0:00 - Introduction to the Day
31:41 - The Philosophy of the Turpin Case
1:10:58 - The Risks of Actualizing Potential
1:45:00 - The Pluses of Aging
This episode dives deep into a range of philosophical discussions and personal reflections prompted by listener questions and recent events. I touch on the chilling true crime story of the Turpin family and offer insights from my two-part series exploring their harrowing reality. This serves as a backdrop to our broader conversation about happiness, moral responsibility, and the inescapable weight of our decisions.
We delve into the notion of whether happiness can become impossible, particularly in cases of profound wrongdoing or irreversible regret. It’s a stark reminder of how our actions resonate through our lives and the lives of others. I explore the concept of moral failure and how once restitution is unattainable, a person may find themselves in an emotional void. The discussion extends to my own sensitivity to wrongdoing and the challenges that accompany it, illustrating how this sensitivity can become a double-edged sword in maintaining personal relationships and navigating conflicts.
The conversation shifts to a candid discussion about societal dynamics, specifically how early programming can lead individuals to embrace false narratives about truth and morality. I emphasize the importance of having a strong moral compass and the perils of living in a culture that rewards deceitful behaviors over honesty.
As we further navigate the complexities of human relationships, I address the delicate balance of personal ambition and societal expectations, particularly in the context of pursuing one’s potential. There’s a palpable tension between striving for success and the emotional toll of potential societal backlash, something I've experienced firsthand. I share anecdotes that highlight the reality of raising one’s standards and how that can invoke hostility and resentment from others.
In this exploration, we also touch on the evolution of social norms, particularly how women’s expectations in relationships can impact men, often prioritizing superficial traits over genuine character. This leads to a dialogue about the importance of surrounding oneself with individuals who foster growth and positivity, steering clear from those who might stifle or undermine potential.
The episode wraps up with a reflection on the joys of aging and the wisdom that comes with it. I advocate for embracing life’s experiences rather than fearing them, offering a perspective that encourages listeners to find fulfillment and meaning in their journey, regardless of the obstacles that may arise.
Throughout, I encourage open dialogue, self-reflection, and challenge the audience to scrutinize their beliefs and relationships, all while embracing the complexity that life offers. It’s a ride through philosophy, morality, and the intricacies of human connection.
[0:00] Good morning, everybody. Let me tell you. Let me tell you. Let me tell you. So this morning, it's nice out. It's sunny. I know it's a little chilly. 11 degrees, but it's nice out. And I was like, how the hell can I do this show without being in the studio? Word to your mater. And I just can't figure it out. Because i can't be walking and doing a live stream and and read the questions that's the problem maybe i'll get james in my ear to read off the questions but uh that's a little little tricky a little tricky so really really whatever i can do to not be in the studio i'm like thrilled beyond words to do i just for donors and it'll probably go out to the mainstream at some point I finished a two-part true crime series on the Turpin family. That's T-U-R-P-I-N, the Turpin family, wherein, what was it, 13 children, age 2 to almost 30, were kept chained and bound and attacked and starved and so on.
[1:07] And you can check that out. You can subscribe, freedomain.locals.com for that, and we'll get it out to subscribe start today. James, if you don't mind, get it out to subscribe start today. But it is really, really quite fascinating. Good morning. You could use a treadmill. Oh, that's interesting. That's interesting. I could use a treadmill, but I think that the walking and the thumping of the treadmill sound would be a little crazy making.
[1:37] Part one was intense. It's a thing to subscribe for. Yes, well, part two gets even wilder. gets even wilder. And, you know, every now and then, I really do feel like the spirit bone marrow of the brain universe opens up and spews language out of me like a hand puppet of a lava god. I guess there would be one instant. That would be one instance of it. And the speech that I gave yesterday, I read a lot of books and all of that. And I tried not to get lost in the details, right? Because, I mean, that's sort of a circular statement, but But there's lots of people who talk about the details of this crime. I read a bunch of books, watched a bunch of documentaries, made a bunch of notes. But I really wanted to sit with the philosophy of the Turpin situation. And the ending is something that will blow your mind. Will blow your mind. Even bigger than the work I did on the French Revolution. All right. Let me get to your questions. and let's see, this show should be a requirement at universities, love the work you do, yes but that's like saying that a monk a monk who hand writes things should be a requirement at a printing press it's like no, no, it's a whole different thing it's a whole different thing.
[3:01] Yeah, I mean, it's very easy to take over a culture. You just program people to hate the truth. You just call the truth prejudice and bigotry. You get them to hate the truth. And if you can get people to hate the truth, they have no defense against lies and they can be easily taken over. All right.
[3:23] Let's see. Is it possible, says John, is it possible to reach a point at which happiness becomes impossible? But this could be caused by regret or an inability to cope with your life. Examples could be people who have inflicted pain on children, dictators who have killed millions of people, or people sentenced to life in prison.
[3:45] Is it possible to reach a point at which happiness becomes impossible? Yes. Yes, there certainly is such a point. And sadly, it is very easy to predict. the heart hardens into a void when restitution becomes impossible do not do the kinds of wrongs for which restitution becomes impossible there's no control z there's no edit undo for certain things once you have harmed someone to the point where they would accept no compensation for the wrong you have done, then happiness becomes impossible. I, I don't know, hysterical? Yeah, maybe. Maybe. I have a rabid sensitivity to doing wrong. If I do wrong, right, there's a line from an old Barenaked Ladies song. I actually saw them once live in New York. I was there on business and saw them live in New York. Pretty good show. Pretty good show. I couldn't tell you I was wrong. Right? I couldn't tell you I was wrong. Let me just make sure I get the right lyrics. I won't sing it because nobody wants to try and sing Stephen Page except Stephen Page.
[5:15] Oh, apparently there are a bunch of people who have. It's a really, really good song.
[5:27] And I couldn't tell you that I was wrong. Chickened out, grabbed a pen and a paper, sat down and I wrote this song. I couldn't tell you that you were right. So instead I looked in the mirror and I watched TV, laid awake all night.
[5:44] Right. We've got these chains hanging around our necks. People want to strangle us with them before we take our first breath. Afraid of change, afraid of staying the same. When temptation calls, we just look away. Way and it's really a powerful song because it comes from a comic band a comedy band, and most comics have an undertow of sadness and depression and that's where the comedy comes from they're trying to elevate themselves as they fall into a well forged from the maternal indifference of their own prehistories usually but when i do wrong it it haunts me it haunts me and i need to find a way to make it right as quickly and as much as possible. I don't do it perfectly. Now, the problem is, so here's a problem with that. So that's a plus. Yay, plus. We like the plus. But there is a problem with that. Who can guess what the problem is? With that.
[7:01] Oh, is the mic a little loud? I can turn it down. I have a backup recording here, but I can certainly turn it down. I can de-do the mic. All right. How's that? Any better? Just to let them know. though. If that's any better. So what is the problem with being very sensitive to doing wrong and wanting to make it right as quickly as possible? Because it's caused a lot of problems. It's caused a lot of problems over the course of my life. Not so much lately. Not so much lately. But it's caused some problems over the course of my life. Yeah, evil people will take advantage. So, because I'm maybe a bit oversensitive to doing wrong, and therefore, if there's a conflict, I will take excessive ownership for that conflict, And then I will apologize, which means that the other person only has to wait it out, right? The other person only has to wait it out. They just have to wait out until I feel bad, and I come and apologize, and then they can accept my apology, and so on, right?
[8:30] It's sort of like if you get drugged before a boxing match, the person just has to wait for you to fall over, and then they can claim victory, right? Right? So, a sensitive conscience is a very good thing. It's a great thing around good people. It is a massive weakness. It is a giant hole by which the noxious vapors of your guilt will be extracted along with your soul to be consumed by sociopaths in your environment. So, you've got to be really, really careful if you're very morally sensitive, which is a good thing, again, around good people, but you need to be surrounded by other morally sensitive people. Otherwise, there's just this big giant laser mark on your forehead to be exploited.
[9:11] Exploited. That's right. They can just wait, because you're tortured or upset or challenged by a bad conscience, and they're not. And so what that means is that they can just wait out your discomfort, and then you will crumble, so to speak, right?
[9:31] And of course, what I did was I said to myself, well, I'm just being really responsible, and I will, oh gosh, oh, the blindness. Oh, the blindness. Actually, it's worse than blindness, because blindness doesn't lead you off a cliff. You're cautious when you're blind. This is like, ah, a mall. No, no, it's a cliff edge. The blindness, because I'm like, well, you see, choir boy stance, if I take moral responsibility in my life, and I apologize, and I'm just, halo, I'm just so responsible and then then this this this attitude this approach this maturity will will will march over into the other person's soul that reform it in the image of a strong conscience and i will just spread it like margarine on a stripper's ass i will just spread it to the other person they will they will be around my responsibility and moral sensitivity and it will it will like spores like bacteria it will spread like a cold really it will spread to the other person and they shall becometh like me oh god, oh the naivety, oh the naivety.
