0:00 - Scalding Hot Take on Jose Menendez
7:27 - The Problem with Child Beating
10:50 - Patterns of Abuse in Families
14:06 - Biblical Perspectives on Discipline
17:46 - The Importance of Moral Instruction
24:41 - Discipline versus Abuse
40:39 - The Role of Discipline in Parenting
42:35 - The Impact of Parenting Choices
50:23 - Men's Perspectives on Relationships
1:00:48 - High-Powered Women and Family Dynamics
1:20:42 - The Man's Perspective on Parenthood
1:22:06 - Women's Role in Attracting Men
1:36:18 - Attracting a High-Value Man
1:41:10 - Essential Tips for Men
1:58:24 - Understanding Male and Female Dynamics
2:06:02 - Closing Thoughts and Final Advice
In this episode, I delve deep into the controversial case of the Menendez brothers—who murdered their abusive father, Jose Menendez—and the implications of their actions, particularly in relation to the potential political power their father could have wielded had they not intervened. I present a provocative hypothesis: if the brothers’ accusations of their father being a sadistic child rapist are true, could they have inadvertently prevented a truly dangerous man from ascending to significant political heights? If he had successfully run for senator from Florida, perhaps even aiming for the presidency, what might that have meant for American political history?
Drawing parallels to the narrative of Stephen King's "The Dead Zone," directed by David Cronenberg, I discuss how the foresight displayed by the Menendez brothers might have spared future generations from a potentially tyrannical leader. This discussion isn't merely about the crime itself but revolves around larger themes of justice, morality, and the protection of innocence. If Jose Menendez’s political ambitions had been matched with his reportedly abusive behavior, the risks to societal safety could have been profound. The brothers’ drastic actions might just represent a form of vigilante justice rather than mere violence.
The narrative of the Menendez brothers is fraught not only with the tragedy of their actions but also with the context of their upbringing in an abusive household. Even if the broader implications of their claims were not true, the observable behaviors reported by outside witnesses shed light on the chaotic environment they endured. Reflections on their father’s brutality hint at a deeply dysfunctional family dynamic that would harrow any child’s sense of safety and normalcy—casting further light on why the brothers felt they had no choice but to act as they did.
I consider the complexities surrounding the notion of discipline and parenting, referencing discussions of biblical texts and popular philosophical ideas, to emphasize the stark contrast between loving guidance and abusive authority. Examples of public figures and narratives around discipline expose the fictions often told about parenthood and allow us to ask, how should we parent in ways that nurture rather than harm?
I also confront the pervasive issue of how women, too often, are led to feel that their value lies solely in professional achievements, sometimes at the cost of familial roles. Through direct engagement and humor, I argue that the pursuit of cultural values needs to transcend professional ambition for both men and women. One of the threads of discourse centers on whether contemporary societal commentary has inadvertently stripped away essential elements of nurturing, leaving many to wonder about the ideal family structure, particularly for future generations.
Ultimately, the episode wrestles with the multifaceted impacts of childhood trauma, parental authority, and societal expectations while posing challenging questions about morality, political power, and the enduring consequences of violence within families. It’s a reflection on the necessity of examining cultural narratives—how we often twist and reinterpret them—as a way to better understand our world and the choices people make within it. This complex tapestry of themes and implications offers a unique lens through which to view the Menendez brothers' tragic story.
[0:00] Well, good morning, good morning, 13th October 2024. It is 11 o'clock in the morning, and I'm just going to start with a scalding hot take. A scalding hot take. I'm going to give you a tiny bit of a preview about this, just a tiny bit of a preview of why I think this is so important. So I have been watching some of the Menendez information and material.
[0:36] And let's get ready for a hot take. This is a scalding hot take. And no one has said this in any way, shape or form. I'm positive I'm convinced of this. So, if the children's accusations against Jose Menendez are true, that he was a sadistic child rapist and torturer, Well, let me ask you this. Have you ever heard of or seen the movie called The Dead Zone? The Dead Zone, was it who directed that? Cronenberg? But it was originally a novel by Stephen King. And it was made into a movie that was quite a good movie. Christopher Walken playing his usual spurgy, robot, monotone, dead-eyed creepiness involved in, well, on the boat where Natalie died, kind of guy.
[1:49] So in that story, in that novel, in that movie, there is a terrifying, creepy, weird fascist that a guy shoots, and he's considered, at least ambiguously, to some degree, a hero, because he sees just how bad a politician that this guy is going to be, how dangerous he's going to be. So Jose Menendez was running for, what, senator from Florida. He had aspirations for the presidency. So I don't think what anyone has ever talked about is, if he was, as seems to be the case, a sadistic child rapist and torturer, then he would have been granted a massive amount of political power, should he been successful at running for senator of Florida, and perhaps further from there. And it seems like he would have been quite likely to do so, because he had money, he had charisma, he had looks, full head of hair, which apparently is more important than any kind of political acumen that people get these days. And he was very strong-willed, cruel, knew how to reward his friends and punish his enemies, which is the essence of politics. So it seems to me that if the Nendis brothers had not killed this man, that he would have ended up with vast swaths of political power while being, if we accept what the boys say is true, a child rapist and torturer.
[3:17] So, did they not prevent a truly evil man from gaining massive amounts of political power? Has anyone talked about that? Anyone? Because there were two proximate causes prior to the murder. One was the elder brother saying that he was going to protect the younger brother, and that they were going to tell. That's number one. Number two, they saw their father preparing to run for political power. I don't know that anyone's talked about that but it seems quite important even if we say that the boys are lying about the sexual abuse even if we say the boys are lying about everything, what about all of the abuse that was witnessed by everyone else we went over it in the last show which is available for donors freedomain.locals.com or if you want to get free access to it, fdrurl.com slash locals.
[4:30] So even if Jose Menendez who was reported by one of the coaches as the worst parent and human being he'd ever met even if all of the abuse that he heaped upon his children that was seen by others when he grabbed his five year old boy, whispered into his ear something that made his boy wet himself and then punched him in the chest so hard he couldn't breathe even if that is all that is true and even if, what the boys allege, or what the boys say was true, that he inserted objects into children's rectums as a form of sexual torture. Not even sexual. They can't even besmirch the word sexual by including that, just physical torture. And of course, it doesn't escape anybody with, half a sense of patterns in the world that if you insert a lot of foreign objects into your children's rectums as a child, they may in fact end up inserting a lot of foreign objects like lead into your body as an adult.
[5:35] Insert into me, I insert into you. But it could also have been that there was a sense of the danger of allowing this man, Jose Menendez, to achieve massive amounts of political power. What would have happened to the course of of Florida history, American history, and perhaps even world history, had Jose Menendez gained control of significant swaths of the American political system. He had charisma. He was a great public speaker, very strong-wilt. He certainly would have gained the support of the anti-Castro people in Florida, which is a significant voting base.
[6:27] Did not the Menendez brothers play at least some part or a significant part, well, you could actually say a decisive part in preventing this man from gaining political power, because this is the kind of man who could have quite easily gained political power I don't I haven't seen that talked about anywhere, What do you guys think? That donor video is worth a watch. Stefan's insights are well said as usual. Thank you.
[7:28] And of course, one of the theories as to why Jose Menendez would have gained political power is that he would have been so easy to control because of his...the skeletons in his closet would have made him very easy to control.
[7:54] I did see Andrew Wilson. He did not support childbeating. He did not support childbeating, in my view. And I think you should be, you know, be very careful, just in terms of your own integrity, right? Be very careful about saying things like that. Um, I did see a clip of Andrew Wilson. Um, I got him as being sarcastic, so I did not see him as doing that at all. So please don't say that kind of stuff unless you have something very, very clear. Menendez would have fit in just fine in Congress as someone who probably would have been a regular at Epstein Island. I imagine so. Was it Dominique Dunn who was the, he was a crime writer for, Vanity Fair?
[8:51] Let me just double check this. Now I probably have something. Oh no, that was the kid, right? She was in Poltergeist and was murdered by her ex-boyfriend in 1982. 82, sorry. That was poltergeist actress Dominique Dunn. Sorry, that's... Dunn... Writer. No, Dominic. Dominic Dunn. Dominic was his... His child. So... Dominic Dunn, who was played by, oh, Lord, I can never remember his name. Anyway, the guy with the eyebrows that constantly do the peaked roof thing. So Dominic Dunn, it talks about, and this is how he's portrayed. I don't know all of the facts behind it. But he talks about how his own father beat him savagely to the point where Dominic Dunn had lost some hearing. based upon his father's beatings.
[10:14] Nathan Lane. Nathan Lane. And Dominic, sorry, Dominic Dunn, talked about at least as he's portrayed in the Menendez fictionalized series. He says that he was beaten savagely by his father to the point where he lost some hearing, which is, of course, appallingly brutal. And he seems to kind of shrug that off. He doesn't seem to have much emotional connection to it.
[10:51] Again, we don't know about the man himself, but just as he's portrayed in the series by Nathan Lane.
[11:11] And he kind of shrugged off his own father's beatings, and then his daughter was beaten to death by a man, a man who himself was beaten as a child and saw his father beat his mother. The patterns, the patterns, the patterns.
[12:06] Yeah, so just with regards to Andrew Wilson, somebody posted on Twitter, my dad only had to spank my brother and I once, felt like my ass was going to explode. We always listened to him after that. Was a serial killer that got a child at the park he told us not to go to buy our house, but we went anyway. He explained later how bad it hurt him to spank us, but he did it because he was scared and he had to let us know to never disobey him again. We didn't. He's an amazing father because we were kids and didn't understand and Andrew Wilson wrote, Welp, you effed up and got what you deserve. Good old man, you got there. Now, you're right. It's not clearly sarcastic but Welp is to me somewhat sarcastic and good old man, you got there. Why A rather than you? Good old man, you got there. So, I view that as sarcastic, but you're right, it could be taken either way.
