In this supporters-only live call from 29 September 2025. Stefan engages with listeners in a live caller format, encouraging them to ask questions or share their thoughts and experiences. The conversation begins with Stefan expressing gratitude for the support received through the platform, while underscoring an inclination towards more advanced discussions given that many listeners have been part of the dialogue for quite some time. This creates an intimate setting where listeners are encouraged to share philosophical inquiries, personal challenges, or critiques of the show.
Throughout the episode, there is a distinctive tone of candidness as Stefan reflects on societal issues and personal observations. One significant topic pertains to the philosophical implications of modern dating challenges, particularly as they relate to societal expectations placed on women. Stefan references past conversations about femininity and success, suggesting that the rise of unrealistic expectations can lead to destructive outcomes, particularly in the realm of romantic relationships. Drawing on anecdotes and hypothetical scenarios, Stefan critiques the damaging effects of societal pressures and media portrayals that inflate expectations beyond a reasonable level.
Listeners are also prompted to consider the broader societal shifts that have occurred over the past decade. Stefan discusses how polarization has affected discourse, particularly on social media platforms. Reflecting on his own experiences on X (formerly Twitter), Stefan notes a noticeable decline in reasoned conversation, attributing this to a growing inability among individuals to engage with opposing viewpoints rationally. They delve into the metaphorical concept of language as a tool for control, especially in the context of political rhetoric, framing it as a demonstration of power rather than a means to engage in honest discourse. This leads to an introspective analysis of the ethical responsibilities individuals bear when communicating in a highly contentious environment.
The concept of gender dynamics is further explored, with Stefan articulating a perception of shifting power balances between men and women through life stages. He draws engaging parallels regarding the evolutionary theory behind attraction and how societal changes—such as financial independence for women—might skew historical norms that once forced men and women to rely on one another for survival and social status. This analysis includes a reflection on traditional marriage paradigms and how these constructs have historically balanced power dynamics in romantic relationships.
Additionally, Stefan recounts personal experiences with anger management, suggesting that individuals need to evaluate their environments to better understand reactions to provocateurs or "trolls." This leads to further discussions about the role of social circles and external pressures in shaping personal challenges. The conversation invites listeners to reflect on their own experiences and consider proactive measures to navigate anger and assertiveness in interactions with difficult individuals.
Subsequent interactions with callers bring the conversation full circle as Stefan reinforces key points made earlier in the show, while also addressing specific listener concerns—such as workplace dynamics and the subtle intensity of navigating toxic relationships in a professional context. Stefan emphasizes the importance of connection and resourcefulness in seeking new job opportunities, suggesting that building bridges within one's network is vital for personal and career growth.
As the conversation draws to a close, Stefan expresses a profound appreciation for their audience and reflects on the unique contributions made by each individual. He proposes the idea of regularly scheduled chats to foster community engagement. The episode presents a vibrant tapestry of personal anecdotes, societal critiques, and philosophical reflections, encouraging listeners to deeply consider their own positions within these conversations while fostering an environment of thoughtful dialogue and support.
0:05 - Welcome to the Show
0:50 - Taking Callers and Questions
2:04 - The Challenge of Sitting
6:05 - Expectations and Relationships
9:33 - The Escalation of Polarization
12:26 - The Left's Loss of Reason
13:30 - The Power Dynamics of Dating
16:35 - The Role of Government in Relationships
19:02 - Addressing Anger Management
23:31 - The Power of Language and Control
25:45 - The Dichotomy of Beauty and Resources
28:13 - Competing for Attention
34:21 - Navigating Career Changes
38:09 - Closing Thoughts and Future Plans
[0:00] Feel UK. All right. I think we're going to start taking callers and copy this link. Give it to James. I feel I can do that too. Actually, I put it in the chat here too. Oh, there we go. Enable microphone. There we go. All set. I think we are good to go. Just let me know if you can hear me now. I think you can. I think we're good. And let's see here. Callers. So yeah, this is a thank you call. It is 5 p.m. The 29th of September, 2025. And I know I've been man whoring my brain out on X, but I, of course, massively appreciate the old, I guess it's kind of old now, the old.
[0:51] Oh yeah support support us only on locals too is that right yeah yeah thanks, all right thank you where's that going um all right so yeah support us only mode is going in i'm happy to take calls questions issues challenges problems suggestions it's kind of an advanced, state of mind or place to be in because we've all been around this conversation for a while so if there's things that you wanted to give to me that would be suggestions or anything that would be more advanced would be excellent yes if you want to on desktop and tablet fdrurl.com/livecall fdrurl.com/livecall if you wanted to call in and give me any thoughts questions issues challenges feedback it could be talking sharp about the show it could be philosophical questions personal issues this is going to stay donor only so whatever is on your mind.
