year old fossils indicate so the out of Africa, is a thesis is kind of not working too well Bitcoin has a larger market cap than the Bank of America and the Bank of China combined, Uh, Naomi says having funny, ironic conversations with the man I like is a, is the highest form of love. It really is.
Um, now did you know that so Coldplay was on video, uh, calling their fame in 1998 saying, you know, we're going to be the biggest thing. We're going to be the greatest thing. We're going to be the most wonderful thing.
And literally a couple of years later, they were headlining at Glastonbury.

[19:06] So I just would like to urge you in life as a whole.
Tell me, tell me, what is the biggest goal you have? What is the biggest, let me ask you this, what is the biggest goal you have?
What is the goal that, maybe it's kind of secretly whispered, maybe it's kind of quiet in your head, maybe it's something that you would never say to people.
What is the biggest goal that you have, or the greatest thing that you think that you're capable of? What is that?
Because it's a really interesting thing. Is greatness ambition, ability, or is it permission?
Is it permission?
Is it permission? Do you give yourself permission to have big dreams?
What is the biggest dream that you have? Yeah, you're anonymous. You can tell me.
Tell me, he said hypnotically. Tell me, what is the biggest dream you have?
Wife and kids.
Building a solid family.

[20:26] That's terrible. That's terrible!
That's not a big dream. You're saying that that's the most outlandish, crazy thing that you can think of is getting married and having kids?

[20:42] So, no. No, no, no.
Biggest, biggest dream. Because what you're doing is you're programming yourself to say, the biggest, most secret, wildly improbable dream that I have is getting married and having kids, which just about, you know, everybody can do.
Annette says, my biggest goal is to have a mindfulness and nature retreat center and grow our own food, etc.
I got to tell you, Annette, I love that you're here. Thank you so much.
That is super girly. I'm not saying that's it's a bad thing.
I'm just saying that just made my estrogen level spike.
And I, oh, wait, oh, here comes the hair. Oh, I feel it. Here comes the hair.
My biggest goal is to have a mindfulness and nature retreat center.
Listen, it's beautiful. I hope that you get it. I absolutely hope that you get it.
That is some girly stuff. And I love girly stuff. I live in girly world.
I live with two females, love it to death.
But that is some, I have to be aware of the girly stuff that is all all around me so good no listen do it absolutely mindfulness and nature retreat center, um to live to see my kids success what.

[21:53] Your giant dream is to not die? That's it?

[21:58] If I could do absolutely anything with any resources and achieve anything in the world, it could be world peace or it could be a continuation of this inhalation-exhalation thing that I've been doing for the past couple of decades, man.
No, no, staying alive unless you're doing a Bee Gees cover is not a big goal.
Sorry, that one is rejected. That one is bigger.
Bigger. Well-adjusted, happy children. Nope.
No. Big.

Setting Big Goals: From Staying Alive to Making an Impact

[22:30] Organize a deep thinkers club with the same goals as the classic D.A.R.E.
Program, but for adults.
D.A.R.E. was against drugs and alcohol, but for kids, not adults.
That's a good thing. That's a good one.
I just, I want to make my business profitable enough to quit my day job. Oh, my God.
I'm getting claustrophobic from these tiny dreams. family on a big ranch, cows and chickens small to medium small to medium getting a loving wife and friend group and achieving really cool things in the world, oh Jared says after that creating a free open source reputation network right, so your theory is I will get married become a father, have a whack load of children, and then be an entrepreneur, Hmm. I think that is not realistic.
I think that is in fact quite the opposite of realism.

[23:26] There's no time for us. There's no place for us. Oh no, rejected.
LOL. I'm not rejecting you.
I'm not rejecting you. I am rejecting staying alive as the biggest dream you could have. have.
Retiring on the moon. Nice. Nice. Retiring on the moon. Not bad.
With the problem, the minor problem, I suppose, that you're without strenuous amounts of exercise, your bones will turn into bone broth.
You will, in fact, have French onion soup in the place of a cartilage.
So that may not be super ideal.
Although you certainly could. You could play basketball on the moon if you were retired. What is it, one-sixth the gravity on Earth?
A new method of propulsion. Big.
Totally vague. But that's big. I'll accept that. Spread peaceful parenting to the world. Make a billion dollars.
Write multiple best-selling books. Working on two right now.
Ari, that's the kind of stuff we're talking about.
That's the kind of stuff we're talking about.

[24:34] Somebody says, this is a quote, I don't know what the hashtag goes, I need to rearrange my life where I wake up in the morning, drink a cup of black coffee, sit on my mahogany wood desk, and spend the entire morning writing with purpose.
After a quick lunch, I spend the rest of the afternoon surfing the Pacific Ocean.
That's a wee bit of I, me, me, I. A little bit of I, me, me, I, but all right.
Yes, I have a couple of health issues that have gotten me into trouble. Right.
But you still have to have a bigger goal. I got to tell you, goals are great for health.

[25:12] Goals are great for health. I think goals are one of the foundational things that keeps your health cooking or has you recover from ailments.
Just my nonsense opinion, of course, right? I'm not a doctor, right? But I think goals are essential to health.
Because there's that big question. I must live.
And the other question is, for what? For what? Why? Why? Why? Why?
So as far as health issues go, my particular advice, not that it's any kind of medical advice, it's just like a little philosophical thing is get yourself some big ass goals and then you will have health in order to in health in order to building a local gun range and teaching teaching marksmanship skills to locals annette who has uh the the girliest dream which i fully respect and appreciate mindfulness nature retreat center grow your own food annette i would like to introduce introduce you to cold blue who has the exact opposite and the manliest goal uh local gun rage teaching people how to shoot stuff so i don't don't build next to each other that's sort of my, particular thought don't build uh next to each other all right that's just probably the mindfulness and the gun range may not be super compatible just just as a thought.

[26:33] All right oh my gosh, Let's see here.

The Power of Big Dreams: Crushing Societal Expectations

[26:44] Uh, unless you have cancer. Well, I had cancer, and one of the things I believe that helped me get better was having a massive purpose in my life.
I would love to have a guitar company. Oh, wait, you make guitars? All right.
Make the sieve a reality. Oh, yeah, for my novel, The Future. Yeah, yeah.
Any tips to identify if your dream is too small? all so um one of the ways that you can tell if your dreams are too small is the facial expressions of those you tell it to so if your facial express if the facial expressions of the people you tell your dreams to are not like what if it's not vague alarm and a scurrying of the mental hamsters to the lemming edge cliff of nothingness if it's not like slowly back it away if it's not like what the the hell uh if it's not like uh or you know when i was a kid that supertrank song a dreamer you're nothing but a dreamer right so that was the you'd say that to anybody with big dreams right because, most of society is about crushing your dreams right uh it's improbable it's extraordinary it's ridiculous it's stupid it's you know uh you're a dreamer.

[27:59] And most of society is about crushing your dreams because those in charge don't want people with big dreams because big dreams change things, right?
Do you know the story of the guy who first invented plastic?
Do you know the story of the guy who first invented plastic?
You wouldn't actually, you wouldn't believe when this happened.
Like you literally wouldn't believe when this happened.
The mindfulness retreat next to a gun range is a brilliant idea.
Yeah, you know, just in case the mindfulness, like, doesn't work.
You just learn how to shoot stuff.
I guess asking that girl out isn't that big a deal after all.
Oh, it's the same thing, brother. It's the same thing.
If you ask the girl out and you ask her out to join you on your big dream journey, that's cool.
That's exciting. Otherwise, you're just another dude.

[29:06] Hey, I'm a ballsack with vague opinions. Want to join me on my life journey? Where's it going?
Um, well, sometimes from the gaming chair to the toilet and back, and occasionally to wherever I left my cell phone so I can order some DoorDash, and then to the couch a little bit.
Want to join me on my life journey as I family circus-style scurry around the apartment from amenity to couch to chair to toilet? it.
And, uh, yeah, you know, I mean, once a week I'll jump in the shower, whether I need it or not. Uh, that's my life journey.
No, you want to draw a woman in to an exciting and adventurous and full of success and failure life.

[29:53] Joyful catastrophe.
I mean, death wins. Eventually the question is how much do you win before that?
So you're asking a girl out, you're asking her to join you. join me, join me, join me on my life journey. Okay, what's your life journey?
What are you inviting her on, right?
I mean, if you're an adventurous soul and in the park there's a little toddler train that just goes round and round the playground, do you want to get on?
No, no you don't. So you want to have a nice, big, exciting life journey so that you can say to the woman, join me on my life journey. This was my tip.
I can't remember if I've ever said it before.
But my tip for asking girls out, it's quite simple. It's quite simple.
You don't say, would you?

[30:48] You don't say, would you like to go for dinner on Friday?
You don't say that. I don't think I ever said that when I was asking girls out back in the day.
You don't say that. You don't say, would you like to go to see a movie on Saturday?
Would you like to get together on Saturday? No, no, no, no.
You tell her what you're doing. And ladies, you know exactly what I'm talking about. It's going to make you twinkle.
You say, here's what I'm doing. Would you like to join me?
I'm going to see the movie. I'm going to see this movie on Friday night.
Would you like to join me?
I'm going to go eat at this restaurant on Saturday night. Love it if you would come along.
So you're in motion, you're doing stuff, and she's welcome. You would like it if she would join you, because that's life, right?
If you say, would you like to go to dinner on Friday, or would you like to get together on Friday, you're saying you're not doing anything, but her participation will spark you to do something, and a woman finds it most attractive when the man is already in motion and she can join along.

[31:54] I'm going okay but don't say I'm going to a mindfulness and nature retreat center, would you like to come along, maybe not that might be a bit girly that might be a bit girly so no you you ask women to come along and join you on your exciting life journey you don't say let's stare at each other and I'll do something if you want to do something and yeah, All right.
Let's get to your comments. Let's get to your comments, my friends.
That's great advice. You are also leading and she will like that.
Yeah, for sure. For sure.

