In this subscriber-only portion of the 19th of October 2025 Sunday Morning Live, Stefan Molyneux delves into the intriguing dynamics of compliments and their significance in male-female interactions. I postulate that women often genuinely do not grasp the scarcity of compliments that men receive throughout their lives. Reflecting on his personal experiences, he recounts a handful of significant compliments that have stuck with me over the years, highlighting just how infrequent these affirmations are for men compared to the regular praise that women often receive online.
Through exploration of comments and responses from his audience, a compelling narrative unfolds about the compliments men recall, or lack thereof. As Stefan engages with the chat, he invites men to share their own experiences regarding the compliments they've received over time, revealing an astonishing pattern: many men can scarcely remember more than a few instances of affirmation. This stark contrast sharply illustrates the barrage of compliments women can accumulate with every attractive image they post online.
The crux of Stefan's experiment on X unfolds as he aims to prompt a real acknowledgment from women regarding this divide. He candidly expresses his desire for women to reflect on how often they offer compliments to the men in their lives, encouraging them to recognize the emotional uplift that such affirmations can provide. The intent is to see whether women grasp this disparity and make a conscious effort to change their habits in complimenting men, akin to the way they themselves cherish receiving praise.
Discussions emerge regarding the emotional complexities of giving compliments. As Stefan dives into deeper psychological implications, he suggests that fears of insecurity and competition amongst women could be significant barriers hindering this generosity of praise. Interestingly, he outlines how these instinctual fears manifest in an evolutionary context; praise could elevate a man's status, attracting the attention of other women which could threaten a woman's position in the relationship.
The conversation further extends into societal observations, wherein Stefan proposes that there exists a paradoxical relationship between women and the privileges afforded to them by men in the context of society. Despite the male-driven structures that bolster their comfort and rights, he expresses concern regarding the persistent undervaluation and lack of gratitude often displayed towards men, especially white men.
By looking at evolutionary biology as a framework, Stefan invites listeners to consider how modern dynamics can be hauntingly similar in terms of competition and survival instincts. The complexities surrounding how women interact with men—whether through encouragement or criticism—are disassembled, paving the way for deeper understanding.
Wrapping up, Stefan poses critical questions regarding the way forward: What can be done to bridge this gap of comprehension regarding compliments between genders? He asserts the notion that men must advocate for their need for compliments and emotional support from women. Such requests not only reveal vulnerabilities but also test empathy, fostering healthier relationships where mutual appreciation is prioritized.
0:08 - Understanding Male Compliments
10:22 - Reactions to Compliments
14:28 - The Challenge of Complimenting Men
19:31 - The Evolutionary Perspective
32:30 - Women’s Gratitude for Men
47:53 - The Complex Relationship Dynamics
57:22 - The Unstable Nature of Dishonorable Gains
1:07:42 - The Unconscious Addiction to Resources
1:10:31 - Solutions and Empathy in Relationships
[0:00] This is the donor-only portion of the show, and I will give you the spice.
[0:09] I will give you the spice. So, a couple of days ago on X, I posted that women genuinely don't understand how few compliments men survive on. And, you know, if you're a reasonably attractive woman online, you're just going to get endless cavalcades of compliments. And I said, women do not understand how few compliments men survive on. I remember a compliment I got in 1982. I was in the play Our Town in high school, and at the cast party, a girl got drunk, and I helped her home, and she was draping all over me saying, Stef, you're gorgeous, but you flirt with everyone. It's like, guilty on both counts. So I still remember that vividly, vividly, vividly, vividly. I remember my professor of English literature saying that my writing was so good, it was going to get its own form, Stefan-esque. It was going to be called, your writing is Stefan-esque, because they couldn't do anything with Molyneux, Molyneuvian or something like that, right? So I remember these compliments.
[1:28] And I remember one woman who was in the fashion world said that I had a Hugo Boss physique. I was on the swim team and I was pretty lean and, you know, kind of joy. It was jolly for a bit, but joy. So anyway, I just remember these sort of rare compliments. I wrote a paper at McGill that was considered so good that the professor read the whole paper out to the class and said, it doesn't get better than this. It was really nice. Anyway, so, but compliments are very rare for men. So that was kind of an experiment as I do these things as a whole. And tell me in the chat, tell me, please, please tell me. If you're a male, I can maybe, and I'm not talking about my marriage. I'm not talking about, you know, anything like that. I'm just talking about compliments prior to marriage or compliments outside of marriage.
[2:36] How many compliments do you remember over the course of your life you can you can answer of course i'll say answer here i'm also going to just bring up the x thing so i can see it there i'm just curious Stefan Molyneux you are a brilliant man thank you male or male compliments Certainly important, doesn't hurt, but I'm just trying to, let me just see if I, I'm going to bring up the chat here. But yeah. Do you, do you, do you want my love? Okay, I don't want to reconnect here. I just want to look at the chat. I don't want to reconnect. I don't know. Anyway, so yeah, James, if you can throw any chat questions, if you're able to, if you're not, that's fine. Uh, let's see here, somebody says, a handful, my fifth grade teacher told me I was really bright. Yeah, and you remember that, right? You remember that. Isn't that wild? And I will be taking calls on X, I will get there.
[3:46] So, yeah, not much, right? So one of the things that I was kind of hoping for or thinking about in this experiment, right? A handful, somebody says about five or so. All right. I'm sorry. Let me skip these others. 2010, a girl told me my eyes were awesome. I think that was the last compliment I got. Yeah, 15 years ago, right? Very few. Few enough that when I received them, they're noteworthy. I don't see comments for X on subscriber space. Oh, yeah, right. Okay. I remember a few. I remember a brother of my friend's girlfriend saying I was the funniest person he'd met. Yeah. Yeah. So men survive on, honestly, men can survive for decades on an hour's worth of compliments a woman receives online. And I'm not kidding about that. In fact, that's probably generous.
[4:40] You know, a woman posts a picture of herself online, and she's reason to be attractive, and the comments just go on and on and on, right? I receive comments from my singing, both positive and negative. I guess I'm the George Zimmerman. Oh, no, what's his name? No, George Zimmerman was the Trayvon Martin guy, Bob Dylan. Anyway, I guess I'm the Bob Dylan of singing. Some people like it. For some people, it's nails on a chalkboard. So, a woman who posts a pretty picture of herself online gets dozens of compliments easy. And every time. And a man is lucky to get five compliments or ten compliments his whole life. So a man has to live from fucking birth to grave on a tenth of the compliments that a woman gets from posting an attractive picture online.