[1:49] I am thrilled to hear about it. And of course, you can all just type questions in as well. Yeah, I'm not doing, I sort of realized that one of the reasons why I prefer the X format, and this is kind of foolish on my part, right?
[2:00] But one of the reasons I prefer the X format is I can just walk around. I do not like to sit for like two hours doing shows. I feel like I'm slowly squishing my philosophical inspiration with my spleen crushing over that. So I'd like to be able to walk around. As you know, sitting is the new smoking. And if the price of doing philosophy is sitting myself into oblivion, it's a little tough to pay that price. And so it's kind of ridiculous, right? Because I was like, oh, I should do the locals thing and all. But then, of course, what I was like, oh, but I don't want to do the camera thing. And it's like, bro, just leave the camera off. Just leave the camera off. And we can do the same thing. So yeah, If you want to type your questions in here, I am happy to hear. Now, let me just turn the brightness up a little here, as I can't see. There we go. All right.
[2:55] All right. So, yeah, I'll just get away from the callers. And if you have any questions, I'd be thrilled to hear. I'm sorry if you hear the little bit of sound of the ice maker. I am dying to have an iced coffee. Guys, why not test the sensitivity of my teeth as I push 60? Thank goodness for sensor dying. That's all I can say. Otherwise, I'd have to get my teeth kept. There we go all right so i'm just looking for questions i don't want to start on a big topic if you all have questions hello y'all and uh if you don't have any questions i'm certainly happy to do a speak but ice ice baby that's right that's right yeah if you don't have any questions or comments um it was actually a really good show yesterday with a guy who had slept with.
[3:45] Five prostitutes and 10 plus women. And, you know, something that Kevin Samuels would say with regards to women, he would say, you might, you probably already met your husband and blew it. Like he was talking to some woman who was, who met a guy when she was 21, they dated for four years. And then she broke up with him because why? Why? Oh, because he was just a truck driver only making $80,000 US a year, which is about, what, 110, 120 Canadian. So, you know, he was 26, 27 making serious coin. But she had been psyoped, at least I think that's how it works, because it certainly didn't seem to be the case with her ancestors. I think she got psyoped into, you know, I don't know if it's just these rap videos or things like it, but holy crap, it's just wretched how much women can be psyoped into, well, you know, if he's not taking you to Dubai on a private jet, well, he just doesn't love you. You deserve better. You deserve more. And that sort of Instagram lifestyle with women doing all this travel with no visible source of income, glug, glug. And so he would say like you, average people need to settle for average people and pumping up your expectations to the point where, you know, he's got to look like Pierce Brosnan in his prime and have a zillion dollars and be young and have abs and all this kind of crazy stuff is wild and so, so destructive.
[5:13] But that's how you keep the birth rate down is you tell women, well, that's one of the ways you do it. You tell women, you deserve everything. Don't compromise, don't settle. And it's like, eh, yeah. You know, the two most attractive people on the planet, Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie, like the two most attractive, wealthy, talented people on the planet, well, they got together and they couldn't make it work. And I think he was pretty vicious to the kids. I think one of them doesn't even, I think one of his kids, or the Korean adoptee, I think recently dumped the whole Pitt name and it was just, yeah, it's just wretched. So yeah, even they, they didn't compromise, right? They got the perfect people, most attractive, most wealthy, most talented, most famous. And they were miserable as well. So yeah, you gotta, I mean, everyone has to compromise.
[6:06] All right, let me just take this to a place where I can yaller and holler. And then I will dig into your questions and take your calls. And we can have a good old fireside chat of excellent philosophy.
[6:24] All right. Do I like to chew on ice cubes? I do sometimes chew on ice cubes. Yeah, for sure. All right. So somebody wants to speak. I'm at a loss. Any ideas as to why chat? Well, if you don't have any questions, that's fine. Stef, you mentioned on X that you are finding it more difficult to reach people with reason on X. since tweeting, have you had any thoughts as to why? Well, I think that society has escalated and polarized to the point where people have, I think, honestly, I think people have largely given up on reason. I mean, I think that obviously was not, the shooting of Charlie Kirk was like a watershed moment that way for sure. But I think people have to a significant degree given up on the capacity for reason to deal with or solve these problems, because you have a side, and I know that I often come across more pro-right than pro-left, and there's reasons for that. I have criticisms of the right, but I have more criticisms of the left as a whole.