[32:34] All right, so you don't know the story of the plastic guy? You don't?
Somebody says, I joined the BC Writers Federation. Ooh, time travel.
And started participating in writing circles that helped to inspire confidence in my writing and I learned new skills regularly.
Writing for what? Writing for what?
We might need protection, says Annette. Bring me the gun-raising guy. We need protection.
Your watermelon's going to turn on you. God, I hate it when that happens.
Uh, Sapanta says, I used to have ambitions to build a large company and write the greatest books on love, self-knowledge, and philosophy, even start my own philosophy show.
Although over the years I can't help but feel these ideas are crushed within me. Getting a wife and friends seems hard enough.
Oh my gosh.
Oh man. You understand that getting the wife and friends is subsequent to writing books on love, self-knowledge, and philosophy.
Are you saying, well, I'll show how passionately devoted I am to philosophy after I get my wife and friends.
How are you going to get your wife and friends if you're falsifying your own existence?
The world is set up to grind you down, but that's why you consistently realign to big goals and dreams.

[33:57] Oh, yeah. You're doing something, would you like to come along?
To completely stop child trafficking and people abusing children.
Fantastic. Now that's a dream.
I also have a business that I manage, but I wouldn't call it my greatest dream since it's a means to an end rather than an end in itself. So what's the end?
What's the end?

[34:18] What are you living for? What is the purpose of your life? Consume means and Doritos.

The Story of the Plastics Guy in Ancient Rome

[34:24] All right. So the story of the plastics guy goes something like this.
It's actually in ancient Rome. So in ancient Rome, somebody invented polymers, they invented plastics, they figured out how to do that.
And they were so excited by this, they got an audience with the emperor.
I don't remember which one it was. You can look it up. So they got an audience with the emperor.
And he said, look, I have this bowl. It's wild. You can drop it and it won't break and it won't even really dent.
So the emperor smashed it, threw it, and it got dented and the guy said, hey, give me a candle, I'll warm it up. He popped it back out and he's like, look at that.
Isn't this the most incredible thing? This is going to change everything because we're using all of this silver and copper and gold for all of our bowls and this can replace it. You can drop it, it won't break.
You can fix it, easy, it lasts forever. Easy to wash.
This is incredible.

[35:19] The roman empire thought for a moment and he's like ah oh wow that is that is really that is going to change everything let me let me ask you something does does anyone else i mean do you have a monopoly on this does anyone else know how to build this now i gotta tell you guys if you are ever confronted by a roman empire with world changing you are in possession of world changing knowledge, and he asks you, hey, does anybody else know this?
Say, oh, I've told it to a million people. Absolutely. Have a dead man switch or something.

[35:53] Because when the man proudly said, I am the only one who knows of the construction of this new plastic, the Roman emperor was like, man, I'm sorry, bro. I've got to be a downer here.
That's a shame, really.
I mean, don't get me wrong. World-changing stuff. It's fantastic stuff.
I feel like it's magic. It's a magical substance. You might as well be a sorcerer.
But guards, take him out and behead him.
Yeah. Sorry, man. I don't mean to be anti-shark tank guy, but not only am I not going to invest, I'm going to take the knowledge that you have in your head and I'm going to separate it from your body and I'm going to throw it in the Tiber.
So why? Why did he behead the guy who invented plastics?
Why did the Roman emperor behead the guy who invented plastics?

[36:57] Why? Why did he do that?
Let's see here. Woman says, There have been plenty of boring men.
Excuse me, I've dropped because they don't have anything interesting going on.
I was striving for the next goal, except for the next video game. Yeah. Yeah.
Well, my morning off to a rough start. Lost my bus pass mid-trip, nothing open. and to load a spare before top of the hour. Big oof. I'm sorry about that.
I once went on vacation. It was an all-you-can-drink vacation, and the very first day of the vacation, somebody stole my all-you-can-drink card out of my sneakers on the beach, and I had a lot of water on that vacation.
Yes, dear God, A woman wants a man in motion. Yes, that's right. That's right.
Create a general homestead to give my kids and family a safe and generational place to weather the hardships of the future.

The Roman Emperor's Fear of Losing Value and Power

[38:17] So, in threat to his power, maintain status quo. Yes, but why?
Why in particular? Why did he make that connection?
Why did the emperor make that connection? Well, what the emperor said when his advisor said, why the hell did you put that guy to death?
The emperor said, well, this plastic would replace a lot of gold and silver bowls, which would lower the demand for gold and silver, which would deplete the value of our treasury.
Because you wouldn't have all of the knives or you wouldn't have all of the bowls and other things that this stuff would replace they wouldn't have any demand or they wouldn't have as much demand anymore for gold and silver which would lower the demand for gold and silver which would reduce the value of our gold and silver that we have stolen from everyone and hoard as the the government.
So that's why he did what he did.

[39:14] So, I mean, this is one of the reasons why progress is so hard, right?
Progress is so hard because we have coercive institutions that all rely on the existing configuration of society.
And anyone who comes along to change the existing and configuration of society is reallocating hundreds of billions or trillions of dollars that currently people like flowing where it flows.
It's like, you want to think of society like there's this stream, or this massive stream, or this small river or something, and everyone builds their farms downstream, so they can get all the water and irrigation and their whole wealth and everything is built up, and their status and their family and how they feed there.
It's all built up on the tributaries of this river, right? I'm not taking Mississippi.
And if you ever look at a map of the U.S.
With the overlay of Mississippi, you can see just how incredible the Mississippi is to the fertility of the United States and the success of its economy.
But everybody's built their ancestral farms farms on the basis of this river.
And then what you do is you go upstream and you're changing the flow of the river. You're sending it in a totally different direction.

[40:37] And it's crazy, right? Now, maybe you're changing the direction of the river so that you can produce electricity for the whole country.
I don't know, like whatever you, that's going to be beneficial, but, but they're like, my, my farm is drying up, man. The river is, I built my whole farm because this is where the the river is.
You change the flow of the river, which is progress in society, everybody freaks out.
Now, all the people who are going to benefit from having electricity, they're months or years down the road, but all the people who are harmed right away go completely insane, hunt you through the streets, and try to get you killed.
Progress is very, very tough.

[41:18] I'm trying to make a show that would carry the torch when Steph is long of the tooth as a worthy goal.
Don't, no, no, don't, don't take over from me. Compete with me. Compete with me.
I mean, I'm pretty good at what I do. Do you know how much better I would be if there was competition breathing down my neck?
I mean, I think the show's improved since deplatforming because I've got a challenge.
Tell you what The Roman Empire was right to execute that guy No microplastic contamination for a thousand years The Roman Emperor Was right to execute that guy.

[42:04] Yes, because lord knows Murdering entrepreneurs is exactly the way To sustain a civilization So you have no problem problem with the fascist murdering entrepreneurs. Excellent. Excellent.
You know, the fall of the Roman Empire had a lot to do with, I don't know, say, the Black Death, right?
Because you lost all your plumbing and you lost a lot of your roads and you lost the structure of the empire.
So, I don't know, tens of millions of people died.
I mean, the Black Death wiped out, I know it was like 800 years after the fall of Rome, but these things are not unrelated, so the Black Death wiped out a third of Europeans, one of the greatest slaughters in death events in human history.
And you're like, but there were no microplastics.
Because if the Roman Empire hadn't executed entrepreneurs, then we could have had freedom a thousand years before we did.
Right? Because entrepreneurs would make slaves redundant. That's what entrepreneurs do, is they make forced labor redundant.

The Potential of an Earlier Industrial Revolution

[43:14] So you would have had an Industrial Revolution back then, and slavery would have ended more than a thousand years before it did, and we could have had an Industrial Revolution in the 4th century AD, or 3rd, for that matter.
So, you gotta go with principle here, that murdering entrepreneurs is never okay.
You minor psycho. Sorry. I know you're probably being hyperbolic, but nonetheless, right?
Threat to his power yeah so, he will put pottery makers out of business yeah, uh somebody says steph i really want to thank you for all the work you've done i appreciate that thank you i'm in a dire situation in my life right now but returning to philosophy in this trying time has inspired me to come out the other side of this as victorious as possible meaning an intact family for my ex-girlfriend and her child that is only 10 weeks in the womb.
I may not succeed though, because I was not very open about the department of my thinking about the D E P T depth about the depth of my thinking and knowledge.
So I may have scared her off.
I am calling it free domain.com. You're a supporter and I appreciate that.
So calling it free domain.com. You can help me out there.

[44:33] Yeah. Don't, don't, uh, if you've got a show and you think you can do what I do or do better than I do, which would be fantastic. fantastic, start it, debate me, beat me, beat me, baby.
No, like disprove a core argument of mine, disprove something that I've said, debate me and prove me wrong. My gosh, that would be beyond delicious.
That would be beyond delightful. That would be on the lovely, the lovely, particularly if you disprove some of the more controversial stuff that I got deplatformed for, that would be excellent because then I could just apologize and return to the world, right?
Because I wouldn't want to maintain beliefs that were false, particularly if those quote, false beliefs have caused a lot of loss of reach.
Yeah, man, dude, please, please, I'm begging you. You know that runners run faster when someone's competing with them right there, right?
Like, you know that, right? That's a thing.
That's a thing. So, yes, please do. Don't wait till I'm fading. Don't wait.
Do it now! Make me better, make us better, improve philosophy.

[45:46] Steph, wouldn't being better than you put us in danger? No, not necessarily.
I mean, we all know the topics you can talk about and can't talk about.
So, I don't think that would be putting in danger.
Because if it was about ethics or peaceful parenting or morals or virtue or something like that, that'd be all right. That'd be aight.
That'd be aight.

