STOP SCREWING UP! Transcript

Chapters

0:00 - Introduction to Tips and New Platforms
4:01 - Observing Parenting Styles in a Café
6:57 - Lack of Connection in Parenting
8:16 - Importance of Connecting with Children
10:35 - The Effects of Micromanaging Children
15:04 - Questioning Micromanagement Behaviors
38:09 - Political Discussions and Event Planning
40:03 - Reflections on Past Jobs and Experiences
47:13 - Identifying Red Flags in Workplace Environments
1:05:24 - Embracing Philosophy and Shedding Relationships
1:15:13 - Mystery in the Workplace
1:21:20 - The Primary Dictate of Philosophy
1:23:57 - Request for Donation Reminder
1:25:31 - The Importance of Double-Checking Work
1:28:12 - Value of Reliable Work
1:35:04 - The Consequence of Having Work Checked
1:38:57 - Striving for Excellence in Work
1:41:11 - Embracing Imperfection
1:44:10 - Decline of Meritocracy in Business
1:49:27 - The Coup de Grace: Bullshit Proximity
1:54:06 - Preventing Relationships vs. Losing Them

Long Summary

I start by sharing my thoughts on observing a mother micromanaging her children in a cafe, leading to escalating behavior and question the effectiveness of such behavior management strategies. I invite listeners to share their insights and provide tips on managing children's behavior in public settings. I express confusion over the situation and express a desire to understand the underlying motives behind such actions. I stress the importance of creating positive learning experiences and engaging children constructively to prevent misbehavior, advocating for a shift towards fostering connection and engagement with children in public spaces.

Transitioning into personal anecdotes, I reflect on witnessing a father refusing his daughter's request for a big shopping cart at a grocery store, highlighting the lack of empathy displayed. I delve into the concept of misbehavior in children, linking it to unresolved issues from the past and the significance of engaging children positively in public environments. I draw parallels to my own childhood experiences and jobs, underscoring the challenges faced in diverse work settings. The conversation then shifts to current events such as Julian Assange's release and upcoming political debates before returning to the theme of assessing whether a company provides a conducive work environment. Throughout the discussion, I blend personal reflections, societal observations, and engagement with audience questions and comments.

Delving further into workplace dynamics, I discuss red flags to watch out for, cautioning against bosses overly fixated on work due to personal issues and advising against cult-like company cultures. Emphasizing the value of working in an environment that values skill development, I warn against businesses that rely heavily on buzzwords and offer insights on workplace relationships and management strategies. Sharing personal anecdotes and advice on job interviews, workplace politics, and leadership, I draw from my diverse experiences to guide listeners through professional and personal challenges. I actively engage with audience queries, providing candid responses and sharing relevant experiences to offer practical advice.

Shifting gears, I delve into the impact of language on shaping destiny, stressing the importance of defining terms to exercise free will. I illustrate this concept by highlighting that shedding "relationships" implies letting go of falsehoods and manipulations rather than severing genuine connections. Encouraging listeners to prioritize truth and honesty in relationships, even when faced with uncomfortable truths, I emphasize the value of double-checking work for reliability and trustworthiness, underscoring the economic benefits of being a dependable and thorough worker. I urge listeners to uphold accountability, reliability, and a commitment to producing high-quality work independently.

In the final segment of the conversation, I underline the significance of detesting errors and striving for perfection by sharing personal experiences of meticulous attention to detail and error correction to maintain accuracy in my work. Expressing a disdain for mediocrity, I stress the importance of striving for excellence in all aspects of life, from professional endeavors to interpersonal relationships. Emphasizing the need to aim for the top 1% in all pursuits and advocating for relentless dedication to quality, I caution against settling for anything less than perfection. Drawing parallels between toxic relationships where lying is necessary and the hindrance it poses to forming genuine connections, I underscore the importance of foregoing mediocrity in favor of pursuing excellence in all endeavors.

Transcript

[0:00] Introduction to Tips and New Platforms

[0:01] Hey there hey there everybody hope you're doing well 26 june 2024 where the hell did june go, that was june june squirrel june june is was a flyby i don't know what the hell happened it's like i fell asleep and woke up a month later wake me up when september ends all right, tips welcome of course here here here in the apps welcome to the new platforms, tips are welcome you don't have to because it's voluntary but it's nice recognition of value change value for value you can of course go to freedomain.com slash donate, freedomain.com slash donate and let me tell you something my friends let me tell you something, let me tell you something something. You can do the private calls now. I'm doing private calls. I'm not sure for how long. I'm not sure for how long, but you can ask for a private call at freedomain.com, slash call, freedomain.com slash call. All right. Enough bittiness, enough bittiness.

[1:19] I'm going to start with a story. So this morning, this AM, this AM this morning, what I did was I woke up and I took care of the ducks. Story for another time. and then I tootled off to a cafe because I hadn't left the house for three days, because I've been working quite hard but I left the house and I went to a coffee shop and I cranked up the old computer it's actually kind of an old computer now, and I have been working on the short version of the Peaceful Parenting book.

[2:07] We're getting it down to 27, 28% of the original. So it's me, but concise, which is to say, me, but the polar opposite of me. Opposite Steph. Evil twin Steph, concise Steph. Anyway, so I'm walking away, and it's a nice cafe, nice view. The coffee is fantastic. I had a chicken Caesar salad, and then a little scone. Just right. and a half-calf cappuccino. I try to keep myself to two coffees a day. So, I'm working away, working away on the Peaceful Parenting book, and it's good. Oh, man, it's so good. It's so good. I mean, this is like squished, concentrated philosophy that is high-octane nose candy. It's soul candy. Anyway, so, in comes, you can tell, Like, you know this kind of stuff. In comes a middle to upper middle class woman with her two little daughters.

[3:18] Two little daughters. One of them looks to be about, let's say, 14 months. One of them looks to be about 26 months. I actually have this kind of weird thing. You know how some people can guess the weight and some people can guess that I have little to know here. I'm really good at figuring out the ages of kids. Now, I'm still working on the millisecond, but anything other than that, I'm bang on. Bang on! So 14 maybe 16 and 26 26 months two two little girls so she sits down with them, and of course immediately one of them drops a straw.

[4:01] Observing Parenting Styles in a Café

[4:01] And of course because she's not me she's like well we can't use that straw anymore i'm like toughen up the immune system kid you have to pick up the straw with your lips from the floor, but anyway so i said oh you know i'll i'll get you another straw because you know what it's like you you get the kids settled in they're very little you can't leave them up there because this is kind of upstairs so you can't leave them up there so i you know jumped up and i went down and got her a straw and because i could see she was a slightly fussy middle to upper a middle-class mom, I picked the straw up, picked the straws up in a napkin, went back upstairs and gave them the straws, and she was appreciative, and it was nice, so I get back to work. Now, what I notice, and I'm not, like, trying to stare at people, but, you know, they're like right across from me, and it's pretty hard to notice because her kids are escalating.

[4:57] They seem like nice kids, but they're escalating, which means that they're kind of getting wound up, they're kind of getting aggressive, they're kind of getting punchy, and I'm just watching this because I'm curious. So I go back to work on the book for a bit, but then I can, you know, you get this, you know, when you develop this hypervigilance as a kid, right, you can turn it down, you can't turn it off, right? And what do I see the mother doing? And this is something I've kind of vaguely seen or thought about before, but holy crap.

[5:35] It is, I don't know, honestly, I don't know the right term, but what sort of pops into my head is fuss budget management. Yeah, fuss budget management. You know, oh, your plate is too close to the edge. Oh, don't pick up the crumbs. Oh, here's your straw. Oh, that chair is too close. To the table, and it's just managing and moving and managing and this fuss budget mini-management. And no, no, no connection. And the kids are being managed. Look, it's a bit of a mom thing, let's be frank, right? It's a little bit of a mom thing. This is not anything negative. I mean, I have a great admiration for mothers because they, A, kept us all alive, and B, shepherded us to the very top of the food chain. So, no hate, no complaints. But, I will say this. It is not... Jeez, no wonder this play goes off after five minutes. It is not connected. It is not connected to the children. It's not connecting with the children.

[6:57] Lack of Connection in Parenting

[6:58] And the kids were bored, disconnected, and floating off in space. And to me, the way, and of course I worked in a daycare and lots of experience with kids and in the family and friends. So the way that you calm kids down is how? Because you could tell the management led to the escalation, which led to more management, which led to more escalation. How do you calm kids down? Come on, y'all know how, right? How do you calm kids down? How do you soothe their adrenaline? How do you dial down the cortisol? How do you calm children down? What is the antithesis of escalation?

[7:58] Oh, I can wait. I know, it's always a little bit of a delay, right? That's right. Let me read off. Sir Punter, bribe, distraction? No, connection. How do you calm kids down? You connect with them.

[8:16] Importance of Connecting with Children

[8:16] You lean forward and you say something like, I'm going to tell you a little story about every single person in this cafe. That sinister bald guy over there who keeps staring at us is working on a book on parenting. Radiating both disapproval and a question within his own mind of whether or not he should say something. Right? You tell, oh, you have a little piece of lemon cake here, let me tell you. And it doesn't matter if you make it up, just make up something, engage with them, talk with them, ask them questions, connect. Connect. Connect. God, this management stuff drives me nuts. Oh, your hair is falling in your soup. Oh, you need to shuffle back a little bit. Oh, your shoe's coming undone. Let me two it up for you. Oh, you dropped the straw. Oh, my God!