[7:31] But you have one side, which is the left, that only uses language as a tool or purpose of control. Right?
[7:41] So, you know, think of someone who is calling up someone and saying, you know, I've kidnapped your dog and whatever it is, right? I've kidnapped your dog and you've got to give me all this money or you're never getting your dog back. Well, that person is not debating, right? They're simply using language to sort of bully and control the other person. And I don't know if you've ever been around someone like this. And of course, if you have, I'd sort of love to hear the story. But if you've ever been around someone who just has no interest in any kind of actual conversation, the only thing that they use language for is to gain control, to gain power, to gain resources. So you can sort of think of kids who are single-minded, right? Like if you've ever been around kids, like they get real single-minded, right? They want to go to the park. And so that's all they think about. Oh, you promised. Oh, dad, don't you want to go to the park? Oh, dad, I'll push you on the swing. Oh, it's not that long a drive. Oh, it's not going to rain. Dad, do you want to go to the park? Like they're just single-minded. And the only thing that they're using language for is to get what they want. They don't use language to ask questions. They don't use language to explore ideas. They don't use language to figure out how to, you know, relate to the other person in a positive and productive way. they just use language to get what they want.
[9:07] Now, this often comes out of helplessness. Like if you're helpless, like the kid is helpless to go to the park, right? I mean, if the kid's 20, the young person is 20, and they want to go to the park, well, by golly, they can just go to the park, right? It's not that tough. They can just take a bus. They can go to the park. No problem, right?
[9:28] But when you're a little kid, your language is bent to getting what you want and that's it. And so I think with the left, the only reason they deploy language is to bully, threaten, and to try to get what they want. That's all. And so if you are trying to get to the truth and have rational discussions and debates and arguments, and the other person is single-mindedly only using language to get what they want, right? I mean, the left wants immigrants to vote for the left. And so anybody who criticizes immigration is a racist, right? They're not trying to examine or figure things out or understand anything.
[10:08] They are simply, I mean, it's a kind of a paradox, right? Because let's say people from Albania, right? The sort of made up country. Let's say people from Albania vote socialist. And let's say you're anti-socialist. Let's say people, 80% of people from Albania vote socialist and you're anti-socialist. Then you're accused of being a racist for being anti-Albonian immigration you But of course, they are acting against your interests by voting overwhelmingly for socialism. And if you don't want socialism, you're going to have to be against Albanian immigration. So the left is both relying on the immigrants from Albania to vote for the left and then calling you racist for pointing it out. That's not an examination of anything that's true or real or any kind of curiosity or understanding. It is simply, I want more fricking votes and I'm going to try and destroy your reputation if you have any questions or issues about it. And so I think that in the time that I was away from sort of main mainstream social media, I think the polls have widened and hardened and polarized. The polls have polarized. Look at that, me with the great level of communications. But I think that reason is not able to bridge the gap anymore. The left, like I'm telling you guys, when I was young, the left is way more reasonable.
[11:26] So there was an old saying in politics, and I guess in life as a whole, only Nixon can go to China. So Nixon, as a sort of fervent anti-communist, because he was mentored by Ray Cohn, a fervent anti-communist, and then when he went to China to try and soothe or cool relationships between America and China, he could do it because he was anti-communist. So when he went, the anti-communist couldn't really criticize him because they'd already praised him for being anti-communist. So when he went to China to try and improve relations, you know, whether you agree with it or don't agree with it, only Nixon can go to China. And only the left can, say, do things like, with Bill Clinton, right? He cracked down on illegal immigration, and he's like, out of losing ground, Charles Murray's books, he wanted to end welfare as we know it. And I think there was a finance minister, was it Joe Clark or something, who really cut spending.
[12:22] So only the left can oppose leftist policies. If the right opposes leftist policies, the left just calls them racist and Nazis and so on, tries to get them killed. But only the left can police the left. I mean, it's sort of like only women can police women, only men can police men. Although I guess everyone polices, especially white men these days.
[12:43] But the left used to be a lot saner and it really has been over the last certainly i would say last 10 years since trump trump drove the left completely mad because the left one of the reasons the left was calmer and could make compromises was they were assured of their inevitable victory once trump got voted in they felt their inevitable victory was under threat and therefore they escalated so i don't think that there's much reality left in the left if that makes sense and so i think people have kind of given up on trying to have those conversations, all right let's see here all right oh sorry i scrolled back up to the top as a whole, Women can ignore reality, say, p-d-d-dot.