[13:04] Heard that Beethoven's father used to beat Ludwig. Well, I mean, all children were horribly mistreated until maybe the middle, to some degree, the middle of the 20th century. Now, if, of course, and I'm not saying he is, but if Andrew Wilson is, it felt like my ass was going to explode that means that he was truly beaten that's not just a spanking that's truly a beating.
[13:40] Then that's vile again I'm not saying he is maybe he's being sarcastic but yeah that is truly vile if he's approving of that kind of violence.
[14:06] Immortal Beloved movie hinted at extreme abuse. Immortal Beloved. I know that name. What is that movie? Oh that's um beethoven i wonder if that's why he lost his hearing later on in life might and i just might have something to do with head blows as a child, The Bible says thou shalt beat, reiterated in the New Testament. How do you propose to win over Christians? Well, spare the rod, spoil the child, as regular listeners of this show know, it does not mean beat your children. The rod is a staff that a shepherd would use to guide. The shepherd doesn't beat his sheep with his staff. The rod is the rod of instruction. It's not beating your children with a bat. That's not what the rod means. Now, of course, there are issues with the way that children are talked about in the Bible, for sure. And let's go through a few.
[15:30] What does the Bible say about? Right. Whoever spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is diligent to discipline him. Okay. So again, the rod is not beating your child. Whoever spares instruction hates his son, but he who loves him is diligent to discipline him. And again, does discipline mean beating? No, because self-discipline doesn't mean that you beat yourself with a bat. To have self-discipline, to push away the cheesecake, to go to the gym, this does not mean that you are abusing yourself. Discipline does not mean abuse. It has been taken over by child abusers as an analogy, right? I taught to discipline to my daughter mostly by modeling discipline myself.
[16:18] And what I think they're talking about is that if you let your children run wild without any kind of parenting, like you know that I've talked to countless people over the last 20 years, give or take, who say that they were neglected by their parents. They were given. I said, who raised you? Who gave you instruction? Who taught you? Who parented you? And you've heard me ask this countless times. What instructions did your parents give you that you still find valuable, helpful, and useful to this day? And of course, there's lots of people who got no instruction and were raised by their own hormones, in a sense, which has you go astray, particular lusts and preferences, status, looks, the internet whatever gurus, so whoever, avoids giving their children moral instruction is not loving them because it is loving to teach moral self-discipline to your children could anyone disagree with that?
[17:46] And, yeah, little children are such that the kingdom of heaven is made of. Yeah. What else does the Bible say? For the moment, all discipline seems painful rather than pleasant, but later it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it. Okay?
[18:13] For the moment, all discipline seems painful rather than pleasant. Sure. When you say no to yourself for the sake of self-discipline, it's unpleasant. Otherwise, you wouldn't need something called self-discipline. I mean, I'll give you a little secret. I don't really like to work out. I mean, I've been working out for 40 years. More. 43 years I've been working out. I really don't like it. It's not fun. How could it be fun? I mean, I wouldn't do it if it was bad for me. I mean, I've done philosophy, even though philosophy is bad for me in terms of reputation and so on, general social acceptance. So I'll do philosophy, even though it is unpleasant at times, but I don't enjoy working out. I mean, again, if it wasn't good for me, I wouldn't do it. Why would you just go to a dark room and move metal around? It's the weirdest hobby known to man, it, right? Why would I sit on a stationary bike and pedal to nowhere while sweating on myself?
[19:15] It's not fun. It's not enjoyable. It's not pleasant. But I do it because one of the reasons is that I'm an older father. And I mean, that's been the reason for the last 15 years to help me with a little bit of extra discipline. But I just, I feel like I have a very important brain and I need to, and I view it as a collective treasure, so to speak. It's not just mine. I mean, I certainly didn't create it and invent it all on my own. I just happened to be quite lucky or unlucky, depending on your perspective. So I view my brain as a collective good.
[19:48] And if the town gives you a lot of grain to store for the winter, you don't eat it all yourself. And evolution and ancestors and society as a whole has happened to give me, I think, a fairly valuable brain. I don't use it just for my own gain and benefit. I use it as a payback for the benefit of mankind because I am not my brain. My brain is something that I inherited in the same way that if you inherit money, that's not your money. It still matters what you do with it. In fact, it matters what you do with it even more if you inherit it rather than earn it. But my virtue is earned, but my brain is inherited. So, all discipline, right? So, for the moment, in the moment, working out is not painful. Sorry, in the moment, working out is rather unpleasant, but later, you feel better, and it's true. I actually quite love the, you know, the guys with the sweat stains on their shirts and the muscles and so on. It's just, you know, you've worked your body. You've done good with your body.
[20:52] Proverbs says, train up a child in the way he should go. Even when he is old, he will not depart from it. All right? Yes, it's a lot easier to be taught virtue when you're young and to be taught good habits when you're young than to try and figure them out later. Right? It's a lot easier to grow up speaking Japanese or Mandarin than it is to try and learn Japanese and Mandarin later on in life.
[21:21] Okay, let me just double check something here.
[21:28] Okay, so Proverbs, and again, I'm not a theologian, so I'm just going to give you silly opinions, but hopefully they'll be of some value. So Proverbs, when you're talking about Christianity, it's very important to know, thank you, Eric, it's very, very important to know whether you're talking about the Old Testament or the New Testament. Right? Now, if you're talking about the Old Testament, you're not talking in particular about Christianity. I know it's complex, but Christ came to the earth to provide a new covenant for the salvation of mankind. Right? So, if you're talking about the Bible and you're talking about Christianity, you have to have a giant fiery moat between the New Testament and the Old Testament. So Proverbs is wise sayings, some from Solomon, but it's pre-Christ, if I understand this correctly. It's pre-Christ.
[22:47] So, when it comes to the Bible, we get to Proverbs, where he says, the Proverbs says, do not withhold discipline from a child. If you strike him with a rod, he will not die. If you strike him with the rod, you will save his soul from shoal. My son, if your heart is wise, my heart too will be glad.
[23:12] Do not withhold discipline from a child. If you strike him with a rod, he will not die. Well, there's no way to, that's not just some shepherd's crook, right? So that's, that definitely justifies hitting children. It doesn't say it's the only way to save them, but it says it's one way to save them. Obviously that's bad. I mean, there's no, I'm not going to try and rescue something that is bad. Ephesians 6.4 says, Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord. Again, discipline does not mean beating. Do not provoke your children to anger, right? Which means don't provoke them to rebel against you. Bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord. Does not a personal trainer ask you for discipline and give you instruction? Of course, when I was in therapy, my therapist suggested keeping a journal outside of the therapist's office, and I did that. She gave me instruction, and it required some discipline. Proverbs again, folly is bound up in the heart of a child, but the rod of discipline drives it far from him. And again, does rod mean beating, or does rod mean shepherd's instruction and guidance?
[24:41] And Proverbs again says Discipline your son and he will give you rest He will give you delight to your heart Right, So you model self-discipline And you communicate the value of self-discipline To your children Discipline your son That doesn't mean beating, Whoever loves discipline loves knowledge But he who hates reproof is stupid Okay So, one of the reasons we need discipline with regards to knowledge is we have to overcome confirmation bias. We have to overcome our emotional preferences to reinforce prior conceptions. He who hates reproof is stupid. Yes, if you can't be corrected, if you can't be corrected, you remain unintelligent. So, it takes discipline to read arguments that run strongly counter to your own particular preferences or what you've inherited. Children obey your parents in the Lord for this is right okay so this is Ephesians, obey your parents now it doesn't say obey your parents period.
[25:52] Obey your parents in the Lord. In other words, the degree to which your parents teach you virtue, you should obey your parents so that you end up obeying virtue. Children cannot obey virtue when they're very young because they cannot abstract to that degree. That's why they're children. That's why they need to be raised. Children cannot invent their own language. They need to be taught language. They cannot invent their own writing. They need to be taught writing. So obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right.
[26:34] I mean, who's going to disagree? Who's going to disagree? Do we just toss our children aside and let them raise themselves? No, we're not boomers.
[26:44] Colossians, Colossians, Colossians. Fathers, do not provoke your children lest they become discouraged. Right. Do not provoke your children, lest they become discouraged. So, encourage them and model the behavior. Don't nag them. Don't bully them. Don't, I assume, don't be violent, because that's provocative for sure. A wise son hears his father's instruction, but a scoffer does not listen to rebuke. Okay, who's going to argue with that? A wise son hears his father's instruction. Instruction like if i'm reading to you the instructions on how to put a cabinet together right we go with some tongue-twisting ikea stuff and i'm reading to you the instructions on how to put the cabinet together and i say oh no that's the wrong piece uh it says here, fish in the garden and you got fish in the good right so if i'm if i'm telling you if i'm reading to you the instructions, it's wise for you to listen to those instructions. It doesn't say a wise son obeys his father. Here's his father's instruction. Instruction is the communication of valid knowledge. Otherwise, it's sabotage, right? But a scoffer does not listen to rebuke, right? Yeah, so if you're wrong and someone tells you that you're wrong, that's bad. Again, right?
[28:11] Hebrews says, And have you forgotten the exhortation that addresses you as sons? My son, do not regard lightly the discipline of the Lord, nor be weary when reproved by him, for the Lord disciplines the one he loves, and chastises every son whom he receives.