[46:12] I can't forgive the Romans for burning down the library of Alexandria.
I hear, I mean, I do occasionally get those pangs, but I guarantee you there was nothing in the library of Alexandria that was about a stateless society, absolute property rights or peaceful parenting.
So probably nothing of particular value was lost.
Imagine if Satoshi had told the Fed, I'm the only one who knows how to make Bitcoin.
Yes, instead Satoshi told everyone. Yes, that's right. That's right.

[46:46] Could it be that he bruised the emperor's ego by claiming he could change the world while the emperor thought that was his role? No!
Come on, come on, you guys got to think this stuff through.
So, if this guy had come to the emperor with gunpowder, would the emperor have said, oh, well, that's bruising my, you know, he would have been like, great, now I can blow up my enemies from further away.
It's going to totally, gunpowder totally changed the world, as did the musket. it.
So no, if he'd come with a weapon of mass destruction at the time, the emperor would have been totally happy about that. So it's not about changing the world and the emperor's ego.
No, it's just the harm to the emperor's interest, right?
Helps to have 20 or more years in philosophy, so you have the practice in to begin to innovate.
But my friend, my Steve. Oh boy.
You know, making the first pill is tough. Making the second pill is easy.
If I've barreled my way through a bunch of obstacles, then you guys can absolutely overtake me, if you want.
You get that, you know, the Newton thing, if I've seen further, it's because I stood on the shoulders of giants.
So let's say I've solved a bunch of problems, you guys can then completely overtake me.
Oh.

[48:00] You know, it's Control-C, Control-V, right?
Gray's keys to success, Control-C, Control-V. Control-X.
So, no, the fact that I've bush-macked my way through a bunch of obstacles, I've cleared a path.
You know, the first guy to go through the bushes with a machete goes pretty slow. The second guy can go totally fast.
So the idea that you have to have the same level of experience that I do in philosophy in order to make progress is crazy. Sorry, that's lazy.
Ah.

[48:41] Compete with me is such an encouraging, such encouraging advice.
Well, don't, don't just compete with me, like do better than me.
Excel, excel, do better.
I would love it if I could really look up to someone in the intellectual realm. I'd love it.
The U.S. is acting like the Roman Empire by attacking entrepreneurs like Elon. on.
Well, you know, those who claim to be the big benefactors of mankind are always enraged at entrepreneurs who actually do good for people.

Producing New ideas and Arguments Every Show

[49:30] All right, let me just get...
Let me see here. And if I have no fundamental disagreements to debate on?
All right. Let me ask you this. Let me ask you this, my friends.
Do I do or do I communicate new ideas and arguments every show? Every show.
Do I communicate new ideas and arguments every show? show.
If you say yes, that's fine. If you say no, that's fine.
I just want to, right? I just want to, I think I do. I mean, that's why I keep doing these shows because I'm not retreading old things.
I'm not using old ideas. I'm not using old books.
Like the questions that I've answered today are questions that I haven't answered before with new ideas, new arguments, new perspectives, and hopefully new value.
So do I, and you know, maybe once in a blue moon, it's all kind of over and over right but do i produce new ideas and arguments not every show but regularly i i personally i can't think of one where i haven't broken new ground in my mind that doesn't mean i know that 100 but i'm doing the truth about sadism at the moment that's all pretty new did the truth about the french revolution uh where i brought child abuse to the center of that which which has never been done before to my knowledge.

[50:56] So yeah, most of the time, let's say most of the time, right?
And I'm not saying every single moment of every show.
What I'm saying is that over the course of like a two hour show, do I produce new arguments, new evidence, new ideas, right?
I'm not saying every time I open my mouth is there something new because when we were making jokes about coffee enemas on Friday, I don't know that that's massive to philosophy, although it is quite a lot of fun.
But over the course of a show, I usually, I can't think of a show where I haven't produced some new idea or argument or perspective this is true in the call-in shows as well it's why I keep doing the call-in shows because it's not just the same thing I don't know how Dr.
Phil and people like that do the thing over and over and over again and this is why I think people keep listening this is why you're here because it's not the same old same old it's something new so, if you say you have no fundamental disagreements with me, That doesn't mean that philosophy can't be advanced.

[51:59] You can't have fundamental disagreements with reason and evidence, because that's the core of philosophy and everything else is nonsense and lies, right?
So, if you have no fundamental disagreements to debate on, then move ahead in another direction. Move ahead in another direction.
Michael says, I sent a comment with a $40 tip. I appreciate that. Let me have a look here.
I don't know that.
Let me see here. I don't know if the coins thing works the same way.
I don't think I get to see those.
Let me just see this.

[52:59] Yeah i don't i coins i don't think the coins show up i don't know why i think they should but they don't show up so you can just type your question and i'd be happy to take it, you don't have to donate to get your question answered it's just you'll get if you do donate you get your questions answers with my nipples slightly harder that's all so i'm just little little pointy little pointy things down here little icebreakers i get to drill my way through glaciers slowly by spinning cartwheels and scratching like a skater on ice.
So yeah, it's, it's same answers, but just slightly harder nipples.
That's it. So that's what the donations are for.
Dave says, one of my first bosses wanted us to replace him. He saw it as his responsibility to teach me and also for him to continue to rise and get better himself.
He was a headfield guy on a skyscraper. Yeah. Yeah.
If you're not training your replacement, in business, if you're not training your replacement, you're stagnating.
In two years, people in FDR have 20 years of modern philosophy.
You aren't stuck with 2,000-year-old writings.

[54:08] Can you talk more about not being in danger by talking about philosophy in a more effective way than you?
You once said, are there any public philosophers who aren't fighting one evil while appeasing another one? Did I say that?
Maybe the answer is for me to figure out, like anonymous posting or something.
Yeah, I can't tell you how to do philosophy.
All right.
You blow away the status intellectual significantly.
Well, I'll tell you this. I'll tell you this.
I'll tell you this.

The Role of Coercion in Society and Carl Sagan's Error

[54:47] Oh, so Carl Sagan did once ask us to imagine a world where the knowledge of the ancient world was not lost for a thousand years.
We might have ships flying to the stars and ships whose names were in Greek.
But would they have been advanced enough to adopt UPB, I wonder, had the Library of Alexandria not burned, being the what-if question he asked us to imagine.
Oh, Carl Sagan was completely wrong about that. I'm sorry, because, you know, he's obviously a great scientist and all of that.
And billions and billions, billions upon billions, engaging a public intellectual.
Sure but that's not how society works society works that you get a significant amount of economic freedom and you generate a huge amount of wealth and then the state takes that wealth and uses it to bribe other people and so success is failure this is the argument from my novel the future that roman makes success is failure, success is failure.

[55:44] The government scoops up wealth and uses it to bribe people and then eventually uses it to bribe people to come into your society and then you fragment and all that right you know all of this right so the idea that well if we just if we just hadn't lost all that knowledge we'd just be infinitely better off like he he does not understand the role of coercion in society he just he did not understand it he was a privileged guy who lived far away from that kind of stuff and, And he was, uh, he was just, he was a woke ass son of a bitch.
He really was. He really was.

[56:24] All right.

[56:31] Let me get to your question here.
I have a question that no one asks that literally keeps me awake at night.
In plus, all right? I don't know what in plus means. I dreamed three times that I met Steph and asked him for an explanation, but each time I couldn't articulate my problem.

[56:47] Problem, can you describe person slash character deprived of needs?
I don't know what that means. I don't know, I'm deprived of his needs, deprived of what he does need, I'm sorry because I know that but write it in your native tongue and then ask for a translation, right, write it in your native tongue ask for a translation, maybe that will help, oh, does he go on, does he go on is that the same guy, okay, let's see here okay, sorry, there is more explanation, I didn't see that, I'm zoomed in because I have all glasses on so that I don't look too goggle-eyed for your fine selves, he goes on to say Say, if you take away a person's compassion, you'll get a sociopath.
If you take away a person's fillings, you'll get Leonard Nimoy.
If you make a synthetic person, you'll end up with Brent Spiner, Arnold Schwarzenegger, Ryan Gosling, Blade Runner.
But what happens with a person's psyche personality without a feeling of hunger, a feeling of tiredness, a feeling of thermal comfort, lust, etc.?
Why on earth? I'm sorry, I'm a little confused about why on earth But this would be an interesting question, right?
What do you get if you take away everything that makes a human a human?

[57:57] How could you take, like, are you saying a person in a coma? I don't understand.
How would you erase something like hunger or tiredness or discomfort from the cold?
So if you take away a human being's entire sense apparatus, is that what you mean? what would happen to the human being if you took away.

[58:21] Every sensation or sense?
I don't understand. How would that occur? Why would it matter?
Because you get death if you take away a human's sense apparatus.
Well, I mean, technically you could have leprosy where you can't feel anything in your extremities and you do a VSA, visual search of extremities, and you make sure you haven't bruised or cut yourself.
So you can kind of stagger along in these kinds of ways. but this is a question that you're obsessed about because it's masking an emotional issue, right?
You are concerned about your soul freezing over, right?
So you are concerned about the loss of sensation that you're experiencing because of maybe creeping coldness, creeping cruelty, a feeling of dissociation.
You probably have been extremely harmed by parents.

[59:22] And their demand is that you not have emotional or sense-based responses and so you have abandoned your emotions or rejected your emotions and your senses and you're concerned about that but it's masking itself as an abstract question.
So, I know if you're not a native English speaker then the, it's interesting because it would be kind of interesting to do this translate on some social media platform that you can translate right away, but that would be a little confusing, I suppose.
I'm sure it would work, but it's tough to translate call-in shows.
All right, a question. I have a unique question that I'm curious on your perspective.

[1:00:08] What rights are intellectual deficit individuals, severe Down syndrome, autistic individuals entitled to? I have sympathy because of my own family situation.
No real stance, but just curious on how society should treat or help these individuals.

Society: A Concept or a Reality?