[9:11] Puppets, puppets, puppets, puppets. Dance, dance, dance. Oh, man. And you could see that there's a kind of panic in the kids with this management stuff. And I'm not, you know, I'm not trying to pick on this woman, but I will say that it really crystallized a bunch of stuff that I've seen before. I really, you know... And the management stuff, why, okay, why, and it's a mom thing, for the most part, it's a mom thing. Why do women do this? And I don't mean this in a critical way, I don't mean this in a critical way, I'm genuinely curious. Help me understand, I'm like right at the foggy cliff edge of my grokking. Why do women constantly micromanage children, rather than just talk to them? Is it like she feels like she's posing for an imaginary photograph? Is it because it's some sort of status thing, the kids have to look fine and be polite? Like, why do they micromanage children?

[10:32] I don't know.

[10:35] The Effects of Micromanaging Children

[10:35] I've never had a problem with my daughter in public. Never. Okay to manage their own anxiety okay but that doesn't answer i mean i'm not sure that answers much there's a lot of anxiety about kids misbehaving from arms, right and can i tell you how bad it got, can i tell you how bad it got, I started to get anxious I'm not a particularly, anxiety prone person can't be a moralist in public and be that I'm not particularly anxiety prone person but I was just like ooh I'm not sure I want to see the next part of this series the next installment looks a little stressful.

[11:38] Like the kids were standing on chairs and they were wobbly. They were near a balcony. And I was like, anyway. So one kid was trying to pull the other kid off the chair. One kid was like, they literally started standing and screaming at the top of their lungs.

[12:06] And I didn't, like, it was painful, right? And, you know, I'm older. I got to protect my hearing, right? So I literally had to do this. Like, the woman was sitting away from me, so I had to put my fingers in my ears. And then the kids kept screaming. And, like, again, it's painful. Like, you know that real soul-shredding, spine-shattering kid scream. And so then I dug in my computer bag. I had a pair of headphones, and I just put them over my ears to try and protect my hearing.

[12:43] So, anyway, I mean, obviously, nobody up there was happy, and, you know, there were a bunch of people trying to work. And, you know, yeah, just like hammering an ice pick into your inner ear. And anyway she i actually was going to pack up and leave because like it was i can't sit there like this and i can't work right and it was uh painful like physically painful the volume right i'm sure i'm surprised my watch didn't say bro you're about to lose your hearing are you at a rock concert it's kind of metallica right okay Okay. So, we all suck at answering this question. I know I do. I'm just glad it's not just me. Sorry to be rude. But, you know, I want to be honest. Don't make me scream.

[13:38] So, you say they're managing their own anxiety by managing their children. There's a lot of of anxiety around kids misbehaving from arms. How could you embarrass me like that in public? Heard that from my mother. A gal gave me the excuse of, it's because she has five children. Right. So, y'all have this delightful theory, and, you know, I think it blows chunks, but I could be wrong. So your theory is, the women are anxious about their children misbehaving, and that's why they micromanage? Is that your theory? Hit me with a why if that's the general theory, if I understand this correctly, that the women are micromanaging because their children shouldn't misbehave. And if the children misbehave, then the mothers will be judged in horrible, harsh, cauldron-like, coven feminist, blah, blah, blah, right? Is that right? Come on. H-M-U H-M-U Hit me up. Let me know. Yes. Alright. You know that doesn't answer the question, right?

[15:04] Questioning Micromanagement Behaviors

[15:05] What do you mean you have no kids and no theories? Are you saying that you were never micromanaged as a child? What are you, from Aldebaran? Ah, yes, fresh from the salt mines of Kessel, we have BoarMega22, who has no encounters with humanoid females of any way, shape, or bipedal description. You ever go on a field trip with female teachers? What is this answer? Help me to know. But why does this, why is there no answer? Why does this, well, they've got anxiety, they want the kids to behave badly, well, rather, they want the kids to behave well. Why? Why does this not answer the question?

[15:58] Question. Why doth it, and you know, just because it's tough for me to answer the question doesn't mean it couldn't be easy for someone else. I actually kind of relieved. I also disagree with that theory. Yes, I'm actually kind of relieved because I'm like racking my brain like, why, why, why? And then you're like, well, it's this. It's micromanaging the opposite of parenting. I don't know what the opposite of parenting is. I don't know. Were the moms punished for similar behavior or is it the why women wear makeup answer? Okay, so this woman has a kid who's almost three. She takes these kids out into public. She micromanages. The kids end up screaming. She's probably had this going on for two to two and a half years. If she's so concerned about the children misbehaving, why doesn't she change what she does? That's what I don't understand. The last thing in the world I'd ever want is for my children to misbehave in public, so I'm going to repeatedly do the same empty-headed, complete-absent, closed-heart micromanaging that had them blow up in public the last four thousand times.

[17:21] Why do people do things that repeatedly do not work?

[17:33] If you were very concerned about, and I understand, right? If you're very concerned about your kids misbehaving in public, then why would you do the things that cause them to end up standing and wobbling on chairs by a balcony screaming at the top of their lungs? Why? Right? That's like me saying, well, the most important thing is for me to go north. And I head south and the GPS says, you're going south, not north, recalculating, take a U-turn, make a U-turn if possible. And you do it. and I just keep going down, keep going south. And you saying, well, I mean, and I say, why, why, why do women go south? And you say, because they want to go north. And that doesn't answer the question. If the mothers want the children to behave well, why do they keep doing the micromanaging stuff that has the children inevitably end up acting badly?

[18:38] I do not understand, my friends, and I would like to understand. Women make no sense to me. Stilp? Oh, still? Still? In the still of the night. All right. I don't know. I don't know the answer. Because you want them to misbehave. I don't know. I don't know. They never considered another solution. I don't think that's true. Are you saying that women have no capacity to change their behaviors when they're getting the opposite of their desired outcome? I don't think that's true.

[19:27] I don't think that's true. I mean, some women, sure, but some men, too. So why? Why would you keep doing the same thing you've always done? Like, the family was made up really nicely. That's how you could tell they're sort of middle-upper, middle-class. Right? Family, the kids had little bows in their hair, and the mother was dressed to the nines. So she clearly puts a lot of effort into appearance. So why not say, my children keep escalating in public. I wonder what I can do. Let's try that, shall we? How do I stop my children misbehaving in public?

[20:30] Hmm, all right, now but it's always like after they've escalated the articles are all about after they've escalated, okay that's not helpful because that's about a woman getting her hair done.

[21:01] All right, managing your child's behavior in public. All right. Children who are four or five usually cannot remain compliant and well-behaved for over two hours. Children may also not know what to expect in public situations, making them anxious, blah, blah, blah. Okay, so tips on how to manage misbehavior in public. One, create learning experiences. Hey, that's just what I was talking about with the lemon cake. Creating learning experiences can help prepare your child for the outing. If you know your child struggles with trips to the grocery store, you may need to set up trial runs where you are not pressed to get dinner on the table. Only go inside for a short period of time and praise all your child's positive behaviors, holding your hand, staying close, blah, blah, blah. Or if going out to eat at a restaurant is the issue, try going to expensive places first and only getting a drink or a snack. Okay. Oh, learning experience. Okay, I don't know what that, Oh, so that's, all right, so clear rules. Yes, involve and engage your child in the event or activity. If you're at the grocery store, you can ask your child to help you find the right apples. Engage in conversation about color, shape, so how much items cost to keep their interest. Yes, of course. Of course. You know, I'd go grocery shopping with my daughter when she was very little. Show me all the red things, and where's the bread, and I'm going to find the eggs before you do. Like, you just make it fun.

[22:24] Make it fun. So she can just look this up, right? Involve and engage your child in the event or activity. How are children supposed to be engaged in a coffee shop where they're just sitting there doing what? Right, so honestly, I mean, all this time spent doing your hair and getting the right dress and putting your kids' hair in bows and bonnets and like, what's the point?

[22:56] I don't understand. Somebody says, I think it has nothing to do with managing their children. They are managing their emotions. Okay, I get that, but... All right. I keep doing terrible things like addictive videos because it often makes me feel more alive than when I'm with myself, and that often bleeds into how I treat others. Okay, a bit of a non-sect, but that's fine. I think the children's escalation will justify further micromanaging in the future in the mother's mind. She will also have something to complain about to her friends and family. So the default is management. This is how to manage that. This is a how-to-manage list, right? No. No, management, like if you get your kids involved in the activities, I don't think there's management. So if it was the state creating more poverty with the welfare state, when the stated goal of ending poverty with the state, would you not say the real goal is to create more poverty? The state is just a bunch of people, so when a bunch of people achieve the opposite of their stated goal, then the opposite of their stated goal is the goal. So when the mother does this, yes, I get that, I get that, but why? Shopping was where my resistance to my parents started by refusing to push the cart anywhere.

[24:04] Yeah, I mean, honestly, when you have eyes to see, you see some fairly ugly stuff on a regular basis. So after I did my work this morning on peaceful parenting, I had a three-hour private call-in, a coaching session with a guy, and then I chatted with my wife for a while, and then I went to the grocery store. And I'm going to the grocery store. I'm a bit of a fruit addict, right? So I go to the grocery store. As I'm walking into the grocery store, it's one of these grocery stores where there are two types of carts, right? Right. There's a big cart where the kid can sit. And then there's a little cart where there's no room for the kid to sit. Right. And this guy's walking in with his daughter. She's probably three and a half on his hip. Now, when kids are three and a half, they love to sit in. Right. There's a little it's like a little Zamboni for them. Right. They get to sit in the shopping cart. So the dad grabs this tiny shopping cart and the girl says, Dad, I want the big shopping cart. I want to see it. And he's like, no, we're taking the small shopping cart. And she just starts to really complain. And he just sweeps into the store.

[25:19] I'm like, what? What are you doing? What are you doing? If your kid wants a large shopping cart and she wants to sit there, I don't understand. Why wouldn't you? Like, I don't understand. Why wouldn't you? What's wrong with that?