[5:51] So this was my experiment. Now, who's going to guess? Let's, maybe, okay, somebody says, yeah, so the question here, and I'll just wait for people to type it. What was my experiment? Why did I post this? What was my experiment? It's a bit subtle, but what was my experiment? Somebody said, art teacher in fifth grade was tracing my profile and said, you're a fox. I'm not talking about pederasty because that's a little creepy uh probably like five to six compliments outside of church and the volunteer work i do i recall one where the saleswoman complimented my calm and confident aura it was after the sale so hopefully it was legit no saleswomen not legit sorry i remember some cute girl telling my parents i was amazing, Yeah, yeah. I remember doing those Victorian profile outlines, right? It's kind of cheating in art. So what was I doing? What was I doing? Because I have a fair number of female readers and listeners. What was my experiment? And I won't wait too long. I nice and have a lot of do. Okay? If you can't field your left side, please call 911, he joked.
[7:21] Somebody, oh, if I wasn't a lesbian, says a woman, I'd want a guy like you. To see if the woman would rage or confirm. Ah, no, that's close, though. Ooh, very smart. I love this audience. You guys are so great. You guys are so great. I've had a woman complimenting my smile. It's pretty rare, though. Yeah.
[7:44] So why was I pointing this out? Because it was directed at the women. And you could see this confirmation, right? So I posted this. Women would be shocked. Women genuinely don't understand how few compliments men survive on. And the men below were all confirming it.
[8:02] Now, I mean, is it selection bias or whatever? But here is the same, right? I've had women. Oh, yeah. So to see if they recognize they have not given men in their lives compliments. Oh, Graham. Graham, you cracker. No, that's great. That's great. So, yeah. So the purpose was, yeah, why do you need compliments, right? Women who need it to breathe, to test their empathy, right? So what I was hoping, or what the experiment was, was for women to say, to read this and, to read the replies and to say, oh my God, you know, I can't remember the last time I gave compliments to the males in my life. I can't remember the last time I complimented my dad. I can't, oh, my brother or my uncle or my cousin or whatever, like my male friends, my boyfriend, my husband. I can't remember the last time I gave a man compliments. You guys miss them. You need them. And I don't provide. Wow. This has really opened up my mind as to how stingy I am with compliments to men when I, as a woman, absolutely love getting compliments myself.
[9:23] This was a moment of vulnerability for men, men saying to a female audience or to the females in the audience, this was men saying, I don't get compliments. Right. Right. And James, you're right. So in the present, Oliver asked Rachel if her father was appreciated or thanked for what he did. And I, you know, in the novel, Rachel's father has a guy who's a screamer. His job was really stressful at times, and he worked very hard to provide. And Oliver asked Rachel if her father was appreciated or thanked for what he did. And of course, you'll notice in the scene, when Rachel starts to compliment her father, her mother moves in to block it.
[10:22] And that was the insight that I wanted to get across. So Rachel, under the prompting of the men's rights activist Oliver, Rachel struggles, and it's very hard for her emotionally to compliment her father. It's incredibly hard for her emotionally. And the moment she starts to compliment her father, her mother moves in to block the conversation. And that's what I was talking about. Now, let me ask you this. If you saw the thread, you know the answer. So when there are a lot of men saying, I never get complimented, and there are a lot of women reading it, how many women said, oh my gosh, I didn't realize, I never really thought of that, I'm really going to make an effort to compliment the men in my life. how many women, said that.
[11:23] Yeah, and Rachel's dad had even encouraged Rachel to compliment and thank the mother often. Yes, that's right. It was a great meal. Oh, thank you for tidying up. Oh, you keep serving a beautiful house, right? So how many women, how many women on reading, and you know, tens of thousands of people read this, right? This tweet. How many women said, oh my gosh, I didn't realize I love compliments and men don't get any. I'm really going to work to compliment the men in my life. Zero. Yeah, you're right. Maybe I missed, I can't read everything, but I didn't see anything. So the question is, and that's a big data point, right? It's a big data point. The question is, why? You know, in the live streams that followed that tweet, in the live streams that followed that tweet, why didn't women call me up and say you know I I read that tweet a few hours I saw the men who don't get any compliments or very few and I was like you know I gotta go and compliment the men in my life and let me tell you the effect that had the men opened up they were happy they hit a song in the dance like it makes a man's year to compliment him.
[12:45] I've had women encourage me with more regularity, says Tom. Most women are 5'8 tall. I'm 5'4 though. Encouraging you is not the same as complimenting you. Encouraging is you can do better. It's not the same as complimenting you for who you are. So that's my question. That's my question.
[13:22] Why? Yeah, but I know women who never gets complimented either. No, but why? Feminism, maybe, maybe, but I don't think, I don't think it's just feminism. I think feminism harnesses this. Why? Why do women find it so incredibly hard? Why is there such massive resistance in women to compliment men? You've had it. I've had it. Again, outside of my marriage, friend. You've had it. I've had it. Why is it so impossible for women emotionally? Victor says, this is brilliant. I just donated $100 on freedomain.com. Thank you, Stef. Oh, the brilliance is yet to come. But I appreciate the donation, freedomain.com/donate, blah, blah, blah. So why? Why do you ask me? Why is it so impossible for women to compliment men?
[14:28] Interesting, says someone. I also remember when that girl complimented me to my parents. My mother was very skeptical. Right. Right. Master-slave relationship? That's certainly true to some degree. They're not impressed? Lord above. Not impressed? They don't impress me much. So for women to walk around, I don't know, a city and not be impressed is psychotic. I'm not saying you're psychotic, but it's kind of psychotic for women to walk around a city and not be impressed. It's not like women built all those buildings and that sewage, those electrical lines, the plumbing system. It's all men.