[1:00:27] I don't understand what you mean how society should treat. What do you mean by society? I'm sorry, I don't mean to sound obtuse.
I don't mean to sound obtuse, but I'm not sure what you mean by society.
Society doesn't treat anyone. Society doesn't exist. Society is just a concept, right?
Like if I said to you, I want you to go and get me some wood from the forest, but don't touch any trees or anything that has wood.
Society doesn't act society doesn't choose society doesn't help anyone society doesn't exist it is an abstract concept, now you can say what happens to people who through no fault of their own cannot survive on their own is that sort of your question?
What happens to people, you know, if you have an intellectual deficit.
Now, if you have an intellectual deficit because you became schizophrenic by smoking marijuana, well, that's a different matter, right? That's a different matter.
I think if your question is, what would happen to people who, through no fault of their own, have an inability to survive on their own choice and will? Is that what you mean?

[1:01:54] I'm not sure what, I just want to make sure I understand. Because I'm not going to answer any of this from a status perspective.
So the issues that I say, what rights are intellectual deficit individuals entitled to?
I also don't know what you mean by rights.
I don't know.
Smoking herb in many sessions makes you healthy.
Okay. I don't know what's going on there, but I don't think that's necessarily not true.
They can't benefit monetarily, but other ways may be.
It's complicated, clearly. No, no, it's not. Non-aggression principle is not complicated at all.
Complication is exploitation in matters of morality. Complication is always exploitation in matters of morality.
They don't have the right to initiate the use of force, even with their intellectual deficits. They may not be morally responsible, but they don't have the right to do it, obviously.
But no, when people say this moral question is complicated, they just have one hand in my pocket and not in the way that I like.

[1:03:10] So, society doesn't want people who have, I'm sorry, here I am talking about society.
I know it's a little invidious. Yes. All right. So most people don't want to see intellectually handicapped people wandering around the streets in the cold, right? I mean, that's no good.
That's no good. So the way that it would work, of course, in a free society is that there is always a risk of having a child with significant health issues due to genetics or maybe a difficult birth and so on, right?

[1:03:45] So, parents, when you get pregnant, there would be, of course, genetic testing, there would be testing for genetic compatibility, there would be genetic tests and so on, which would minimize the possibility of giving birth to a severely handicapped child.
But, of course, people would still have, that would still happen, it would be rare, but it could happen, it would happen. So what would happen, of course, is that you would take out insurance, right?
So when you get married or when you decide to start having kids, then you would take up insurance, which would say, okay, if I give birth to a child who can't take care of himself for whatever reason, or, you know, I mean, I knew a family where one of their children got meningitis.
I think it was meningitis, and it just ate away a good portion of her brain, and she was never able to take care of herself.
So these are things that happen in life, and it's really tragic, and it's really awful.
And so you have insurance for that. And if such a thing comes to pass, then the insurance company takes care of the child.

[1:04:58] Do strangers have an obligation to take care of mentally challenged people?

Obligation vs. Charity in Helping Mentally Challenged People

[1:05:02] I don't know what you mean by obligation. Sorry, I don't know what you mean by obligation.
You have the non-aggression principle you have property rights i don't know what you mean by obligation an obligation would be a contract you voluntarily sign right like if you sign up for a cell phone service you're obligated to pay that because you signed the contract so i don't know what you mean about obligation yeah you gotta unpack these words for me brother sky just use these things like we know what we're talking about never assume that anybody knows what they're talking about because the language of morality has become so murked up by sophists that i always was to see you that nobody knows what they're talking about in terms of the defining of terms, right so you you would have insurance for these kinds of issues and the insurance company would then be responsible for taking care of the handicapped person and that's the way that it would work and then of course you know everybody does the same thing which is oh yes but what if they don't have insurance and what if they die and what if the insurance company goes out of business and what if they're bankrupt well if you care about as i think everybody reasonable reasonably every person would if you care about handicapped people then you will help them.

[1:06:18] Right you will help them so everybody will be fine what if people don't care, right so uh that's what about well it needs to be certain it can't rely on charity well the idea that state welfare is not is certain it's completely bizarre to me like that's that's the most unstable and uncertain thing around because that stuff doesn't last.

[1:06:51] So, yeah, people will help. So let me tell you something. I made this case before, but it's been a long time.
So if you had, instead of an average wage of, say, $40,000 a year, if you had a quarter million dollars a year, you'd have a lot more money to help people out.
So if the Federal Registry, the rules and regulations for business, If the Federal Registry had remained as big and complex as it was after the Second World War, and it wasn't tiny, but it wasn't massive, then economic growth would have been two to three points more every year.
This has been very well studied.

[1:07:37] If economic growth from the second world war onwards had been two to three percent higher people would have real wages of 250 to 300 000 dollars by now which would be more than enough to take care of every poor person who was not poor by their own choice right the people who become poor by their own choice it's complicated that's complicated right and it's not morally complicated because nobody has the right to initiate force or violate property rights But it's complicated because people, like dysfunctional people, are really hard to help, right?

Helping Dysfunctional Individuals and the Homeless

[1:08:11] Every ass clown with an opinion is like, well, you just need to create shelters for the homeless. It's like the homeless already have shelters.
The homeless already have the welfare state. The homeless already have, like I waded into the whole homeless environment when I did my documentary series in California.
Went and interviewed a bunch of people and talked to them, talked to social workers and so on. They all have housing.
They all have what they need, right? It's really hard to help people who are messed up. It's really hard to help people who are drug addicts.
It's really hard to help people who have massive schizophrenia issues or psychosis or whatever. It's really hard to help them.

[1:08:48] So prevention is almost always the better part of cure when it comes to this kind of stuff.
Why is it possible to feel heartbroken over an immoral person?
You often say love is a response to virtue, yet sometimes people feel like they're in love with people who are not virtuous. How do you break that spell?
Right.
You're not heartbroken. You're just falling into the giant well of self-pity self-pity manufactured by immoral people to draw resources in like a black hole.
That's all. It's just self-pity. It's just self-pity.
It's just self-pity.
I remember I knew once many years ago, a woman who was kind of mean, kind of selfish, kind of volatile, and the wells of self-pity she had would reach down to the center of the earth.
She once muttered, I'm so lonely, I'm so alone, like this was some bad thing.
It's like, well, but you're kind of mean to people.
So of course you're going to be lonely and alone, but the self-pity stuff, right?

[1:10:06] Uh self-pity is just the mimicking of a genuine victim in order to victimize others right self-pity is the mimicking of a genuine victim in order to victimize others, right i mean it's literally like that the people who pretend that their car's broken down like this is not the case with cell phones as much anymore but back in the past people would pretend their car's broken down so that somebody would stop and help them so they could rob that person right, They pretend to be in a hard place so that they can rob others.
They're exploiting sympathy.
You see, I understand, sympathy is a big giant resource that draws predators.
Sympathy is one of the most volatile and dangerous substances in the known universe. us.
Because sympathy is a massive wellspring of potential resources that draws those who mimic vikingdomhood in order to exploit sympathy.

[1:11:14] People with a lot of sympathy should be as cautious as those wearing million-dollar watches going through the worst neighborhoods known to a man.
Or, I don't know, women roaming the third world for fun and pleasure.
Like, when you have sympathy for people, the level of strictness you need to have in order to not be exploited is foundational.
It's elemental how much discipline you need to have.
Breaking your new ground, yeah.

[1:11:50] Excessive sympathy is like throwing massive amounts of meat and fruit into a jungle.
What happens if you throw massive amounts of meat and fruit into the jungle?
All the creatures come to feed.

Sympathy as a Manipulation

[1:12:10] I actually think that sympathy didn't evolve. It was created and harvested like crops, like livestock, right? So, sympathy was something inflicted on humanity by evildoers so that they could, avoid the inevitable consequences of their own wrongdoing.
I don't view sympathy as something that organically grew.
I view it as a crop that was planted in the hearts of people in order to a harvest. Them.

[1:12:47] Sympathy is the scar tissue of threat, right? So we all know what happens with immoral people when they demand sympathy from you, right?
When they pretend to be victims and they demand sympathy, what happens if you hesitate in the provision of sympathy to immoral people?

[1:13:11] This we all know if we've been through this situation, and I'm very sorry that if you have, right? Right.
So from my own experience, my mother, of course, claimed to be a victim of the medical establishment and they poisoned her.
And that's why she did, quote, bad things. And it wasn't her fault and so on. Right.
So she demanded sympathy as a person who had had an illness inflicted on them by malevolent outsiders.
Right. And if you even question this a tiny bit, what happened?
Rage. Right. Rage. Rage. Rage. Right.
So a sympathy is something we have to fake so we don't get attacked.
Sympathy is not something that organically grew up in humanity.
Sympathy is a lie we have to participate in. For the most part, there are exceptions for sure.
But sympathy, quote, compassion, this is all a lie that we have to participate in in order to not get attacked, right?
Sympathy is the feeling we get when somebody says, hey man, I'm taking resources from you.
I'm getting resources from you. Now we can do this the nice way or we can do this the nasty way.
The nice way is I pretend to be a victim him, and you pretend to have sympathy for me, and then you give me shit.
The nasty way is, I'll scream, abuse, rob you blind, smash your reputation, and sift through the wreckage and take what the fuck I want.
It's the nice way or the nasty way, right?

[1:14:32] Sympathy is, well, let's just pretend we're doing it the nice way.
Let's just pretend we're doing it the nice way.

[1:14:41] We can do this the easy way or the hard way.
And sympathy is when we say, okay, I'll go along with this narrative of victimhood and I'll just give you stuff and that way you won't attack me.
It's just scar tissue from threats. It's just scar tissue from threats.
Tell me if I'm wrong, tell me. I'm certainly happy to hear if I'm wrong, but that is how it plays out in every situation I've, ever seen. You are so valuable, Steph. Thank you so much for all you do.
I appreciate that. Thank you very much.
Bjorn, Bjorn Free. Damn, this is why I'm here.
Right.
Now, do you know why this is such an essential?
So I was so good with English for a while there. Yeah, I had a pretty good run for 18 years. Now it's all just strong.