[28:29] Right. So, I mean, let me ask you this. When you see a child who is morbidly obese, let's say the kid is eight and morbidly obese, would you say that any self-discipline or restraint has been taught by the parents? You would say, no. I assume that massive, maybe trauma, but certainly indulgence, bad food, you name it, has all been inflicted by the parents. So can we say that parents who allow an eight-year-old child to become morbidly obese, can we say that those parents love their children? Of course not. My gosh, look at this, it's Sunday morning and I'm doing a sermon. Of course not.
[29:13] Hebrews goes on to say, it is for discipline that you have to endure. God is treating you as sons. For what son is there whom his father does not discipline? If you are left without discipline, in which all have participated, then you are illegitimate children and not sons. Besides, this we have had earthly fathers who disciplined us and we respected them. Shall we not much more be subject to the father of spirits and live? Again, you have to tell me what you disagree with. This is not commanding parents to abuse their children. It is saying, if you neglect your children, if you teach them no virtues, no values, you model no virtues and no values, that is not loving. and you do have to correct your children. That's what discipline is. Proverbs, whoever ignores instruction despises himself, but he who listens through a proof gains intelligence. Okay, so let's look at the massive, 3% of people in Japan are morbidly obese or obese and like 40% of Americans. Okay, everybody knows how to lose weight. Eat less and exercise. Everybody knows how to lose weight. Even if you don't know all the complicated stuff, it's just calories in, calories out. It's not that complicated. It's not easy, don't get me wrong, but everybody knows how to lose weight. If you were paid a million dollars to lose 10 pounds over six months, you could do it, right? You could do it. So.
[30:43] People who are obese are generally less happy. They're not happy with being obese, right? And there are obviously health issues, there's cleanliness issues, there can be, well, there certainly are attractiveness issues for a lot of obese people, and there are fertility issues, and certainly longevity issues, right? So, it's saying that if someone tells you to do something that is really beneficial and good for you, but is difficult in the moment, And if you choose to indulge yourself in the moment, it's because you don't care about your future self. So whoever ignores instruction despises himself. Again, how is this, how is it possible to, I mean, you can chip around the edges, but how is it possible to foundationally disagree with this? Proverbs also says A fool despises his father's instruction But whoever heeds reproof is prudent, Proverbs also says For the commandment is a lamp And the teaching is a light And the reproofs of discipline are the way of life For the commandment is a lamp And the teaching is a light That's not violent, that's not brutal That's not beatings And the reproofs of discipline are the way of life.
[32:03] Whoever heeds instruction is on the path to life, but he who rejects reproof leads others astray. That's true. That's true.
[32:17] Hebrews, and have you forgotten the exhortation that addresses you as sons? My son, do not regard lightly the discipline of the Lord, nor be weary when reproved by him, for the Lord disciplines the one he loves and chastises every son whom he receives. Yes, the body has appetites that are bad for the soul. Say it with me. The body has appetites that are bad for the soul. And if the soul to you doesn't mean an eternal part of your physical being, but simply means your conscience, your abstract virtues, that's fine. too. The body has lusts that are bad for the soul. The body lusts for food. The body lusts for extra food, particularly if you come from northern climates, because food was uncertain, especially hunters, right? Food was uncertain, so whenever you got food, you gorged yourself. Tom Hanks' pride of a landing on an island style.
[33:17] The body wants to spread its seed through promiscuity and lust. The body wants nicotine even at the expense of the lungs. The body wants to drink rather than deal with trauma. The body wants to act out in violence rather than peacefully reason, often. The body wants to steal. The conscience wants to earn. The body wants to expect minimum effort to gain maximum rewards, which has a lot to do with stealing. So the body has lusts that are bad for the soul. I mean, we all know this, right? The body doesn't want to work out. The body wants to sit on a couch and eat ding-dongs. But enough about Freddie Mercury. How are we disagreeing with any of this foundationally?
[34:20] Galatians. Wasn't that one of the ships on Battlestar Galactica? Brothers, if anyone is caught in any transgression, you who are spiritual should restore him in a spirit of gentleness. Keep watch on yourself, lest you too be tempted. Okay. If you catch someone doing something immoral or harmful, you who are spiritual should restore him in a spirit of gentleness. Now, he says anyone. It doesn't say any man, any woman, any adult. If anyone, that includes children, is caught in any transgression, you who are spiritual should restore him in a spirit of gentleness. Keep watch on yourself, lest you too be tempted, right? So if you've got a very angry father who yells at you and curses you, you should try to restore him to virtue in a spirit of gentleness and make sure that you don't end up screaming verbal abuse back at him. Do not be tempted to go low. Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord. The fruit of the womb is a reward.
[35:32] If a man has a stubborn and rebellious son who will not obey the voice of his father or the voice of his mother, and though they discipline him, will not listen to them, and then dot, dot, dot. Again, obey the voice. therefore the discipline is verbal, not beatings. Those who I love I reprove and discipline so be zealous and repent.
[36:07] My son do not despise the Lord's discipline or be weary of his reproof for the Lord reproves him whom he loves as a father, the son in whom he delights, not beats. Let's hear this again. My son, do not despise the Lord's discipline or be weary of his reproof, for the Lord reproves him whom he loves as a father, the son in whom he delights. Deuteronomy, you shall teach them diligently to your children and shall talk of them when you sit in your house and when you walk by the way and when you lie down and when you rise you shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes right you shall talk to your children you shall teach them diligently.
[37:08] Now, here's one. It's fine. This is the later part of the earlier part. I'm not going to do all of these, right? But let's look at one that is not good, obviously, right? But let's also remember, I'm going to just triple check this. I'm 99% sure. Yes. Old Testament, fifth book of the Torah, where it's called Devarim, fifth book of the Hebrew Bible and the Christian Old Testament, right? The hundred B.C. So this is the Old Testament. If a man has a stubborn and rebellious son who will not obey the voice of his father or the voice of his mother, and though they discipline him, will not listen to them, then his father and his mother shall take hold of him and bring him out to the elders of the city at the gate of the place where he lives, and they shall say to the elders of his city, This our son is stubborn and rebellious. He will not obey a voice. He is a glutton and a drunkard. Then all the men of the city shall stone him to death with stone, so you shall purge the evil from your midst, and all Israel shall hear and fear.
[38:23] Well, that's not ideal, obviously. The question is, why is he a glutton and a drunkard, right? So, a glutton and a drunkard? You stone him to death? I don't think so. That's not wise. That's not virtuous. But that's Old Testament. For God gave us, this is from Timothy, for God gave us a spirit not of fear, but of power and love and self-control. Oh, ah, interesting, right? Interesting. Again, this is a New Testament, right? Now we're talking. Now we're talking. For God gave us a spirit not of fear, but of power and love and self-control. Do not be afraid of your parents. But let them teach you the power and love of self-control. To self-control is to love your future self.
[39:39] Ah. My son, keep your father's commandments and forsake not your mother's teaching. Okay, commandments and teaching. Commandment doesn't mean do it because I say so, but it's in reference to the commandments of God. Keep the virtues taught to you by your father and forsake not your mother's immoral instruction. Right? Because this is about the soul. So it's not about, well, your mom taught you how to darn a sock, so you should do it that way. Proverbs. Grandchildren are the crown of the age, and the glory of children is their fathers.
[40:26] Know in your heart that as a man disciplines his son, the Lord your God disciplines you. Well, the Lord your God does not beat you. The God does not beat people.
[40:39] Now, there is hell and the threat thereof. Yeah, it says, Reprove, not yell at, scream at, insult, berate, mock, insult, ignore, despise, or loathe, or beat, or torture.
[41:04] Somebody says, I am a theologian. The Latter-day Saints' knowledge is much different restored versus mainstream understanding. Much knowledge is lost and corrupted. But that scarcely seems fair that someone hands you a Bible that is lost and corrupted, or wherein arguments in there. Perhaps that's why so many people take the attitude of discipline is for squares, man, because discipline is conflated with abuse. So, discipline is perceived as abusive if the person instructing you is not practicing it. Discipline is perceived as abusive if the person instructing you is not practicing it. So, you know, if your fat, lazy dad keeps yelling at you to work out, you resent it. Boomers will just get a TV to raise their kids, yeah, yeah. Andrew Wilson replied, Look, man, I'm not trying to fight with Stefan Molyneux. I've always enjoyed his stuff. I'm happy to debate the spanking issue with him, though, and yes, I think spanking is fine, of course.
[42:08] Holy F, says Zimph. Speaking of boomers, nice to see you, my friend. Recently, I heard a baby boomer say, in some spiritual views, you choose your parents. I gave him a death glare and he immediately said, well, maybe that's taking personal responsibility too far. Duh! Well, yes, and it is true. I remember having a girlfriend many years ago, and a friend of hers was giving her lofty instructions.
[42:35] The friend of hers actually just took a married man for all of his money, like got married to a guy, took him for half his money, and lived off the fat of another man's labor, and never even provided any children. And she was loftily instructing my girlfriend on how she chose her parents before she was born, and they have lessons to teach her. We had a conversation about that. As somebody says, I remember delivering mail in neighborhoods. It was so sad to see so many kids being raised by TVs. The LDS Church teaches that we are all children of heavenly parents. We are known and loved. They never called on us to be tortured into obedience.
[43:23] If I did not... How for the money if I did not? Oh, if I did not... I don't know what that means. I will hire a physical trainer or a nutritionist to create a plan to reach my goal. Yeah, so they're going to give you knowledge, and you're going to have to have discipline. Yeah, so guilty parents say that their children chose them, right? It's such a crazy thing to say.