[15:13] A woman says, I first heard you make the case that most men get few to no compliments ever, and it blew my mind as a woman. I have since started to voice my compliments of men that I've always thought but never voiced. Example, I think he has really kind eyes but never used to say it out loud. And I appreciate that. Thank you. And what has the response been? Well, see, my voice goes high. I'm just talking to a woman. But what has your response been? And why wouldn't you voice compliments? Women love compliments. In fact, women will kind of demand compliments. I cooked you this meal and you had nothing to say. I slaved over a hot stove. So women really want compliments. And if women really want compliments and women are really empathetic, then wouldn't women understand that men also want compliments and provide compliments to the men?
[15:58] Competition with men? I don't know. Women are in competition with other women and they give each other compliments. Taking people for granted and having to realize the true amount of dependency they have. Maybe. And Chris says, because they have so many men always chasing them that they have to be very careful with their compliments so they don't open the door for the wrong man. Okay, that's possible for sure. But then why do so many women fail to compliment their husbands or boyfriends? Horizontal female monkey attacks from those women exploiting men. I don't quite get that. Sorry, that's a little bit too compressed. You zipped that a little too much. You roared that. Let's over roared. Roared. So why? Why does it maintain? So if it's like, well, I get it. If you're an attractive woman and you compliment a lot of men, you could get stalkers. I don't know. So maybe that's the case. But why do women nag the men that they marry so often rather than believe in them, encourage them? I mean, there is a genuine saying that is considered foundationally true, which is, behind every great man is a good woman.
[17:23] Oh welcome oscar nice to see you, taking everything they've been given for granted, i don't know but why i mean that's why don't people compliment because they take things for granted but then that just begs the question why do they take things for granted so as usual i'm not saying i have any kind of final or definitive answer but what i look at is this, I look at, to understand male and female behavior, the first place I look to is evolutionary biology. Yeah, Marble, you're getting there. Sorry, that's kind of condescending. Oh, you're getting there. I mean, you're getting to what I think, which maybe that's right. Okay, so let me tell you the evolutionary biology that I think is behind this as a whole.
[18:22] So, let's say a woman wants to marry up, so she's going to choose a man who's higher status than her, ideally, right? She's going to choose a man with more potential. She's going to choose a man who's smarter. She's going to choose, or at least has more practical ability in their sort of material realm. So, she's going to choose a guy who's got significant potential, right? Now, if she truly encourages, if this truly encourages her man, let's take an example, right? A girl from a small town marries the number one guy in their small high school. She's got a couple of hundred kids, right? So she marries the number one guy, and then they move to the big city, and she just believes in him and encourages him and tells him he's the greatest and supports him. and so on. And he blows up through the ranks of competition and ends up making a million dollars a year.
[19:25] And thus, of course, by definition, becomes extremely valuable to other women.
[19:31] Other women will be throwing themselves at him and wanting to date him and marry him and have his children or get pregnant by him or whatever it is, right? So...
[19:49] What is her risk if she encourages her man to greatly succeed? What is her risk? What risk does she take if her man blows through the stratosphere in terms of success, status, and money? While we're waiting for that, Desiree has written the woman. It seems like it has blown men's minds when I give them compliments. They always smile and thank me and start a conversation about the compliment. I never voiced the compliments before because I was taught by old single women to never be forwarded with men. Don't compliment them. Don't ask them out. It's a turnoff.
[20:33] Hmm. Somebody says, maybe it's a power play for women not giving compliments. They value it so much and they don't offer that value in a vertical relationship. Right. So, I don't think you, you don't have anything to apologize for, Graham. I just didn't quite understand it. And I don't know that you're way off base. I just didn't follow what you were saying. So yeah the man leaves her or cheats on her so a woman if she raises a man's status, then other women will throw themselves at her man he might leave her he might cheat on her she becomes a single mother he gets another woman pregnant so that is the challenge now Now, if the man doesn't compliment his wife, another man might compliment her and praise her, and then she'll be drawn towards him, and she might leave him or have a baby by the man who compliments him more. So, the man compliments the woman. Women at the highest levels of IQ, like we know the data, right? At the highest levels of IQ, the number of men significantly outstrips a woman. So, men have a kind of potential in terms of achievement that if the woman encourages the man, then he might outstrip her, and he might end up with another woman. Did you see what I mean?
[22:02] Because not many men can handle women throwing themselves at the man. And if the man becomes very successful, very wealthy, very high status, then other women are going to.
[22:19] Throw themselves at him and he is not entirely unlikely to succumb to those temptations right, thank you david so let me give you sort of an example this is an engineered example it has limited value but it's very illustrative so let's say that um stephen tyler has a girlfriend, in high school.
[22:45] And Stephen Tyler's girlfriend, I don't know if you can love the guy who ended up adopting an underage girl for sexual purposes, but anyway, let's say that she loves him, she wants to have a life with him and so on, but he wants to be a rock star, right? And the demon is screaming, wants to be a rock star. So let's say this girl's name is Kelly. So Kelly and Stephen Tyler are an item in high school. Now, Stephen Tyler says, yeah, Janie got a gun. Janie is better, right? Run away from the pain. So I can't believe people don't like my singing. So yeah, Janie and Steven Tyler are an item in high school. Steven Tyler wants to be a rock star. Now, if Janie says, you sound like a dying toad, you've got lips are way too big. Jagger's already got the market cornered. Don't give me no lip. I've got enough of my own, as Steven Tyler sings at one point. And she says, you're never going to make it. You're a funny looking guy, you know, shaggy hair, giant lips, weird face, and your voice is weird and so on, right? No, people don't want to hear screaming. If they wanted to hear screaming, they'd go to the ER. And so she grinds him down.
[23:58] So she's more likely to end up with Steven Tyler as her lifelong partner. Or if she says, you've absolutely got it. You can fill stadiums. You're going to be the greatest rock and roll star. You're, you know, make it work. I totally believe in you. I'll help you write songs. I'll teach you how to write music. Like, and then he goes and becomes a super duper rock star and tours all over the world. What happens to his high school girlfriend? Boom.