[1:15:47] All right. Again, feel free to ignore me. Thank you for telling me something I already know.
For the people who don't have insurance, what should they do now for the people that have intellectual disabilities? ability.
Thankfully, I don't have to deal with this, but if someone were to find themselves in the situation, should they simply have to depend on local charities and churches?
Sorry if I soured the stream.
Why are you being so self-critical? You can ask whatever the hell you want.
I invite questions. Look, I'm really, really sorry, but here's a question.
Please come and eat at my restaurant. Look, I'm really, really sorry, but I'm hungry and I want to eat at your restaurant. Is that okay?
Dude, when you fulfill other people's requests, you don't need to apologize. Life 101.
I'd really like you to ask me to dance.

[1:16:37] Not I'm really sorry to ask you to dance, but, man, I mean, I'm laughing, but I'm really sorry that this happened to you as a child.
Damn, I was going somewhere too and I lost it.
Trying to keep the stream upbeat sorry what was the rule about keeping the stream upbeat i don't understand that, i don't understand why there's a rule about keeping the stream upbeat, Yeah, I don't want you to try and manipulate me by imagining what I want, please.
I never said I want upbeat questions. I never said I want this.
I just said if you have questions, issues, or problems.
So I'm not sure why you would be attacking yourself for fulfilling what I have openly requested.
Now, you can make up things like, well, it's got to be an upbeat stream.
Hey, I didn't say that. So what's happening is you're trying to live my side of the relationship for me, which is really annoying, frankly.
It's really annoying because it's really manipulative. right?

Why is sympathy so dangerous?

[1:17:43] Why is sympathy so dangerous?
I was talking about sympathy as a manipulation. Why is sympathy so dangerous?
Didn't I just make that case for like five minutes straight?

[1:18:00] Did you go to the washroom? Did you lose consciousness for a few minutes?
I don't and understand why you would ask me when I just made the case about why sympathy is so dangerous.
I just made that whole case with analogies and arguments and syllogisms.
My own perspective. Ignore me for today. Thanks.
Don't tell me what to do. That's rude. You're being rude. You're being rude.
Don't tell me to ignore you.
I mean, you can tell me. I'm not offended. It's just rude. Dude, don't tell me what to do.
Don't tell me what to do. And don't, you know, don't give me the situations where you ask me a bunch of complicated questions, which is great.
I thank you. I appreciate you for that.
So I don't know why he was like, I'm going to ask you a bunch of questions, which I valuable, which I find valuable and I enjoy answering.
And then you're like, well, ignore me.
Dear, oh dear. Man, your parents did a number on you. Holy crap.
I'm really sorry about that.
Fair enough. Now that's just passive aggressive erasure and oof, oof, oof.

[1:19:17] I mean, I think that there are conditions under which sympathy is valuable, right?
If somebody, you know, they take good care of their health and they get struck with some disease that they couldn't be prevented for whatever reason, right? I think we have sympathy, right?
I think we have sympathy. but if somebody has they don't exercise they eat too much they're just unhealthy as a whole and they get ill they're just, look it's it's what is it what did the what was the what was the judge's drink order just ice just ice justice and just anyway so we have to have a differentiation it's foundational to morality it's foundational to morality we have to have a differentiation between the earned and the unearned, right so you've seen all of these um there was a meme some guy was like my 19 year old girlfriend and i just bought a house what are you doing with your life and then somebody said for 3.99 i looked up who bought the house and it was your dad who bought the house, right oh you've seen those memes like how to become a multi-millionaire by the time you're 30 do this, that, and the other, and then inherit $5 million at the age of 29. This thing says earned and unearned, right?

[1:20:43] Earned and unearned. People who claim virtue for the unearned are exploiters.
People who claim virtue for the unearned are exploiters.
Have I ever said I'm better for being smart?
No, I didn't earn that. IQ is largely genetic, so I didn't earn that.
Have I ever said I'm better because I have blue eyes and a square jaw?
No, I didn't earn any of that. It's just bone structure. Okay, it's true that I chew a lot of gum and did even as a kid, and that probably helped the old jaw thing, but I didn't do it because of that. I just like gum.
And then occasionally I'd wake up with these Gulliver's Travels Lilliputian lashes.
I'd be like literally welded to my, I would fall asleep with gum in my mouth, and I'd wake up strapped, like lashed to my pillow with gum.
And it was all sticky and dry and messy. But, you know.
Can a woman make you a millionaire? Sure, if she's a bad woman, you get married and you're a billionaire to start with. That is certainly true. That is certainly true.

[1:21:49] So, a sympathy is like respect.
You know, like there's this constant mantra. It's like this hypnotic car snake trust in me mantra.
Dr. Phil does it all that. We just treat people with dignity and respect.
I can't do Dr. Phil, but you know, we treat people with dignity and respect.
It's just, you know, treat people the best you can when you first meet them.
And after that, treat them as they treat you.
You can't do better than that. You can't do better than that, mathematically, biologically, in every prisoner scenario that you can possibly ever design.
The strategy is always the same. Treat people the best you can the first time you meet them. After that, treat them as they treat you.

Sympathy as a Scent for Predators

[1:22:34] You need to be very strict with who you give sympathy to because it draws predators towards you, like dumping a bunch of meat and fruit into the jungle.
Yes, I am open for the business of exploitation. exploitation.
I am throwing my wealth wide on the sidewalk.
You see these memes where some guy goes into a bad neighborhood with a clear backpack full of money. How long does he last?
So your generosity marks you with a scent, your sympathy, your pathological altruism. It marks you with a scent that draws predators.
It marks you with a scent that draws predators. You got to mask that that shit you know like you know the resting bitch face that really attractive women have where they just got to be cold and mean in the world because otherwise they get swamped by guys, unless they're with a husband or married or whatever it is right, so you gotta be if you're inwardly kind and these days right if you're inwardly kind and you spray that all over social media, holy crap.
You're just inviting yourself to be exploited.

[1:23:46] Like, you know how there's tagging, right? Like in war, you can tag someone so that the laser can find them. Like you tag them, right?
Or you tag animals so that you can find them later.
You know, there's a whole ecosystem in the world. It's massive.
Billions of people who are just sniffing around for that scent of sympathy.
And then they target it.
And pillage it.
It's brutal having sympathy in the world now in the future you know peaceful parenting and all that we'll have a much easier time having sympathy.

[1:24:33] But sympathy is really brutal and i again i write about this dynamic in my novel, the future i won't talk about it now but you need to pay very close attention to the scene between Oliver and his mother in the last quarter of the book, the scene between Oliver and his mother.
Because in general, what's happened is women have developed excessive empathy and have been restrained by men, right?
So one of the things is that men would generally be in control of physical resources and women, because the men were in control of physical resources, the women could make very strong cases for empathy and the man would end up making the decision finally, right?

[1:25:18] So women could be wildly sympathetic and then they would make the case to the men and the men would figure out where the resources would go but now that women through the power of the state and other things control resources directly they can be as that they don't have any restraints on this pathological altruism and it's only pathological because there's no interference there's no interference there's no block in right you just borrow money print money be nice be kind right there's no there's no restraint now so um the west because there's female control of resources through the state the west has become a giant magnet of pathological altruism to be exploited by the whole world right and we can i mean this is nothing new right.

Realizing the Challenges of Aging and Eating Habits

[1:26:16] All right.
Michal says, I've always been slim, but recently I realized that in my old age, 42, oh my, oh my, I cannot eat whatever I want and as much as I want.
I've been trying not to eat dinner for several months.
When I lie in bed at night hungry, I realize some feelings are not necessary for me.
Well, that's a rather cyst-like self-contained statement. Yes, as you age, you got to cut out food.
As you age, you have to cut out food. It's just the way that it is.
All right.
Lee says, asking this question for me and for others. Who are the others?
Who are the others? I'm not sure what that means. Is that other people in the chat you've been conferring with privately?
Which is totally fine. I just don't know who the others is. this.
It sounds like you're trying to raise the status of your question by pretending, to represent a collective.
I don't know. Asking this question for me and for others.
I, growing up in a dysfunctional family, had less success in romantic relationships.
Been going to therapy and now I'm wondering at what point do you feel like someone like me should start pursuing romantic relationships?
I feel like I'm more and more ready to test the waters, but I'm weary to start a relationship and then be unsuccessful.

[1:27:44] Hmm. It's an interesting question.
Code Blue says, honestly, I'm feeling, I'm fellow anxious being called out by you. Not sure where to go from there.

[1:27:58] Well, if you've kind of been manipulative, instead of just falling into yourself and having this moat of, oh, me, I feel this, I feel that, I'm confused, I don't know.
Just say, hey, look, I'm sorry that I inflicted some historical manipulation on you.
That's all like if you've been manipulative which you know we all do it's not a big deal it's not the end of the world everybody does it you know just got to catch it right so if you have, been a bit manipulative by asking questions and then saying ignore me and so on if you've been a then that's a little rude right and if you tell me what to do with my time and attention that's a little rude so you just say young i'm sorry like the way the way that you stop falling into yourself is you apologize for the effects of your actions and that takes your focus off yourself and and puts it on someone else, which is a relief.
If you're just inward-looking the whole time and you're trapped in this tomb of your own self, it's like just vault out by saying, oh, sorry, you know, like it had an effect on, like, because all you're doing is falling into yourself, which again, I sympathize with, I understand.
But the best way to avoid anxiety is to focus on other people because the anxiety is just you thinking about yourself, right? All right.