[43:54] So, Andrew Wilson supporting spanking, again, it's important to know what that means. I try to be fairly disciplined about this i'm obviously not perfect i try to be fairly disciplined about this for me spanking is different from a beating in that spanking is not designed to teach through a significant infliction of physical pain and terror spanking is generally open-handed often with trousers not designed to leave bruises or marks or anything like that, it is a physical measure of correction that is designed not to teach through significant infliction of physical pain. That's beating. And when I'm talking to listeners, and I'm sure we can find exceptions, but in general, when I'm talking to listeners, if they say that they were hit with implements, I call that a beating, right? So if you're hit with a stick, that is a beating.
[45:02] A slipper, it depends, slippers can really hurt, right? I mean, if you really put your back into it, right? So for me, again, this is just my particular approach. And by the way, tips are more than welcome for these very essential conversations. But if I say to someone, were you hit as a child and they say, you know, I was lightly spanked or I was spanked through clothing, I will not refer to that as a beading. Again, maybe I've misspoke at times, but in general, that's my approach. So, when Andrew Wilson says, I support spankings, it depends what he means. I'm absolutely positive he does not mean hitting your children with a bat or any kind of implement. I'm pretty sure he doesn't mean that because that's referred to as a beading, not a spanking. A spanking is usually open hand with desire for correction not through the infliction of significant physical pain.
[46:11] Yeah, wooden spoons, belts, and so on, right? Belts are particularly dangerous because you flinch and that buckle can hit your eye and blind you. Like that little spike in the buckle, right? I don't even know there's a name for that, right? I know weird names for little things. You know, like that little plastic around the tip of your laces is called an egglet. I don't know why. I've just seen little ladies stick with me. Learned more ethics and morals from Fred Rogers of his TV show. I knew he was a pastor as well. Also good friends with Ernie Coombs, aka Mr. Dressup who came to work and live in Canada. But Fred Rogers, so Mr. Rogers' neighborhood and so on, was the feminization of the American youth. The feminization is very, very important to have masculine role models around young, which is why the Boy Scouts was so important. And I was in the Boy Scouts and it was actually quite important. So Mr. Rogers was the feminization, because Mr. Rogers is about being nice, not strong. Nice, not strong. It's back to the Jell-O experiment, right? The little girls with the salty Jell-O say, mmm, I love salt. The little boys with Jell-O say, this tastes terrible. There's way too much salt in it.
[47:19] So, Mr. Rogers was a refuge in the other extreme from the violence and neglect of a lot of boomer parents, but Mr. Rogers taught niceness, not strength. From what, I mean, I'm no expert on the guy, but that's what I've, of the clips I've seen. It's a lovely day in the neighborhood, right? And what is it, the story about Mr. Rogers, that there was some blind, blind girl who was watching his show, who wrote to him and said, I never know if you're feeding the fish at the end of the show. So at the end of the show, he started saying, and here I am feeding the fish, right? It's claustrophobic niceness. It is not, masculine strength. And it is boys. Boys are taught to restrain discipline and learn how to focus, by males, not by females. And there was a lot of feminine energy around Mr. Rogers, in my opinion.
[48:27] Somebody says, I had a thought about why millennial women in particular got so screwed up as far as pair bonding. The lack of instruction and neglect from their parents, coupled with women's proclivity to give each other terrible and worthless advice, totally destroyed their ability to build a relationship. Once you can get one generation to screw up their marriages, the birth rate is destroyed. Thank you, Adam. Once you can get one generation to screw up their marriages, the birth rate is largely destroyed. Because when you grow up, if you don't want what your parents have, you're adrift in the wind. If you don't want what your parents have, you are adrift in the wind. You are prey to just about every crazy thought that floats through the human stratosphere of which there is an infinite supply now with the internet, right?
[49:38] I have not seen the clip. If the clip in question, with regards to Andrew Wilson, and I'll look at it after, if the clip is a beating and Andrew Wilson approves of that and has explicitly approved of that, then that's a whole different matter, right? Then he's in support of child abuse. But without clear evidence, and maybe there is some, right? But I don't convict without clear evidence.
[50:07] So the reason why millennial women have trouble pair bonding is, since no fault divorce and the pill, and the welfare state is the one, two, three, triple punch to take out the nuclear family.
[50:24] I didn't want what my parents had. But when you don't want what your parents have, then you have to find something, because you can't invent everything, right? It's like if you say, well, I don't really like the language my parents are speaking. Let's say they only speak one language. I don't really like the language my parents are speaking. So, what do you just make up your own language? You can't do that. So, you have to find... So, I didn't want what my parents had, or anyone in my vicinity. I didn't... Almost nobody. There was one family that I liked. But I didn't want what just about everybody else in my environment had. So, I had to... I couldn't invent everything myself, so I went to philosophy. Thank you.
[51:17] All right. Nothing to say. Just wanted to tip. Thank you very much. And thank you, Zimf. I appreciate that. Thank you, Eric. My dad used a belt, no pants. If I put my hands down, he stopped counting until I moved my hands. He was 300 pounds, 5 foot 10, just to be clear, in punishment for talking back to mom, as in exploding after verbal abuse. I'm so sorry about that. And that is vile and evil and an absolute beating. I mean, that's really torture, right? Yeah, my mother approved Mr. Rogers not a ringing endorsement Thank you, Kairos Always appreciated.
[51:59] My dad was raised by a violent alcoholic of the Edwardian era Him having it that bad should have taught him never to pass it on Oof, that idea of being adrift resonates Feels like a lack of culture, i don't promote mr rogers now as a guide but merely point out that was all i had besides the occasional trips to church or bible camp lutheran for your for your information growing up nothing went older yeah and i'm sorry i'm my apologies if i said that or implied it i I certainly didn't mean to say that you were advocating for Mr. Rogers as a whole. I'm just pointing out that if that's where you landed, it was not going to help you with masculinity.
[52:53] Hi, Stef. I have been in my current job for a few months, and it's incredibly high pressure and stressful. And I want to spend my emotional resources on becoming a better woman and focusing on what is important in life so I can get married and have children. Is it illogical of me to downgrade to a low-status job, e.g. Hospitality, as I do not care about having a career at all? Okay, well, let's poll. Let's poll. I don't think I can poll here live, can I? I do not think so. I cannot do the poll here live. But if you're a man and you're interested in dating a lovely, brilliant young woman like Swan here, would you prefer her.
[53:39] To be in a demanding, stressful, lots of work, lots of hours, maybe lots of travel, would you prefer to date her when she's in a high-functioning, high-pressure, stressful job or a lower-pressure job that gives her time to date and has some relaxation involved. So high L. H versus L. H versus L. If you would rather her to be in a high-status job or would you rather her be in a low-status job, H or L? And we can do this, of course, over on Rumble as well.
[54:31] While we're waiting for that, I'm just going to check some comments over here on Locals. Oh, a lot of comments over here on Locals. A lot of comments. Rod is like the scepter of rulership. parents who are friends with their children are not being kind, they are being selfish. Yes, that's right. Yeah, the buddy mom, buddy dad, that's pathetic, that's desperate. I have to disagree there. Jesus came in as the advocate, which means defense lawyer, that restored us in front of God when the world accuses us. Law still stands. I'm not sure what that means.
[55:18] Rod equals measuring marking, comparing with self or third-party slash object just by measuring the path of an electron changes its direction. Yeah, rod could be a measure, yeah, that could be a measurement, like a ruler, right?
[55:38] All right, let's go back here. Everybody is low. Yeah, everybody is low. L, L, L, L, L, L, L, L, L.
[55:59] So, if you want kids, right, if you want kids. And i'll sorry i'll put the link here for where i was getting the quotes about children, so if you want kids this is to all the women out there you try to see it from a man's standpoint now one of the ways that the birth rate has collapsed is women are not trained or taught to think of a man's perspective and what he wants, right? Women are told that men want what women want. So women are like a man who can physically be aggressive and take care of himself in a violent situation, right? It's kind of evolved that way, right? And so women are then portrayed as, you know, ass kicking alias secret agent uh violent women who can jennifer garner has like specialized in this like these just these incredibly violent women who can beat up guys twice their size.
[57:08] But that looks like a man to women. Sorry, that looks like a man to men, right? So, women find a man's career attractive, so women have been taught that a man will find their career attractive, and he might, if they want to build some business empire together, but if you want to have children, right? Let's say there's a man who wants children, and I want to speak for all men, obviously, but this is the basic pattern, and if you disagree with me, obviously, let me know in the comments and I will adjust based upon your feedback. But I, as a man, look at it something like this. And I think most men do. So let's say you as a man, you're in your late 20s and you want to settle down. And you meet a woman, we'll call her Beth. And Beth is a high-powered lawyer who's 31. On, right? She works 70 hours a week, weekends, travels, court dates, stress, night, brings work home, and she's a real go-getter. Now, I have no issues with that. Totally fine. I'm just talking about from a man's perspective if he wants to settle down.
[58:25] So her level of ambition and aggression, and workaholism, is that compatible with what a man is really looking for, which is not a business partner, not an F-toy? What is a man looking for when he wants to settle down? He is looking for a mother for his children. It's really not that complicated. it. A man, when he wants to settle down, is looking for a mother for his children. Now, if the woman, Beth, who's 31 and a high-powered lawyer who works 70 hours a week, barely takes any vacation, travels... Is she going to be a good mother for his children? I remember when I was in New Zealand. Was it New Zealand? Yeah, New Zealand. And Jacinda Arden had a kid and I said, she can't be as good a mother as if she stays home. She said, oh, she can't be a good mother then. It's like, no, no, no, she can't be as good a mother. Right.