[25:39] What's wrong with that? I mean, oh, I'm in a big hurry. It's like, you're not in a big hurry. This was at six o'clock, right? At six o'clock, I went to the grocery store. Why wouldn't you just, oh, yeah, okay, let's do the big cart. What's the problem? I mean, you can't be in that big a rush. It's not like you've got to get to work. And if you are in a big rush, that's not your kid's fault.

[26:05] But he's just like, nope, he sweeps into the store. And the kids, I didn't hear the rest of it because I try to avoid those kinds of situations. Obviously, if I see something really abusive, I'll step in, but that was just kind of rude. And it's like, why? Why? Your kid wants to sit in a big cart while you go grocery shopping. I don't understand why you would say no to that. Why? Why would you say no to that? It's just like a reflex. No. I don't follow. I don't follow. No, it was not a cart where you had to put the loonie in.

[26:48] McDonald's used to be fun. I had things to keep kid busy in the playland. Now it's a depressed middle-aged adult. Boring as an adult. The first time I went into a coffee shop when I was 17, my first thought was how boring it seemed.

[27:07] I don't know. Yeah, I mean, bringing kids to a coffee shop, I really don't know. I like the cars with the small cars attached to the front, And I always put them back so it's easy for other parents to find. Yeah. Yeah, those were great fun. But, I mean, what's really sad is that your kids would love to spend time with you, but you've got to meet them halfway, right? Changing her behavior means having to confront her friends and family about that behavior and her childhood, maybe getting too close to the bodies, as you've talked about before, yeah? Why not make the grocery store more fun by enjoying the time with the children? Yeah. Again, I don't understand it. And I'm not like playing dumb, for once. No, I do not understand why, if your kid wants the... I don't know. Why? Why not? Right? It's just rude.

[28:24] Uh somebody says my mom laughed about a story how she pulled my hair in frustration because i was misbehaving in public insane yeah one of the first times i really began to question, whether hey it's a funny thing about rules in society right so with my mother i mean as you know she was a violent and aggressive with regards to like stupid nonsense who cares kind of rules schools, right? But I remember being, the first year I was in boarding school, she would come up to visit every, I don't know, two, three months, it felt like. She would come up to visit, and she took me to, this was a place near, gosh, Cheltenham, do I have I have that right? And I was running around a fountain, and I fell into the fountain. And I thought I was going to get the crap beaten out of me. Like, pulled out and, you know, punched and, like, all that kind of stuff, right? And there was nothing. She was pretty good-natured about it. And it was fine. That's bizarre. are. I remember being really, like, I was, like, terrified because I fell into the.

[29:48] Fountain, and she just helped me out, and, you know, we'll walk it off, and let's get some napkins, and she was just great. Of course, I realized later, it's like, it's in public. You got to put up the appearance and all of that. Somebody says, apologies for the typo. So a reason to achieve misbehavior in your child could be to justify after the fact your negative feelings towards them, perhaps because you have not processed your mother's treatment of you. A reason to achieve misbehavior could be to justify your negative feelings towards them. I think there is a courting of self-pity and disappointment. I can't take you kids anywhere and you never listen. And like there's a certain an amount of on-the-cross maternal martyrdom, maybe that's got something. Also, why not bring activities that the kids enjoy? Yes, coloring books, toys, etc., especially a coffee shop setting, they could all pretend they're working like the other adults, yeah. Like, if you were treated badly and you universalize it, then children have to be bad, right? So, you need your children to be bad, so you act to achieve bad behavior in your children. Yeah, bringing your kids to a, bringing like one of the three-year-olds basically to a coffee shop but no activities, I mean, that's not even courting doom. That's guaranteeing it, right? And then not engaging with them and fussing, right? A little ashamed to admit this, but I can't imagine not giving my kid the big card if maybe they were misbehaving or throwing a tantrum about nothing just before that.

[31:15] Oh, so you're going to max your kid's tantrum with a little petty tantrum of your own? You can't have the big cart, because it's immature to have tantrums. Okay, well, that's obviously not modeling what you want out of your kids. I don't know if you're half kidding, but I'm sure you understand, right? But yeah, it's like one little, that's a funny thing. Like Google, I said this in a show not too long ago, right? It was a solo show. Maybe you missed it. but if you did here's the brief version which is uh many philosophers from even the pre-socratic but certainly socrates onwards say that you see immorality is just um ignorance it's just a form of ignorance i mean surely if everybody knew the costs and benefits of good and evil they just choose to be good rather than evil so evil is really just the absence of the knowledge of good that if you just gave people enough information you would be able to woo them away from the dark black heart of misdeeds and have them just put you the shiny trebuchet to heaven that a deep knowledge of virtue inevitably produces right so evil is just a lack of knowledge right.

[32:25] Now we've really put that one to the test and put it to rest we put that entire theory to bed, because if you said to socrates oh so evil is really just a lack of knowledge so if we put the sum total of humans knowledge in people's asses and they could reach it at any time and look up anything anytime no matter where they are that would be about as much knowledge as you could possibly give access to human beings right you couldn't give more access to knowledge than having the sum total of human knowledge available you can even talk to the little magic box and have it read back to you all of the knowledge you had right like i had one little uh query here which which gave the answer as to what to do with your kids in a coffee shop. So the idea that evil is just a lack of knowledge has been perfectly put to rest by smartphones and the internet because now everybody has access to infinite knowledge, and yet so many of them remain evil. So this idea that evil is just a lack of knowledge, nope. Nope, nope, nope. All right.

[33:29] I know some camps in the white cell, or is that white shell? I know some camps in the white shell, and as a kid we flew through Toronto on the way to Orlando. Oh, and Dryden. My sum total first-hand knowledge of Ontario. What the hell does that continue with? I don't know. That's called Hanlon's Razor is a Psy-Up. Don't know what the hell that means either. I guess I... Did everybody have a stroke or did I? Did I have a stroke? In a Costco waiting for my food, stood next to a mom who was just scolding and attacking her children for being curious and exploring.

[34:02] Evil hates virtue because it awakens their own guilt. All right. Have you, tell me the number of professional martyrs you've had in your life. Oh, the minister of doom and gloom from the kingdom of woe is me has arrived. And all is sorrow, Mrs. Bartlett, right? All is sorrow and tragedy. And they're just hard-bunned by. And the doctors never listen. And the teachers don't listen. And the children don't listen. And the violin of cat-gut self-pity is just constantly playing like an orchestra of the generally damned. Have you ever had such a person, such a soul-sucking vampire of joy and hope in your life? Hanlon's razor equals assuming evil comes from ignorance as opposed to malicious intent. Oh, okay, thank you. I was not aware, but now I am. Oh no, half of all the people I grew up with.

[35:00] Oh i'm so sad oh isn't it awful whoo i had eight aunts who sang that in chorus four come to mind and then i went to the doctor and i said to the doctor doctor this this is an issue and he just said no no no no it's all in your head and he just wanted to stuff me with full of pills and i said no doctor i'm just you know this these stories where and i you know my friend who's a lawyer said that I was completely in the right, but nobody listens to me. Who listens to me? Nobody. I'm always right, and nobody ever listens to me. Oh, God! Self-pity! Oh, my gosh.

[35:41] I'd like to dig an infinitely deep hole and throw all of the Karen-based hope into it until it rests to a tiny, gentle center right in the middle. You know, you dig a hole all the way through the earth, you throw something in, it doesn't go back and forth, up and down, it just goes right and slows down and stops in the middle, because gravity shifts. Oh, it used to be a peculiarly, peculiarly and pecuniary female trait, but boy, is it ever spreading to men these days. Ooh, like a little estrogen ball-eating, nutsack-destroying, spinal-shredding tsunami of girliness. Oh, I'm such a victim. Oh, is it so hard done by? Oh, these terrible things happened hundreds of years ago Oh, and thus I have no free will and cannot compete. Oh, give me your money. Crazy stuff, man. You were trying to remember where your mother took you. Sorry, can't help. But I grew up in England. Why are you talking about Toronto and Orlando?

[36:45] I actually looked up the other day. I went to Camp Bolton many years ago. I actually spent quite a few summers in Camp Bolton because my mom was in hot pursuit of mail cash. And it shut down. It was mismanaged and it's gone. Along with the Science Center. center uh entropy and falling iq has doomed all of the edifices of my childhood, yeah this self-pity shit oh my god it is just rampant well of course you know the government gets paid the government will pay you for hey when's the debate by the way isn't there a presidential debate coming up i'm sorry i'm so off politics i can't remember when is this debate It's not tonight, is it? I might watch that. Isn't CNN threatening anyone who tries to comment on it? Excellent. Yeah, that sounds like a democratic fair use. Yes, you own the debate, and nobody can talk about it and show any clips from it. Ah, CNN.

[37:50] Ah, and at least Julian Assange is out. I was not expecting that. Is it tomorrow? Really? Tomorrow. I love you. Tomorrow. All right. Good to know. Good to know. All right. Maybe I have to shuffle a couple of things around.

[38:09] Political Discussions and Event Planning

[38:10] But I'd watch that. Are you going to watch it? Just out of curiosity. I don't know. I mean, just because I'm off politics obviously doesn't mean anything to anyone else, but are you going to watch it?

[38:22] Can you imagine what kind of cocktails they're putting Joe Biden on? June 27th. Oh, that is tomorrow. Like 7, 8pm kind of thing.

[38:37] All right. I had three calls tomorrow. I might have to shift one. All right. Yeah, WikiLeaks had to delete the DNC files from their website. Well, it's still in the Pirate Bay, right? Yep. I mean, I don't blame the guy. The stadium in Winnipeg was built less than 20 years ago. Concrete crumbling. Roman concrete still holds together after 2,000 years. Yeah.