[1:29:06] The body language, slumped shoulders, resting disappointment face, lack of eye contact, subtle bow to every person, I see it in myself, and I know a stink of non-discriminating sympathetic donor.
Well, you were just punished for having boundaries, right? You were punished for having boundaries, and a lot of people who were punished for having boundaries and wanting to hold on to their own resources, a lot of people who were punished for that turned it into a virtue, because it's kind of painful to experience it otherwise.

[1:29:33] It's been a while since we've had some tips, and I know I'm providing massive value, so if you could tip, I think it would be a good thing to do.
I think it's a reasonable and right thing to do.
All right. Morning, Calgary here. Wow. The whole city.
Keno says, first time catching you live, Steph. Great. Usually I listen post-live in my car.
Hopefully you're not post-live in your car. Great show. Love it.
I'm a leecher so far, but it's because I have no routine. how to go about donating, and I'm a bit pfft.
Freedomain.com slash donate, you can donate, you can tip, of course, on Rumble, on Locals, you can tip just about everywhere.
But freedomain.com slash donate is a good way, is a good way to do it.
And of course, the other thing too is what used to stop pathological altruism, even if we sort of take the male-female dynamic out of it, what used to stop Our pathological altruism was you'd be spending your own resources.
But when you're spending other people's resources or you're just printing money or you're borrowing money and it's way down the line and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, then there is no limit to the pathology.
It like debt and money printing turns generosity into a tumor, right?
It metastasizes generosity to self-destruction.

[1:31:01] How is this outward expression of sympathy different from how people treat you when you view yourself poorly? Sorry, I don't understand that. If you could rephrase.
All right. I'm going to provide to you maximum value right now.
That is going to hurt a little. Just a little.
But I just need to know if everyone's putting aside their video games, not distracted, by something else, because you kind of need to focus on this.
I am going to provide to you, whether you like it or not, maximum painful value right here, right now.
And just while you tell me if you're ready for this, tell me, I want to make sure you're ready for this.
I will get the question.
I'll get the question again. Asking this question for me and for others.
I, growing up in a dysfunctional family, had less success in romantic relationships.
Been going to therapy, and now I'm.

[1:32:07] I can tell you not only when you're ready to be in a relationship, but I can tell you, how you know whether it will succeed. seed.
Haven't been completely focused as I've been drafting a speech to my ex's parents, but I'm ready, sir. Really?
So you're listening to some of the most complex and challenging philosophy and also drafting a speech to your ex's parents. Wow.
That's three-headed levels of ADHD.

The potential to change your life forever

[1:32:59] I'm not sure whether to talk about this in the abstract or in the immediate in terms of what I do in these live streams.
So let me just figure out the best way to approach this.
Because if I can get this across, your life will change forever.
If I can get this across right.
But it's a tough aim. It's a tough aim.
It's a tough aim.
Is this a vote IA? I don't know what that means.

[1:33:54] Maybe try it both ways to get it across, Alright, let me, let me We'll start with the live stream We'll start with the live stream And then we'll try it another way I think you're right Joe, thank you for the tip, Are these live streams for me? or for you? Let me ask you that.
Are these live streams for me or for you? And both is not an answer.
Let's say that both is not an answer. Why do I do these live streams?
Are they for me or are they for you?

[1:34:34] You're all just answering both even when I said that both is not an answer.
The live streams are about me trying to provide maximum value to the questions that you ask.
The live streams are about me trying to find a way to provide maximum value to the questions that you ask.
So the live streams are for your benefit.
Now, I'm not saying they come at my expense. Well, they certainly do to some degree in that I could be doing other things. but the live streams are there to benefit you.
Now, one of the ways that I benefit you is to request reciprocity.
Do you understand? Like if I was just sacrificing and here's my time and I don't even really enjoy doing these, but it's good for you and it helps you, then I would be teaching you to have a one-sided relationship, right? To take.
I would be training you in exploitation in a way.
If you didn't get fulfillment, you wouldn't do it.

[1:35:47] That's totally wrong and a completely lazy mindset. Do you not think that over the last 18 years with the tax and deplatforming and all of the shit that I've gone through, do you think that every single show is just about my fulfillment and it's just so fulfilling and it's just so great and it's just been so wonderful?
Come on, man. Anne, do you not think that there's ever been any discipline involved in just doing this shit?
A commitment that goes absolutely against the grain, sometimes for significant periods of time. Come on.

The purpose of live streams is to provide value to you.

[1:36:25] You see, when you say to me, Steph, you get fulfilled by doing these, you're training yourself to be lazy.
Because if you say well Steph does it because it's fulfilling, then you're saying well I'm only going to do things that are fulfilling.

[1:36:51] The purpose of these live streams is to provide value to you now there are consequences I think of a supplying value to you and so on which is you know maybe your tip maybe your support and so on But the purpose of these live streams is to provide value to you and to the future and to the world and to people as a whole, both in terms of form and content.

Relationship readiness: Meeting needs vs providing value

[1:37:24] You are not ready for a romantic relationship if it's about getting your needs met.
You are ready for a romantic relationship, in my opinion, when you really want to provide value to someone else.
If your focus is, I want to feel loved, I'm lonely, I want companionship, I need this, I need that.
In my view, what you're doing is you're broadcasting, your needs to the universe, and when you broadcast your needs to the universe, you get exploited because you're covering yourself in marinade and jumping into the tiger tank.
Don't broadcast your needs to the universe. I need this. I need that.
I need the other. I'm lonely.
I want, I, you know, need someone to share my life with. I need it.
Here are all the buttons that make me do stuff, and then all of the sociopaths come swarming and push all your buttons to make you do stuff.

[1:38:28] The people attack me because they think I need approval because they need approval.
Right? So they project onto me their needs and attack me but miss the mark, which is why I'm still doing what I'm doing despite having had my reputation shredded in most circles, right?
The people think that I need what they need, so they attack me where it would hurt them, but it doesn't hurt me and that's kind of incomprehensible, right?

[1:38:58] If your relationships are about what you need rather than what you can provide, you're going to be exploited.
I mean, think of being an entrepreneur. If you go into business and say, I need to make $200,000 a year, who's going to care?
I need to be in charge. I need to be a CEO. I want this on my business card.
I need a big office. I need, I need, I need.
You will fail, of course. people will be kind of grossed out by you.
And people will exploit you based upon your broadcasted needs.
What does the entrepreneur say? What does the entrepreneur say?
Thank you, Jared. What does the entrepreneur say? The entrepreneur says, here's how I can benefit you.
Here's how I can benefit you.
Do you follow?
If it's about your needs, you just get exploited. If it's about the provision of value, that could be the foundation for a long-lasting relationship.

[1:40:13] Jared says, yes, when I seek to provide value to others, I become invisible to the exploiters.
Yeah, that's right, Paula. You want to provide value to the customer.
I mean, you go to a car dealership, the car salesman says, I really need you to buy this most expensive car that I have here because my kids need braces.
And I got a kid in university.
So I really, I just, I need you to buy the most expensive car because that commission is going to really help me.

Selfishness vs. Value in Relationships

[1:41:00] Do you want to buy from that person? I need, I need, I need, I want, I want, I want. It's about me, it's about me, it's about me.
I don't think so. Now, you might team up with that person if you're an immoral person and say, yeah, yeah, okay, I'll buy the most expensive car, but you've got to split your commission with me.
There might be some corruption thing going on there.
You're ready for relationships when you're about providing value not getting your needs needs met and I know this sounds kind of weird well why would you be why would you want to be in a relationship what you can't get your needs.

The Power of Providing Value to Others

[1:41:46] You need to be of the mindset that you can't get your needs met unless you're providing what other people need.
When your needs expand to include others, and then you get beautiful reciprocity of generosity, So, when you provide to others, you can't be manipulated as long as you stay attentive.
When you provide value to others, you can't be manipulated as long as you stay attentive.
Has he dropped a bowl? Oh, Lord, let's hope not. There will be much woe in the land if a Christmas bowl is broken.

[1:43:04] The attentiveness is.
I provide value to others. Are they interested in providing value back?
I provide value to others. Are they interested in providing value back?
If you approach a potential relationship with, can I make this person happy?
And do we share that value of making the other person happy?
You've got the potential for a relationship.
He says this person says i am weary to start a relationship and then be unsuccessful, but in general of course you're only unsuccessful because you are ungenerous and unattentive, oh i know it hurts you're only unsuccessful in relationships if you're ungenerous and unattentive.

[1:44:21] I got out of a relationship through generosity.
I got out of a relationship that could have wrecked my life out of generosity.
I won't get into the details, but I was very generous to the woman's dreams and what she wanted to do.
And then I was attentive as to reciprocity.
So you are generous and see if the generosity comes back.
So I helped this woman with a big project that she desperately wanted to do.
And then I asked her to do something in return and she didn't really want to. And then I was free.
Now, if I'd started off that way, so much the better. I'm trying to give you the sort of hard-won lessons of my 20s.

[1:45:13] The question is not, will this person make me happy? The question is, do I want to make this person happy?
Do I want to spend time, effort, energy, and resources to improve this person's life?
Do I want to make their life better? Do I want to make them happy?
Do I want to make them laugh?
Do I want to make them feel loved? Do I want to improve this person's life?

Generosity and Attentiveness in Relationships

[1:45:37] Unless you're saying a predator, then generosity and attentiveness just makes things worse. False!
Unless you're dating a predator. No, absolutely false. Generosity alone?
Yes, you'll be exploited. Attentiveness.
Attentiveness.
Do you know why? Do you know why the tradition is for the man to pay for the first date?
The Gospel according to Saint Stephen, chapter 1. this is not an argument.
I don't know what that means. Sounds kind of snarky, but who cares, right?
So why is there a tradition that the man pay for the first date?
Well, you asked me out, you pay for the date, right?