[13:26] Women can ignore reality, but not the consequences of reality. And when a 7 out of 10 ages out to be a 4 out of 10 and has a hard time finding love, well, it's a little too late.
[13:38] Yes, yes, yes. Well, power balances over the course of life. Power balances. It's sort of like everyone gets a million dollars to spend. And women start off with three quarters of a million dollars when they're 20, and then they can spend less. And then by the time they're 40, they get nothing to spend. And men start off with nothing, but then when they're in their mid-30s to mid-40s, they get $600,000 to spend. So, male and female power balances out. It's just that male power comes later. And in order to sort of solve this disparity, early marriage was pretty much enforced for both men and women, right? Getting married in your late teens, early 20s, to sort of balance out this power disparity. Or to put it another way, because men and women pair bonded, men could go crazy with lust over women, and women would have all the power. That power was then contained and focused into marriage.
[14:48] So if you're born with a million dollars and you get to spend 750,000 of it when you are from like 18 to 30, then you feel super wealthy, the men are broke, you can be haughty and superior and dominant and you can bounce from bed to bed or whatever it is. And then you run out of money. I mean, and it's hard. It's hard for women when they, you know, when they hit the wall. And I'm sure you've seen this. It's a meme of a woman who doesn't even look 40, but she's like, I'm 40. I have my own big house. I can cook a great meal. I have a good income. Is it so impossible for me to get a boyfriend? And that's a woman who's like, well, hang on a second. Got into clubs in the VIP line when I was 20, or 21, I guess, in the States. I got into club in the VIP line when I was 21. Now that I'm 41, why aren't they letting me into the clubs?
[15:45] And again, from a male standpoint, this is, well, I shouldn't say because even men were kind of surprised when I started talking about this stuff like 20 years ago. But from a male standpoint, it's like, well, of course, of course you are going to run out of power. And there is a certain amount, and Schadenfreude, there's a certain amount of, well, women were so haughty and superior and so all-powerful and smug and dominant when I was younger, it's good to see them humbled. Isn't that, isn't that the case? It's, there's a kind of, you know, like there's a kind of vengeance, you know, the sort of the MGTOW blowback, women getting, hitting the wall and, you know, the sort of, quote, you love to see it kind of stuff. And I get that. I get that. But of course, people forget that if the situations were reversed, they'd be doing the same thing.
[16:35] If you have a trust and the trust releases a million dollars to you when you're 21 or releases a million dollars to you only when you're 35, then sure, all of the people spending all this money are going to be annoying when you're in your 20s and broke and they're spending all this money. But of course by the same token if you had had your trust fund deliver a million dollars to you and you were 21 you'd probably be spending i mean i remember a friend of mine when i was young younger uh you know what i just have to say young because like this is like 40 years ago now right, so uh his mother died and i won't get into the sums of course right but he got a lot of money from his mother. His mother, you know, very sadly died of cancer. And he got a whack load of money.
[17:30] And, you know, my, I don't know...
[17:33] Guy hoarding instincts was like, don't spend it. It's magic. And he got a huge amount of money. I mean, the first job that I got that was paid, like wasn't just piecework, was two. No, no, gosh, it was less than that. I think it was $2.25 an hour when I was about 12. I worked in a bookstore for a year or two, which was great. I got all the free books I wanted. And I was thinking, okay, so that's crazy, right? Every $100,000 is like 45,000 hours, right? Like 52, yeah, it's crazy, right? It's crazy. You know, 40,000 hours is 400 weeks. 400 weeks is what, eight years or something like that? So it's crazy. But I remember he bought a Jeep. He bought a very expensive computer. He went on a big vacation to Japan and all of that. And then he ended up broke. And to me, it was like Brewster's millions. Like, how do you spend that amount of money that quickly? It's crazy. And I, you know, yeah, it's nuts. So, you know, I knew the men who got money when they were younger and they blew it too. All right. Chris. Yeah. No callers, right? Ah, it hurts my soul. All right, so let's see here. Oh, I don't need to pin that.
[19:02] Let's see here. Yay, surprise, live stream. That's right. Somebody says, I recently realized I have a bigger problem with anger management than I had previously realized. I believe my suppression of anger has to do with how I frame things and or self-censorship. I recall you took anger management, Stef. Any thoughts or advice you can offer on this topic would be greatly appreciated. So I never took anger management classes, but I certainly had, you could say, sort of a fiery Irish-German temper, half Irish, half German. So I have both a hot temper and a cold rage, right? The hot temper from the Irish side, the cold rage from the German side. So with regards That's the anchor.