[10:47] I sympathize with it I really do boy that optimism got me through a lot in life and got me out of a pretty terrible situation as a child that optimism super good for me in my childhood. Not so good for me in my 20s. Well, is there no chance?
[11:10] See, when you're young, oh boy, you know, when you have the capacity to change, hello, when you have the capacity to change, when you're young, it's so easy to think that other people themselves have also the capacity to change. You know, apparently when Freddie Mercury started singing for the band Queen, He was originally a roadie. They had a singer when it was kind of half a band called Smile. Freddie Mercury began singing. The band members were like, well, you've got a lot of stage presence and a lot of confidence, but you sound like a dying bull. And it took him a while to get his voice under control. He was obviously very excited and wanted to show off and learning to use the delicacy of his voice took quite some time. And i mean from the hard rock growls of hammered or fall to the quasi mexican banjo of who needs you an amazing vocal vocalist obviously one of the greatest that has ever lived.
[12:14] And so it took him a while right he didn't sound good at the beginning when bono the singer for you too also great voice at least when he was younger i think he wrecked it quite a bit but when Bono was younger and first started singing he didn't really know what he was doing and he said it took him a while to figure out how to actually do it so they have great voices that are latent and you just start singing you work on singing you keep singing and then you get better and better right oh yeah an absolute an absolute turbo cuck when it comes to Ireland, a man who has ascended from the Emerald Isle to the airless stratosphere of the globalists and watches all the people scurry. And he was very big into protecting Ireland in the past, doesn't really care about it now. No, it's absolutely appalling.
[13:04] Absolutely appalling. Wretched, wretched. These people will go down as the least excusable cowards in human history as a whole but that's their choice to make not mine so if you have a latently great singing voice and you just start to work on it you think oh well i'll just give people my tips i'll just do it like this or try this or approach this you know like i remember when i was in theater school and i was in the second year of the national theater school in montreal and we had people who had auditioned and got into first year, came to the theater school for a couple of days, and I put one of them up. It was a young man, a super talented young man. I mean, he could play guitar, he did gymnastics, he was a really great singer and all of that. And.
[13:54] He was singing something from Phantom of the Opera. And let your soul take you where you long to be. That note, right? Really, it's quite a high note to hit full voice.
[14:09] And it's like halfway between baritone and tenor. And so I can hit that note, but it's pretty uncertain. And I'm not saying it's super pleasant. I can hit it the way that Floyd Merriweather can hit an abdomen. So but he was just like just his voice floated up and he did it and he he was just trying to explain it to me like well here's how you hit that note man you just you think a little higher and you just kind of rest and settle down on top and i'm like yeah i don't think that's it.
[14:36] I think you just have a better singing voice than i do i i don't think i don't think that if i just if i just mentally think neil arms i'm just float on top just come just float a little bit down from the top of the note and it'll be fine it's like well no but you can sing that note and my voice doesn't go that high very easily and and if your voice doesn't go that high easily you really shouldn't do it if it's not easy for you to do as a singer it's probably going to be quite unpleasant for the kid you're gonna hit hear the strain right oh look i hit the note crying tears of blood as the audience uh cries tears of blood from their ears it's just um i just i don't have you have the voice, I don't have the voice, right? I mean, like, I've never had any sort of particular physical flexibility, like I had lumbago as a kid, so my bones grew faster than my tendons, right? And so I'd have to take these crazy baths, because otherwise it was just, you know, painful, and, you know, when you get jimmy legs, and your legs just can't relax, and you're, like, it's terrible on a plane, and it's bad. I have to stretch like crazy before I get on a plane.
[15:42] And... I still have to stretch every day. I have to stretch every day. And I've never been able to touch my toes. Never. And, you know, I had a friend when I was younger, super flexible. Like he could literally put his nose to his knees. He could fold over like a paperclip, like a staple. And he was just like, well, you just need to stretch more. You just need to do this. It's like, no, I don't have the tendons. You know, stretching is bullshit. I mean, I don't know if you know this. Stretching is bullshit. Tendons don't stretch. It's a lie. Now, you can get a little bit more comfortable with the discomfort and so on, but tendons don't stretch.
[16:19] Stretching is fine, and it's a good thing to do for warm-ups, and I do it every day. I stretch every day for like 10, 15 minutes before going to bed. I've got to put my heels down on the stairs. I've got to stretch my quads. I've got to stretch my glutes and all of that. And so it's one of the things I do as part of sort of self-care, or it just helps me sleep. If I don't stretch, then my legs get jimmy legs and I can't sleep, so I stretch. And he was just like, well, you just, and the number of people over the course of my life, if they've noticed, for whatever reason, that I'm not flexible, they're like, oh, you should really work on that. It's like, well, your eyes aren't blue, you should really work on that. You know, your height is not my close to six feet, you should really work on that. It's like the guys with great hair saying, well, I don't know, I just eat a lot of carrots, maybe you should eat more carrots. It's like, no, this is just genes, man. You happen to be be born with great hair. Good for you. I mean, I guess that's fine. Good for you. You happen to be born with great hair. I had about eight to ten minutes of good hair in my late teens.
[17:24] And so, good for you. But this idea that you can transfer your qualities to others, I mean, I know I'm transferring ideas and arguments and so on, yes, absolutely, to people who are receptive and care and want it, it's wonderful. But the idea that you can just transfer your virtues to other people who are exploiting your virtues, well, that doesn't work because you're rewarding them. You're rewarding their corruption with your virtues. If you're exploited, if you're taken advantage of, if you are ground down and insulted, then you're transferring your submission to people who enjoy dominating you, and you're actually just making them worse. You're just You're just making them worse. You're just making them worse. All right.
[18:22] Well it's like all the teachers right all the teachers i mean hit me with a why if you ever had a teacher who insulted you for not being interested in what he or she was doing, i'm rereading my old intellectual journal from when i was 25, some good stuff in there but also the frustration that the teachers and professors that was rough man that was rough yeah the teachers are all like what's the matter with you adhd yeah you're boring you're boring the subject matter is ridiculous i hate being here, and you suck but you can't say that you can't win against that you can't do that right.
[19:11] So you just have to shut up and it's even like in in the past when i was a student, everything was just boring now it's literally toxic i mean half of education is child abuse, against you know demographics or race or you know if you're a male or whatever it's just horrible, and it's just horrible, you can't get philosophy genes and hair genes in the same organism well have you ever seen I mean, Nietzsche had a mustache that looked like he was given oral sex to a chipmunk's tail. And who else? Bertrand Russell kept his hair, didn't he? I can't remember. John Locke? Didn't keep his hearing, sadly, when he was older, but probably a result of endless untreated infections. But yeah, there was a couple of philosophers who kept their hair.
[20:03] So, yeah, you can't transfer a conscience to other people the moment you try. To transfer a conscience to someone, they will just, oh, somebody who feels bad and will make apologies, great. My high school history teacher taught us all about a healthy dose of socialism, being good. I got a perfect score in the class by regurgitating Marxist history, yeah. We all just got to be trained seals regurgitating the lies that are told us um, i did a fairly um bitter and angry podcast yesterday fairly bitter and angry because somebody uh was this a woman was writing about how wonderful, authoritarian parenting was now she didn't mention peaceful parenting but she She mentioned that she came from a family of 16. In other words, there were three biological children when she was a kid, three biological children. She was one of those three, and her parents adopted 13 children. Her parents adopted 13 children, which could be considered a tad excessive by Liberace Hay. That's a little gaudy. Or Elvis. Well, there's a little bit too much fat in that banana, peanut butter, and mayonnaise sandwich.
[21:27] So, yeah, it's terrible because she's saying, well, we want to teach our kids, we want to teach our kids that bad decisions have negative consequences. We got to teach our kids consequences. And we do that by, if they don't do what we like, we punish them. So bad decisions have negative consequences.
[21:51] Right. And then you're going to send your kids off to a school where the bad teachers never get fired. And a boring curriculum never gets corrected. And then they're going to hear about politicians who lie their asses off and get re-elected. And then they're going to hear that they were born a million dollars in debt because the boomers didn't want to pay for all the warfare welfare social programs their little heartless hearts desired. And then they're going to see that corporate CEOs can strip mine the company bare and retire with all their money intact. And then they're going to see that, particularly if you're on the left, you can do just about every wrong thing in the known universe and never be prosecuted at all. But if you're on the right, feels like sometimes death penalty for parking ticket. So the society at the moment, oh, and also then they're going to see in high school, they're going to see that there are girls, young women, who get pregnant out of wedlock and get $80,000 to $100,000 worth of free benefits from the government.
[23:10] Ah, dear, oh, dear. Oh, and then they're going to see that everyone who bathed like a bunch of rabid vampire wolves that are all the unvaccinated are completely welcome in the house. Nobody ever talks about it again. end, they wanted the rights stripped away from people who wanted bodily sovereignty, and private medical decisions, and they're going to see that all the people who made those terrible decisions, perfectly welcome, everybody's fine, never talk about it again.