[1:46:34] It's to test for reciprocity. No, it's not to show that you'll simp for the woman. It's to test for reciprocity.
No, not because women weren't, yeah, to see reciprocity. So the man takes the woman out and, he pays for the dinner and the movie, right? Spends a hundred, 200 bucks, whatever I pay for dinner and the movie, right?
And he's being generous. And what is he looking for?
Well, the gen, that generosity makes her happy. His generosity makes her happy.
And then what happens in return what does she do in return.

[1:47:28] What does she do in return? It's not sex, obviously. I mean, it's not how we evolved, right? What does she do in return?

[1:47:43] What is the man looking for after he takes the woman out and pays for the first date?
She's attentive and wants to give to him as well. Well, yes.
Does she repay generosity with generosity?
Does she repay generosity with generosity? And it doesn't have to be a lot of money. I'll give you an example.
I'll give you an example.
So I took a woman out for dinner and a movie when I didn't have a lot of money, which was most of my 20s and early 30s.
And it was a really nice evening. And then she, I had mentioned a book that I really liked that I couldn't find.
And she went to a used bookstore, it was long before the internet.
She went to a used bookstore and for like three bucks, she found the book that I really liked.
So I spent like a hundred bucks and she spent three bucks.
Right? But it's equal because she listened and she was attentive, right?

[1:49:05] She's showing that I enjoy being the reciprocity.
I enjoy receiving attention and resources.
And because you are a human being, I know you enjoy that too.
So I will provide attention and resources.
Right? Maybe you talk about how much you love bread.
Maybe, oh, I love sourdough bread or whatever, right? And maybe she bakes you a sourdough loaf and has it delivered at work or drops it by your office. Right?
Or maybe she just buys you a loaf of bread for three bucks.
It just shows thoughtfulness, attentiveness, and reciprocity.
Do you see what I'm saying?
So the moment that you say, I'm not paying for the first date, you're saying, I don't believe you have the capacity for reciprocity.

Reciprocity and Empathy in Relationships

[1:50:16] No, that's what you're looking for. I mean, the first woman who showed me real reciprocity, right?
You all know this story that I mentioned to my wife that I had a pair of sandals being repaired downtown.
She's like, oh, I'm downtown tomorrow. I can pick them up for you.
Let's get married, right? There's reciprocity, right?
Is she selfishly there to exploit you or does she say, well, it's just basic empathy 101.
I enjoy attention and resources, so I'm going to provide attention and resources because I also want to make him happy.
Right?

[1:51:05] Bro, you're really so poor you can't buy a dinner. Solve that first.
It's not a question of poor.
It's not a question of poor. It's a question of do you want to waste dinner on a woman who's not reciprocal?
It's a test of how well she can stretch your resources, value per dollar.
You understand also that buying, paying for the first date also tests whether the woman has empathy for you right at the beginning.
Right at the beginning. I once met a girl.
She was the daughter of a very wealthy family and she wanted to go to the restaurant that's at the top of the CN Tower.
I took her up there. She ordered some expensive stuff. I could only afford a salad and some water and I couldn't afford the bill so I had to leave my wallet and come back the next day with a check. Didn't date her.
Didn't date her because she didn't have the empathy to recognize that not everybody is wealthy not everybody comes from a wealthy family not everybody has daddy's credit card, so it's everything where does she want to go for dinner well if you're students and she wants to go to a really expensive restaurant and you have to pay that shows a lack of empathy.

[1:52:31] What is the typical thing? The man takes the woman out for dinner and then the next week, the woman invites the man over and makes him dinner, which is way cheaper.
Or, if she doesn't want to invite him over, I understand that, maybe she doesn't know him that well, man takes the woman out for dinner.
And then what she does is she packs a little basket with some fruit and sandwiches, grabs a blanket, takes him to the park for a picnic.
So, generosity and attentiveness. Dates aren't about money. You can do stuff that doesn't cost much.
Oh, yeah. I mean, this is with kids too, right? It's typical with kids, right? The kids are like, they have way more fun with the box the toy came in than the toy itself, right?
Some of my daughter's best memories are about the time we spent absolutely nothing.
Plan something that you can do together that sets a stage for conversation.

[1:53:40] Is she entitled?
Right? So, I mean, this is one of the big weeding outs that happens.
Listen to Staffy spot on about reciprocity.
I mean, I've seen both sides of that coin.
So the other thing too is that, of course, if the woman is addicted to social media clout, then she'll want you to take her to an expensive restaurant so she can take a picture with her hand on the menu saying, first date.
Right? And so she's at an expensive restaurant and she gets the social media clout and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.
Okay, so then she's hollowed out by the seeking of attention and status and therefore she's not going to be.
The dates aren't about money, but they are about generosity.

[1:54:31] Right? I want to make you happy is the foundation of a potential relationship.
And the attentiveness saying, do you also want to make me happy?
In other words, wanting to make your partner happy.
Is that, is that UPB? Does she, does she recognize the basic empathy that if she likes someone who makes her happy, he will like someone who makes him happy.
So this is why the man puts out the generosity and sees if it comes back. That's it.

Generosity and Attentiveness as Foundation for Relationships

[1:55:00] Yeah. Is she there for you or for her own vanity? Yeah. Yeah.
Yeah. I saw this video of like this woman, like she had one phone up and another phone for lighting and was taking dynamic pictures of the restaurant menu and the food.
And it's like, oh my God, please go and join your digital non-entity friends.

[1:55:24] I think that in the past, the restaurant had version to the menu without prices for ladies on a date.
So you want to make her happy is there someone in your life that you want to make her happy like honestly like I mean the work that I've done in the world and all this great stuff but my greatest joy my greatest happiness is the fact that I've taken a woman, and my daughter of course but talk about my wife I've brought great joy to a woman's life, I mean that's the greatest stuff, So I want to just sort of finish up with this dream thing, right?
This, this dream stuff that I was talking about at the beginning.

[1:56:24] If there's no price on the menu, you're about to be swindled. Nope. No, you're not.
Because you get the social clout and the vanity and the ego boost of not caring about the price on the menu.
And you're not swindled. You're not swindled if it's right there.
You're not swindled if it's up front. You're just paying for something else.
When I first began to suspect that I had great capacities, necessities I remember very very clearly I was inspired to write a novel about World War I and I started writing this novel about World War I with no clue about what I was doing and the words just came pouring out and the description and the language was all fantastic for me and I still think it was great it's probably lost to time now the novel was called The Jealous War but what I decided to do in that very moment when I was I also did this with poetry so when I was maybe 20 I really began to write in earnest. And before that I'd written.
I started writing a novel called By the Light of an Alien Sun when I was 12.
And actually my teacher read it out in class and it was really, really fun. It was really fun because everybody knew the girl that I was writing about. But, in order to dream big it's not a matter, I think, of talent as much as it is a matter of permission.

[1:57:49] If you give yourself permission to be great, to be big, to be powerful, then in most cases, you will be.
It's about getting out of your own way, not judging, not staying small, overcoming the fear of largeness, the fear of size. eyes, right?
The shark doesn't go for the minnow. The shark goes for the tuna.
So as you grow, you invite predation. And there's fear in that.
And I get that. And I'm not saying that's irrational or anything like that, but...

Allowing Creative Expression to Flourish

[1:58:40] It was saying, if this is the language that is within me, I'm not going to interfere.
I'm going to get behind it. I'm going to allow the expression to flower.
I'm going to allow the expression to pour forward.
There was a blues song I listened to when I was in my teens.
And there was a spoken part that said, you gotta let that boy boogie woogie cause it's in him and it's got to get out, you gotta let that boy boogie woogie cause it's in him and it's got to get out, a blues tape, I remember the Duke song I love harmonica, nothing, nothing, is ever detracted from by having a harmonica you could add harmonica to Beethoven's 5th, to Mozart's Requiem you could add harmonica to Moonlight Sonata and Ave Verum Corpus and it would be improved.

[1:59:50] Hamlet should pepper his soliloquy with, harmonica and it would only be improved. Yeah. Duke is a great harmonica song.
But yeah, Mama and Papa talking I heard mom and papa talking, said, you got to get out of that bar, boogie-woogie, because I seen him. I just got to get out.
Permission. Just look every single night. Like you've heard me do these dream analyses, right? And these are dream analyses from people who aren't particular artists.
Every single night, you create the most vivid, powerful, deep, incredible stories in your mind, in your heart, in your life, in your vivid sleep experience.
Like that level of creativity is within you. That level of creativity manifests every single night.
Do you have permission for that creativity to manifest itself in your waking life?
Hidden Dragon says, I think resentment holds me back, the idea of dedicating your life to someone else.

[2:00:55] But you're only alive because people dedicated their lives to others.
The people who stayed up to guard the tribe.
When people were sleeping, they weren't tired, but they made themselves stay awake.
Your parents wanted to do things other than parent at times. But they did that.
The farmer grows more than just the food for himself, and he doesn't do that out of altruism. I get this economic incentive.

[2:01:33] The idea of dedicating your life to someone else, right?
But you understand, if you feel resentful at the idea of dedicating your life to someone else, it's because you want to exploit someone.
In other words, you want them to dedicate their life to you.
And I can tell you what, I mean, I can end here, right? But exploitation is fundamentally this.

[2:01:57] Exploitation is the desire to cast people in you as an infant and them as a parental role long after that relationship has expired.
Because you could say, look, babies, quote, exploit their parents, right? Babies exploit their parents. They're up all night.
It's one way they don't provide any reciprocity. They're greedy.
They just eat and poop. They've got to be changed and cleaned.
It's exploitive. It's one-sided, right?
And so if you resent being there for someone, It's because you want someone to be there for you.
In other words, you want to return to a state of infancy and have other people parent you.
I understand that. I understand that. I understand that impulse.
It's the idea implanted in you by your parents that if you can just go back in time and be reparented, everything will be fine.
The people who sacrificed a future generations did they get nothing in return?
To see this resentment, right? I mean, listen, you can have this resentment.
I'm not obviously going to try and take it out of your ear with a crowbar.
You can have all this resentment.
Yeah, absolutely. Absolutely.