[19:52] Are particular kinds of sadists in the world who really enjoy making other people angry, right? They're called trolls, right? I mean, there's a very sort of common, a tragically common kind of personality structure, right? They just, they love it. They love riling people up because it gives them a sense of control. You know, I honestly, I think about this probably at least twice a month. And i think because i i only have the quote weapons of reason and evidence persuasion humor whatever it is i only have the weapons of reason and evidence and i can't imagine what it's like to have the kind of power where you control the media you control the educational systems you control, you know, entertainment. And you can just program people to take experimental DNA pseudo vaccine therapeutics. Like you can just, just put the message out and people will just, they'll just do it. They'll just do it. Not only will they do it, you say to them, boy, you know, anyone who doesn't do it is your enemy. It's sort of like when there's a war, right? And you can just put out the propaganda, and everyone puts Ukrainian flags in their bio, and everyone attacks anyone who has hesitations about the war, and to have that kind of power. Can you imagine?
[21:20] I can't imagine, because I have no weapons at all. I have no, because I can't lie, I can't lie, I can't manipulate, I just have, all I have is reason and evidence. You know, maybe some charm or whatever. All I have is reason, rhetoric, and evidence.
[21:36] And because I won't lie about people, I'm hamstrung. Like I can't just call someone a Nazi and hide behind, oh, it's my opinion, right? Like all those Facebook fact checkers, right? There's a fact checkers when they got challenged in court. They're like, no, they're just opinions. No, they're not facts, just opinions. No, it's not called opinion checkers. So I can't imagine what it's like to have that kind of power. What I can say to people, I could just get an entire media campaign going across the entire freaking planet, get an entire media campaign going to make people do what I want. And if anyone hesitates, I can just destroy them.
[22:17] Imagine if that power or the power of that was put into peaceful parenting. You know, there was just this massive media blitz for peaceful parenting and anyone who hesitated would be ostracized by their family. Can you imagine the amount of good that, I mean, it's a devil's bargain because I'm not sure if you'd end up doing that much good by being that manipulative, but I just can't imagine having that degree or kind of power, but people do. They do have that. And so people love bullying others to do what they want. They love it.
[22:56] I'm not saying everyone, but I would say most people for sure. I mean, I would say that the proportion of people who love bullying others is roughly equal to the proportion of people who took the COVID vaccine, because just about everybody who took the COVID vaccine bullied others to take it if they had sort of relationships at all. So with regards to temper, are you around assholes who goad you? Are you around people who just are trolls? Because I don't believe that you can solve a problem of temper if you have people
[23:30] around you who are trolls. You know, like I'm sort of noticing this on X, right? Like I'm back on X. And again, now the new thing with X is I don't know if they're AI bots. I mean, there are lots of bots that were programmed. I don't know.
[23:47] You know that there are if you're a public figure right now i get these emails quite quite a stream of emails and they're like dear mr molyneux having listened to your latest episode on x y and z where you discussed a b and c it really struck me that you might match up with this particular guy who'd love to come on your show and and it sounds very personal i don't believe it's personal i think it's AI that is getting the text out of podcasts and trying to make it more personal. I was really struck in your latest podcast when you argued for this, that, and the other. And it's all, you know, kind of AI, generic slop, and so on. And now, of course, the big question on X is just AI bots. But yeah, I mean, people who just, you know, all they have to do, you know, there's an old saying in computer programming, that if you want an answer to a programming question, question, then if you just post, hey, can I get an answer to this programming question? Like no one's going to listen, no one's going to care. You'll never get an answer. However, if you post a question and then you post the wrong answer underneath it, then people will, they'll go nuts on that question and they will aggressively correct the quote wrong answer. So that's how you get the wrong. That's how you get the answer.
[25:02] And so, yeah, I mean, And with regards to temper, it's kind of like if you are a soldier and you're dealing with PTSD, you probably shouldn't go to an IMAX screening of Saving Private Ryan every day because it's just going to keep re-triggering you. So are you around people who are aggressive trolls who like to push your buttons? Because if you are, then I would argue it's pretty impossible to deal with your temper and I would certainly deal with that. All right. The gotcha questions went to a whole new level in the last decade? Yeah, kind of, right? All right.
[25:38] Stef, would you agree that the existence of the government contains the promise of violence because it removes the capacity for people to peacefully practice ostracism? Yes.