[39:13] Yeah i mean poor guy what is he how long has he been in prison now five years more, i remember doing shows on him i did a show with cassandra fairbanks now cassandra husband name i did shows on uh poor guy man poor guy, all right so let me get to your questions uh feel free to type them in you know we're 45 minutes into the show not one tip oh don't make me pull out my aunt edna and crucify myself on the back wall of woe is me oh the sadness freedomane.com donate people doing quality work here, quality cafe stories all right so let me get to your questions comments what do we got here.

[40:03] Reflections on Past Jobs and Experiences

[40:04] What are some tips to determine if a company is a good place to work for did you ever have crappy jobs i really didn't have crappy jobs all i had was crappy jobs when i was younger right i mean i gosh what did i do let me see if i can go in chronological order order i painted plaques when I was 10 for the 1977 Silver Jubilee. Got a little bit of cash for that. That was my last job in England when I came to Canada. I got a job that I had to take like, Oh my gosh, it was like, I took a bus, a subway, and a streetcar to get to this job, putting together the New York Times on weekends at a bookstore, but I loved the job. I didn't love putting the New York Times together and finding all the places to put the newspapers, but I did get to basically take home whatever books I wanted, because they just rip off the covers and they're called remainders, you get your money back. So I basically had an infinite library in that place.

[40:57] And I worked there I got a paper route I took over some guy's paper route for quite some time which was not fun for me because I'm not exactly a morning kid never was never will be and then I got a job in a hardware store where I worked for a couple of years then I got a job at the same time I was cleaning offices at night I also would go I remember there was a woman a friend of mine and I I would go and we would clean the dog hair off her carpets. We would get these J-cloths and, you know, just scrape all the dog hair off her carpets. And I did that work for a while. I worked as a dishwasher, but I couldn't do that. Like, I literally would rather starve than be a dishwasher. And then I started getting jobs in restaurants as a waiter. I worked at Pizza Hut. I worked at Swiss Chalet.

[41:50] I worked at a downtown seafood restaurant when I was downtown. And yes, I had lots of crappy jobs. Then I started doing temp work, because I was good with computers. And I started working as a temp job in temp work. And that was pretty good. But I, I was so efficient at temp work, that I would be booked for a week and get it done in a day, like whatever I needed to get done, because I program stuff and, you know, create keystroke combos and stuff. I had a little macro program I took with me. So I was very much in demand. But it was kind of tough to keep me employed, because I was so efficient. Yeah, so yes, I've had tons and tons and tons of crappy jobs. And even when I got into the professional software field, there was some serious crap involved in the jobs. It was a serious shit sandwich cavalcade often, right? Because the tension between lying pathological sociopathic sales and hard-done-by-Aunt-Edna-woe-is-me-crucified-tech-teams, the tension is real. The tension is real. Ah, Pizza Hut was great back in the day, man. Oh, that oily crunch.

[43:06] Heard about Calgary police arrested Tommy Robinson on supposed outstanding immigration warrant, had to surrender his passport, can't leave the city, they're going to court about it. Yeah, I saw a little bit of that. Ezra Levant was interviewing him. And yeah, for what? Does it matter? It does not. 2018 was the arrest, but living in the consulate in England was basically house arrest, right? He's been 12 years he's been in, right? But I mean, it's been five or six years since the actual arrest. But yeah, he was living in the, oh gosh, Venezuelan consulate, wasn't he? For a long time. For a long time. Just monstrous. Just monstrous.

[43:55] All right. So yes, I have had, I've had crappy jobs. All right. Thanks. I see your question. Thank you for the tip. Let me just go and check freedomain.com slash donate. Ooh, a little chilly, a little chilly. All right. If a company is a good place to work for.

[44:27] Uh so uh i have some red flags i have some red flags um in particular bosses who are both female in their 30s or 40s and single that's not good because a lot of women when they age will throw themselves even more into their career to avoid the fact that they are not married and so you will get some, I had a friend of mine many years ago, and whenever his boss had a boyfriend, this is a woman in her late 30s, whenever, or mid to late 30s, I guess, whenever her boss, whenever his boss had a boyfriend, work was like fantastic. And then every time they would break up, it would just be savage, you know, like negative. So, and it could be the case with unmarried men as well, but people are not good bosses if their lives are going badly, because they tend to throw themselves into work, bury themselves in workaholism, and expect you to go down with them. Another thing, if the business talks about being a family, get the fuck out. It's a cult. It's a cult. If a business talks about, well, we consider our employees family, and it's like, no, you don't. You just use that word, so you're underpaid.

[45:50] So yes uh when they have a cult of super importance you know we're changing the world it's like you're not changing the world almost nobody is changing the world okay we're changing the world but almost nobody's changing the world but if they're changing the world uh if they use too many buzzwords and so on. You want a place where people love getting better at stuff. I love getting better at stuff. Oh, it just gives me that Six Sigma Pareto Principle Dopamine. Just, oh man, when I could get 10% faster processing off the same processor by improving the code base, it gave me a deep delicious satanic orgasm of productivity thrills so people who just love getting better at things um i'm always trying to get better at what i do here be more animated yet still not quite insane go to insanity back it up a tiny bit that's my sweet spot just you know and that's that's a surf edge that's brain parkour with the other dimensions of schizophrenia so So always trying to be free and entertaining and engaging in my language, but not to the point where I lose my mind and get arrested. So there's that.

[47:13] Identifying Red Flags in Workplace Environments

[47:14] So, yeah, that's not a good sign. If you have undefined benefits, intangible benefits, that, you know, the company culture is part of the benefit, that's not great. If they charge you for coffee, get out. If you have two people in HR during the interview, get out. Because that just means you're going to be fired from HR, womb-drying Karens anyway. And so, yeah, there's a lot of red flags around that kind of stuff. But you want to work for a place, you know, they have a realistic view of themselves. Because a lot of people will pump up and go, we're changing the world, which means we'll pay you less, right? And companies that don't share the risks and rewards where you get a salary but no options, again, I'm talking about more sort of professional stuff, But where there's no risks or rewards that are shared with the employees, that's not good. Because it means you have a greedy set of managers who want to hold on to all the benefits themselves. And that's not good.

[48:27] So, let's see. What else have I noticed? What do you guys have? Let me see what you guys have. I've finished your, somebody says, I finished your French Revolution series last week. I knew it was bad. Violent, bloody, massive mob rule, and senseless bloodshed. but no movie or documentary I've ever seen ever did the French Revolution the injustice it deserved. Well, it's back, right? It's back. I mean, the Bolsheviks and the French Revolution guys, they're back. They're back!

[48:59] Let's see here. I washed dishes for nine years at an Irish pub. At the same time, I was a schoolteacher during the day. Dishwashing paid better. Hmm. At my worst job, my manager would cry when his favorite sports team would lose a game. Hmm.

[49:27] You just covered 15 hours of business material off the cuff bravo managers that don't pay commissions for sales you make oh yeah absolutely absolutely uh people who use the phrase best in class best in class uh all of these kinds of buzzwords are just wretched we produce best in class blah blah blah it's like there's no such thing as best in there's no such thing as best in class best in class ai oh so you stole more did you steal more ai is just this big stinking pile of stolen stuff it's a testament to violations of pretty much eight of the ten commandments.

[50:10] So it's a big pile of steaming theft masquerading as pretend intelligence uh yeah best in class is terrible because there's no such thing right because whatever you focus on one thing you're not focusing on something else so it's it's best in class in terms of its reporting capacities it's like well that's just saying that well you know renting is is worse than than owning a house because you're just throwing your money away so you're comparing all the strengths of owning a house with all the weaknesses of renting and think you're doing something intelligent so So wherever you, you know, a SWOT, right? A SWOT, strengths, weaknesses, opportunities, and threats, right? So this SWOT analysis, it's like, just stop spitting out.

[50:58] Corporate acronyms like a machine gun of npc stupidity and just talk to me like a normal person, yes we're aiming to be best in class and it's like i don't know, so then you're more expensive and then you're right so it's like you know the lamborghini saying well we're best in class and it's like not if you're not a multi-millionaire then you're just a massive waste of libido enhancement for insecure middle-aged men so yeah this best in class stuff is, you know, I think I wrote some great software. And we had best-in-class stuff in some areas, but our integrations were not good with other software, because I found that stuff boring, so I didn't really work on it. I was really good at creating dynamic web interfaces off a database that contained the interface of all of our GUI to the database, because that was fun, you know, like you get to write some code and recreate a Windows interface on the web back in the day when this was tough. But I hated back-bolting to Oracle and SQL databases. Ugh, forget that. That sucks. So I didn't do that. We're best in class with our web interface and reporting structure. Yes. Our integrations, well, we're about as integrated as main. Put it that way.

[52:17] At my current job, there's a lot of workplace politics, gossip, blame games. It's going to be a struggle not to get caught up in the bullshit. As a kid, I loved Lambos. Yeah, yeah.

[52:30] Somebody's asking me for massive life advice and sending me $5. Always interesting. Always an interesting audience. Oh, this is so important, it might actually kill your mother. Well, if it's that important, sorry, if it's important enough to give me $5, I probably would question how much you value your mother's life. If you're relying upon me to save your mother's life and you're giving me $5, I'm not sure you want her to live.

[53:08] Best in class at paying employees and giving them benefits and protections. Yeah. Yeah. Um what was it what was the company was it i don't want to guess the company i have a name in my head but i don't want to be unfair but there was a company that recently said well you can continue to work at home but if you do you'll get absolutely no career advancement and like a massive surprisingly large percentage of the employees said yeah i'm good with that i'm fine having absolutely no career advancement, just don't make me come into the office. Right. Uh, you want to also look, maybe $5 is all he has. Oh yes. It was Dell. I thought it was Dell. Yeah. Oh yes. Maybe $5 is all he has. Well, he's got internet, he's got a computer and he's got, and he can also say, listen, I know that this is a very low tip for such a large ask. That's totally fine. That's totally fine. You know, like if I'm going past some guy who's homeless on the street who's begging for money and I give him 15 cents, at least I'm going to say, I'm so sorry, man, this is all the money I have.