The Importance of Generosity and Reciprocity

[2:03:08] Did you not hear me talk about reciprocity and attentiveness?
You didn't hear me. Because your resentment doesn't allow you to hear that.

[2:03:18] Welcome.
Hello. You've just come at the end. Excellent. The people who sacrificed a few, did they get nothing in return? Did I talk about getting nothing in return?
This is demonic, right? I'm sorry, this is just straight up demonic in sort of theological terms.

[2:03:40] Because you're not listening, and when you're not listening, it means that you're being defensive.
It means that you're avoiding contact to stew in your own resentment.
You're avoiding listening to what I said, where I absolutely talked about reciprocity, being generous and attentive. Do you remember, and attentive?
How is the future going to give back?

[2:04:03] You are not in a position of listening. Now, listening doesn't mean that you agree with me, but it means that you noticed that I said something.
All right, that's all. So I'm talking about generosity and this is enraging you and you're strawmanning, right?
That means that you have a guilty conscience about exploiting people.
Like, I'm sorry, this is just, when I talk about generosity and reciprocity and people get enraged, it's because you have a guilty conscience about exploiting people.
Why would reciprocity and generosity bring rage? out in you.
Why, why would you, why would you get angry and straw man and, uh, misrepresent of course, and, uh, pretend you're having a conversation and pretend that I never said anything like, why would, why would all that static get up in your brain?
And listen, I, we've all exploited people. We've all exploited people.
It's, it's not some desperate mortal sin, but you got to admit it.
Right. I mean, I think, right. You gotta be honest and say, yes, I've I've used and exploited people.
Guess what? So have you. So have I. So has everyone.

[2:05:10] And the best way to counter our tendency to exploit is generosity and attentiveness.
To be generous to others and be attentive if they care about our happiness as well.

Life without reciprocity is master-slave relations.

[2:05:31] So when you say well the people who suffered they had to get something out of it too what you're saying is that your exploitation wasn't so bad because other people must have gotten secondary gains from being exploited, And if you want to do a call then and talk about that, that's fine.
Life without reciprocity is master-slave relations.
That does not sound like love, nor does it sound healthy.
If you don't care about your partner and their needs, that is not attentive.
I see two outcomes, a lifetime of misery or divorce.
How do you give back to the people you exploited? You apologize.
You apologize. And if there's reciprocity you can make, right?
I mean, if, if it's some girl that you were mean to in the past, so you exploited in the past, probably leave her be because she's probably in a new relationship and doesn't necessarily want all this stuff kicked up or maybe it's okay if you just apologize remotely or whatever, but you know, just own and, and, uh, and apologize.

[2:06:31] Or at least be honest. Or at least don't come into these kinds of conversations and static it all up with, well, the people who sacrificed had to be gaining something, which is not anything to do with what I'm saying.
Just have the self-awareness to know, like this is basic, right?
This is 101, and y'all have been around long enough that I can be a little impatient with this, or whether I can or can't be, I am.
Which is, if a conversation, if something I'm saying is making you anxious.

[2:06:56] What's the only honest thing you can say? right if something that i'm saying an argument that i'm putting forward is making you anxious angry upset frustrated scared whatever right if it's really upsetting to you if something that and i'm not obviously not insulting you directly i'm not even talking about you so if an argument that i'm making this is just self-knowledge one-on-one you can't be in a relationship if you don't have this shit down right if something that i'm saying is making you angry making you you upset, making you frustrated and you're reacting and you're angry and you're, you know, you're not thinking and you're right.
What's the honest thing. Something that I'm saying is making you upset or you're upset, right? Yeah. I'm, I'm upset.
This, this, this is really making me tense. I don't know why this really, this is really upsetting me. It's really, but you jump into this straw man crap of this.
Oh, they won't really exploit it. Just, I mean, read, read my book, real-time relationships, right?
I mean, you've heard me say this a million times, Right?
I'm annoyed at what you're saying. I'm not saying you're annoying.
You heard me say this a million times. I'm annoyed by what you're saying.
I'm not saying you're annoying. I'm just saying I'm annoyed. Right?
I'm impatient that people are still acting out in this advanced stage of the conversation. People have been around for a long time. You're still acting out.
So if you feel guilty about something and you feel bad, right?
Primitive personalities, if they feel bad, their first goal is to make other people feel bad.

[2:08:24] Right? That's projection, right? So you feel annoyed and upset.
And so then you straw man me with the goal of me taking on your annoyance and upset, right?
So you were trying to transfer your annoyance and upset to me.
Like you've got a snake on your arm and you throw it at me, right?
So that now I have a snake, right?
Somebody's got to carry the snake. It ain't going to be me. I'm going to throw it at Steph, right?
So if you feel upset, you just say, say, this is really upsetting to me. I'm really upset.
This is really bothering me. This is really troubling me. This is really, I'm really angry about this.
And maybe you're right. Maybe I am saying something completely outlandish and so on.
But if I am saying something completely outlandish, then you don't need to straw man me, right?
If I'm saying two and two make five, you don't need to say, well, you said that two and two make a unicorn. It's like, no, no, just tell me that I said two and two make five.
And right. The moment that someone straw mans, they are admitting that the argument is powerful and upsetting, right?
That that's what a straw man is, is somebody saying the argument is powerful and upsetting.

The dangers of entering non-reciprocal relationships and manipulation.

[2:09:30] I think I've entered into non-reciprocal relationships thinking I could change them. It's manipulative. And it just hurt me and the woman. I've done this multiple times.
I don't think that's true. I mean, I think it's true what you're saying, but I don't think there's a foundational truth in anything that you're saying.
Sorry about that. Hey, man, no problem. that's fine we all do it and that's fine just yeah i just would request direct honesty about this stuff thinking i could change them it's manipulative.

[2:10:05] So the day if you could you could be right i i would maybe amend this which doesn't mean that i'm right i'm just saying that my gut instinct tells me to amend this to say that, that people who won't change and are exploiting me have infected me with the grandiose fantasy that I can change people who have no intention of changing so that they can continue to exploit me, and I've gone along with that.
Let me sort of say that again, because it's a little complicated.
People who want to exploit me need to infect me with the fantasy that I can change people for the better so that they can continue to exploit me, and I've gone along with that, because it appeals to my vanity, and I don't want to confront them about their exploitation and recognize that they won't change. Does that make sense?
I tried to type more, but it topped out on characters. Yeah, that can happen for sure. That can happen for sure.
Sorry, I haven't checked over on the other platform. Let me just go and see.
I think many people who benefit from following the show would happily donate if the initial barrier is overcome.

[2:11:17] Right uh well i mean you can donate crypto i don't understand are you ever going to use twitter again well isn't dom de lucro just getting handled at the moment, hate to come off as smug or pretentious but want to ask if philosophy deals with mathematics mathematical verbal contradictions like all i say is a lie is it worth pondering at all No, I would just avoid people who say obvious contradictions.
So people who say obvious contradictions, like everything I say is a lie, then you point that out.
And if they don't say, oh, I guess I didn't think that through, but they instead just shift the story, shift the narrative, or like then they're just there to mess with your heads. Right.
All right. Dave says, yeah, my parents exploited me and I run into it.
And yes, it's been a weird dynamic to see. I've accepted minimal effort and been manipulated.

[2:12:23] I don't know if the Bitcoin address accepts lightning, sorry.
All right, well, listen, thank you.
Nice glasses, you effing nerd.

Responding to insults and discussing the infection of manipulation.

[2:12:36] That's very funny.
Nice glasses, you effing nerd. That's very funny. funny. It's very funny.
I guess he lives in a world where that means something to someone.
Can you talk more about the infection?
I've been reading the God of Atheists. It has been a powerful book.
Yeah, that's a great book, man. That is a great book.
I talk about modeling the emperor's new clothes, right? What if the kids are just relentlessly curious about the morals of their elders?
Yeah, you can get that at freedomain.com slash books.

[2:13:14] Yeah, I mean, I guess I have glasses in part because I read a lot, so it's a wisdom thing.
I'm not sure what you mean by the infection.
Was that a joke? The glasses nerd comment? No, somebody over on DLive.
Nice glasses, you effing nerd. They didn't write effing.
That's just very sad. And the username is AlfHatesYou. Yes, yes, Alf certainly doesn't hate himself.
I'm almost done with The Fountainhead. Wild book. Yeah, I like the first two-thirds of The Fountainhead.
I think that the trial and everything after that is mostly nonsense, but I like the beginning. She herself didn't know how to end the book.
It was driving her crazy, and I think she did not.
She's fantastic at plot normally, but she just couldn't get that one done.

[2:14:10] All right. Well, thanks everyone. So, oh, you said they infect you with the need to be manipulated. I think that that was your wording.
You said they infect you with the need to be manipulated. No.
So people who have no intention of changing, they're going to continue to exploit you. Well, first of all, they hope that you don't notice that they're exploiting you.
But if you notice that they're exploiting you, The secondary defense is to infect you with the idea that you can change them.

[2:14:46] Thanks, Steph, going to donate on FDR. Appreciate that. Thank you very much. Thank you very much.
So, yeah, people will infect you with the idea that you can change them.
It's also called democracy, right? So people will.
Thanks for your assertive truth. I'm so inspired by your bravery in the book you put in. Thank you.
Thank you. All right. Have a wonderful, wonderful.
Evening, well, day, sorry, day, I get to do the joys of paperwork for the rest of the day.
Oh, so looking forward to that.
I'm not drawing the show out because I don't want to do my paperwork.

[2:15:22] Yeah, the idea that you can change them, right? We'll just vote someone new in and everything will be fine and continue to exploit.
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