[25:46] Yeah, I don't know if I'll ever post about this, like publicly, but since this is a private chat, I can talk about this and you can tell me if you think it's too spicy to go in the gen pub, to go out to the gen pub. And so, So I was thinking about how in the past, homely women, like women who are just, you know, not necessarily through any fault of their own, right? They could just have larger frames, be bigger bodied. You know, they've got bad hair. You know, they got, you know, one squinty eye and features that are, you know, like a Picasso jigsaw puzzle. And like through no particular fault of their own, it's not like they're 400 pounds or something. But through no particular fault of their own, they're just not pretty. And of course, the question is, well, how did those genes... How do those genes survive?
[26:38] And the answer tends to be, I think, that, and this is all the way back to Clerks. Like, so Clerks, this is an old film. I guess it was the breakout film from Kevin Smith, I think his name was. And it's very coarse, but has some interesting stuff to say. And this guy has this girlfriend who is hot and mean. And he has this other girl who likes him, and she's not as hot. but she's nice. She brings him lasagna for lunch and asks him how his day was and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, right? And so how is this competition? And, you know, the Ginger and Marianne was the old thing from Gilligan's Island or like the girl next door versus the hot model or whatever it is, right? Now, women who are really attractive have to be haughty because otherwise they'll get approached by every guy. Like a woman who's really hot, who's just super friendly to everyone and nice and positive and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. Well, she's going to end up with no life, stalkers, whatever it is, right? I write about this in my book that I'm just working on, or just doing the audiobook reading at the moment.
[27:47] So women who are attractive can be haughty and difficult and abrasive and so on, because they really have to be kind of prickly in the same way that if there weren't any bees, the honey would all be gone because the reason why you don't go get the honey is because of the bees, right? So you have to, the sweeter the thing, the more the defense, right?
[28:06] And so how did plain or ugly women compete with hot, attractive women is they were nicer. You know, they were more friendly, more positive, more helpful.
[28:18] More approachable, and they would cook you a nice meal. And they like, you know, the hot woman will expect you to go out and buy her a $200 dinner, but the plain girl will cook you a nice meal. I remember there was this girl, we never dated, but we were certainly, you know, flirting around with the idea. And this was in my graduate school program. And she would invite me over and she would make, this is the first time I had, it was so good. Bagels, cream cheese, capers, onions, and salmon. Oh man. Like, and she would make this for me like regularly. And I mean, I did nice things for her as well, but I mean, of course, you know, I even got at the time, this is kind of flirty behavior. And she was kind of plain. And so she'd have me over. She was very funny and she cooked and, you know, it was, it was really nice. And so that's how the plain women compete with the hot women is by being extra nice. Now.
[29:12] Though with the government is the government is transferring so much money to women that the plain women don't need to be nice anymore. So if you are getting a lot of resources thrown at you, the natural result is haughtiness, superiority, and aggression for women, right? They call it the resting bitch face, right? Now, the government is throwing staggering amounts of money at women, so the plain and ugly women are getting haughty, aggressive, and difficult, and that's the Karen phenomenon. That is the white leftist liberal woman. They'll call them awful, affluent, white, leftist females. And so I think that's where this phenomenon is coming from, is that plain women don't have to be nice to get resources. So you get plain women who have the haughtiness because they're getting all their resources from the government, which is triggering haughtiness on their behavior. All right, let's see here. Somebody says, maybe it's because I'm not very smart or knowledgeable, but one thing that annoys me is people who are certain that their viewpoint is 100% correct and not being able to look at it with a skeptical mind. Well, okay. And I appreciate that. And I think I share your sentiments, but a way of understanding that, in my opinion.
[30:22] Is, you know, this is a fundamental thing that I thought of when I was a kid, my brother and I used to go in the mornings to a theater and for 10 pennies, 10 pence, we would get to see a whole bunch of shorts and cartoons and stuff like that. And it was warm in the winter and cool in the summer. Well, it's not cool in the summer. I think this is before air conditioning, but it certainly was warm in the winter. It was kind of nice to go. And of course, you know, they had this, uh, the, the, the plucky Mighty Ducks football team, like a soccer team. Oh, the football team, uh, the, in the red jerseys there, you follow their story and you root for them and you want them to win. And I remember thinking, of course, well, but if I was on, if they showed me the blue team's side and the backstory of the blue team, then I would want them to win. Like, so it's just arbitrary, right?
[31:06] And there was the red team and the blue team. I guess the politics, right? There was the red team and the blue team. And then there were the people who said that allegiance to the red team or the blue team is kind of irrational because they're not moral teams. They're not moral qualities. And when reason was more respected, you didn't have to choose a team. When reason goes out the window, you have to choose a team. And to choose a team, you have to stop asking questions. Why is the blue team the best? Why is the red team the best? It's like, no, you got to pick a side. Because in a war, if you're not on either side, you're toast. Because nobody's arming you, nobody's protecting you, nobody's feeding you. You're just somebody who's wandered into the battlefield who's going to get shot at by both sides, even just by accident.