[23:43] My gosh. My gosh. No, no, but we've got to teach you that bad decisions have negative consequences, so that you will never fit into the society that literally rewards bad consequences. And, well, it literally rewards bad choices and punishes good choices. Oh, oh, did you do the three things you need to do to get out of poverty? Did you Did you get and hold a job for a year? Did you finish high school? And did you not have a child outside of wedlock? Oh, well, then you're going to be taxed at 50% to 60%. And really, if you count unfunded liabilities, we're taxed at over 100% because they can't be paid off.
[24:25] So you get to be a tax serf if you make good decisions and you get all the free stuff in the known universe if you make bad decisions. Yeah, the left stood up and applauded Roman Polanski. Yeah. Yep. Accused child sexual assaulter. Yep. Yep. Boy, but if you make those bad decisions, boy, you should just be punished. And that's fine. I mean, I agree. Not punishment, but I agree that, yeah, you should teach kids the bad consequences of bad decisions. I get that. But you should also tell them that that's not how modern society works at all. Modern society works in the exact opposite way. I mean, white Western European civilization spent trillions of dollars to end slavery, and it cost tens of thousands of lives to end slavery, and now who is the only group blamed for slavery? No good deed goes unpunished. You really need to teach them that. You really need to.
[25:31] Teach them that, because that's the way society runs these days, and it has for many years. Oh boy, negative consequences. You just, you want to, you just, bad decisions leading to negative consequences. I mean, how are you going to teach them how to live in the world, where the exact opposite principle applies in general?
[25:57] All right, let me just see if you have any other comments. Tips, of course, welcome. Welcome, freedemand.com slash donate. Or here, welcome as a whole. Things are a little lean at the moment. It is my birthday month, but things are a tiny bit lean at the moment. And I sympathize with that. I know, know, know. I know, know, know, know. It's a tough economy. But anything you can spare would be most gratefully and humbly appreciated. If I wasn't Christian, I would feel like a real mark, paying for things and trying to work for a living, not knocking up girls, paying taxes, etc. Yeah, it's just one of the slight challenges of Christianity, is because your reward is in the afterlife, you care a little bit less about the evils of the present. Not all, but some. Not all, but some. Yeah, it's like everybody begs on Christians because they're the group who are claimed that they love their enemies, they don't attack people for criticizing them, and so on, right? Yeah. Yeah. Yeah, you know, it's really, really important to teach your children that bad decisions have negative consequences, and that way everybody can objectively understand what happened to the Black Lives Matter movement after the Summer of Love in 2020.
[27:19] Yeah. Who remembers, if you don't like censorship, build your own platform. Then Pavel Durov gets arrested for not censoring. Yeah, he's been released now. I don't know if he was charged, but I think he's been released now. Yeah. One of my high school friends died of a drug overdose over a year ago. Says Val, his parents took no responsibility and blamed it all on the disease called addiction. They set up a non-profit organization that will essentially pay for more people, like their son, to get that one last overdose. us. It's insane how evil these parents are.
[27:53] And I was reading this data. I think it's true. I don't know that it's totally, I don't know that it's objectively true, but somebody was making the case that wait times in Canada for healthcare kill as many people per capita as the opioid epidemic in America. Just waiting. What, 10% of deaths in America in the healthcare system are a doctor error, right? He got released, but Telegram will now moderate group chats. Yeah, they took the privacy language out of Telegram, right? God forbid people exchange ideas without being controlled. He's not out on bail, can't leave France, or may not. Yeah. Yeah, they took the privacy language out of Telegram, right? I just assume that everything Everything is monitored at all times and so on, right?
[28:55] All right. So I used to do these truths about with regards to school shootings.
[29:10] So, this was posted by Colin Rugg.
[29:16] And the truth of this, again, it seems true. It seems to be reported by credible agencies, news outlets, and so on. So, provisionally seems accurate. Obviously, take it with a grain of salt. Time tends to not be kind to early narratives. But he wrote this, just in, the mother of Apalachee shooter, Colt Gray, called the school on the morning of this evil, warning them of an, quote, extreme emergency. According to Washington Post, who obtained text messages, the mother appeared to have advanced warning of what was happening. A text message from Marcy Gray to her sister read, I was the one that notified the school counselor at the high school. Sick. I told them it was an extreme emergency and for them to go immediately and find my son to check on him. A call log shows that Marcy Gray had a 10-minute phone call with the school just 30 minutes before the tragedy unfolded.
[30:15] A counselor told, the Washington Post wrote, a counselor told Gray during the call-in that her son had been talking about a school attack that morning. The school then looked for Gray, but there was confusion between Gray and another student with a similar name. The administrator left the classroom after neither student was present. The attack happened moments later. Later. According to Colin, the school was contacted just one week before the incident by Gray's grandmother, who was concerned about his mental state.
[30:50] Just one week before the tragedy, the grandmother met with a school counselor to request help. Sounds like he started therapy days before the incident. This was completely avoidable, according to Colin. Rug. The Washington Post report also says that Colt Gray spent months begging for mental health help, according to Marcy's sister, who said, the adults around him failed him. Right. Now, of course, the school should have just evacuated and gone in lockdown the moment they got the call from the mother. From the Washington Post, text also shows that the school and family were in contact about his mental health a week before the attack, and that Brown told the relative the teen was at the time having homicidal and suicidal thoughts.
[31:41] My gosh i mean it's impossible that anybody would let a school shoot have school shooting happening on an election year but oh my gosh oh my gosh.
[32:07] Yeah. Just appalling. Just appalling. And that this doesn't cause an entire rewrite of the entire system. Just like it wasn't a thing when I was young. It wasn't really a thing until Columbine in the 90s. And this goes back of course to.
[32:39] Mad in America it's a really really important book to read Mad in America and I'm going to roughly butcher the thesis sorry if I get parts of it wrong but the thesis of the book Mad in America is you know when we got antibiotics infections went down, you know when we figured out, that scurvy was the result of a lack of vitamin C We put a bunch of lemons and limes, which is why the British sailors were called limeys. We put a bunch of lemons and limes on the ships and people stopped dying from scurvy. So when we have an advance in medical science, you know, I'm going to go with the standard narrative. Seems to be true. I know people argue with it. But when the smallpox vaccine went on, which was 17 years to get everyone on board, Smallpox was no longer a thing. When you actually have an advancement in medical science, the problem gets a lot better. The problem gets a lot better. When people started washing their hands before surgeries, post-op infections went way down.
[33:59] But the argument is we have all of these drugs that are supposedly there to help people with mental health issues. So if we have all of these drugs that are here to help us with mental health issues, why do mental health issues keep increasing? And it's a very, very important question. It's the Ozempic question.
[34:31] I'm going to say this with no medical training, no medical knowledge, as a complete analogy. But everybody wants a pill. But most pills, or many pills, come from the devil himself. Everybody wants a pill. Maybe you're depressed because you're in a situation of abuse. Maybe you're depressed because you're surrounded by sociopaths. Sociopaths. Maybe you're depressed because you can see the way society is going and haven't found a way to live with it. Maybe you're depressed because you are barred from getting jobs for various reasons. Discriminatory reasons. Maybe you're depressed because your children are being indoctrinated in schools. Maybe you're depressed for any variety of reasons. And it seems to me fairly fucking important to get to the base of those reasons. Maybe it's fairly important to get to the essence of those reasons. But people don't want that. What they want is a pill. An excuse.
[36:00] Maybe you overeat because you were sexually abused as a child. I talked to a very wonderful black woman recently in a call-in show, and she was sexually assaulted by black men to the point where she starved herself. She simply stopped eating because she wished to reduce her curve so she'd be less attractive. Nope. Just take a pill. Maybe overeating or undereating is the result of sexual abuse. Maybe the boys have ADHD because the entire curriculum revolves around that which is beneficial to two groups of people, propagandists and girls.
[36:53] Maybe boys are built more to learn by doing. Maybe we were evolved to be hunters and farmers and soldiers and to be in motion and in action. I felt like when I was a kid, school was like a physical prison that I had to break free by sprinting as hard and as long as I could whenever I wasn't in school. I exercised, I was on the cross-country team, I was on the water polo team, I was on the swimming team. I played soccer, I did tennis tournaments, I just had to move. One of my nightmares as a child was to lie in a coffin and have concrete poured over me. It gave me the shudders. Because that's what school felt like. I was just trapped and had to sit and shut up and pretend to care about, in threat of punishment, I had to pretend to care about stuff I was completely indifferent to. You know, there's this old meme, it's like history in school. You know, history is a hobby. Wow! Stuff that is so absolutely fascinating.
[38:11] There's something wrong with our relationship with food in the modern West. And of course the studies in general are corrupted and paid for and we've had to make up for the lack of quality home cooking because women are in school so we've needed more instant meals, which means add sugar to everything freeze everything kids are bored restless, they don't want to go outside social trust has collapsed as we talked about before in the Putnam studies bodies. Kids stay home. Women are anxious. They don't have a strong connection with either their children or other parents in the neighborhood.