[24:24] She's gone. I mean, there are exceptions, of course, right? I mean, I get that. But they tend to be quite religious. I don't think that Stephen Tyler is overly religious. I mean, Bono from U2, Mr. Shades. Bono is still, I think, married to his high school girlfriend or whatever, but they're religious too, so. Not religious enough to protect Christianity in Ireland, of course, but religious. Millions, hundreds of millions of dollars does not buy you an ounce of courage. So I think that's the reason why women don't compliment men and why in particular wives. So the question was, yeah, well, women don't compliment men because they can get stalkers. Okay. What about when they're married? What about when they're married? Why wouldn't they encourage their men and compliment their men and point out all the great things about their men. Somebody says, don't see many sports stars staying with their high school girlfriend. That's the same thing, right?
[25:27] Chris says, if she's afraid of raising his status, doesn't that speak to her insecurity in the relationship then? If she knows she has truly vowed his commitment and love, vowed? Oh, sorry. If she knows he has truly vowed his commitment to love in the relationship, wouldn't she not have that insecurity till death do us part. Sure. Sure. Of course. Of course. Women who are confident of their value have no problem, complimenting their men.
[25:59] Let me say that again. Women who have no problem understanding the value they bring to their men have no problem complimenting their men. I mean, I said when dating my wife, I said, because I was taking time off from my business career to work on writing novels, and I was taking Canada's best writing program and doing very well and all of that. And I said, you know, I wanted to be Shakespeare, Dickens, Molyneux. That's my goal. She read my stuff and she's like, yeah, I can see that. Yeah, totally. It's great stuff. Now, let's say that in another life, without all these communists running the publishing world, I had become a famous novelist and so on. I mean, there would have been women who threw themselves, controversial podcaster, not so much, but a famous novelist, you go around doing book readings and so on. You've got googly eyes from all of the literary groupies in the audience and so on. But, you know, she knows I would never stray. She's no problem complimenting me and, right, and all of that because she knows that I'm not going anywhere, right?
[27:09] And somebody, James says, evolutionarily though, all through our development as a species, I think that would be much less of a factor. Insecurity was a big deal, right? Well, it's an instinct, right? It's an instinct. A woman wants to get maximum resources from the man. Or to put it another way, the women who didn't secure maximum resources tend to have their children survive less. So women aim to get maximum resources for a man.
[27:40] So let's look at this a woman who gives a man some compliments builds him up to the point where he can compete well but a woman like so there's there's an increase in compliments but then if she gives him too many compliments he might leave her and then she gets no resources at all right so if she just completely grinds him down and breaks him he's not going to be able to compete he's going to be kind of depressed maybe suicidal so there's a restraint usually i mean like all of these instincts there's the bell curve with the thickness in the middle and then there's extremes right because everything that you aim at genetically is a scattershot there's no lasers in evolution right so women have an instinct to not completely break the spirit of their men, but also women have an instinct because if they break the spirit of their men they don't get really many resources because they're too depressed to compete and win but if they overpraise their men then the men take their resources to higher quality women.
[28:48] So there's a sweet spot. You don't break him, but you don't praise him too much. Otherwise, he's going to get too high status and more attractive women. And this is particularly true as women age. So if a woman and a man are in their 40s, and the woman gives a lot of praise to the man, then he gets all kind of puffed up and successful and a lot of resources a lot of money and then all of these younger women are gonna throw themselves at him and he can start a whole new family and he has a genetic motivation to do that right so which is a lot of times why, when women are fertile they get men to do what they want through sexiness of the provision or withholding of sex, but when women are post-fertile, they tend to start to break down their men, right? This is the Karen phenomenon, right? They start to become nags. Because now they're risking resources if they continue to praise their men. They're risking resources, right?
[29:55] Because if they over-praise their men, their men might leave them for younger women. Which is a lot of times why women will start feeding their men more in their 40s. There's this aging of men, the dad bod and so on. There's a lot of times it's women reducing the sexual market value of their males so that the males stick around when the women can't give the men children, right? Because when women can't give the men children anymore, there are tons of younger women out there that the man can peel off and go and reproduce with, right?
[30:30] So, it's a tough thing. To overpraise your man means he's going to get so successful and so high value, so in demand, that he's going to get his goomars, right? He's going to get his girlfriends, and then those girlfriends are going to try and take your man away, or they're going to sperm jack your man. Oh, I can't get pregnant. Oh, I'm on the pill. Oh, I fished the condom out of the garbage and turkey-based yourself into 20 years of child support, right? So to make a man strong and confident enough to get resources but not so strong and confident that he takes those resources and goes through other women is a real balancing act for women. And again, this is just evolution. It's not any kind of morals, right? So when I put out this tweet, this was the experiment. So I put out this tweet and say men are starved for compliments. Men are starved for compliments.
[31:41] And why did not one single woman say, wow, that's got to be tough, I'm going to compliment the men more? Why? Why did Rachel's mom interfere with Rachel starting to compliment Rachel's dad? Because Rachel's mom and Rachel's dad live very small lives, largely at the behest of Rachel's mom. And if Rachel starts to praise her dad, then her dad is going to realize how few compliments he gets from his wife and is going to resent her and then might leave her. And she's too old to get a new man and she needs her retirement.
[32:30] All right, so I'm going to get your comments. This is just my thoughts. Somebody says, what does this say about how women view men's potential? Women have a dim instinct at how enormous male potential is. And again, I've been heavily influenced by brilliant women, so blah, blah, blah, usual caveats. But again, at the higher end of the IQ, there's very few women. There's a lot of men and women have this dim view of men's potential and their men's potential is both exciting and threatening. A certain amount of exercising of potential is good. An excessive amount of men's exercising of potential is risky because he might leave you. Tom says changes in status meant death more commonly in the past. Changes in status meant death more commonly in the past. I'm sorry, I don't quite follow that. Do you mean for men or women? Do you mean economic status, political, social. Tom says, that happened with my parents for sure, about the aging and the fattening. Yeah, makes perfect sense as Graham. Chris says, true but reasoning past basic instincts is immeasurably more preferable and essential to have true love. True but reasoning past basic instincts. Oh yeah, yeah, yeah, of course. For sure, we want love and virtue, but I'm talking about it. Should we as men mildly criticize women who we interact with each day? Well, that's the nagging thing, right?