[31:54] So as reason disintegrates people have to choose a side having to choose a side means giving up on doubt like if you're if the blue team is going to win they have to think they're the greatest and the best and no matter what and and then no questions and no doubts or anything like that so let's see here.
[32:12] Says, I've been around the people, oh, there's the sadists who like provoking you. Oh, yeah. And the sadists will, I mean, they provoke a need and deny a need, right? So this is particularly true with parents. Like kids so much want the approval of their parents that you provoke a need in someone by being a parent. And then what happens is you provoke a need and then you deny a need. So your kids need your approval and then you just deny them your approval and they'll run circles and do whatever you want.
[32:39] Yeah, thanks, James. Dissolution, my new novel. Check the recent supporter-only posts for the latest update. Yeah, yeah. Chris, oh, Chris, there's a guy with the anger. You're right on, Stef. Re-anger. I work closely with a sadistic troll and for one as well. There is a big cost to stay in this situation despite great pay. My instinct tells me to get out as soon as possible and reset my career. Would your advice be to get out despite taking no pay until I remaster it? Probably well worth it. Well, I try, I try to avoid, uh, sorry, this is kind of circular, and you guys are very advanced, but I try to avoid these kinds of false dichotomy things, right?
[33:16] Oh, sorry, I just got a little note, bitcoins back up to almost 159 Canadian, Canadian, but it's kind of cool. So it's like, well, I've got to stay in this job, Chris, you say, I've got to stay in this job and be, you know, beaten up mentally by these sadistic trolls or quit with no pay. It's like, well, no, I mean, if you have any friends, contacts, relatives, anyone you know, anyone, even online that you've got any kind of contact with, you say, I'm really keen to change. I'm really keen to get a new job. You start sending out your resumes, but the more important than sending out your resumes is working your contacts, right? You work your contacts and get a job, try and get a job that way. But don't like, the only thing I can do is quit and that's it. And it's like, well, no, no, no. What you want to do, of course, is you want to get your resume out there and get people, you know, and even if they don't have jobs, like if you hear of anything in this field, please, please, please, you know, let me know. I will take you out for the most expensive dinner in town if you help me get
[34:18] a new job. Like I'd be thrilled. And so be proactive. I'm sorry, that's kind of annoying to me, but don't think about, well, I've either got to put up with this or I've got to quit and cross my fingers. No, no. I mean, you can and you should, you can and you should absolutely work on working your contacts and.
[34:36] Ask for things, man. In life, your success is almost always entirely dependent on how much you're willing to ask for things. Are you willing to ask for things? Are you willing to have people show indifference to what you prefer? If you've got, let's say, everybody, you know, certainly by you're in your 30s, you ought to have at least five to 10 people that you have significant professional contact with and just say to them, listen, I'm really keen to swap my position. I'm really keen to get a new job.
[35:07] And, you know, I'd really, really would hugely appreciate it if you would help out, right? I mean, you're here, right? Because I, every show, I would really appreciate it if you would help it out. I'd really like you to support the show, blah, blah, blah. And so your success in life is almost entirely dependent on how much you're willing to ask for. Now, of course, if you grew up with cruel people, you don't like to ask them for anything. Because showing need, if you grew up with cruel parents, then showing need means getting attacked. Because as soon as you show need, they're like the torturer. Oh, that really hurts. Thank you for telling me. I will do more of that. Right. So you don't want to show vulnerability. You don't want to show need, but you just have to go. I mean, my entire career started because I ran out of money, panicked and begged a woman whose name I still remember, like, I don't know, almost 40 years later. No, 30 years later, I begged a woman for a job and I was desperate. And that was my big lesson about just ask, just ask, just ask, just ask. Am I? The worst they to is say no. And of course, but when you get older, you realize that all the people who said no to you don't add up to a damn thing. Do not add up to a damn thing. All right. Sorry. I didn't even check for callers, but my instinct tells me not. My instinct is correct. All right. That's it. I'll just start. I'll just start reading campaigns. That's it. I'll just start reading campaigns. All right. Any other last questions, comments, issues, challenges, problems, suggestions?