[54:34] That's pretty funny. Um, so when I would go to, to get a job and I would, um, I would want to walk around. I said, you know, can we just have a quick stroll around the floor? And, and then I would get to see the employees and get a sense of the, the energy. And if everything was gray and cubicles, that was a big problem for me. If it looked like a man cave of a cocaine addicted 12 year old, in other words, here's our foosball table. Come on, man. This is not Palladium. This is a place of business. So if it looks like tom hanks apartment from the movie big i'd be like my interest is now very small if it was all completely gray there was absolutely no splash of color or soul to the place at all that's an indication of a bad environment as a whole so yes yes Yes.

[55:49] So he says, sorry, I can send more, just trying to figure out how this app works. Yeah, that's not true, though. Sorry. I hate to call you out. This is not true. You saw you sent five bucks, in which case you'd say, oh, sorry, I meant to send more or whatever, right? So no, that's what people say, right? Like, they send me five bucks, and I don't care the five bucks, right? Just, you know, if you're asking a huge question that's going to save your mother's life and you send me five bucks you can at least say i'm so sorry it's only five bucks my mom's worth a lot more than this and i'm really leaning on your 40 years worth of expertise here's five bucks, but then people when i call them out people say oh i don't know how the app works of course you do come on come on well this is but this is part of my advice right this is part of my advice.

[56:34] And uh i if i ever took a job as a manager i would never ever ever ever ever take the job without meeting with my employees my potential employees right i just wouldn't do it like if people would say oh you're going to manage you know some jobs i was managing like 30 or 35 people so i need to meet them or at least the team leads or something like that because i need to get a sense of are they traumatized because you know when you're being brought in it's because you're usually replacing someone or did the last manager break the employees right that's kind of important because I don't know that I want to rebuild people, like all that kind of stuff, right? So, yeah, these are all, you get Sixth Sigma stuff, and if the manager has a whole bunch of, see, you know, I remember I didn't take a job once because the manager had a whole bunch of business books on his shelf with no bends, right? Right.

[57:33] I remember I went on a date with a woman once, and we went back to her place, and she had Stephen Hawking's A Brief History of Time on the coffee book, right? On the coffee table. And anyway, I lifted it up, and I said, oh, A Brief History of Time. How interesting. interesting and she's like yeah it's a challenge and i'm like you you mean it's a challenge to open because i like lift i opened it you know dust and moth coming out and blow the dust off and all of that and so it's like it's a challenge to open but let's not pretend you've read it okay this is a this is a set piece this is like me wearing a wig made of a guy's wheelchair so yeah it is um Um, uh, I, I remember cause I, this guy had this, all these business books and you could tell they'd never been opened. And I'm like, okay, I'm not, I'm not doing that. I'm not doing that. Uh, yeah. Freedomain.com slash donate. That's just the easiest way to, to sort it out.

[58:39] Uh, I remember, uh, I didn't take a job because a guy started telling me about the difficulties he was having with his adopted kid. You know, I adopted two kids. One of the kids is doing great, the other one's hanging out with a bunch of skateboarding weirdos, and I can't... It's like, what? Okay, I might do this in 20 years, but not now. Not yet. Not today.

[59:03] So.

[59:06] No, like if you can't figure out the app, right? So, if you're working as a waiter, right, and somebody tips you, like they have a $200 meal and they tip you $5, like, I think we've all done this, haven't we all done this? Where we try and leave a decent tip but for some reason we enter it wrong right in which case you say oh my gosh i'm so sorry i tipped you five bucks on 200 um i need to be able to tip again and if you can't tip again i literally have gone to the bank gotten cash gone back found the waiter and paid the waiter right because i'm not leaving a five dollar tip on a 200 meal not that i have a a lot of 200 meals but you know what i'm saying right so uh if you make a mistake right you don't wait to be called out right i mean isn't this a basic decency thing right which is if you meant tip more and you tip me five dollars and i'll answer the question i'm just you know telling you how to go through life so that you don't annoy people too much you know and you know if you want to roll with the you know i don't want to say like i'm a big deal right i mean but you know So I've been pretty successful in the art world and pretty successful in the business world. And I was the biggest podcaster on the planet for a good chunk of time. Now, you can, whatever works for you for tips, I'm totally easy with.

[1:00:35] But I'm telling you a little bit how to roll with big dogs. Just a little bit. You know, like you want to elevate your game and you want to roll with some bigger dogs, don't you? I mean, in your life, you don't want to kind of stay down with the $5 and like you want to roll a little bit, right? The coins yeah the coins aren't great as i said before the coins on the locals platform i mean because it's not their fault but google takes a third of the coins because they just take a third of everything that's spent right.

[1:01:06] Beware automatic tip amounts. The dollar amount does not match the percent on the button. I don't quite know what that means. But they're starting at 18% these days, right? It's tough, man. It's tough. All right. Yeah, so keep the coins. I appreciate those. But yeah, freedomain.com. It's the best place. Somebody says, at the company I started at six months ago, my boss is retiring in about four years and everyone is 50 plus. Are these red flags? Well, you know, we're all living on the fading, we're all still existing on the fading competence of the boomers, right? The boomers are all retiring and they're being replaced by idiots. So this whole momentum, right? Right? This is all momentum, right? You know, you throw a ball up in the air, it goes up for a while, but it's going to come back down. So we just, you know, we just wrote a whole novel about this called The Present. You should get it at freedomain.com slash books. And he just, you know, we're still going up a little bit, but the IQ updraft is gone, right?

[1:02:25] Every time you critique a massively important question attached to a small tip, I love to picture a beautiful and tragic straw man. I imagine it's some poor dude sitting on public Wi-Fi typing away on an overheating laptop with a cracked screen that's held together with duct tape and twine. He saved $5 over the last six months from his dirt farming job. I think we might... Let's throw that in to the thumbnail generator and see what we get. It oh that's funny you know and there's the funny thing too right and the funny thing is if somebody says i have a massive question that my mother's life depends on here's five dollars and i say you know it doesn't seem overly generous considering it's your mother's life that's on the line people don't say oh yeah you know that is probably like they don't just say i'm sorry it's always some excuse well i don't know how the app works and i type to think it's like Like, you just literally saw your tip go through. I mean, just please don't lie like this. Then it's like an undertip followed by a justification, followed by a defense, followed by somebody else jumping in. Maybe that's all he's got, man. And then followed by, well, I don't know how this app works and I don't know the difference between five and 50. And it's like all just nonsense.

[1:03:41] Steph, did you see the CEO of Boeing is an accountant? And Elon Musk called him out and said the CEO should know how to build airplanes, not spreadsheets. Steph, how do you think an accountant ends up as CEO? I don't know. What the hell? What the hell do I know? What do I know? I mean, I assume accountant needs to tally up their diversity numbers, right? Like a lot of corporate decisions are run by this DEI diversity stuff, which is, you know, just a money grab. happen. Anyway, so boomers retire, nepotism kicks in, business goes bankrupt in two years. Yeah. Yeah. I'm very happy in my current job. I feel like I've stumbled upon a company with a bunch of normal people, which was a pleasant surprise. Managers, employers, all of good character, and everyone gets on with it. That's nice. That's nice. All right, let's get on with some more questions.

[1:04:44] Yeah, I mean, people will send me 10 coins, which is one dollar which ends up being 60 cents something like that i mean honestly please don't i'm just saying please don't like honestly if if it's your last five dollars don't spend it on me spend it on bus fare to get a job please don't spend your last five dollars on me oh my god that's crazy. Get some food. You know, get to a homeless shelter. My God, this is terrible. Whatever you do, do not spend your last $5 on me.

[1:05:24] Embracing Philosophy and Shedding Relationships

[1:05:24] Awful. All right. Any advice for someone who is beginning to take philosophy seriously, and you once described it as walking across the desert alone? Any advice for such an individual who now finds himself losing relationships?

[1:05:43] Well, language is destiny, my friends. Language are the train tracks you lay ahead of yourself. Language is destiny. Where you end up is based upon the language you use. Right? Free will lies in how you define terms. You think I'm kidding? I will just demonstrate to you right now exactly what I'm talking about. I am losing relationships. Oh, philosophy doth cost my soul as the relationships leave my body like the hooks out of the gullet of a bass fish. Losing relationships. Nope. You are not losing any relationships. ships, you are shedding bullshit. You are shedding liars and manipulators who do not care to follow you on the journey towards truth, reason, reality, and morality.

[1:06:50] I mean, when you take your ship to Sting's Harbor and they scrape all the barnacles off the hound, you say, my ship is being sunk and riddled with scrapes. Nope. You're just getting rid of the crud that screws up your ship.

[1:07:19] You're not losing relationships, because if you had relationships, they would be enhanced by philosophy, because a relationship is where you meet in reality. That cozy little place we call facts, truth, reason, and evidence. That's a relationship. You can't have a relationship with manipulation. You can't have a relationship with delusion. You can't have a relationship with an NPC any more than you can date a fucking toaster. You're not losing relationships. You're shedding bullshit. You are paving the way for real relationships. You are paving the way for real relationships. So I want you to think of it like this. You inherit from a distant unknown relative a lovely little tract of land where in or where on or whereupon there There is a ramshackle, fucked up, leaning over, 12 different colors, windows sagging, half-rotten roof piece of crap that they pretend is a house. Right? The house is, even with Jared's help, absolutely unsalvageable.