[33:56] James says, the two greatest boosts to income for men are when they get married and when they become fathers. So that will raise the status as well. That's a delicate balancing act. Yeah, that's right. So why do men get more money when they get married and they become fathers? Because A, because they work more and B, because women will encourage them to work more. And they will do that either through nagging. You're not working hard enough. We don't have enough money for this. I thought you were going to provide for us, but they nag. Or they, you know, you can do anything you want. You're the greatest, blah, blah, blah, whatever they're going to say to make raised demands confidence and so on, right?
[34:29] But again, it's risky. If they nag him to get more resources, then he will get more resources for a little while, but if you keep nagging him, he's going to get depressed and then won't get resources, right? It's the Delicate Balancing Act. If, as a woman, you use sex to train and reward a man, right? Oh, you did what I want, you have sex. Oh, you didn't do what I want, but I just don't feel close enough and I don't feel like we're getting along and I don't feel connected and I just won't have sex, right? So it's tough. If you train a man like a puppy with a newspaper with the provision or denial of sex, it's a delicate balance. Because if you overplay that hand and underplay the sex, like you take away sex, you take sex too much off the table, the man gets frustrated, he gets irritable, he's less productive, and he's more susceptible to cheating, right? You know, it's a very, it's a famous meme in my mind, right? This Pikachu face, I think it's Pikachu, like a shocked Pokemon face of like women who haven't put out for two years, shocked that their man has cheated, right? So it's a delicate balance. It's a delicate balance. And, you know, managing men, managing men and manipulating men is a lot of what women do. And it's not a criticism. It's just, it's a fact of sort of evolution.
[35:47] So if you nag a woman into getting me more resources right this sort of famous um oh i can't remember the hispanic actress's name i think she was a victim of sexual abuse if i remember rightly but in a movie i saw a couple of times when i was younger spike lee's do the right thing that's really tried to understand the black experience i watched a lot of black media and tried to really understand what the heck was going on with with the black experience in the West, but the guy has a hyper shrill, like mosquito trapped in the ear, nagging girlfriend.
[36:29] In the movie, just, you know, it's like the girl, you can't find the car, Lewis, where's the car, Lewis, can you not remember where the car is, Lewis, right? In the Quentin Tarantino movie, Jackie Brown, and he shoots her. So if the woman nags the man into getting more resources. You had plenty money 1922 you let other women make a fool of you why don't you do right like some other men do get out of here and get me some money too so that is a a woman who is nagging a man to get money rosie perez yeah thank you and, And Tina was her character's name, yeah. I would just, oh my God, just crazy, right? And...
[37:28] So, yeah, if she nags the man into getting resources, he'll go out and get stuff, but he'll get depressed and then lose, right? So it's like a drug, short-term boost, long-term cost. But on the other hand, if she praises him, well, if she hasn't praised him for a while, it's just part of her strategy. It's just not to praise him, to keep him limited so he doesn't get too successful that other women, he has access to other women. This also happens with weight, of course, right? The fat woman will keep feeding her fat boyfriend so he doesn't lose weight and then leave her for another woman, right? It just happens with self-esteem, it happens with grooming, it happens with a whole bunch of things, right? A lot of women who would not let their boyfriends get a dad bod will let their boyfriends get a dad bod when they're married and have kids because they don't want their men to go elsewhere, right? Especially if the woman herself is gaining weight, she will encourage the man to gain weight explicitly or implicitly. She'll, oh, you're fine, oh, you look good, you know, it's natural to gain a little weight as you age, blah, blah, blah.
[38:24] So if she's gaining weight, she's concerned that she's becoming unattractive, and if she's nagging, that she's a negative. And hitting that negative button for women is really a tough deal. It's a tough and complicated deal. So if you hit that negative button too long, you can't stop hitting it, right? So Rachel's dad has not been complimented by his family. And the moment they start complimenting him, the mother is terrified that he's gonna be like, holy crap, I've never received any thanks for anything that I've done. And I keep thanking my wife and she never thanks me. And that, right? So once you've hit that no compliment button, that negative button, long enough. You can't change it, right? You can't change it.
[39:05] There's too much built-up resentment. And if you make it conscious, then people will really begin to, the person you have not given compliments to will really begin to understand, just how much has been kept from him or stripped from him his whole life and how hypocritical it is. In particular, it's hypocritical because the woman demands compliments while refusing to provide compliments. The woman says, I don't feel appreciated while not appreciating the man. Like the woman I was talking to last night who felt appalled that I might even, she might even think I was shaming her while she shames her children. Someone says, a little late joining, so apologize. Hey, you're a donor. You've got to apologize for nothing. A little late joining, so I apologize if this isn't where the conversation is. Wanted to say, I saw the dynamic with my mother and youngest brother in particular. She was physically and verbally abusive, but also refused to let him learn how to do things himself. And I always suspected she was prepping him to take care of her in old age. Yeah, for sure. Break a man's spirit, and he's your slave. Now, why do women not say thank you to men for the comforts of the society they live in? Why? Why? Why? Why is it now?
[40:26] Men can survive alone in nature. Women can't. I mean, basic fact, right? I mean, there's a show. Excuse me. There's a show. They put a bunch of men on one island. They put a bunch of women on another island. And the men all go and get camp and set things up and all of that, and the women are all just hanging around, chatting and introducing each other and asking about each other and getting to know each other while the light is falling. And they have to be rescued a bunch of times. They get lost all the time. And, yeah, women in general can't survive alone in nature. Men can. And so why don't women look around a city, right? Why don't women look around cities and say, my God, this is comfortable. Holy crap. I got a car that was designed and built largely by men, air conditioning, I got a nice office, I got a building, which is, I got heating in the winter, cooling in the summer, like, why is there not a gratitude for men, right? Why is there not gratitude for men?
[41:33] This is a massive societal issue. And this is particularly true, to be blunt, of white women to white men. You know, white women will praise gay men, they will praise foreign men, they will praise non-white men, but they cannot praise their men for the greatest civilization. Like, why don't women say, you know, gosh, you know, guys, again, sort of white women, why don't they look around and say, you know, I look around the world and, man, you guys have built a great place for women.