[39:05] It's hell. It's hell. Distracting your mind with screens while refusing to move your body is a recipe for almost every material and spiritual disaster that can be conceived of. Our relationship with food and exercise, is late stage mouse utopia, or the food pyramid bought and paid for by special interest groups and of course I think as a whole the powers that be like you low-T, like you lethargic, like you to hand-spanky yourself into a virtual coma, like you to get your kicks and thrills from pushing pixels rather than building forts in the woods.
[40:20] They love to have you never learn how to negotiate because all the rules are set for you by school and video games.
[40:35] Nope. Just take a pill. Just take a pill. Just take a pill. I mean, everybody knows they need to eat less and exercise, right? Everybody knows they need to eat less and exercise more. Everybody knows that. But they don't want to do it. They don't want to do it. And they don't want to do it because they can get a pill. And they don't have to pay for the pill as a whole, right? There's so much subsidies in these kinds of areas, they don't have to pay for the pill. And of course, if they don't take the pill, the government has to spend, what, half a million to a million per year on chronic health conditions? And the number and amount of chronic health conditions, I mean, this is RFK Jr.'s gig, and it's a good gig, it's a reasonable gig, it's a powerful gig, which is the amount of chronic health conditions...
[41:34] It's just staggering, it's just staggering how many people do you know in your life no that's a little odd because who knows how many people you know what percentage of people in your life are dealing with chronic health conditions, what percentage of people in your life are dealing with chronic health conditions, I'm trying to think I don't because I'm an older parent, a lot of my friends are younger, chronic health conditions. I suppose it depends on how many extended family members you have, and particularly older people. Chronic health conditions. So some people are saying 10 to 20%, 0%, 0%, and 75 plus or plus 75. I'm probably about 10 to 20%. Now, some of them are just older. There's older people and there's just stuff that's going to happen. And of course, a lot of people don't really talk about it, but it's a big issue. The chronic health conditions are just crazy.
[42:57] All my friends are 20 to 30, though. Well, that's, yeah, that certainly is going to help a little, right? About 30% or so, I would say. Obesity and addiction to tobacco slash alcohol. Oh, tobacco and alcohol are definitely going down. Like, the coolness of tobacco and alcohol is going down. It's been going down for a long time with regards to tobacco. But finally, we're breaking the back of the black-hearted obsidian beast that kills people wantonly called alcoholism. Finally, finally, finally, my gosh. Gosh, the drinking culture when I was younger was just insane. Pro-drinking, pro-drinking, party, party, party. Hangovers are funny. Falling over when you're drunk is funny. Stupid things. When you are young.
[43:45] The drinking culture. Now, when I was fighting tooth and nail, last time I got drunk, I was 21. I tried drinking in my, I was 17 or so. I tried for a couple of weekends and I'm like, well, this blows. I don't get this magical altered state of consciousness. I'm basically just me, but physically disoriented. Yay, spins. Yay, got to pee again. Yay. And then the next day is just a total write-off. I mean, there's no endless gray afternoon like the Sunday after drinking with a hangover.
[44:29] Somebody says i had a chronic debilitating illness and it was the saddest time in my life felt like i was watching my life waste away weed users going up is that the case is that the case, i mean alcohol and weed are the two ultimate loser drugs at least with nicotine you get a stimulant, And this is another reason why, one of the reasons that immigrants come in, I think in particular in England, is that the drinking culture in England is so crazy that it's tough to find anybody who's willing to work and work well. Scotland's drinking culture is awful. My husband has lost so many of his family due to alcohol and cigarettes. To me, you know, alcohol in particular, it is taking a long, slow acid pee on the Mona Lisa of your own body. It's poison. It's poison. It is, alcohol is poison.
[45:37] Somebody says, I hate that part of drinking culture. I enjoy having a large variety of wines and liquors and usually drink 8 milliliters of alcohol a week. People who pound 24 pack a beer each weekend are depressing. Well, we can certainly talk about beer culture in men, but what I find is far less challenged is wine culture in women. I mean, the woman with the glass of wine, usually red wine, in her hand in social media is ubiquitous. And the drinking culture for women is constantly promoted. Wine moms, you know, wine aunts, you know. Materialism, useless purchases, and self-poisoning through alcohol is constantly pushed. Oh yeah whenever i would criticize weed you know you say to an alcoholic you drink too much he's like yeah it's a problem you say to a weed addict you smoke too much weed and they're like here, comes the wall of stupid text so many dating profiles have girls each photo with some different alcoholic drink yeah yeah i don't really talk that much about my brother i mean it's not his fault that I'm semi-prominent, right? Semi-chained kind of life. Huge flex among women, for sure, yeah.
[47:03] Weed is obviously the drug of choice for the elites who want a docile population, right? Weed, video games, pornography. It's the trifecta of keeping people pacified. Yeah, I mean, isn't this whole joy campaign among leftist politicians just about drinking? It seems to be. It seems to be. Yeah, it's very sad.
[47:37] Why is that a meme uh i don't know exactly why it is a meme i think that one of the reasons why, alcoholism is promoted not just to women but by women is alcohol signifies leisure and sexual availability because alcohol is a disinhibitor right you know the old thing of like um liquor her up front, poke her in the rear. But you know that whole thing about getting a woman drunk in order to have sex with her. So alcohol is a disinhibitor, right? So it reduces a woman's judgment. In the same way that birth control pill atrophies a woman's sense of fear and anxiety and danger, right? So birth control pills are one of the reasons for various is things going on in Europe at the moment, right? So, for a woman, showing that you can drink, particularly during the day, wine with lunch, right? So, wine with lunch is a status among women because it says that they don't have to go back to work.
[48:49] So, it also signals if a woman is posing with wine or alcoholic drinks, then she's signaling that she will drink, which means she's more likely to sleep with you sooner. So it's a mating, it's an R-selected mating display. Val says, I would argue alcohol has its place in society. I believe Ed Dutton did a piece, a show on alcohol as a selection pressure in social evolution. Races that were recently introduced to alcohol have significantly more problems, Native Americans, Irish. What the hell does that mean? Alcohol has its place in society. What does have its place in society mean? Are you saying that evolutionarily speaking, it was safer to drink alcohol than water? Yes, of course. Of course. Of course. James, can you look up birth control pill reduces women's capacity to sense danger? So
[49:59] It's uh signals leisure it's it's like uh long nails signal leisure i don't have to work with my hands white dresses signal leisure i don't have to worry about getting dirty well done hair signifies leisure i don't have to do any physical labor For women, signifying leisure is signifying status because it means that they're so hot and attractive and manipulative and sexy that men will pay their bills.
[50:29] So alcohol has its place in, yeah, I mean, I've talked about this, I talked about this some months ago, so I'll just touch on it briefly here, that I read, I used to be fascinated by reading diaries from people in the past. I find diaries absolutely fascinating. It's like a little window into something that otherwise would be completely lost to history. And it's like uh i watched um the beginning of i've never watched the show before little house on the prairie and there's a a somewhat um emotionally incontinent dad and a dog that can't doesn't make it across the river and so on and of course all of these things because it was written by the daughter and i'm sure all of these things happened i mean probably not exactly as they were but all these things happened and all of these tiny events that came and went big in a family invisible to the world as a whole all of these tiny events were then recorded written down, serialized made into a tv series that was very popular michael landon was at landon it was just the star the producer and and uh and all that and director i mean very very talented guy it's very very talented here and all of these little tiny slices then just get saved forever it's one of the reasons i'm a little bit of a i want my thoughts to be recorded because thoughts they're in passing, they just go gone, dead, buried with you, but there's a way that you can, you know, write them into the.
[51:55] Constellations of the sky like all the disparate things that happen, you can draw lines between them and keep them alive, so I was reading this diary of a barge worker in the 19th century in England and he said, like, I don't want to drink I don't want to drink alcohol but I can't get the energy milk doesn't give it to me and it's a little easy to get sour milk water doesn't do it enough, the only thing that gives me the energy to do my barge work is alcohol. Now, you don't know if he was like a real alcoholic. He was like, well, I tried. I tried. Right? But so does alcohol have its place in society? Again, I don't know what that means. I don't know what that means. Victorian women used arsenic-laced makeup to whiten the skin to say they didn't have to be out in the sun all day. Yeah, that's right. Yeah, that's right. For a woman to be physically incapable of labor is very high status, right?
[53:05] Uh denisa says there was a 34 year old man from canada that used to talk to me all through middle school and high school i blocked him on everything but now for whatever reason it's haunting me that he might still be preying on girls he was never inappropriate but clearly was a predator i'm struggling with whether i should do something about it or not oh that's tough i'm so sorry um why didn't you tell your parents i mean i guess he knew that you wouldn't tell your parents which is why he was willing to to talk with you, yeah long nails hair weaves excessive makeup is also a status symbol as well because it says you're not out in the sun having to sweat right, if you don't trust yourself with alcohol then don't drink at least if you don't trust who you're with don't women's friends acts as chaperones anymore no the daughter of the lady who wrote little house on the prairie is super influential in american libertarianism Well, that's cool. All right. So let's get to your other question. Any tips forthcoming? If you haven't tipped for a while, I would really, really appreciate it. Thank you. Thank you very much. All right. Let's get to a question on potential.