[36:35] It's funny because i have this i'm in a minor roller coaster relationship with x and i was just like ah you know i'm not really uh getting much traction on x x anymore because um you know make friends and break friends that's sort of the whole yeah hey i really like this guy he's got really smart things to say about this oh hang on when he takes us some principles those same principles and applies it to something i like you know like the atheists were like hey Stef's really cool man he really rips on things that don't exist and i'm like the government doesn't exist whoa hey let's not get crazy here that's nuts it's like okay but the same principle that you're using with religion and uh so but anyway but then i got i think i got a 680 000 view tweet, um which was showing a bunch of soldiers and then a bunch less soldiers and uh basically saying you know, this is malprivileged before and after war, F the bankers. And, uh, yeah, so that's, you, there's a certain amount on X, there's a certain amount of, if I push the envelope, I get views. And there's a certain amount of extrapolation of intensity that X generally rewards, which is sort of true in life as a whole.
[37:47] It's like candy bars versus a cabbage or lettuce, right? It just has more vivid taste. But there certainly is that thing on X. It's like, well, if I push the envelope and if I start to get really edgy, I will get more views. And it's like, you kind of got to fight that because that can lead you into
[38:03] some, uh, hyperbolic places that aren't super accurate. All right. Uh, we're out of questions and I think we have no callers, which is totally fine. Uh, I know that people are probably commuting home because all that, but I had a little bit of time before I have a private caller tonight. So I had a little bit of time before that. I wanted to check in with you guys on locals and, you know, again.
[38:26] Deeply humbly on bended knee express my immense appreciation. Locals, of course, is a sort of favorite of mine because it was one of the things that really kept things going over the sort of half decade away from major media because there's no, I mean, Subscribestar is great, but it has no media capacities, no live streams, no, you know, not much, not much chat or anything like that. So this is really great. Locals is a completely wonderful platform for all of that. And I didn't want to just, you know, let you guys become my slutty mistress while I marry ex. That's just unfair and wrong. So I wanted to make sure I sort of circle back here. And let's see here.
[39:09] Interesting answer. I wasn't expecting you to relate it to women's behavior. I was thinking that the state destroys our ability to ostracize people with dangerous ideologies, anti-rational beliefs from people with ugly genetics. Well, but women who are both ugly and unpleasant are ostracized from marriage and therefore from male income. Thank you. Who are ugly and unpleasant, like women who are hot will get male resources by being hot. Women who are ugly and unpleasant would be ostracized by men, but men can't ostracize the ugly, unpleasant women because the government takes money from men and gives it to women. So that's sort of what I was talking about. Did that make sense? All right.
[39:58] Um the novel is great Stef thank you well i appreciate that i really do appreciate that and, i will certainly say that it's tough you know i'm very excited about the novel but when i put it out there in the world and get very little feedback it does feel a little bit like a little disappointing so i'm very glad of course that you have uh that and i really do, thank you for all of that all right um so chris says since signing up for x i spent too much time going down 18 rabbit holes it's a noticeable time thing for me yeah of course if you scroll up it does feel like you're in an elevator going down right so that certainly is the case all right let me just do one last check here and lots of love Stef well thank you guys as well and i i really do appreciate your time today and i wonder yeah i mean it would be nice to set up a local chat for donors um since we're here and we've got a couple dozen people in the chat if you guys when's when's a good time i mean obviously can't do um when it's wednesdays or friday nights and i do have some calls booked but i could do like a um a 9 30 um on an evening even if it's just for an hour once a week to sort of get updates or feedback or chats from locals if this is something you would be interested in. I mean, if you're more of a sort of passive investor, so to speak, that's fine too. But.
[41:25] Host. Oh, the conversation in the last chapter was chilling. Great acting too. Sorry, I'm not sure which chapter you mean. Do you mean the chapter between John and Shane? And no, it's funny because people talk about finances and money and yet you rarely see it in novels. And that's sort of an odd thing to me because, I mean, if you grow up poor, you talk about money a lot because you've got a 9.30 p.m. Eastern would be good. Okay. Oh, chapter seven. Okay. Thank you. Appreciate okay uh yes yeah it's funny i honestly i could read those chapters so many different ways i mean i have them in my head and every time i do a chunk i'm like oh i should just scratch it re-record it and do it scratch and re-record do it better like stanley kubrick with his like 4 000 takes, but i also i'm not entirely sure this is the final i'm not entirely sure this is the final, reading of the book because once i get the whole arc and all the characters voices i may just go back and do it again, because it really is only a couple of days of part-time work. So 9.30 is good. 9.30 is good. Okay, great. Well, I'll post that on X as well, and we'll see if we can get something going for locals, because I want to make sure that I stay in touch with that. Okay, we'll figure out a good night, and thanks everyone so much. Have a beautiful night, and we'll talk soon. Bye.
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