[59:31] So the high status workaholic women, a man looks at that and says, well, she'll make money, she'll want to go back to work, and she's so ambitious and high-driven and probably high-tea that she will not be happy, content, and serene running a household and raising my children. Which is not to say that one is good, one is bad, one takes intelligence, the other one doesn't. I don't want to get into that false dichotomy, raising children well, takes an enormous amount of wisdom and intelligence and negotiation skills and all of that. It takes a lot of that. It's not like, well, you know how they characterize this? Well, I could be arguing legal briefs in front of the Supreme Court. Instead, I'm wiping asses and throwing out diapers, right? Like you just reduce it to some, but actually bonding with your kid, eye contact, raising a good, attached, happy child, negotiation, joy, fun, play. Raising children takes a significant degree of wisdom to do well.
[1:00:40] Now, guys, I know I'm speaking a little bit for all of us, but let me know how I'm doing because I, again, don't want to speak unjustly for people as a whole.
[1:00:49] When you want to settle down, are you looking for a high-powered lawyer who won't be able to quit, or are you looking for a woman who will be happy raising your children?
[1:01:03] And, I mean, this is not super complicated, obviously. I'm married, of course, and all of that. And I dated some very high-powered women. I really did. I dated high-powered women. They were constantly busy, never really had any time, canceled dates. And I got that. And I respected them for their work ethic. I thought, that's great. But I and the children can't come first because she's married to her job. She'll be married to her job and cheating on me.
[1:01:38] And as a man, I'll just be straight up honest with you, as a man, I don't like sharing my woman with a work husband who has infinitely more sway and authority and effect and control, in a sense, than I do. And I'm saying control, but what's the right word? Influence. Influence, right? Influence is a better word, right? So, as a man, most men, they don't want to play second fiddle to a usually, male work boss, right? They don't want to have a situation where they're supposed to be doing something with their girlfriend, and then they are blocked by a man telling their girlfriend what to do, and she obeys that man and doesn't take, right, doesn't say, no, I have a date. In the same way, women as a whole don't like it if a man has a female influencer in his life that infinitely exceeds her own authority and influence.
[1:02:55] I mean that's not how we're built then we can rail against this and and that's fine but it's still not how we're built right, now of course you can say well but what if the male has a female boss and so i get all of that but when men want to settle down they want to have and raise children.
[1:03:22] Now, when men and women get married, they're aiming for monogamy, right? They're aiming for monogamy, which means don't cheat. When a man has children, he wants, usually, his wife to raise them, because what he does if he looks at Beth, the 31-year-old, you know, hyper-competent, hyper-brilliant, hard-working, maybe workaholic lawyer, he says, okay, so she's making a quarter million dollars a year.
[1:03:58] So she's used to that lifestyle. She's used to spending that amount of money. Maybe I only make $150 a year, right? So she makes more, right? So is she going to be willing to give up, you know, 60%, 70% of the family income in order to stay home with the kids? Or am I going to marry a woman who pays another woman to raise my children? That's a very interesting question as a man right just so women can understand the male perspective, if I'm going to marry a woman, who's going to pay for another woman to raise my kids why don't I just marry the woman who's going to raise my kids, let's take a silly example right just so women can understand this mindset right.
[1:05:04] So if a woman says in a marriage i'm not going to have sex with you but i'm going to fund a woman who's going to have sex with you i'm going to pay a woman who has sex with you and is affectionate with you. I'm not going to have sex with you because I'm too busy working. Well, then if that was proposed, the man might say, well, why wouldn't I just marry a woman who wants to have sex with me rather than a woman who's going to pay for another woman to have sex with me? Because that's weird. So the man says, well, why do I want kids? I want kids to pass along my legacy. I want kids to pass along my values, my thoughts. And how is another woman who's paid to raise my kids, how is she going to transfer my values.
[1:05:56] Because having kids is not just about genetic copy-paste. It's about the transfer of values. If you look at Islamic countries, right, they transfer their values. So a man wants to have children in order to transfer his values, not to just, if he just wanted to copy and paste his DNA, he'd just go become a sperm donor. And then he would get far more copy-paste of his DNA than he possibly could have, as a married man, right? So it's not, fundamentally, it's not about genetics. It's about the transfer of values, morals, ethics, perspectives, and philosophy for a man. Now, whether it's a conscious philosophy or a way of life or a sense of life philosophy, whatever that is, if a man only cares about copy-pasting his DNA, he'll become a sperm donor or just try and knock up as many women as possible until some guy comes and hunts him down and kills him.
[1:07:03] So a man who wants to settle down and have kids wants to transfer his values to his children. How does he do that? Well, in general, the way we evolved is the man's off hunting and farming and out of the house during the day, and the mom is baby raising and breastfeeding and all of that. So how does a man fulfill the goals of parenthood, of fatherhood, to transfer his philosophies to his children? How does he do that?
[1:07:41] Okay, so, sorry, Swan, try to listen to what I'm saying, right? So, you're asking me a question and then interacting with everyone in the chat? I'm making an argument that the men so far are not disagreeing with? So, how does a man transfer his values to his children when he has to go out and work for a good portion of the day? Well, the man transfers his values to his children by choosing a woman who agrees with those values and having her stay home with the children. That's how culture is transferred. Culture is often generated by men, for whatever reason we can get into another time, but culture is often generated by men and it's transferred through women. A man chooses a woman who reflects and agrees with his values, and then has her stay home and raise the children.
[1:08:44] And that's what a man works for. That's what culture is created for. Nobody would really bother, like that Dostoevsky nightmare of digging a hole and filling it in again. Nobody would in particular bother to write a symphony if right after writing the symphony, never even having it recorded or performed and photocopied, it just got set fire to. Like nobody would bother, right? Nobody would bother painting and then just setting fire to the paint. Nobody would bother writing a complicated and difficult novel and then just erasing it all when it was done. Like that wouldn't make any sense. Which is why a lot of men are checking out of the workplace because men have no way, really in the modern world we have no way to transfer our values to our children, in general we have no way because the women have all been programmed to go back to work and our children get handed over to strangers who don't share our values.
[1:09:38] And the values don't get transferred. So why would we bother? Why would you bother writing a beautiful symphony if you knew it was only ever going to get performed by grade six amateur orchestras? Because it would sound terrible. I remember when i played violin for about 10 years and i remember when i was young having to do a duet and of course i never had any chance to practice i lived in a paper thin wall apartment building my mom was constantly stressed so i couldn't ever practice had nowhere to go and practice so i just tried to sight read and do as best i could and man it was pretty rough and i remember the audience like, god what the hell is going on how many cats are being slaughtered for this particular production, how many, playwrights would write complicated, difficult, challenging drama if only bad amateur actors were ever allowed to star in it or be in it at all? You wouldn't bother.
[1:10:52] You wouldn't bother. This is why the directors who work well with great actors work with those actors, right? So a man wants to transfer his values and his virtues and the culture and heritage that he has inherited from his fathers and their fathers before them. He wants to transfer his values and virtues to his children. He can't do that with a working wife because a working wife will take usually a majority of her take-home pay, hand it to another woman, another environment, another situation for his children to be raised and how's he going to transfer his values? You understand that, teaching women to try and emulate men is one of the most foundational things to do with the collapse in the birthright. Because men are like, okay, well, if I can't transfer my values, I'll just live for hedonism. I'll just live for sex, drugs, partying, rock and roll, Instagram status, sex, right? can't transfer your values why bother accumulating any.
[1:11:57] Because it's not much fun parenting if the daycare or the nanny or whoever is the one actually instructing your children, and then you come home and try to teach them right from wrong truth from falsehood good from bad when they've been in the company of often crazed other children and fairly low rent daycare workers and by low rent, I don't mean necessarily low quality, but certainly low paid. So men don't, uh, why would we do it?
[1:12:34] Why would we do it? I mean, it's like, sending cash in a clear envelope through a third world postal service. It's never going to get to its destination. Why would you bother? Why would you bother? So what is the woman offering to a man? she's offering the transfer of their combined values to the children.
[1:13:09] Right, so a high powered executive, lawyer, career whatever woman, is saying to the man our values stop with us and strangers will raise our children, Well, why would the man work that hard To have strangers raise his children, As a man That is cucked fatherhood, That is cucked fatherhood That's fatherhood in that sad little chair In the hotel room, It's not appealing, You end up as strangers to your own children because other people are raising them.
[1:14:06] How could that be appealing? So, of course, for women, though, I mean, I understand some of the appeal of the high highfalutin career is you get to meet highfalutin career guys, right? As a successful lawyer, you get to meet other successful male lawyers. And yeah maybe you'll date and all of that but it doesn't really work, unless you don't want if you don't want to have kids which is bizarre and weird but whatever right if you don't want to have kids that's one thing but if you want to have kids, and not want to raise your kids that's like saying i want to get married and i don't want to be monogamous in fact i want to spend far more time with other people than the marital partner in which case what's the point of getting married it's the point of having kids and other people having other people raise your kids, So a man, deep down, whether it's conscious or not, a man deep down looks at a woman's high-powered career and says, that's great, that's exciting. If it was just us, sure, I guess, but you got a work husband that you're subjugated to who gets to order you in the way that the husband never does. It's like, okay, so then you've got your priorities. Your priorities are outside the family being ordered around by other authority figures, often men.
[1:15:29] And if we have kids, then we either get a live-in nanny, in which case, frankly, I mean, you know the number of men, right? Who's it? Jude Law, Arnold Schwarzenegger, and obviously there's a bunch of them, right? But you've seen this kind of cliche that the husband sleeps with the nanny, right? Let me see here. Celebrities who slept With nannies, Bum Nine celebrities who cheated with their nanny Allegedly Ben Affleck, Jude Law Gavin Rossdale Arnold Schwarzenegger, Ethan Hawke Robin Williams, Mick Jagger John Gosselin Tarek El Moussa Who the hell is that? Oh, he started dating their nanny four months after they divorced. Okay. So, alleged, reported, not for sure.