[54:26] Hi, Stef. How did actualizing your potential look like for you? Did you have to build up your self-esteem and belief in yourself? Nietzsche says, it is often our potential that scares us. No, it is not our potential that scares us. And I would disagree with our mustachioed friend. It is not our potential that scares us.
[54:51] It is other people's response to our potential that scares us, and with good reason, too, with good reason. If you become great at what you do, you harm the vanity of others.
[55:07] And when you harm the vanity of others, they will come for you. You have to think about it in terms of mating or sexual selection, right? So, the guy who's the most attractive earns the hatred of the less attractive men because he's raising the standard and he's getting the best women or the best woman. So, the guy who's very attractive and in particular, thank you for the tip, in particular if he is both attractive and nice. If he's attractive and psychotic, then you probably don't want to mess with him. But if he's attractive and nice, and the jocks are hated by the nerds, but the jocks in general are mentally healthier than the nerds. They're not just healthier in body, they're healthier in mind. Because of the self-discipline and coordination and team sports and self-confidence and so on, right? And they move. The nerds sit and whine, the athletes talk and move. They're better at negotiating, they're better at reasoning with people, they have more self-discipline, and so on, right? Right. So this hatred of the jock is that you get the the nerds are smart and the jocks are dumb. Right. That's just propaganda. And it's a cope. And nerds indulge in that propaganda so they don't have to go out and start exercising.
[56:29] They feel superior. We're the smart ones and they're the they're the jocks. And it's like, no, athleticism is not negatively correlated with IQ at all. As far as I know, in fact, I think it's positively correlated, although I'm happy to be corrected on that if anybody can find the data. This is going off some long-ago memories back when I was studying IQ quite a bit. So, the resentment towards the excellent is foundational, and we understand it as a reproductive strategy, right? It's a reproductive strategy to spread hatred and lies against those who are better than you at something, in some important manner, that is important, right? So, the nerds don't want to compete with the jocks, so they spread the lie that the jocks are mean, racist, bigoted, homophobic, dumb, abusive, drunken. They just spread all these lies. And you can see this everywhere. Everywhere. Because, you know, the nerds end up writing the movies, right?
[57:32] The nerds end up writing the movies. And so, movies are just one long, absolute vampire howl at the physically beautiful and the athletically successful. Just one long, absolute, low-rent, trashy howl of rage and anger at Revenge of the Nerds, you know, was it Ted McGinley or whatever? Like all of the jocks are just stupid and they smash beer cans on their head and they hate minorities and they and they they beat up their girlfriends and you know but it's the soft sensitive soulful brendan lee a crow guy the goth guy he's the real he's the real nice one he's the one you come on man it's just sad i mean it's just sad it's such a pathetic coke i mean i get that the life of the mind is cool but there's nothing wrong with working with the body, working on the body, helping the body out. Because I don't know what anyone's beliefs are, really, unless they're exercising. I don't know. Because we know that exercise makes people, makes ideologies change. Right? Exercise changes people's political orientation.
[58:55] So I don't know if you're a leftist or just physically weak, and you can't protect yourself, and so you run to the government. I don't know if you're a leftist because you're unattractive and you want to marry the government because you can't get resources from a man, or if you're a leftist for some ideological reason. Until people exercise, I don't know what they believe. And they don't know what they believe either. It's just a code.
[59:20] So I was in the position of being an attractive young man, of being a good actor, of being a really good athlete. Now, I'm no excellent athlete, but I was pretty good for high school. I came in seventh in swimming in Canada, in Ontario, so it's not bad, right? I mean, particularly considering how little chance I had to practice because of home chaos and jobs, so I did pretty well.
[59:50] And i have a pleasant speaking voice i can sing a little um i'm tall higher taller than average and so on right so you know as a young man i was a fairly reasonably high status specimen and so on and i've got a quick wit and uh i'm funny and i'm good at debates and so all of these things and and you feel this tall poppy syndrome right as you get better as you get more successful as you aim high, you get this resentment of the troggs in the vicinity, right? They hate you. They'll undermine you. They're mad at you. They trash talk you. They put you down. That's a lot of what's happening. And even if you get the girl, even if you get the girl and you're out of the market, you get married, you're out of the market, they still hate you because you're still raising the standards. And they're terrified that the girl they get was fantasizing about you, couldn't get at you and therefore they're left with leftovers, right?
[1:00:52] Actualizing potential is a risky, risky business, man, because the amount of resentment and hatred it brings about from people is enormous, is enormous.
[1:01:05] Now, if you actualize your potential economically, say, and then you jump to the support of the powers that be, then you're safe from the hurt, right?
[1:01:26] So actualizing my potential, is like threading a needle in a plane crash right you you want to actualize your potential but not to the point where you bring the hatred of the average and below average down upon you like a ton of wrecks because although you may be a hundred times better than them at something you know ten of them or five of them will physically overpower you and beat you up, so the range of the intellect the differences in the intellect are far greater than the differences in the body right so i can be a hundred times as intelligent as someone but if they sucker punch me i'm still going down and my brain is damaged right so.
[1:02:16] Yeah, and girls do the same thing too, right? So the girls are like, She was so beautiful, but oh so boring. I'm wondering what am I doing here? Now that's not a girl, but it's a girly man. Guy from Simply Red. So, Does anyone out there really care about the colors in your hair? My little golden baby, where have all your birds flown now? Yeah, so the girls all put out this dumb blonde thing, right? I want a burger and some fries and a Coke. Ma'am, this is a library. Oh, sorry. I want a burger, some fries, and a Coke. Right. So, yeah, the dumb blondes and all of that. The good-looking people are just vacuous, empty, and dumb, and dull, and so on. I mean, these are just, it's all put out there, right? It's all put out there. I'm very sad.
[1:03:24] So, with regards to my potential, I remember when I first started really writing, I wrote a book called The Jealous War, about the First World War, which has always been a topic of fascination for me, and the words just came pouring out. touch. Easy, easy. Writing has never been difficult for me. Well, with one exception. So, oh, that exception being character, like when you have 20 characters in a scene as a novel, it's very tough. In a movie, it's easy because they can just all be in the background, but in a novel, it's tough. So...
[1:04:05] It was very easy, and I remember being quite surprised at how easy it was and how the language flowed. I mean, you can see this, that the analogies and metaphors just can come tumbling out of the brain. My brain in almost a pre-assembled format. It's almost like beat poetry or something like that, and that's just really cool. For me, it's cool to just... For me, it's like I scrunch up a piece of paper, I throw it, and it lands in a complex origami pattern, like Edward James Olmos in Blade Runner just wow how did that happen cool let's see if we can do that again and now I've been doing it for over 40 years uh it is uh it is working so the the visuals and the language all just kind of come flowing out for me it's a really beautiful thing for me I'm very very blessed to have this ability I try to I did not earn the ability and therefore before I try to put it to as good a use as possible because I'm so good at languages or language. I'm also great. I know like 17 different computer languages and so on, so I'm pretty good at all that kind of stuff as well.
[1:05:12] So you just have to start doing stuff and accept when you do it well. And also accept that when you do something well that serves no one in power. So if you do something well that helps those in power, you will get promoted and praised, right? So Stephen King writes well and provokes a sense of prickling horror in the minds of the masses, and people who are frightened are easier to rule, so he's promoted and paid handsomely to turn into what looks like a lesbian aunt complaining about Trump on a regular basis. So, but if you have the great powers of communication and you do not serve the powers that be, then you become an enemy to be undermined, right?
[1:06:06] So no, it's not our potential that scares us. It is the rage of the envious that scares us. I mean, this is one of the reasons why, if you're in an abusive relationship, you're isolated, right? So if you have a girlfriend who's kind of nasty and weird and controlling, then she doesn't want you hanging with your friends, and she certainly doesn't want to hang with a positive, helpful, friendly, nice, encouraging, supportive girlfriend, right? So if you've got some sort of mean girlfriend who's putting you down, and then you hang with a friend and his girlfriend is like really nice and positive and so on, your girlfriend is going to get really vengeful and petty and resentful, right? Because she doesn't want you seeing the opposite of her. She doesn't want to see you seeing a higher standard. And, I mean, maybe some girlfriends would be like, oh, wow, they seem to be a lot happier. She's really supportive. I should really work on that. But that's not very common. In fact, it's largely a mythological beast or creature.
[1:07:19] But... She's going to resent. She's going to hate that girl. Oh, she's so fake. She's so phony. She's so this. She's so that. And so she's clearly warning you to stay away from her. So that you don't raise your standards and you don't look over and say, well, crap, she's really nice. What the hell am I, who am I stuck with, right? She doesn't want that, right? So even being in a healthy relationship is dangerous, right? Being in a healthy relationship is dangerous because people see your healthy relationship and those people in dysfunctional relationships.