[1:08:35] You bring in a builder. The builder can barely contain his laughter. Is like, I don't want the fact that that sagging ass piece of house of cards is, but I wouldn't even go in to inspect that thing, because that thing's about to fall down, man. It's going to make me sneeze, but by the time I inhale the sneeze, I'm going to be stooping so much air, the fucking ceiling is going to come down on my, like a ton of bricks and a Wikipedia editor combined with a science center architect. A little spittle there, but it's well deserved. So, you got this piece of land. In order to live on that piece of land you're going to need a house however you have an entirely half-melted shitbox of a skate-three glitching bullshit non-house, built 150,000 years ago and maintained about as well as I don't know the economy for the next generation in all western countries so, if you email me and you say because you know, the builder says, I'm not coming on this property until you knock that piece of shit down.

[1:09:43] I'd say burn it, but you'd probably get asbestos poisoning three states over. So you've got this absolute piece of, my GPU just melted while playing Minecraft, slidey bullshit house that's not a house, you can't live in it, floors are rotten, stairs go nowhere. Where it's Hogwarts without Maggie Smith's strangely elevated bust. Yeah, well, what can I tell you? She's confusing. So.

[1:10:21] You say, the builder says to you, yeah, you know, you knock this down, you scrape it out, and you've got some, maybe the foundation could be saved, I don't know, but at least we'll have some foundations to start from, right? And you write to me and you say, Steph, oh Steph, A, here's four dollars, and B, how could I possibly survive the loss of this house? This abode of ancient shelter for ancestors of which I know little. Steph, this magnificent mansion of protection from the elements. How? Steph, how will I survive the loss of this house? And you send me a picture.

[1:11:26] Like what? Are you crazy? That's not a house. That's a death trap liability of asbestos monsters, that's a place where you couldn't even film a fucking horror movie because it would kill half the cameramen that's a breathing death trap of moldy, hell so no, you don't have a house you've got a liability, you don't even have the illusion of a house now scrape that thing out and consign it to the star winds of the universe and maybe you've got a place you can build an actual house but right now you don't have a house, My advice for someone who's beginning to take house building seriously and who has to rip up a decaying mansion that is the dental equivalent of a completely tooth-rotted, hellscape of an X-tooth. How can you help me, Steph, get over the loss of this house? It's like it's not a house. It's in the way of a house. You can get a house there, but you've got to get rid of this shit first. Right.

[1:12:49] So you get rid of this monstrosity of a broken x house and then you can build a house, but if you think you're losing a house you need to look at the picture again so here's the thing I will solve this for you, and then the tips will flow in oh ok ok let me ask you this is it worth it for me to solve this problem for you, in about five minutes so that you don't ever think that philosophy is costing you one single relationship, is that worth anything to you I want to make sure what I'm doing is worthwhile, so if I can solve for you in five minutes, the illusion that you're losing any friendships or relationships or family relations when you pursue philosophy, reason, truth, evidence, and morality, if I can solve that problem for you in a few minutes, is that worth something to you? Tell me yes, tell me no. I will rely upon you. Oh, so sorry. I seem to have missed some comments over on Rumble. All right.

[1:14:11] Does the truth need to be compromised with a lie to be truth does freedom need to be compromised with tyranny to be freedom no okay.

[1:14:29] Oh, that's funny. Somebody talking about my brother. How interesting. Interesting. Interesting. I've been waking up at sunrise. I've been following the light across my room. Oh, looks like, are we getting? Why have people stopped typing? Why? Have people stopped typing? Have you all passed out? Are you gone? Am I going to have to do Duke Nukem voice for the rest of the evening?

[1:15:13] Mystery in the Workplace

[1:15:13] On the topic of humility, I was working at a company and the owners absolutely adored this one employee. The guy was divorced three times either divorced or his death by overdose and when i got into a disagreement with the guy they told me i needed to look at his positive qualities like loyalty, okay so do you know what the answer to that is you know what the answer to that is right, that's not even that complicated i mean i can tell you the answer as to that the answer to that mystery the answer to that mystery is that the um managers in my opinion obviously i don't have any proof but my assumption would be that the managers did something illegal and the employee has dirt on them right and so they have to um go with this weird guy because he's got dirt on them like you wouldn't know a lot of business runs on uh bribery and well sorry a lot of business runs on uh in a sense blackmail if you know that your boss has done something wrong then uh you know Maybe he had an affair while on a business trip. Maybe he's been taking money from the company till maybe he's been putting in illegitimate expenses and all of that. Right.

[1:16:33] So you think I have the easy job, right? Fun philosophy blogging job. Oh yes, this job has been nothing but fun. Let me tell you, bomb threats, death threats, slander, libel, you name it, defamation. Yeah, it's been nothing but fun. Those alien bastards blew up my ride.

[1:17:01] All right well um i don't think anybody's responding to me so i won't inflict the solution uh i'll maybe do it another time let me make a note here, Uh, you. You are losing relationships. Yeah, what exactly does the boss keep locked up in the bottom drawer? Or, yeah, you know, maybe the IT guy found the boss's browsing history. And maybe, maybe he's getting a big raise to keep it quiet. All right. Sorry, let me just check here. Why here? Why here? All right. So I think there are some people who want the answer. Okay. So, I will give you the answer. I'd like to know about losing relationships with philosophy. I believe it applies to me. All right. So. I'll give myself five minutes.

[1:18:22] Five minutes for me, or 300 seconds, starting now. All right. If you have a relationship, you can be honest. If you're lying to someone, it's not a relationship. It's a manipulation. Fair? If they're lying to you, it's not a relationship. It's a manipulation. So, it's a mutual proximity to other flesh bags because you don't want the actuality of being alone, so you pretend that you have, quote, relationships with people when all you are engaged in is mutual lying, bullying, and self-erasure. Sure so if you have a relationship you can tell the truth to that person so if you get into philosophy and you start working with reason and evidence then you start to get the truth the truth about yourself the truth about the world the truth about others the truth about history your own and societal because history is basically a manipulation to control the future everyone thinks history is about the past no history is about controlling the future by exploiting the pleasant present based on mostly lies. So, if you have a relationship, it has to be based on honesty, because if you're lying to someone, it's not a relationship, it's an exploitation.

[1:19:32] So, if you think you're losing a relationship because of philosophy, no problem. What you do is you go to the person and you say, hey, I think I'm losing a relationship because of philosophy. I think this relationship's kind of getting strained because I'm really into philosophy, truth, reason, evidence, and knowledge. Because, you know, it's a a relationship which means you can tell the truth right you can tell the truth now if you find yourself frightened frightened to have an honest conversation with someone it's not a relationship, there's nothing i won't talk to my wife about it's nothing she she won't talk to me about this my my friends uh and and people i work with they can all say is there anything that we can't talk about no i think we talk about just about anything.

[1:20:21] So if you have a relationship it's got to be based on truth and honesty so if you think you're losing a relationship and you think it's a real relationship you're losing the relationship because you're not being honest so go and be honest in that relationship and find out is it real? well.

[1:20:39] If it's real, you can tell the truth. If you're lying, you're killing the relationship, not philosophy, and you're killing the relationship against the primary dictate and founding principle of philosophy, the prime directive of philosophy, is tell the truth. Tell the truth. Oh, I fear I'm losing a relationship because of philosophy. Okay, so either you're not telling the truth, or the other person's not telling the truth, or neither of you is telling the truth. Now, if you're not telling the truth but the other person is receptive to the truth, philosophy is not costing you the relationship. You doing the opposite of philosophy is costing you the relationship because philosophy says tell the truth and you're lying.

[1:21:20] The Primary Dictate of Philosophy

[1:21:20] If the other person hates you for telling the truth, it's not a relationship. Because if you get attacked and rejected and scorned for telling the truth, it's not a relationship. So if you think you're losing relationships, go and save them. I know this sounds cynical. I don't mean that at all. Honestly, go tell the truth. Go and save those relationships by telling the truth. Now, if the person is open and warm and receptive to the truth, even if they're shocked and appalled a little bit, they still care about you enough to want to ask more and be curious. Great, you've just saved the relationship. But we all know that's not what's going on.

[1:22:02] What's Okay, so the truth has revealed that there was no relationship. It was just mutual masturbatory self-avoidance and lies. There's no way back because you can't undo the truth. There's no control Z, no edit undo for learning the truth. The mind, once stretched by a new idea, never regains its former shape. So if you think you're losing relationships to philosophy, do the philosophical thing and go and tell the truth.

[1:22:35] Now, if the relationship is revealed to be a total lie because you're attacked, scorned, hated, rejected, and ostracized for telling the truth, then you have just rid yourself of a brain-sapping, soul-destroying, progress-calcifying delusion. Wasn't a real relationship. It was a place you were forced to lie. Now, once you know that it's a place you were forced to lie, you'll never refer to it as a relationship again. Do you think I ever had a relationship with my mother or let's say other family members? Nope. Because every time I told the truth I got attacked, scorned and rejected and ostracized. Never had a relationship. Because you can only have a relationship in reality, in honesty, in truth and for sure. It's the only relationship that's possible. So you're not losing a relationship And if you refer to it as losing a relationship, then what you're saying is, I'm lying, right? Oh, I'm losing this relationship. Well, then it's got to be because you're lying. Because if it's the other person who's lying, you're not losing the relationship, you're shedding an exploitation. So go tell the truth and find out.

[1:23:57] Request for Donation Reminder

[1:23:57] Five minutes-ish, right? I'd like to hear your answer to that question. Unfortunately, I cannot donate until next week. Hey, I appreciate that. Set a reminder. Thank you.