[42:11] I mean, really, you've really worked hard to give us equal rights. And in fact, you've given us superior rights, right? I mean, we have privileges in the law that you don't have, preferential hiring practices and so on, right? And we get the leg up when it comes to university admissions, like three quarters of psychology just now are women in the sort of study area, right? Which is going to ripple out over time. So why don't the women say, you guys have really done amazing things for us as women. And not only have you guys done amazing stuff for us as women, but no other culture seems to, it's not even crossed their minds. Why not? Why not? It's a great deep wound in the hearts of Western men. It's a great deep wound. Why is it never enough? Why do you praise every culture that puts women down and attack with all of the vehemence of a nagging hysteric? Why do you attack the only men who treat you well? And why, Why do you praise the cultures and the men who denigrate and enslave women? Did you see what I mean? Yeah, season two of Bear Grylls, The Island, right?
[43:39] So why is there no gratitude? Why is it like, well, the wage gap is still there, and this is not enough, and that is not enough, and we're unhappy about this. Why is it that not only do Western women show no gratitude, but they reserve their special vehemence, contempt, and hatred for the men who have built the civilization that benefits them the most, at the men's own sacrifice? When men passed laws ensuring equal pay for work of equal value, they knew that it wasn't happening because women take time off to have babies, right? So they knew that they were going to sacrifice their own salary for women when men supported the welfare state. They knew that it was going to be money generally coming from men and going to women. When men supported the expansion of the government, right, most women end up hired by the government, right?
[44:36] And it's funny because I looked at once many years ago I looked up women I'd worked with earlier on in my career they're all working for the government like every single one of them and, when HR departments it's all women and so on and, men have never insisted that women be subject to the draft and old age pensions when old age pensions come about it's largely for the benefit of women. So men have taken massive amounts of financial sacrifices and losses in order to move resources towards women. The majority of men pay the majority of taxes, and the majority of women receive the majority of benefits.
[45:25] And, you know, it is, I think it's really sad that Western women are not grateful and thankful for any of this, but instead double down on hostility towards Western men. And it's not because they have to have hostility towards men as a whole, because it's only white males who are subject to the patriarchy criticism, not Islamic countries or other like, you know, fundamentalist religions all over the place, right? But it is, I mean, it's almost the Garden of Eden, man. Garden of Eden, right? Garden of Eden is the story of paradise screwed up by women's greed. Now, this is not to criticize women. I know this sounds like it's easy to get on the, oh, women, blah, blah, blah. It's not to criticize women. But the question is, why? Why? What is going on that?
[46:34] Women are attacking those who've given them the most privileges and praising those who will take away those privileges. And not only take away those privileges, but take away any equality that women currently enjoy. I have a theory, as you can imagine, but I'd love to know what you guys think. This is a very deep, earthy, maternal, and powerful question. Why are the cultures that treat women the worst, flourishing the most? Right i mean oh let me just get your, comments uh james says no there's no gratitude at all you'll see some women complaining about offices being too cold in the summer and you know what if you're cold it's uncomfortable right somebody says whoa my brain keep going Stef, somebody says great question, What is the answer? It's really one of the biggest questions, which is why are women sabotaging the entire character and attacking the entire character of the men who give them privileges?
[47:53] Big, big old question. I don't know if people are typing because I can't see the typing thing. So I will, I'll give you my theory, which again, with all due humility, it's just a theory. There's very little that I can prove in these realms. So I think it was Andrew Tate who said something about if you get money unjustly, you won't keep it. Because they don't want to feel bad about themselves. Well, but nobody wants to feel bad about themselves. I don't think that specifically answers this question. But become, oh, I think that's because men who give women privileges become soft and won't fight other stronger guys. But women can maintain those privileges by praising the men who give them privileges.
[49:01] So let me ask you this. Have you ever had a problem with gambling? I don't have a problem with gambling but I easily could. I read a cautionary tale which was Dostoevsky's time when he was exiled from Russia. the gambling stuff was crazy, right?
[49:22] So, I won't go into the details of it, but I can confirm that money that I came by that were not to the highest standards of virtue, nothing fraudulent or negative in that way, but, you know, a bit of overselling, a bit of this, a bit of the other. Not on my part, but on the part of others, but, you know, I profited. But money that I came by, which wasn't to the very highest ethical standards, I didn't really hang on to. Money that I think I've earned by blood, sweat, and tears from virtue and risk and genuine doing good in the world, I've kind of managed to hang on to. So I think there's some truth in that. And I think that the Tates were talking about the money that they got from the chem girl business and so on, that it doesn't really stick around. Whereas the money they get from actually building things and making things in the real world and so on. And you can see this with the crypto traders, right? So the people who are just pushing numbers and digits back and forth on a screen. Again, it's not the end of the world. It's not like dishonest money, but it's not exactly money that is generated or gained from helping people as a whole. Speculators, right? It's not fraudulent, right? But it's also not actually building things in the real world.
[50:40] So I love gambling. I think it's great. It's very exciting. But most people who gamble obviously statistically most people who gamble lose money and if they gain money right there's this whole thing about found money or found money it's found money, even Steven I found this money in my coat pocket so found money is less valuable than money you sweated blood to earn right, so if you're in the middle of gambling and you find 50 bucks in your pocket you didn't even know you had you'll throw it on the table right whereas if you're really hungry you and you find 50 bucks in your pocket, you won't go gambling, you go get a meal, right?
[51:22] Uh, no, a lot of people have no problem with gambling. Chris says yes for one weekend and then never again. Yeah, yeah, for sure. I limit my gambling to cards with friends. The amount is always trivial, never touching sports betting and never going to a casino. It's just asking for trouble. Too tempting. Yes. Yeah, and I think in some online sports places, you get banned if you win too much. So they, it's really not fair as far as I'm concerned, right? Yeah, the whole winning the lottery thing too, right? You know, that whole joke, what would you do if you won a million dollars in the lottery? Well, I'd cut it in half, and half I'd blow on, you know, weed, hookers, drugs, and partying, and the other half, I'd just waste it. I'd just blow it, right? Robert Barnes is so good at gambling, he's been thrown out of the casino. Oh, really? The lawyer? Interesting. I don't know that, but if you say it, I'm okay. I think, oh gosh, Ben Affleck, Ben Affleck. I don't remember celebrity names anymore, but it's because they're not, you know. Anyway, so yeah, Ben Affleck, I think, has gambled a lot and lost a lot of money, but I think he's pretty good at gambling. They call it card counting and all of that, right? Somebody says, yes, all the major sports betting apps ban winners. Sernovich talks about it after. It's not fraudulent. Sam Bankman-Fried begs to differ. But no, Sam Bankman-Fried, as far as I understand, it was fraudulent. It's not fraudulent to buy.