[1:07:58] Get resentful. And if they can't avoid you, they will lie about you, undermine you, try to destroy your reputation. Oh, you think you're so perfect, but let me tell you what I heard. You think he's so great, let me tell you what I heard. They just make up lies. And so even happiness and joy is dangerous because of the resentment. Of people who are lords, mayors, and masters of trash planets. You ever notice this? You ever notice this? This is why I cannot, thank you for the tip, this is why I can't be around people who have dysfunctional relationships. I can't. I can't. There's this, somebody posted this on Twitter not too long ago. They said, my husband met me at a restaurant and was so happy to see me that the couple at the next table broke up. Yes, right, exactly, exactly You can't be too happy around dysfunctional people You can't be too much in love around bitter people You can't be too liberated around Claustrophobic and self-controlled people, What is the resentment against me? I mean It's just the price you have to pay.
[1:09:24] I mean, do people really hear my reports of my marriage, hear my interactions live with my daughter, and think, well, that's a bad guy? It's not the case at all. It's not the case at all. When you raise the standard of humanity, you provoke pathological anxiety. society and those who will not meet that standard, and they will attempt to attack you, and often quite successfully.
[1:10:03] Actualizing your potential you have to do it bit by bit you know it's it's like an army an army you can say oh we're just going to conquer the whole thing and it's like no you got to go bit by bit and establish your supply lines because if you go too far your supply lines get cut off and you're isolated right napoleon style hitler in russia style so you have to take your potential bit by bit and adjust it's like weight loss you can't just lose it all in my humble opinion i'm no nutritionist but this is sort of what i've heard if you lose it all the problem is your body goes into starvation mode. So lose a bit, consolidate, lose a bit, consolidate. That seems to be the way to do it. At least that's the way that I've done it. And, you know, it's worked for me. So it's not advice to anyone else. It's just what's worked for me. You know, lose five or ten, sit there for a while. Lose five or ten, sit there for a while. So actualizing your potential is just bit by bit, right? The story of Icarus is real, right? Icarus wanted to fly as high as he could, put wings on, flew too close to the sun.
[1:10:59] Sun melted the wax on his wings. He plummeted to his death.
[1:11:11] Achieve your potential at great peril. And if your potential is not just for yourself, but if you achieve your potential and it has an impact on other people's self-esteem, man, that's rough. That's rough on them. So, there's two strategies, right, in life, which is to be as great as you can be, or to indulge your lowest instincts and attack anyone who does better. So I didn't have to build up my self-esteem and belief in myself. I did things that for me were amazing. Some of the poetry I wrote, the books, early books I wrote, worked like 30 plays. And I just thought they were great. And some, some better than others, of course. Right. And when I finally sort of hit, did hit my potential, uh, I thought I was really doing some amazing stuff. And the amount of, they'll try to get you with indifference and then they'll try, they'll get you with hostility. Right. But rarely direct hostility. It's usually sort of around the back, right?
[1:12:34] I mean, I had a friend, when he met the woman who was going to become my wife, he just completely freaked out. Now, he'd never had a successful relationship, and he could see the quality of woman that she was, and he just couldn't speak. He was normally very eloquent. He just completely freaked out, because something looming comes in that changes your standards. You know, changing standards is a very dangerous business. It's a very dangerous business, because everyone thinks they're the best. And when it turns out they're not, a lot of times they get really resentful and hostile. Everyone talks about the upside of improvement and raising your standards. Very few people talk about the danger and risk of blowback. Now, that's what I love about The Hobbit. Blew my mind when I read that book, because normally it's like, well, we get the pirate's treasure and everything's great and we killed the dragon and everything's great. It's like, nope, now there's a fight over the treasure. And this is, you've achieved gold in your life, now everyone comes to pillage you, right? I mean, the simple examples, of course, are the endless disasters that strike in the hearts and homes of people who win the lottery. Terrible, terrible stuff. What's your take on working for the government as a public servant so I can keep the wife at home to raise the children?
[1:13:51] Isn't that a false dichotomy? Why can't you get a job in the private sector? Oh, the woman who had the older guy, no, my mom knew he mailed things to my family home. Wow. That's terrible. What about your dad? I guess he's absent, right? Which is, right? Anybody who wants the father out of the household almost certainly wants to prey on the children. It took me all the 25 minutes to use AI to pull up the ungodly amount of psychological and physiological health effects of habitual weed use. It's well documented for everyone with the internet. Yeah, for sure.
[1:14:33] Stef, why does it annoy me so much when men say the wife rather than my wife? It really annoys me. I have no idea why. I think I share your annoyance. I'm not sure exactly why. The wife. Yeah, because it's a category rather than a person. So it indicates a relationship with a category rather than the individual who inhabits that category. So that's probably it. A woman says I was on birth control for 20 years looking back now it's like looking back on someone else's life I don't identify with the decisions made at all yeah for sure.
[1:15:19] Uh, so the woman who was, um, the older guy was in contact with, she says, I'm not close to my mom. And basically everything she did raising me was insane. And I don't respect her at all, but it's still annoying at me, independent of my mom, that he is still out there. And I did nothing as an adult to stop him. But if he didn't do anything illegal or inappropriate, how would you stop him?
[1:15:45] I think you're the first joke. You're the first person ever to make a joke. I'm all for sports, but I think water polo must be hard on the horses. Yep, nobody's ever made that joke before. Excellent. No wonder all the guys at the gym hate me. Yeah, yeah. Getting good at things is a pretty transferable skill. I've never seen any evidence that people are all only good at one thing and everyone is good at something.
[1:16:14] Well, but frankly, you're a woman, right? Right? So, with men, we tend to be really good or really bad. Women tend to be clustered more around the middle. Oh, you posted an article on birth control reducing stress reactivity. Yeah. When out jogging, the number of people who give you evil looks is insane. Yeah, for sure. Old joke, what do you call three blondes all standing in a row? A wind tunnel. Yeah, what is the same between a blonde and a bottle of beer, both empty from the neck up? Blah, blah, blah. Right. Well, I mean, blonde is very attractive, right? It's golden hair. It's very attractive, blonde and blue-eyed, right? So you have to trash that, right? I find the characters in Atlas Strike to be very relatable and inspiring. They're excellent at everything they do, and they constantly think about the morality of their actions. Yeah. I found them inspiring, but not relatable, but not anything to do with you. I'm just telling you my experience, right? People's horrible behavior towards me for my potential has really adversely impacted my life.
[1:17:23] A question for you. Do you have a hard time remembering the epic things you said if you don't record them? I improvise music and sometimes I create something amazing, but I forget to record it and easily forget about it. So it has gone to the ether. Yes, that is true. That is a big, big problem. I mean, you've seen me gap out sometimes and I go one too many branches of tangents off the main topic. And I'm like, what the hell was I talking about? So, yes, absolutely. It is a big thing. the number of songs that have come out of jam sessions where somebody recorded like the song american woman by the guess who burton cummings great singer, this that came out of somebody just happened to record something they jammed at live and said hey you should make a song out of this this happens all the time all the time so yeah just record everything you can always erase it right people with dysfunctional relationships don't want to believe happy relationships exist yeah that's right i mean i'm telling you if if y'all could be around my family for a day i mean most people were like wouldn't even and they wouldn't comprehend it they just wouldn't comprehend it how much laughter and fun and affection i mean i just wouldn't understand it what was it robert smith of the cure recorded him and his wife and he said but we sound like a bunch of insane people in an asylum.
[1:18:47] Well, this is one of the reasons why I really got, objectivism, right? Hatred of the good for being the good. But it's not just evil, it's a reproductive strategy. If you can, like, if you can drive out the handsome, tall, and rational then your short, anti-rational ugliness, you change the whole scale, right? Thank you so much, Stef. Perhaps I feel a lot of fear to actualize my potential as I am treating the people in my life like my parents despite having only loving, nurturing friendships in my life. Well, if you have loving, nurturing friendships in my life, why haven't they talked to you about this? Yeah, tall poppy syndrome is real Hide and keep a low profile to avoid getting targeted Cost is a life never lived See, I don't agree with that either If you're given potential, you have to try and find a way to maximize it Without being destroyed by the resentful.
[1:20:07] I heard a man introduce his wife. This is Kelly, my wife. He explained to me in private why he did that. She is a person in her own right in addition to her relationship with him. What? Sorry, I don't understand that. She is a person in her own right in addition to her relationship with him. No, she's not. I'm not. Am I a person in my own right independent of my relationship with my wife? No. No, I'm not like hoarding a part of myself out of the marriage. I'm not, you know, I mean, what do you mean? She's a person in her own right in addition to her relationship with him. No, you're married. You're one flesh. You're like two trees that have grown together trying to be individualists. My God, the life that you blend together, the finances, health, care, concern, family, children. I mean, you are one flesh. I mean if my wife were to say uh uh well i introduce you as Stef my husband because i recognize that you are an individual with your own personality and preferences and existence outside of the marriage i'm like no i'm not no i'm not you know first thing i uh do when i wake up in the morning is um hey how can i benefit my family how can i work with my family how can i to make things better with my family. I don't know. It seems to me odd that you would want to.