[1:24:20] Wow, Steph, once again, that was an informative and impactful answer. I call the avoidance things like landmines, things I can't talk about with others because they blow up over shit. So, yes, it is lying in false relationship. This hits home. It's like Rachel and her living mannequin of a boyfriend only have a, quote, relationship so long as they lie to themselves and each other, as in the present. What relationship was there? Right. Damn, this is another takeaway. I've got to save this segment with notes. Thank you. You are welcome. All right. Shedding and exploitation. Kaboom. This is fire. Thank you, Steph. And you send a dollar. Okay, I assume everybody's just trolling me at this point. Hey, it's your conscience, not mine. It's your conscience, not mine. You sent a dollar. Thank you for revealing the truth about how to escape lies. It's a dollar.

[1:25:31] The Importance of Double-Checking Work

[1:25:31] I'm sure that's a mistake. I'm sure you're just... Please, for the love of all that's holy, is it tough to check the numbers you're typing? Is this impossible? God forbid you bet or pay your taxes. You're going to fat-finger your way into oblivion. All right. So... Let me give you one other thing. I meant to send $10. Thank you. Well, just check. I mean, I don't know. You understand that you're only as good as the work you produce, and if you can't double-check your work, I'm not saying this is, you know. But you just need to get into the habit of double-checking your work. I've had this conversation with literally zillions of people. I'm not perfect, too, whatever, but I double-check my work.

[1:26:28] Oh that's interesting yeah i'll pass it along to james, but yeah just you have to double and triple check your work you're only as valuable as the work you provide and in in economic sense right and, if somebody else has to check your work you're automatically automatically, your economic value goes down by like at least 50% if anybody else has to check your work. Do you know how valuable, how insanely valuable it is to have someone whose work you don't need to check? And again, this is just like, if you can't, if you're just going to type like, and you know, this is a sensitive issue and area. I just talked about it for like 10 minutes or whatever, right? So that's something you'd want to double check right before you send it, right? I mean, that just is. And this is not about this $1 or $10 or whatever. This is something that is about, can your work be trusted? In other words, it used to be, well, there's a buck. I'll send it. Oh, shit. Oh, God, I got it wrong. Oh, no. Oh, right. I'm telling you, this is not just in this. It's not just in this situation that that's happening.

[1:27:45] I'm planning a big donation myself, lump sum donation in a few months en route. Thank you. Now, from being in the trades, not having to check someone's work is hugely beneficial. Yeah. You will be forever economically crippled if people have to check your work. You will forever be economically crippled. You cannot make good money if people have to check your work.

[1:28:12] Value of Reliable Work

[1:28:12] And not everyone of course but a lot of people that i've ended up working with i've had to have this conversation not everyone and again i make mistakes too but in general very few but i've had to have this kind of conversation with a lot of people i've worked with over the years like no just double check your work if you have time to do it over you have time to get it it right just double or triple check your work because if you have to have someone double check your work that's deducted from your salary right you understand that in the business world if somebody's got to double check you well i want to send this email to the board oh yeah better have someone look it over right so whatever other people have to double check is deducted from your paycheck which is you you can't make money if people have to check your work if you mean to to send $10 but you send a dollar when it's really important you get that right, that's a big issue double triple check your work, be someone who's bulletproof be someone that other people can just send your shit out and they don't need to worry about it and then you get paid more, because you don't need a backup Right? You don't need a backup.

[1:29:40] Just be that person because, you know, be that person whose word is bond. Right? Be that person whose word is bond. If you say you're going to do it, it's going to get done. If you say it's going to be right, it's going to be right. If you make a commitment to deliver, it gets delivered. Be that person. When you say it's done, it's done. And nobody needs to check on you. Nobody needs to review. Nobody needs to look for typos or things that are wrong or slipped digits. Just don't be that. Started a new job today. I hated the fact someone noticed a tiny mistake I did. One mistake all day. I'm not going to bully myself over it, but I do hate it. Yes, you should hate it.

[1:30:44] Thank you. I appreciate the tip. No, you should hate. Hate errors. Hate errors. You know, I do my job like I'm checking the engines on a spaceship. I do my job like I'm handing a scalpel to a surgeon working on Freddie Mercury's throat. I do my job with such detail and precision and the goal of accuracy. And look, I mean, how many things have I had to correct in terms of errors and details over the years? Maybe half a dozen over close to 20 years. Now, that's a pretty good accuracy. And some of those weren't even mine because I used to have a guy who gave me presentations. Now, it's still my responsibility, but it wasn't my error. I just didn't catch the error.

[1:31:35] Yeah, because I used to... I had a guy who gave me some presentations. And... They'd just be like typos and errors and and it's like i don't want this shit, i i feel i've honestly i don't know if i'm a perfectionist i feel offended i feel like why would you it would be like you know if i'm super hungry and my wife says i'll get you a meal and she just gives me a like a still frozen pizza i'm like what what am i supposed to do with this, it's worse than that it feels like there's shit on something it feels like somebody's giving me a sandwich that is mold and shit.

[1:32:22] And I hate it. I hate it in myself too. And again, make mistakes from time to time. I recognize that there is a certain amount of inevitability to this kind of stuff. I get all of that. And there's, you know, a certain amount of errors that are always going to exist. But I think, you know, as a whole, I've been pretty good on getting things right. In fact, I've been fantastic at getting things right. I know that. I mean, occasionally I go over it in my brain, like all the things I got right.

[1:32:57] Ah, just, this is one of the biggest pieces of advice I can ever give you. I'm telling you, get shit right. Accept nothing but the aim of perfection. Look, I've done an hour 40 minutes of free-balling, and I've been precise and accurate and detailed and creative and innovative, and that's a commitment to quality and excellence. You know i i did some work i did some work this week that is so good i literally got goosebumps while i was doing it because i'm always aiming to get better i'm not trying to big some praise in myself or anything like that because i can be kind of hard on myself in a good way like an encouraging way like you can do better and i always feel that i'm good i can do better every show i'm like i don't do better and do better don't rest on your laurels don't be lazy don't repeat don't use the same stories don't use the same analogies don't use the same jokes don't repeat be creative be innovative constantly trying to shake things up different backdrop walking around i did a call-in today and i did an arduous hike because i knew it was going to be a really tough subject and i wanted my blood pumping just constantly trying to shake it up, and do things different i hate errors.

[1:34:18] Because, you know, here's the thing about errors, is you know how much you hate them. Right? If you're really hungry, you go to a restaurant, let's say you're allergic to mayonnaise, and you order your favorite sandwich, and you say, no mayonnaise, they read it back to you, no mayonnaise, and it comes with mayonnaise, and you're hungry, you're annoyed. If your computer has an error, and there's dead pixels on the screen, and it keeps randomly rebooting, you hate that. "'You're offended. You're upset.'.

[1:34:51] What is it? I was reading the ROG Ally, Republic of Gamers Ally, little handheld thing. They put the SD card slot next to the fan exhaust and it keeps melting them and burning it out. Like, that's stupid.

[1:35:04] The Consequence of Having Work Checked

[1:35:05] There was a chip, an Intel chip some years ago had calculation errors in the base tables. People hate that stuff. You hate these errors. If they deliver the wrong thing, you get mad If you get a computer that doesn't work, you get mad You rely on people getting shit right to live, To live You can't live if people are shoddy, You know I had to get a cyst removed from my shoulder right they need the right amount of painkiller they need to cut deep enough to get it out but not so deep they do too much damage people have got to be perfect at this stuff you know when they were cutting the tumor out of my neck they had to go deep enough to get the whole tumor but not so deep that i'm half beheaded or get a jugular nick right.

[1:36:17] You ever have a computer? I had an HP computer once. I bought it secondhand. It locked up randomly. That's some annoying shit. Like, total screen freeze. Couldn't move, like, couldn't save. Wasn't like it crashed or it didn't even reboot. Total lockup. That was 600 bucks. That was worse than, I would have been better off setting fire to those $600 than buying that HP computer. It was a refurbished at a store. It still pisses me off. Because I, oh, I'll check the drivers. I'll update the drivers. Oh, I'll talk to HP. Oh, I'll update the operating system. Oh, I'll move it to a cooler place. Maybe it's too much in the sun. Like the amount of time I spent on that stupid computer because it didn't work.

[1:37:13] So we, the electricity that comes to your house, You expect uptime of 100%, don't you? Every time the internet's down, people lose their minds. You expect and live on accuracy. So do I. So be part of that circle of humanity that does their shit well. Double-check your work, triple-check your work. Be the person who doesn't need someone over their shoulder like a kindergarten teacher saying, well, have you checked that? Is that right? Is that good? Is that accurate? Be excellent because you love excellence and you hate incompetence. And everyone does.

[1:38:03] Be excellent. Your value, your humanity, your reliability is so important. Be excellent at your work. Be excellent as a friend. Be excellent in your parenting. Be excellent in bed. Be excellent as a lover. Be excellent in affection. Be excellent in negotiation. Just be good. You guys have no excuse to not be in the top 1% of everything you do. No excuse. You're into philosophy. You follow everything that I'm talking about. You have no excuse for more than 1% error. You have no excuse to not be at least 99% accurate and aim for much higher than that. You have no excuse to not be in the top 1% of your profession.

[1:38:57] Striving for Excellence in Work

[1:38:58] You're easily smart enough. sorry it's just a fact I mean we all have emotional stuff I get all of that you have absolutely no excuse to not be in the top 1%.

[1:39:12] Shoddy people are like rust, can you imagine some guy's working on your brakes in your car and he's shoddy, you'll die and Maybe kill people. You'll be going down a hill, and you'll hit the brakes, and it'll be all patchy and shit, and you'll just go over the cliff. Jeez. Oh.