[1:16:39] So, and women are like, well, hang on. I mean, their wives are so much hotter. Yes, that's right. Kamala's husband, is that right? Yeah. So, how is this understandable? How is this comprehensible? Because a man is drawn to sleep with the woman who's raising his children because that's how it worked for millions of years. Man sleeps with wife, sorry, man sleeps with woman raising his children.
[1:17:11] Makes sense, right? Ah!
[1:17:27] Source is close to Affleck, denounced the claims as complete garbage and full of lies. Yeah, so he denies it. I'm sure there's lots of people who denies it. I don't know if it's true or not, right? But it is kind of a cliche, right? I don't know if any of these are true or not. But it is kind of a cliche, right? Arnold dated or smashed some ugly nanny when he could have had any check. Well, but again, we're going back to what drives men. The point of having children is to transfer your values to your children through the values you share with the wife, your wife, the mother of your children, who raises your children. And what is the point of marrying a woman and having children with her in order for her to work 70 hours a week and for strangers to raise your children? That is so bizarre and so anti-evolution. It's almost incomprehensible. It's bad enough putting your kids in government indoctrination camps, but particularly in the early years, and the early years it's even worse right.
[1:18:47] So, I mean, I remember dating, I dated a very successful woman in my 20s. Nice woman. I mean, we got along well and so on, but it's like, eh. She worked a lot. She traveled a lot. She was very ambitious and very successful. And that's great.
[1:19:11] But mother of my kids, going off to work all the time or she's home and discontented. Again, it's nothing wrong with the women working, but not for parenting. Yes. All right, let's get to your comments here.
[1:19:44] Yeah, lazy children. Well, the question is, children are generally quite enthusiastic to help and support and work, right? There's this lovely video. It's a lovely video of a guy jogging along the street, and he's got like a four or five year old boy jogging along with him. And he's like, Dad, I can't wait to grow up and get bumps on my arms like you. I'm trying it now, but I'm too little. And I love running with you. Could we go running twice a day? And, you know, there's this thing like, oh, men only want one thing. It's disgusting. It's like, well, maybe you should wash it. but also men look at that as a son who is bonding with them and a son who is emulating them and a son who looks up to them and respects them and wants to spend time with them. A child as a whole, I mean, it doesn't get better than that for men. It doesn't get better than that for men.
[1:20:42] All right let me just check here any last questions tips of course are welcome i think i've laid it out fairly clearly how does a stay-at-home dad breastfeed the younger children well he can't he can't right so this is why the men have to go out to work for the most part when the kids are young right this is such a great analogy that totally makes the point clear good what are women who want children supposed to be doing until they find the right man with the right values. Well, that's easy. That's easy. Was Izzy homeschooled? Yes. Where did she find her teenage friends? Homeschooling groups. And just people we meet. I'm a very chatty guy, right? So sorry let me just go back i made sure i understand the question okay so what are women supposed to do, ladies and gentlemen would you like me to tell you what women are supposed to do in order to get the high value man.
[1:22:06] It's really easy. I mean, to do. Sorry, it's hard to do, easy to know. So, she says, the woman who asked this question says, I'm nervous that I'm asking this in a passive-aggressive or insulting way. I think that what you do is incredible. However, my assumption is most of the people that have applied your incredible teachings have gone off and had children and got married. This leads me to think a lot of your consumers are young, single, chronically online men, males. I'm not sure what you... Chronically is an insulting thing, by the way.
[1:22:49] I mean, when you listen to my call-in shows, a lot of people are having issues with children, marital issues, elderly parents. I mean, certainly there are the call-in shows with the men who are like, well, I've never dated and I'm 26 or whatever, right? So, and I'm online too much and, right? So there are those people, but there are other people with, you know, big challenging lives, you know, that are trying to wrestle through all of this kind of stuff. Okay. So, uh, what, what should you do? What should you do, to await your knight in shining armor? What should you do to get your knight in shining armor? It's a three-fer. Now, this is just to attract the man, right? I'm not talking about... I'm not talking about long-term marital stability or relationship stability, but...
[1:23:57] This is what you as a young woman or a woman of any age need to do to get the initial attraction of a man. It's a threefer. Are you ready? Are you ready? Number one, be slender. Be slender Number two Be happy Number three Be friendly, Honestly, That's about it To get the initial interest from a man Be slender.
[1:24:39] Be happy Be friendly Now, why does slender matter? because that's what men want. Men in general want a woman who's slender. Now, if a woman is slender, she's saying, I care about what men want. Right? It matters to me what men like and what men want. So that means that she cares about the perspectives and opinions of men, which means that she's probably going to be a fairly good partner, if not a great partner, because she's going to care about what you think and like and want. In the same way, men should be, of course, slender, and men should, you know, have decent teeth, decent skin, you know, some hair care products, some decent outfits, right? Because women like a man who's well-groomed and well-dressed. And so a man who's a complete slob is saying, I don't care what women want, in which case women don't want to date him, not just because he's a slob, but because he's saying, I don't care what women want. But if a man doesn't care what women want, how's he going to care what a woman wants?
[1:25:55] So I didn't say be pretty, because that's only partly within our control, right? But slender, yes, slender is, I have self-control, I care what men like and want, as opposed to, well, I'm an independent woman, I don't need no man, I can eat whatever I want.
[1:26:21] Be slender. It says you care about what men in general want, and therefore you're more likely to care about what a man in particular wants over the course of your relationship, because why on earth would you want to be in a relationship with someone who doesn't care what you want? Why? Not going to work. It's going to be exhausting. Hit me with a why and a tip if you find this helpful. This is true for men in many ways. Maybe I'll do the man the other side. Maybe if we get enough tips, we'll do a man on the other side.
[1:27:00] So, number one, be slender. Number two, be happy. Doesn't mean fake it, but if you have a nice smile and a positive attitude, not necessarily to the man in particular, but if you have a nice smile and a positive attitude and appear to be happy-ish, right, again, we're not all perfect, we have our moods and all of that, but if you, in general, appear to be quite happy, and, of course, I married a Greek woman, and if you ever want to know what that's like, You can go and look on Twitter, and maybe, James, you can find this. It's the Greek weatherwoman versus the German weatherwoman. It's actually very true. I've had a German mom and a Greek wife, so I've gone from one extreme of the happiness spectrum in Europe to the other. So happy.
[1:27:50] Because why would you want to spend your life with someone who's unhappy? Right? So men and women like happy people. Happy people are fun to spend your life with. Unhappy people are exhausting to spend your life with. So be happy. And number three, be friendly. I have never approached a woman who doesn't smile at me first. Never. I smile at the woman. If she smiles back when I was single, maybe I'll chat with her. But I would never approach a woman who looks surly. I mean, it's fine. I mean, I'm not, I don't want to impose, obviously, right? But be friendly. So a friendly woman and a happy woman and a slender woman says to a man, I have trust in the world. I find men to be of value. I know how to handle a rude man if a man is intrusive. I'm not, I'm not going to shut down because there's the occasional rude man around. So I can handle life. I can handle situations. I'm not going to let the world grind me down. I'm not going to fall for the propaganda that there's a rapey patriarchy that's shadowing my every step and just wants to abuse me, right? Because nobody wants to sit and try and undo that wiring. Be friendly. I mean, just be friendly.
[1:29:16] Oh, you found it? Yeah, yeah. Sorry, let me just double check. I'm sure you did. Let me mute here so it doesn't go through the mic. Yes. That's the one. Wake up, you guys. Good morning. It's time to dance. Whereas the German woman is like, we have snot overbelding. So yeah, it is my life, right? And James, you've met my wife, right? She's very peppy, very happy, very positive. Thank you, Boa. It says, thanks for the advice. StefBOT does well with the dream analysis. Yeah, that's the AI. Thank you. I appreciate that. I think it does.
[1:30:09] Right? So, be friendly. Being friendly means that you have, being happy and being friendly means that you have a positive view of the world. You can handle malcontents. You are not dragged down by everything that is launched at you to make you unhappy, right? Like, you know that there's a, yeah, she's, she's, yeah, James says, because he's met her many times, your wife is lovely. Yeah. Very true, very true. And she's very positive, very peppy. Has she ever been moody? It's amazing. I mean, it blows my mind. It blows my mind. All right, let me just get to your comments here. What are women who want children supposed to be doing until they fight the right ram at the right values? Yeah, I mean, be slender, be happy, be friendly. Joe Piscopo left his wife for the babysitter back in the day. How is that right?
[1:31:21] After a girl slash woman graduates high school, are they expected to stay at home? Continued schooling is expensive, and what purpose if there is no career goal? Pursuing the career repels men, so I don't know. What if staying at home is out of the question due to bad dynamics there? Well, if it's out of the question, then this doesn't apply, right? So this is like if I say, usually the Stairmaster is good for your health, and then you say, well, what if I don't have legs? It's like, well, then clearly it doesn't apply. I will take you at your word about your wife no James says she is so nice she really really is yeah she is, if mom is anything like your daughter then I have to believe you did very well yeah.
[1:32:18] So, for a woman to be friendly means that she has resisted propaganda, she has retained a benevolent and positive view of the world, despite the fact that there's a huge amount of machine guns trying to riddle your happiness with word bullets these days. So, quality men are everywhere, but you have to be slender, you have to be happy, and you have to be friendly.