[52:43] If you don't have insider knowledge it's not fraudulent to buy something at a low price and sell it at a high price right.
[52:58] Do you see what I mean? So it's not like, if you don't have any insider knowledge, if there's some coin that gets launched, you buy it cheap and you sell it high, it's not fraudulent, it's not wrong, it's not dishonorable, but it's also not hugely productive, right? It is a transfer of resources. And a transfer of resources, again, It's not fraudulent. You're not lying. Now, if you're on the inside and you launch some coin and you get a bunch of your friends to pump up the price, you sell it at the top and so on, I think that's pretty bad. Again, I don't know what is technically fraud or not. I'm not a lawyer, but I think it's pretty bad to do that.
[53:50] And somebody says, oh, yeah, I looked into that. Betting arbitrage, exploit differentials on different books will get you banned very quickly. Right. So there is, in that which is dishonorably gained, a need or drive or desire to destroy that gain. So we've all seen the cliche of the man who makes a lot of money i think of sharon stone in casino for some reason so the man who makes a lot of money and gets the the hot wife because of money and then they tear at each other like who's afraid of virginia wolf style right they just did a savage each other they just attack each other put each other down right the shrill bitchy hot girl and the surly ned beady or ned beady warren beady like difference in hairstyle uh the warren beady the kind of guy, so he gets the hot girl and then they just fight like cats and dogs right.
[55:05] And that which is dishonorably gained, yeah, the Wolf of Wall Street is about all of that, right? So that which is dishonorably gained tends to be destroyed. There's a, I'm going to say karma because that's, you know, sort of the physics, but it's like a conscience thing. It is, if you defraud people and live in a mansion, the mansion is like a prison for your conscience. And people tend to escalate dishonorable addictions until they're cured or destroyed. Did you see what I mean? And this is a very common pattern in life. So somebody who's a drinker, they either stop drinking voluntarily or they keep drinking until.
[55:52] They either end up at rock bottom and maybe they'll change. Like their doctor says to them, five more drinks and you're dead. Maybe they'll change, right? Or they're in jail. Or they've lost everything. So people who have these addictions, and an addiction is a desire for happiness without virtue. An addiction is a desire for happiness without virtue. And so all of the happiness that comes out of an addiction is dishonorable. And the dishonorable quote happiness the dishonorable high continues to escalate until, self-destruction reform or death just so this generally is what happens right and and we know this sort of the reason biologically why that uh you know people start off with a happiness level of let's say normal happiness is 100 people start off with a happiness level of minus 50 they take a drug they get to plus 50 but then they go down to minus 60 so they take the drug to get to plus 40 then they go down to minus seven so there's a addiction right, So just hit, I don't want to over-explain, very smart audience, just hit me with a Y, if this makes sense, what I'm saying.
[57:22] I know there's a little bit of a delay. So I'm going to assume, again, smart audience, I'm going to assume that, you have, you follow all of this, right? Okay, so the woman who nags the man into gaining money dishonorably will blow that money on useless crap, right? You can think of like, this is, was it back in the Philippines? Imelda Marcus was sort of famous for having thousands of shoes, right? And so, or in Carrie Bradshaw in Sex and the City, she doesn't have a condo because she has $100, $400 shoes. And her friend Miranda, who's the lawyer, says that could have been a down payment on a condo, but you have a bunch of shoes. And she gets money by being pretty and ditzy, which is dishonorable. She's not getting money for providing children, which is what women's sexuality is designed to do. but she's instead getting a bunch of men to spend money on her, like Mr. Big, the wealthy guy, get a bunch of money to spend money on her because she's pretty and ditzy and puts out. So.
[58:36] Women who gain money dishonorably harbor a secret hatred and contempt for the men who give them that money, and will work to destroy that money because of the conscience.
[59:02] Women nagged to get resources through the state from men, and men caved and gave them a bunch of resources, which means that the prestige, security, money, and status, and education, and bad education, like the student debt, garbage, basket weaving stuff. So women have got all of these advantages through dishonorable means, through threatening not to withhold sex from the man who doesn't give them resources, but to withhold their vote from the man who doesn't give them resources. So they have voted to enslave men. And that is an addiction. So they get resources, dopamine, happiness, security, jobs, respect, education, bad education, and all of this. To a large degree, again, tons of exceptions, but on the aggregate, dishonorably. They have, through addiction to fiat currency, they have achieved the unearned. And when you achieve the unearned, it's unstable. I mean, you can only fake your way into being a brain surgeon for so long before you're caught, you're found out. So the unearned is unstable.
[1:00:18] So the patriarchy is the contempt that women have for the men who enable their addiction that's what the patriarchy is and it's only the white men who enable their addiction, so what they call the patriarchy is their contempt for the white men the European, the Western men who enable their addiction, their lack of appreciation, is resentment that the men have earned their value and the women have manipulated or threatened or, quote, stolen their value. The thief can't praise the guy who actually produces things. He needs the guy who actually produces things because he needs stuff to steal, but he can't praise the guy.
[1:01:09] And women are destroying the drug that feeds their delusions. Women are destroying. Women are destroying the fiat currency by demanding more and more spending. Somebody says, one can argue that being pretty and putting out is providing value to a man. Sure, but that's a drug too. Because the purpose of being pretty and sexuality is to create a pair bonding for the stable and healthy and happy raising of children. So it's just another drug I mean you can be a sex addict as a man as much as a fiat addict as a woman, so I think if we look at women being addicted to fiat and it's not just women, boomers too boomers are addicted to fiat currency because fiat currency has kept them in a state of, I don't exactly know what the word is It's like schizophrenia, but debt. Debtzophenia, I don't know what the word is. Debtzophenia, but reality has been kept at bay. And the longer you keep reality at bay, the harder it is when it finally hits. So they have to keep it at bay with the continual money printing.