[1:21:33] You know, it's like doubles tennis. I don't know if you've played doubles tennis or double pickleball or double record sports or whatever. I've even played double squash, which was quite complicated. So in doubles tennis, you'd say, well, I have my own tennis game completely independent of what you're doing. It's like, no, you don't. It's doubles tennis. You're literally working with each other and everything you do is based upon, in part, what the other person is doing there's no independent game you're a team i'm on i'm on a relay race team but i'm my own runner completely independent i have an old no you're not you're part of a team, i don't i don't understand and i'm sorry if i'm missing something obvious but, what does that mean, uh Stef got rejected by a woman last week feels kind of crappy but no big deal thanks to what i've learned from you thank you very much regular donor well thank you i appreciate that i appreciate that and i'm sorry to hear that i really am i really am and got rejected by a woman last week okay so you feel you say i got rejected the language is important right the language is important, So let me ask you this.
[1:22:52] Let's say that you are an art expert and you find a Monet painting at a garage sale. And the guy's like, hey man, 10 bucks, take it off my hands. You're like, great. And then you take the Monet painting to a variety of places, porn shops, saying I want some money, or a variety of places, art shops or whatever, galleries. And you show them the painting let's say you don't tell them it's a Monet you show them the painting and say how much it would give you where did you get this? At a garage sale it's worthless, forget it and then you take it to one art gallery where the guy's like holy crap that's an original Monet, goose bumps 10 million dollars.
[1:23:51] $10 million. Now, do you feel that you are just, your painting is being rejected, you're being rejected? No. What's happening is, the people don't recognize the quality. Now, I understand there's limitations. They say, well, they just recognize it as a Monet and blah, blah, blah, right? But if you say, I'm rejected, it, then you're putting other people in a position of sovereign and valued judgment and they're rejecting you and you feel lesser because of that. But what if you say, she did not recognize my quality? Right? You understand? This is Dunning-Kruger 101. It takes quality to see quality. It takes quality to see quality.
[1:24:59] It was after I took almost two years of acting training that I realized how great Marlon Brando was. You know, there are people, I saw Fuzzy Footed Prince did a live concert where he was doing, play that funky music, white boy. And he just, guitar's away, right? And it's like, yeah, that's a cool solo, right? And I was looking through the comments, and one guy was like, I've been playing guitar for 40 years. I kind of understand what he's doing. Like, it's so incredibly great. And what did Eric Clapton say? What does it feel like to be the world's best guitarist? I don't know. You have to ask Prince. Go watch Prince do the guitar solo of the resurrected Jeff Lynne and George Harrison's kid and Tom Petty doing While My Guitar Gently Weeps. While My Guitar Gently Weeps. Watch Prince do a guitar solo. It's incredible. I mean, unbelievably, it gives you goosebumps, right? And I'm not a guitarist. I mean, I tried to learn. I learned one song of the guitar. I'm like, well, this is not for me. And it takes quality to appreciate quality. So it matters how you describe it to yourself. And you want to be accurate.
[1:26:14] You want to be accurate. Are you rejected by someone who genuinely appreciates quality?
[1:26:30] So a woman can be single into her 30s because she has high standards and genuinely recognizes quality and hasn't met the right guy. It could be the case. Not common. Could be the case. So, I mean, I think I've written some great novels and people in general, I got one novel published, but people in general did not want to publish them. And I had that challenge, right? Why don't they want to publish my novels? I love them. I write the kind of stuff that I would absolutely love to read. I listen to audiobooks of my own novels fairly consistently because I just, you know, I mean, I love the stories and I appreciate my voice acting, so to speak. And so, it's great stuff. I get goosebumps. The scene between Rachel and her brother-in-law in the parking lot after the men's rights conference, oh, just gives me goosebumps. And other things. The moment when Mary in Just Poor realizes that her material success is never going to make her happy and she decides to destroy herself. I mean, amazing to me. Goosebumps. Wendy's introduction in Almost.
[1:27:45] Tom's frustration, with his friends. The whole comic scene, with the welsh guy and shakespeare uh you know i love it i absolutely even as the battle of the gardens the scene where the kids are playing veering in between war and play amazing stuff to me just love it love it but i'm you know in terms of like publishers i'm the only one love it only one who loves it so.
[1:28:18] What do I say to myself? Do I say, well, I guess I'm just mistaken. It's not good. It's not good. But I can't do that because the empirical evidence to me is that it is good. So then what I have to do, I have to go and look at the other books that the publishers are publishing and saying, do I like those books? And the answer, almost invariably, is they're beautifully written horror shows. They're beautifully written, absolute horror shows. It is pretty.
[1:28:55] It is seductive syllables of semi-Satanism. He said, because alliteration is cool. So you're rejected by a woman. Are you rejected by a woman? What is rejected? What is rejected? What is rejected? The sense of life that is in my books, I think is very positive. Thank you, James. The sense of life in my books is very positive. There's depth. There's power. There's characterization. There's humanity. There's richness. And most books these days, most novels, I can't do modern novels. They're either like trashy, empty stuff, or it is deep horror. So you're either scratching on the silly surface, or you go deep into hell. That's it. that's all there is and that's something that uh paul mccartney said about modern music is it's either empty pop or hell on earth right there's no emotional richness in the modern novels.
[1:30:02] Ah, not really, no. I was thinking of one exception, but... So, are my novels being rejected? Maybe. No, sorry, the novels are certainly being rejected. The question is why. Now, if they're publishing novels I love, and they don't like my novels, well, that's different, right? Now, of course, Just Poor was rejected because it's a critique of socialism as well as, I think, a great story as a whole. And The God of Atheists, though, it received the most stellar review from a professional reviewer who said, literally, we now finally have in our hands the great Canadian novel which I've been waiting for my whole life. This is what a professional PhD literature reviewer gave a review of that novel was never published because it is about corruption within the family. People don't want to write about that. I want to read about that.
[1:31:09] So, are you being rejected? Because you lack quality? Or because the other person lacks quality? It has to be one of the two. I mean, assuming the woman's single. If the woman has quality, and you are quality.
[1:31:28] Then she should not reject you. She won't reject you. If you are quality, and the woman has quality, if you're both quality, you're moral, honest, decent, then you will connect. So what are you being rejected for? What is being rejected? Well, if she's quality and you're not quality, you have to work to raise your quality. But that should be inspiring. I mean, obviously, there's a balance. Like, you feel bad, it's inspiring, right? What does rejection mean? What are you being rejected for? I mean, I think I have some credibility when I'm talking about experiencing being rejected by the world. I think I have this on my resume. One or two places that I've had to deal with hostility and rejection from the world. Okay. Is the world a quality? Are people willing to lie about me in ferocious and psychotic ways? Are they quality people? No. So what am I being rejected by? All the people who couldn't go one website over, like somebody posted a slide from one of my old presentations from 2014, thing got six and a half million views on Twitter. And of course, the comments are all the same. Hey, whatever happened to that guy? Hey, that guy. It's like, okay, so I was not quality enough enough.
[1:32:56] For people to follow, right? Okay, that's fine. I mean, if I have a favorite singer, let's say, and the singer ends up being kicked off his label and comes up with his own website, does this mean I completely forget about him? No. My favorite artist or whatever it is, right? I'll just go there, right? Right? So am I being rejected? And then you say, okay, well, if I was rejected by like 95, 97% of my audience didn't follow me over. So if I'm rejected by those people, the question is, okay, who do they accept? Who are they following now? And are the people that they're following now of higher quality than me? Producing better content, richer content, more honest content, deeper content, more rigorous and consistent content with integrity, I'll know. Out of sight, out of mind are for people who have no capacity to pair bond, right? This woman says, I hate waking up if my husband isn't there. It's really unsettling. I have to hunt him down and check his OGIT. Very nice. Wow, I believe he was implying she had a name and it was not my wife. Yeah, you missed what I was saying.
[1:34:08] Let's see here. It says, I don't know, Stef. I just wish I could have broken away from the wounds inflicted upon me in my childhood and accessed my potential. I just have a sense of disconnection with people and it seems like every time I try to really reach out and connect with people, I just end up getting attacked, compassion hijacked, all the things. I just really feel at a loss.
[1:34:33] So wounds is a morally neutral term. You weren't wounded. You were tortured by evildoers. You're not a victim of a wound. You're a victim of evil. Right? I mean, you could theoretically cut yourself accidentally. That's different from being stabbed. Those both produce wounds. So if you feel like you're trying to connect with people and just end up getting attacked, act, it's because you lack compassion for yourself and you refer to the wounds rather than the evildoers.
[1:35:14] Does your wife introducing the man next to her as her husband not seem to imply you might be mistaken for a different man? She would be seen with, hypothetical here, Miguel, her lover. Yeah, the homeless Homeless guy saying Stef is bad at philosophy. Homeless guy judgment carries no weight. Yeah, so, I mean, when people critique me and they just do it really badly, like really badly, then why would I take their criticism seriously, right? If there's any place left to be cancelled from, maybe the next novel can include Russians, lol. Oh, those Russians. In Europe and America There's a growing feeling of hysteria So... My first novel was about, I was hugely influenced in my teens by Russian writers. But yeah, my first novel, my first real novel was Revolutions, which you can get at freedomainnft.com. Freedomainnft.com was about Russia. Because I recognized that the West was going in the same direction that Russia was in the 19th century. And I wanted to write about that.