[1:32:51] For, for, should we do, should we do men? Should we do men? I'll tell you a couple more tips and we'll do men. Otherwise I'll do it another time. That's right, men. I'm holding you hostage. That's just the way it rolls. The woman says, the original woman says, I'd rather work at a more relaxing job and volunteer to the community with my extra resources than make money and have a higher status job just feels like an insult to my intelligence. I'm like, oh, I can be doing more with my potential. I can be doing more with my potential. And that's fine. That's totally fine. You can go and work a high stress job. But is that feminine enough to attract a masculine man? If you want a masculine, this is the great lie that women have been fed for the last 60 years. If you want a masculine man, you have to be masculine. Nope. In no way, shape, or form. Oh, boy. The more masculine a man you want, the more feminine you have to be.
[1:34:11] The more feminine a woman you want, the more masculine you have to be. I don't want a high-stress job. I just feel like it is lazy of me as it is not exercising my intelligence or using it. Well, do you want to get married and have children? Because for intelligent women to have and raise children is the highest skilled job there is. Because you're also, you're like in Donkey Kong, which was supposed to be Monkey Kong. I think it was just a typo. you're in donkey kong and you're jumping over these barrels of propaganda.
[1:34:50] So if you want to get married and have kids how attractive are you when you're battling at the edge of your abilities a very high stress job how relaxed feminine positive happy and friendly are you how do you appear to a man when you're tanked up with stress and busy all the time, what do men want do they want a stressed burned out woman who's got no time for them is that attractive, do you want to make widgets or human brains yeah yeah.
[1:35:42] Because a career is the law of diminishing returns. Children are an investment that grows. I mean, there's nothing I can create that is one-tenth of one percent as glorious as a human being. If you're stressed and wired and tense from your work, do you appeal to a man? The ego death is large, though. No, I get it. Yeah, vanity is the barrier to love. Yeah, absolutely. I get it.
[1:36:19] I deserve more than this. I'm worth more than this. I should get more than this. All right. That's vanity is the death of love and connection.
[1:36:35] It really is a huge lie, says Rose, that women have been fed from childhood, that girls have to compete with boys. I can see how destructive it has been. A man who's highly masculine wants a woman who's not like himself. If he wants, if a man wants a highly masculine personality, he's probably gay, which is fine too. But if a straight man who's highly masculine, which tends to be the most attractive man for a lot of women, a straight man who's highly masculine wants a highly feminine woman by instinct because it balances out the family. And it's the best situation in which to raise children. A woman who's comfortable and happy with her femininity is great at raising daughters, and a man who's comfortable and happy with his masculinity is good at raising sons. And the cross-pollination occurs. So if you want a successful man, he's successful because he's masculine. And so you have to be feminine. This makes me excited. I would tip, but I have just tipped a couple of weeks ago.
[1:38:04] This brings us to stage two. Oh my gosh, my friend. So I'm ironing out your entire life and giving you a purpose. And you make a lot of money. Ha ha ha, ha ha ha ha ha.
[1:38:29] So you just told me you have this high stress high pressure workaholic job which means you make a lot of money and you're like well it's true you are ironing out my entire life but hey i tipped a couple of weeks ago which brings me to number four when you get into the relationship be generous this is true for men and for women be generous, you got into a car accident last week on the way to work well i'm sorry to hear that of course but on the way to work so yeah i mean i remember i had a little mp3 player and some event came up i can't remember what it was, some anniversary or whatever. And my wife, she just bought me like the most expensive mp3 player around. She didn't even know what it was or what it was for. And I was like, wow, thank you.
[1:39:36] How do you appear to a man right, a woman does not want a man who is cheap because she's going to feel like she has to do weird exotic dances just to get two dimes out of his squeaky ass right, and i'm not naturally a spending guy i'm not naturally i mean you look at my studio right i'm not naturally a spending guy and so my wife has taught me a lot about that kind of generosity and it was hard for me in the business to go to like to do a donation model to give away my books for free, and all of that. But I've learned a lot from people as a whole about this.
[1:40:39] What about men? What should they do to be attractive? Well, let me just check my donations here. Eh, it's not much. Maybe you all know. Maybe you already know. So that's fine.
[1:41:06] So, what men should do to be attractive?
[1:41:11] Be well-groomed. Because being well-groomed says that you know what women like and you care. And if you know what women as a whole like and what they care about, then it's going to be believable. No, Kairos, I appreciate that. Don't send me another 25. Don't, don't, I'll share. Don't, don't take up the burden for others. Your generosity is greatly appreciated. It's up to other people's conscience about how much they value what I'm saying and how much clarity and potential this brings to their lives. But I appreciate that. Kairos, please don't send me another 25. Let other people deal with it because you're very kind and I really appreciate your support and keep your money. I appreciate that thought. Thank you. So be well groomed. What does that mean? Get a haircut. Oh, have a beard or don't have a beard, but don't be scruffy. Even if you have scruff, right? Trim your beard. The neck beard thing is real. I just let things grow, right? Get a haircut. See dentists. Maybe get some, you know, brush your teeth well. Get some teeth whitener. Get some skin products. Learn about basics of skincare. Get some hair care products. Go to a tailor. Get a well-fitted suit.
[1:42:27] Now, we'll get to that in a sec, right? With the exercise, yes, absolutely, right? Right? Be well-groomed. Now, again, I'm not perfect about this, so don't get me wrong, but be well-groomed, right? I mean, you know, people are constantly commenting that I look young, and it's like, well, yeah. So my wife has taught me good skincare routines, which I do, to keep my skin like I'm 58 years old. I think I look great for this age. I really don't have that many wrinkles. And it doesn't even need to cost you that much you can go to second-hand stores and find good clothing, i mean i used to shop when i was a teenager at the salvation army where i would buy clothes by the pound they wouldn't even buy the item it was by the pound.
[1:43:28] Number one. Number two, have good posture. Again, I've got a little bit of a dowager's hump. That's from physical abuse when I was a kid. But I try to work on my posture and work on your posture. Don't slouch. Walk tall. Eye contact. Move through the world like you mean something. Move through the world like you mean something and have some pride. And I, when I was in theater school, I did like a year and a half of what's called the Alexander Technique, you know, which is, you know, you walk like your head is hanging from a hook rather than pushing up. You let your shoulders relax, you know, be in a physically relaxed, receptive and positive state.
[1:44:19] Women scan for a good nature. So you are always, when you're a single man, you are always to be flirting. Always, always, always, always, always, you know, when you're hunting you're always looking, and when you are in public you are always to be flirting and what that means is you go to a coffee shop there's a girl behind the counter smile, make a joke is it because you want to date the girl behind the counter? Maybe, but there are other women around.
[1:45:00] Always be flirting. Always be in flirt mode. Always, always, always. Because you never know who might be around. And even if she's not the girl, maybe her friend is the girl. Every place you frequent, you must be friendly, positive, make a joke or two, be a little edgy if you want. Be friendly, positive, happy, well-groomed, good posture. Enjoy people. People are great. People in the abstract are pretty horrible, like people in the grip of ideology and so on. But people that I actually meet and chat with in life, I would say easy 99% of them are great and fun to chat with. Be friendly. You're always flirting. You're always advertising. You're always putting out the vibes to see who responds.
[1:46:08] You are always on display as a single man and women, we're talking about men you're always on display in public honestly, when I was, in my early 20s I bought I won't even get into the whole story because it doesn't really matter I bought some stocks, stocks. I bought some stocks. So I would be in the coffee shop and I would spend a good 20 minutes staring at the financial section of the newspaper, looking at the stock prices. Why? Well, we all know why, because I look like I've got some assets and have invested them. Show no fear in public, because a woman likes a confident man, show no fear in public. Somebody says, I can vouch for this advice. I was out last night and was positive, happy, talking to people around me, easily got a lady's number. It was all about the vibe. Yeah, this is my daughter's phrase. I'm just vibing. I kind of get it, but I'm probably too old to truly get it.
[1:47:33] So, the male-female complementarity That's not even a word Let me try that again What is complementary Between males and females in particular Is disparities in anxiety, Women worry more Men worry less And both are needed Both are needed, women need to worry more because there are legitimate risks in life particularly for pregnancy, babies and toddlers women need to worry more men need to worry less so that women don't drive society insane with their neuroticism in general, right? So if you're out there projecting a fairly calm and unruffled vibe a woman will be attracted to that because she knows it balances out some of her anxiety, Single women tend to be quite anxious Because they don't have A man to balance their anxiety And single men tend to be quite careless Because they don't have a woman's anxiety To balance out their nonchalance.
[1:48:44] A woman will say Get life insurance, you idiot, And a man will be like No, I'll be fine, how to donate oh I'll put it in here just freedomain.com slash donate, or you can donate on the app of course but freedomain.com donate is the best place to add.
[1:49:14] How about a copy of the Financial Times and a copy of the Kama Sutra on the table? Too subtle? Okay, so this is the bizarre thing. You know, you've heard of this thing of dick pics, and I'm not talking about Richard Nixon. So, men are visual creatures, and therefore, what was that? There's an old line, it's in a line from an article a couple of years ago, which was, men achieved more when it was more difficult to see boobs, right? That's kind of true, right? So, men are visual creatures, and women are looking more for an aura or a sense of the person as a whole.
[1:49:59] Men are looking for fertility markers, and women are looking for long-term resource provision and stability, right? Because for a woman to, I mean, this is sort of the Menendez family, right? for a woman to end up with a guy who's worth a huge amount of money who's hell to live with is torture on earth, right? I find it challenging not to worry when society is collapsing around me, right? And that's why. So the purpose of the doom media, so if you want to look at one of the, I mean, there's the immediate purpose of something like the global warming panic, right? So the immediate purpose of that, of course, is the subjugation of the population and the transfer of billions of dollars and the capturing of the scientific community into white-coated slave-toed lackeys to the state. But the much more subtle and important thing about environmental disasters is to make men worry, which lowers their testosterone and makes them unattractive to women.