[1:02:29] Somebody says, James says, I think you saw this with some early investors in Bitcoin who cashed out. It wasn't dishonorable, but I don't think it was earned, if that makes sense. And I'm not sure if the money they had as a result of those early sales stuck around. I don't know. Well, why was that dishonorable? The fact that they, yeah, so the fact that they saw the value in Bitcoin early on and the fact that they bought Bitcoin and held it helped other people to buy Bitcoin because it maintained the value of it. So I don't know that's the case. Again, maybe, because Bitcoin, now everybody knows sort of the pump and dump thing with an altcoin or something like that, but Bitcoin was first on the block. So I don't think, I think that the people who invested early in Bitcoin and cashed out did a lot of real good in maintaining the stability and value. And they often proselytized and told people about Bitcoin, which is how Bitcoin become the possible world's reserve currency to end war. So I think that they did some honorable stuff personally. I don't think it's bad or unearned money.
[1:03:36] So I think that women, like the guy who is the drug addict, let's say that there's only one dealer in the town who can give him drugs. And without that dealer he can't get the drugs so he kind of hates that dealer and.
[1:04:03] And somebody, James says, I don't think it was dishonorable. I mean, the people who cashed out early, thinking of a few examples I know where their personal lives went badly. Yeah, maybe.
[1:04:15] So, I mean, yeah, I mean, some people who get their money honorably do badly. Some people can't handle money, right? They just, they can't handle it. It increases their paranoia. And if they don't have a sense of their own value, if they have money, then they're always afraid that other people are only interested in them for their money. Like having money for a man is like being very pretty for a woman, right? It can make you paranoid. So I think that women are yearning for the end of fiat deep down, right? In the same way that the drug addict is yearning for the drug dealer, to run out of drugs, to move away, to be disabled, to be put in the ground, so he can't get his drugs because he can't stop it himself so he needs the supply cut off at the source yeah this is the is it notch the guy who sold minecraft to microsoft for like i don't know a billion dollars or some crazy amount right i mean he got and then he was considered to be racist or something so he got canceled and you know everyone thinks that being unemployed is fun. And maybe it's more fun now, but it sure wasn't when I was a kid because all of your friends were working. And then when they weren't working, they did things that involved money. So if you weren't working, you didn't have any money and you didn't have anything you could do with your friends. So...
[1:05:44] So, I think that what's happening is, if I sort of look at this pattern, lack of gratitude, women are a lot of times coasting on the unearned. And so they have resentment towards those who actually work and earn. And that is, to some degree, a master-slave relationship. The patriarchy is the drug addict's hatred of the drug dealer.
[1:06:15] And the hostility towards white males is the hostility towards a drug they cannot say no to. Because women could stop and solve this problem if women all got together and said, listen guys, we are driving our societies into debt. Most of the money spending domestically is on women. Bad health, bad decisions with children and costs of childcare and old age pensions. Like we are just driving this society into bankruptcy. We need as women to get together and figure out ways that we can reduce our dependence on the public purse and hopefully eliminate it completely. Which would be to quit the drug, right? But that's not even a conversation that's happening. At least a drug addict knows that being a drug addict is bad and has a desire to quit. It's not even in the realm of it's a problem that's how unconscious it all is, you go to a smoker and you say hey man you should quit he's like yeah yeah I know I know I don't smoke that much sometimes I remember some guy way back when I was working as a temp some guy boring me for half an hour about how it seems like he smokes a lot but a lot of times he just leaves it and it goes out in the ashtray and half the time he doesn't even smoke the cigarette and blah blah blah blah so he knew he needed to quit.
[1:07:43] But women and fiat currency, they don't even recognize it as a drug. It's that unconscious. And because it's that unconscious, the only criticisms can flow outwards. The only criticisms can flow outwards. People who aren't self-critical and are doing wrong can only ever attack other people. All right. I think I've made the point. So, do other cultures have guys who use a feminist and reproductive strategy because they can't compete with other men? Those feminist guys are trying to gain market share, women, by competing to be the ones supplying them with their drugs. I don't know. I doubt it. Somebody says, sure, there were pump and dump folks in Bitcoin as well, but there were also a lot of long-term investors who did a lot of work convincing others on the sound of Bitcoin, and for them, cashing out is just getting paid for the unpaid work they invested up front. Yeah, for sure. And listen, I mean, you know, diamond hands, paper hands you know people will um people will sell when they need to right.
[1:08:43] People will sell when they need to um some people need to sell for various reasons i don't have any problem all right so that's the general um i know you'll be at a listener request he's kind of coming on which is fine uh any other questions or comments that's sort of the and it was kind of a rant but not a yally rant because i really i don't want to yell about this stuff because people, It's one of these, it has to be whisper counsel, not volume counsel, because it is poking such a deep and visceral male wound. Men are depressed and heartbroken in the West at how much they're being attacked, belittled, and nagged for the values that they have provided. It's really, really sad.
[1:09:27] And I can't yell about this, because this is whisper counsel. When you're dealing with a deep and visceral spinal wound, you have to be very delicate.
[1:09:38] Well, okay. I think this is going to stay donor only, although it would be helpful to have it out there in the general public eye, but it is going to trigger so many people. I mean, the addicts and the simps, two sides of the same coin. So I think we'll keep this donor only, but we'll put the first part out if that's all right with you. And once again, thank you so much for your incredibly kind support of what it is that we do. And, you know, I look at the numbers and I just have to look away and say, look, I'm absolutely certain of the quality of the work that I'm doing. So I just have to look at the live stream numbers. And again, I know this is donor only, but even when it's not, look at the live stream numbers and say, all I can do is focus on the highest quality work that I can possibly do. Maximum philosophy, maximum insight. And I hope that what I'm doing is helping you and I really do appreciate your support. No donation pitch because you're already subscribers.
[1:10:32] What is the solution to this problem? Should we as men step in and fill the gap by complimenting each other more. Well, one solution to the problem is just say to women, you don't really compliment me. I can't remember the last compliment, right? Just ask for what you need and ask for what you want. And it's a good test for empathy, right? Asking for what you need and asking for what you want is a great test of empathy. And a lot of men avoid asking for what they need and want because they don't want to reveal that lack of empathy, but I think it's important too. All right. Lots of love, everyone. Take care, my friends. Bye.
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