[1:36:29] Oh, is this the guy who was rejected? She's very smart and kind, but I do suspect I did not make the cut physically. I'm very fit and pretty tall, but no pretty face. Saw her previous guy and some other signs, and that's the conclusion. So bullet dodge, probably. I guess the suck comes from the fact I came close to finding quality, but turned out I didn't. I came close to finding quality, but turns out I didn't. So she rejected you because of factors beyond your control which is the shape of your face right, so she's rejecting you for entirely shallow reasons that have nothing to do with your quality of character right i mean imagine if my wife had rejected me because i was bald, Now all of the happiness of the last 22 years, the richness, the success, the love, the family, like would all be gone. Oh, because he's bald.
[1:37:34] So, why would a woman reject a man for not being super handsome? Because she has bonded with her peers rather than a man. So, it's really absolutely terrifying the degree to which women will judge a man based upon how he will appear to her friends. And this is one of the reasons why women end up in these terrible relationships. Relationships and and you see this like all the time in movies aimed at women oh it's appalling it's just wretched these movies aimed at women like this even happened in the movie um it ends with us or it stops with us i can't remember it ends with us the one with um, blake lively and so she brings her boyfriend over to her mother and it's like oh he's so So gorgeous. Oh, my God, why didn't you tell me how gorgeous? Like the female validation, right? So if a woman is going to choose the father of her children based upon whether her friends think he's hot, well, you wouldn't want to have children with a retarded woman. It probably would be amoral to immoral.
[1:38:56] Maybe you need a pen name. No, I don't think it was a pen name. Engelbert Humperdinck was a famous singer. And a good singer, too. I came close to finding quality, but turned out I didn't. Okay, before you commit to a woman, meet her friends. Before you find yourself interested in a woman, sit down with her friends. Meet her friends. Evaluate her friends. Are they moral, reasonable, happy for her? Are they in stable relationships? Are they weird? Are they shallow? Do they drink too much? Like, meet a woman's friends. A woman's friends and a man's friends are a reflection of his values manifested in the flesh. So you can lie about what you believe, but you can't lie about your friends. They're there. They do what they do. Before you commit to anyone, meet their friends. You can't judge them by their family because they didn't choose their family. They choose whether they're in touch with their family. They didn't choose their family. But meet her friends. Meet her friends. Does she have good friends? Are they decent people? Moral people? Stable people? Do they support her? Care about her? No.
[1:40:08] Grifter. Yes, I'm just a grifter. So grifter is like spewing. It's just an NPC word. Oh, you're spewing false. You're spewing hatred. A grifter and spewing, there's a whole list of this uh npc words they're just npc words that are there to activate people's hostility hostility to the truth yeah such a grifter yeah such a grifter and that's why i tell all the most convenient truths that people pay the most money for yeah such a grifter somebody says most of the great authors i've read in school were boring but Stef's work is authentic gripping and blew away the mandatory curriculum and of course the message of reason upb and peaceful for parenting types, the usual lefty tropes. Well, thank you.
[1:40:57] Yeah, was Jesus Christ injured or was he wounded? No, he was tortured. He was assaulted. Freedomainnft.com, yeah, yeah, for sure. Maybe a novel set during Red October. I'm working on another novel right now. It's great fun. But I'm taking on a real challenge. A real challenge. Real challenge. I really, I can't write the same books over and over again. I don't know how mainstream authors do, but...
[1:41:31] It ends with us yeah I don't know do you think me doing the me plus thing might be a major factor in failing to connect with people man forget about connecting with people connect with yourself you can't connect with people except by going through yourself, whatever you lie to about yourself keeps you distant from people and when I say lie to you I say this with all sympathy lying about ourselves was essential for survival right so when I was told I was bad as a little kid. I had to accept that and live like that because otherwise I would be further attacked, assaulted, rejected, and maybe killed. Listening to David Gilmour's new album. I have not listened to it. I know that he's taking his guitar to a new level at 78. His daughter's efforts are no token effort either. I'm obviously a huge fan of David Gilmour. An underrated vocalist too. Obviously fantastic guitarist but also an amazing vocalist so i will have a listen i have not i really don't get a chance really to listen to music that much these days but i'll certainly give it a try thank you i broke down and went to a movie beetlejuice a sequel oh yeah a good clean fun.
[1:42:53] All right. Any last donations, support, for lonely, shaggy-bearded philosopher guy? Lonely because I'm just doing the show on my own in the studio. She's kind as an angel, but I know a friend of hers that's quite the bitter person. Right, this is making sense. She's as kind as an angel. Yeah. Well, women who are super kind won't be able to protect your children. Right? Please, please don't just be with women who are super kind. A super kind woman will be taken advantage of by others from here to eternity and will not be able to protect your children. You need women who have a knowledge of the immorality of the world and the dangers of the world. Naive women, get your children kidnapped. I'm donating next week on the Free Domain website. site. Freedomain.com. Thank you. Freedomain.com. Thank you, Joe. I appreciate that. Look forward to that. I'm just going to sit here and wait for that because I've got time. My gosh, what is that? 18 to 24. Yeah, 16 days left. Only two days left. Only two weeks and change left to be.
[1:44:11] 57 years old. Aging is glorious. I absolutely love it. I absolutely love it. I relish it. I I enjoy it. It is a beautiful, beautiful thing to age. Mmm! Sweet and tasty. All right. I think we may be drawing to a close. Any other last topics, questions, suggestions, curiosities? If you're listening to this later, freedomand.locals.com. Great stuff is going up there. Thank you, Zimpf. I appreciate that. Stay strong, brother. Figure out what you may have been forced to lie about that you still believe. Right? This is, right, adulting and self-knowledge is figuring out what you were forced to lie about that you may still in fact believe. Beats the alternative. Yeah, no, aging is fantastic. Aging is absolutely wonderful.
[1:45:01] Everybody talks about the negatives. Nobody talks about the absolute pluses of aging, of which there are very, very many.
[1:45:13] All right. Going once, going twice. What else do I have to mention about you? Yeah, donations. I'm sorry, I'm a little behind on getting these out. Donations this month get you the History of Philosophers series. There's a 24-part series, some of the most amazing work I've ever done. And I don't say that lightly. I know, oh, it's the greatest thing I've ever done. There's amazing stuff. So if you donate at freedomain.com slash donate, this month you will get a feed to the History of Philosophers series. What are the pluses of aging? Wisdom, stability, your major decisions are largely behind you, confidence, lack of insecurity, I know who I'm going to spend the rest of my life with, I know what I'm doing for the rest of my life, maybe some financial stability if you've managed to save money, there are massive pluses of aging. Because I'm going back and reading about my mind at 25, and I'm like, man, man, did I ever have a lot of questions that have been answered decades ago for me now. Aging is fantastic. Aging, I never have to take an exam again for the rest of my life. I never have to figure out what it is I'm going to do with my life. I never have to figure out whether I'm going to have an audience for what it is that I do. I am planning on adding more philosophers to the series but the next one is, Immanuel Kant who is massive and it's just taking a while.
[1:46:36] Alright so yes we will get to more philosophers for sure but I'm going to need like I don't know a week to get I've got a whole series of notes and researchers helped me get together notes about Immanuel Kant so but that's just, it's uh it's uh it's a tough thing to to pull together and because because it's adding 25th to a 24 part series i have to work on that which generates income for the costs right the cost of the show so payroll and overhead and media and servers and bandwidth and you name it right so i have to do that which is the most responsible for the finances of the show and what is the most responsible for the finances of the show is the kind of work that i'm doing here not you know adding one more to the 24 part series history of philosophers because i have to say to myself as i have to okay how does this help the income of the show and so So...
[1:47:39] I can't justify that from a cost-benefit standpoint at the moment. But yeah, Kant is a very, and I have a very complicated relationship with Immanuel Kant. After Immanuel, yeah, I think that the last one should be me. I think I'll do that at the end. I'll do that at the end of my life and the series. All right, I think we're done for dips. Looks like we're done for dips. well thank you everybody so much for your very kind support and wonderful absolutely fantastic questions and comments it really is a highlight of my day does it continue to get better as kids get older i can't imagine it getting better from here uh yeah i mean there's there's a you know a point in the teenage years where they start focusing more on peers than parents that's a little bit of a hiccup which i you know can understand and it's actually healthy but it certainly is a bit of a change but yeah it's it's a it's wonderful all the way along all right have Have yourself a glorious, glorious Sunday. Thank you so much for dropping by today. You know, it's funny because I'm like, I've got a couple of notes for the shows, but because your questions and comments are so great and your interaction with you guys is so much fun, I really, really do appreciate making these shows so easy. And for me, at least the time flies. I hope it does for you as well. All right. Have yourselves a glorious, glorious afternoon. Lots of love from up here. Talk to you soon.
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