[1:51:02] I read this book many, many, well, I guess I didn't even know when it came out. Chicken Soup for the Mother's Soul or Chicken Soup for the Parent's Soul or something like that. And women are constantly worrying about how things are going to turn out and men are constantly focused in the moment. Minus 100 aura if you don't donate, yeah. So I get, yep, society is doing some very tough stuff for sure. Absolutely. Absolutely. And that has always been the case. There's always been the case. I mean, think of the men who grew up between World War I and World War II, knowing the shitstorm that was going on in Russia and Europe. They didn't have much fun or much easy, or very easy. So the purpose of the doom porn is to make you nervous, to make you worry, to lower your testosterone, and to make you less attractive to women. Now, go to the gym. I mean, it doesn't even need to be said, does it? Just go to the gym. Like, don't even, I mean, I don't care if you've got no money. You can get some secondhand weights at home and do it on a chair. I don't care.
[1:52:24] Sorry, Tom says, and this is a great point. Only the men seem, it's the opposite. Only men seem to care or even know about the long-term problems coming our way. I'm talking about within the family, but you're absolutely right. Yeah, men tend to look a little bit further over the horizon because we're designed to do something about long-term disasters. Women are designed to stop the babies falling down the stairs, and men are designed to make sure that the crop is planted, protected, and harvested for next year. But within the family, men tend to be more in the moment. Great meal, women tend to be more like... So there's a scene in a movie, William Hurt, and Geena Davis. And he gets involved with the single mother and he offers to pay for the kid's school because he's like, well, that'll make you happy in the moment. But then she's like, well, what happens if our relationship doesn't work out? The kids are in the school, then they're out of the school. I don't have any commitment, like that kind of stuff, right? So men want to have sex. Women have to hold off so that they get a commitment so that there's, right? That's what I'm talking about, that long-term stuff, right? Thank you for the tip. I appreciate that.
[1:53:30] Go to the gym. Going to the gym has so many inestimable benefits that a person who does not, a man in particular, who does not work out, and a man who does work out are barely the same person. You don't even know who you are until you exercise hard. You don't even know who you are. It changes everything. It changes how you move through the world. It changes how you are perceived. It changes the level of immediate danger that you're ever exposed to. It changes your hormone levels. It strengthens your bones. It clears up your eyes and your skin. You don't have to listen to me. I'm no expert. I'm no nutritionist. I'm certainly no doctor. Take everything I'm saying is totally false and just go look it all up. You're not even the same person if you don't work out. You don't even know who you are if you don't work out. Because all you are is nervous, as a man in particular.
[1:54:39] I mean, when Lauren Southern and I were touring Australia, they're the reason why the leftist lunatics charged her on stage and not me. Yeah, look at Zuckerberg, right? And what's interesting is that as Mark Zuckerberg went from like Cylon 1 to Cylon 2, he went from soy boy censorship guy to MMA from going to the gym. So he's gone more towards, I mean, this is why the left is constantly telling guys not to go to the gym, right? Working out as fascist, working out as far right. It's like, it changes who you are. There have been studies. when guys start going to the gym they become less soy boy in terms of their political perspectives as a whole you don't even know you don't even know what you believe.
[1:55:27] When you're trapped in the tyranny of a physically weak body, and you don't have to be super jacked I'm certainly not, but you do have to be fairly strong and it isn't even that women like muscles although what was it I remember seeing I'm so terrible with celebrity names Ryan Reynolds, and Blake Lively Blake Lively was like, Ryan Reynolds she took a picture of him and he had that arm vein and she zoomed in on the arm vein and it's like oh, the arm vein, right, It's the difference between a toned female body and a flabby female body even if the weight is the same.
[1:56:14] I mean, the female buttocks of a slender woman who doesn't exercise versus the female buttocks of a slender woman who does exercise, it's night and day. Tiny sliver of a moon, full moon. See how it worked the moon in there. Somebody says, I feel that way having gone to the gym for a while. I've taken it one step further and got weights for at home. I'll do cardio at my apartment's gym. One of the best changes I've done in my life. It also shows discipline. It shows a care for your future self, and it also shows that you care about what women like, because women like toned men. Deadless worked wonders for my posture and overall well-being. I've heard women like strong shoulders. Absolutely. Somebody says, I asked ChatGBT to construct a workout routine based off my height, weight, and equipment in my house for a 30-minute session every other day. It saved me probably hours of research. It was very helpful. I'm sure that is good.
[1:57:20] Watch comedy, be well-read, and learn how to make jokes. It's hard to, it's hard to overestimate how much women appreciate humor. Because humor is essential for women to prevent them from getting too anxious to to make light of a situation to make some jokes to get women to laugh gives them relief from sometimes the slightly obsessive negative thoughts that women are a little bit more prone to than men, Learn how to make some jokes Even tell some jokes if you're not naturally funny, But if you can make a woman laugh You've already given her her first dose of dopamine.
[1:58:24] Somebody says our church leaders have warmed against doom-scrolling Yeah, for sure, have boundaries and standards in your relationships men are better at setting boundaries as a whole than women again tons of exceptions but men are better as a whole at setting boundaries than women and sometimes those boundaries are vanity and artificial and women need to break them down and sometimes women's openness brings dysfunctional people in to bring chaos into the household.
[1:59:10] What is that quote from the Godfather? Women can be careless, men can't. What does that mean? Well, you just need to look into the history of Southern Italian history, well, culture and so on, all of that. And I don't think women can be careless. Of course, right? Women have to be very careful who they have children with. But it means in general that a man who makes mistakes will often suffer more negative consequences than a woman who makes mistakes because men don't have people looking out for them in the same way that women do. More, more, more.
[1:59:55] So, the absolute catnip for a woman who wants to settle down, the question is not as much, if you follow all of this stuff, and there's other stuff too, but if you follow all of this stuff, thank you for the tip if you follow all of this stuff then you'll be attractive to women but oh hey steve the problem is, How does a woman know you're not a player? Right? So that's the big question. So if you're confident and fairly athletic looking, good posture, well-groomed, decent sense of humor, friendly, positive, then you're attractive. But for women, of course, for a man to be attractive and single is a concern, right? If he's this attractive, what's wrong with him, right? It's like the super hot woman who's 35 and unmarried. It's like, why shouldn't she be wifed up? Why hasn't she been wifed up? So then the question is, how do you communicate to a woman that you're both attractive and not a player?
[2:01:17] When do you think the right time is to have sex? Well, whenever my podcast is live. It will imprint the sperm to swim faster, deeper, better, wider. Burrow more. Auger in. How much weight to start with using dumbbells? Light with more reps or more weight, less reps? So light with more reps will not bring build build them will not build bigger muscles i mean i remember when i played macbeth i got pretty buff to be honest and i did six reps of, very heavy weights but short i did six reps of six whereas now i do two reps of 12, trying to show up for the live streams more often best show on earth well thank you i appreciate that wait are you saying there's a better show not on the earth turned on me man.
[2:02:20] Hopefully they don't make love during a live telegram show. You know, just keep your mic off and do what you're doing. I love that meme on the internet where something is really repulsive and people say, not my proudest fap. It's so gross, but it's actually quite funny. With a new partner? I mean, there's no particular answer that's objective. If there's too soon and then maybe too late, I mean, certainly I would say the three-month rule is not the end of the world. Because you really do need to know if you like each other as people rather than just waiting for sex, right? It depends on your age too. Like if you're young and getting married quickly, you can wait till marriage. If you're 30 with a baker's dozen of body counts, it seems a bit odd to wait for a year or two. Light weights high reps leads to greater endurance higher weights fewer reps leads to greater raw strength and size yes that's true.
[2:03:32] So how does a man, show that he's not a player.
[2:03:47] So the way that you show you're not a player is if you end up with a woman who's interested in you. Thank you, Jay. If you end up with a woman who's interested in you, make it clear to her that you're not seeing anyone else.
[2:04:11] Find a way to make it clear to her. You can just drop hints or whatever, right? I want to get together this weekend. As a single guy, my schedule is wide open. Except for you, right? So you need to communicate if there's interest as quickly as possible that you're not seeing anyone else. And don't have irons in the fire. Don't have a bunch of women that you're dating. That's just, I mean, there's an instinct that women have about that kind of stuff. Yeah try not to sacrifice form right so as men we're like well i want to do this weight for this man reps but if you're you know the guys you see them at the gym they're doing the curls and they're like throwing themselves all over like a ninja weapons they're basically like they're using their arms like disposable nunchucks just like no just try and keep your back straight and just have just work the muscle and try not to uh because it really just looks terrible and everybody knows is that they're just going for numbers rather than health. So yeah, the way that you, if you really like a woman, don't be dating other women at the same time and make that very clear.
[2:05:30] Somebody says, check out starting strength on YouTube. YouTube. Just kidding. Apparently I've been completely memory hold there. It's alright, they'll be judged by the future. Not by me. I'd rather be a villain in the present and a hero to the future than vice versa. Because the present passes, the future is forever.
[2:06:02] All right, we've had a nice, long, toasty show. Thank you for your support. FreeDomain.com slash donate if you find what I'm talking about to be of help. I had a good dating history. I think I have some fair credibility in these issues. I went out with, I don't know, 30 or 40 girls over the time. Certainly didn't sleep at the mall, but I went out with a lot of women and had some good long relationships and now have been happily married for 22 years. So I hope I have some credibility in this area. And I'm not some super handsome guy. I'm not a male model or anything like that. So I hope that it gives you some credibility with regards to these issues.
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