[1:39:47] I mean, you ever have a graphics card which stutters, overheats, drives you crazy, locks up, it's a problem. You ever have phones that freeze, or batteries that wear down too quickly, shoddy, shoddy stuff. And you hate it, so don't add to it, ever. Or at least have the goal of never adding to it. Relentless dedication and devotion to quality is as close to God as we can get. It's as close to the angels as we can get. Breaking orbit from the sea of incompetence and heading to the stars of excellence is the greatest journey there is. Apply yourself to as as great a job as you can possibly do. I don't care how little or how small that job is. Be the best fucking dishwasher. Be the best painter. I was always aiming for that. Aim to be the best. Why not? Maybe you can be. Maybe you can't be, but you can sure as hell aim at it. And then if you aim at the best, you get used to being good at something or aiming at that, and you hit that thing where you can be fucking perfect and you will go like a shuttle.

[1:41:11] Embracing Imperfection

[1:41:11] Don't apologize for your fumble. Don't apologize for your fumble. Gave us a great speech. The Pentium 60, yeah, yeah, it had a complete malfunction, a computer malfunction if it ran across certain numbers. Yes. Yes. Somebody says, I work with a guy who was a total work addict and perfectionist freak of the highest order. He talks over me during meetings, gives me his feedback and criticism during meetings while I'm trying to speak. No, he's not a perfectionist then, he's an asshole. Because a perfectionist would also be perfect at giving feedback.

[1:41:52] So he's just random and intrusive and right he's an over talker and so he's not a perfectionist, perfectionists will often say well i'm just a perfectionist and that's just giving them an excuse to be an asshole no because if you're a perfectionist be good at meetings be good at giving feedback be good at all of this, yes steph you're absolutely amazing to me i aspire to be as accomplished as you and to help others i'm really listening yes i hate errors we all do errors are death you understand errors are death. Arrows get people killed. I mean, just think, you're hunting for your tribe and you, pick the wrong arrow, the bent one, and shoot it and a deer runs away, you all can die. Arrows are death. Oh, I forgot to feed the chickens. Well, I forgot to close the chicken coop. Well, guess what? Your chickens all got killed by coyotes and you got nothing for winter. Oh I forgot to feed the cows oh dear well the cows got sick and died oh I forgot to put the scarecrow up and the birds ate all our seed crops like errors or death.

[1:43:09] I was in training to work at a factory at the end of training I was doing the job with three people because my two training partners were going to leave and I had to pick up their slack an employer refused to pay me three people's wages wouldn't even pay two people so I left Them to hire three people for the job, yeah, for sure. My current computer crashes once a night consistently, though. I crash, and you're good for the next 10 hours. One crash, and you're good for the next 10 hours. Pretty sure it's a graphics card issue. Yeah, well, pull the card. Fold a card. Stefan prevents the great slowdown with a single amazing speech. I am excellent in bed. I love you, Stef. This is another segment I will save and listen to again and again. Sorry to fumble like that. My sincere apologies. No problem. No problem.

[1:44:01] Thank you for the tip. Be perfect as your heavenly father is perfect. Yes.

[1:44:10] Decline of Meritocracy in Business

[1:44:11] Steph how to deal with the problems that arise from going above and beyond in corporate America usually the only reward is a $25 gift card, yep well corporate America is no longer a meritocracy corporate anywhere is no longer a meritocracy it's all shitty social engineering that's why spreadsheet guys end up in charge large. So there's no meritocracy. The only meritocracy is in small, agile employers. Maybe it's your own company, but there is no meritocracy. Meritocracy is dead in mainstream business. In the mainstream business world, meritocracy is dead. You know that, right? We don't have to go into this. We've been talking about this, right?

[1:45:01] I mean, and for white males and we know this right the jobs are going to non-whites non-males i mean that's just this is statistical fact the meritocracy is dead and for a lot of people that's a disaster for everyone here this is an opportunity a huge opportunity, you get a 25 gift card for doing a great job that's a wonderful incentive to start your own business or join some other startup or whatever right i mean the idea that you guys would be be working for someone else is frankly offensive to me i mean if i said if i said hey i'm really i'm really angling to get a job at cnn so that i can read off the cue cards and the teleprompter, how would you guys feel if i said i'm going to work at a corporate network, right.

[1:46:12] How would you feel would you like hey steph that's a really good move man you'll make more money those guys get paid a lot millions and millions of dollars yeah you should totally go for it, Or, I don't know, here at CBC, I'm going to work for a government network.

[1:46:37] Can you imagine? That's how I look at you guys talking about employment problems. Yes, yes. And let's say I got offered a job at one of these places. You know, you're actually quite charismatic and really good at spontaneous stuff, man. I'd be like, yeah, you know, Harvard, they offered me a job. I'm going to go teach philosophy at Harvard. It's not going to be filmed or released or anything like that. Oh, and I'm going to have to follow their curriculum. But I'll get tenure, and I'll get summers off, and I'll get a sabbatical every couple of years so I can go and write some bullshit, pomo, verb, syllable nonsense vomit and call it philosophy. Here's philosophy. Here's philosophy. So Jean-Paul Sartre, I don't know if you knew this, in 1923, he took a massive overdose of mescaline and he saw crabs, literal crabs, for decades. This went on forever and ever. He took so much mescaline, he ended up with a permanent visual hallucination of crabs. And he was a massive drinker and drug taker and smoker.

[1:47:56] So, if you think of me working at CNN or Harvard or CBC or even some right-wing place or whatever, you know, if you thought of me working there, you'd sit there and say, damn, why would you do that? You guys working for people? Are you fucking kidding me? Now, obviously, if you are working for an entrepreneur who's encouraging entrepreneurship, my friends, that's a good thing. There's nothing wrong with getting your apprenticeship in. Damn. Steph, you are the world's father figure during a time when they have none. I'm aware that some people look upon me as Big Daddy and not the kind that's in Bioshock. Oh, maybe I'll be reincarnated as that. Who knows? Who knows? Steph working at OANN or Newsmax. Again, no hate to those places or anything like that, but... Guys, look into starting your own business. oh simone de beauvoir yeah brought him grad students for threesomes it was absolutely repulsive they all just like foul hideous people well french intellectuals why would i even need to say that and they all when the whole bunch of french intellectuals try to legalize pedophilia right you know that right.

[1:49:20] It. So, okay, I'm going to end up with this. Now, it's been a crackerjack of a show.

[1:49:27] The Coup de Grace: Bullshit Proximity

[1:49:27] Freedomain.com slash donate. Nothing came in. I mean, I know I'm getting a couple of tips on locals, which I appreciate. Nothing came in tonight. Freedomain.com slash donate. Come on, you know, this is kind of crackerjack electric value. And I'm going to.

[1:49:47] I'm going to finish up with the coup de grace, the daily wire. Oh, God. So here's the coup de grace. Now, thank you for the tip. I appreciate that. All right, the coup de grace. Are you ready? It's going to blow your mind.

[1:50:12] So if you have, bullshit proximity which is you can only be around people if you lie that's bullshit proximity it's not a relationship it's bullshit proximity if you have bullshit proximity you are not losing relationships what are you doing, what are you doing what are you doing If you have bullshit proximity, which is you can only be around people if you lie. Are you losing relationships? No. What are you actually doing? What are you actually doing if you're hanging around with people that you can only be around them if you lie? Taking out the trash? Nope. Shedding? Nope. Losing dead weight? Nope. If you continue to hang. With these people.

[1:51:12] All right, let's go back to the house. The drunken Salvador Dali, watercolor in the rain, lean-to that's pretending to be a former abode, right? Now, if you say to the builder, you have to build where this house is and you have to preserve this house, what's he going to say? Build exactly where this house is, but preserve this house, what's he going to say? That's the deal. Got to build where this house is and preserve this house.

[1:51:56] You are not losing a house because you don't have one. You are preventing a house from being built. When you hang around bullshit proximity non-relationships and you start to tell the truth, if you don't dump the trash, you are not losing relationships. You are preventing relationships.

[1:52:29] You're not losing relationships you're preventing relationships by pretending you're losing relationships you don't have a house, you won't knock down the house which means you can't get a house you are crippling yourself you are preventing relationships by hanging around bullshit proximity gotta lie in order to be around I don't care if they're friends, I don't care if they're family, I don't care if they're the archangel Gabriel and his pet dog Mango. You are just living in a decaying former abode that is only called a house for linguistic convenience. You end up with nowhere to live if you can't knock, if you can't stand, knock down, you, end up with nowhere to live if you can't stand knocking down that within which there is no shelter. You can't live in the house that's rotten, and if you can't stand knocking it down, you've got no place to live.

[1:53:58] If you can't stand to destroy that which is trash, you cannot plant that which will grow. You can't do it.

[1:54:06] Preventing Relationships vs. Losing Them

[1:54:07] Just hanging around, crying about a house that was wrecked a hundred years ago, saying, I'm losing this house, I can't knock down this house because I'm losing... You're not! You're just preventing a proper house from being built. You all knotted up in this bullshit proximity stuff is keeping good people away from forming any kind of honest bond with you. I mean, imagine you're driving, some guy's sobbing. Hey, you okay, man? Oh, this house, this house, I'm losing this house. This is a shit pit of decayed rotten timbers and holes and asbestos and mold. What are you talking about? This is not a house. This is a liability. This is not a house. This is the prevention of a house. This is the opposite of a house. This is an anti-house.

[1:55:18] This is a trap, of anti-shelter. It's not a house, it's a cathedral of poison it's not a place of shelter but of asbestos, mold and black lung death, and I'm not telling you anything you don't already know, I'm not giving you one single shred of information you don't already know right, I built a trap house it's mighty mighty gonna let it all hang out, love you big daddy Steph thank you I appreciate it, there's no more opposite of a house than a non-house. You can't give up because you call it a house.

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