0:00 - Introduction
0:15 - Declining a Job Offer
1:15 - Live Chat Technical Issues
2:05 - Camera Troubles
2:43 - Importance of Building Relationships
2:50 - The Great Man Theory
4:10 - Coffee and the Industrial Revolution
5:27 - History and Willpower
6:11 - Impact of Ideas and Thinkers
7:52 - End of Slavery and Industrial Revolution
9:33 - History, Philosophy, and Individual Decisions
11:41 - Self-Criticism and Job Performance
12:12 - Seeking Advice on Self-Criticism
12:49 - Reflecting on Mistakes
13:07 - Being Self-Critical
16:06 - Understanding Self-Criticism
18:18 - Fear of Incompetence
21:03 - Blaming Others for Failures
24:12 - Upgrading Products and Customer Loyalty
27:00 - Congratulating a Daughter on Promotion
28:44 - Handling Relationships and Values
29:46 - Wooing vs. Scorn for Single Women Voters
32:18 - Wooing Strategies
38:42 - Understanding Single Women's Perspectives
41:19 - Reasons for Single Women's Political Leanings
44:48 - Men's Perspective on Health and Caretaking
46:52 - Men's Lack of Concern for Health Issues
49:20 - Women's Gossip as Information Exchange
50:23 - Dating a Woman vs. Dating a Family
54:11 - The Musical and the Scattered Children
56:59 - Glass Menagerie and the Mother's Fear
1:01:32 - The Importance of Sisterhood
1:06:49 - The Struggle with Government Dependency
1:16:00 - Anecdotes of Childhood and Empathy Challenges
1:19:17 - The Little Drawer of Sorrows
1:25:20 - The Illusion of State Security
1:30:04 - The Impending Train of Insecurity
1:36:31 - The Pitfalls of Government Reliance
1:39:32 - Drawing Inspiration from Strong Women
1:41:24 - Plans for a Future Documentary
In this lively Friday Night Live session, we engage with a myriad of intriguing questions and comments from our audience. Spurred by a query about gracefully declining a job offer, I stress the significance of honesty and constructive feedback for the benefit of both parties. Transitioning to a discussion about technical challenges with camera setups during live shows, I candidly share the hurdles of integrating top-notch equipment into such settings. Our exploration then leads us to the Great Man theory's analysis and subsequent critique, underscoring the pivotal role of personal determination in shaping historical events, surpassing the narrative of intricate societal dynamics.
We gracefully segue into a discourse on self-criticism, highlighting the delicate balance between striving for excellence and avoiding undue harshness towards oneself. The dialogue further evolves into contemplations on the emotions of guilt intertwining with product releases and upgrades, emphasizing the natural progression and imperative of enhancing offerings to meet customer needs and expectations. Shifting gears, we delve into the realm of tech upgrades, navigating the repercussions of purchasing products right before newer iterations hit the market, interwoven with personal narratives recounting past device procurement escapades.
Our conversation then delves into the intricate tapestry of political trends among single women, exploring how these patterns influence party affiliations, while whimsically inspecting gender disparities in caregiving roles and emotional acumen. With a blend of humor and introspection, we dissect the strategies of scorn versus wooing in political persuasion, advocating for a deeper comprehension of vulnerabilities to bridge ideological divides and foster empathetic discourse. Throughout this engaging exchange, the audience is encouraged to contribute their diverse perspectives, fostering a thought-provoking space of shared insights and societal reflections.
[0:00] Well, good evening everybody, 9th of August 2024, and it is time for Friday Night Live. And we got a bunch of questions, we got a bunch of comments, we got a whole lot of stuff, a whole lot of shaking going on.
[0:16] Any tips on declining a job offer and still being on the good side? I interviewed with several companies and got multiple job offers and picked a job with the highest bid. It well so what you want to think of is how have you been rejected that has made it okay for you right so how is it you can be honest right so you can say uh you know i really love the company you guys were a little on the low side i don't know you know if you have other kind of benefits but other companies are providing more compensation. I just want to give you a heads up so that you can figure out whether you are competitive or not, right? I was sort of appreciated that when I was hiring people. And if somebody told me the reason why they didn't take the job, I mean, not that I ever interviewed anyone or they didn't take the job, but if people can tell me why they didn't take the job, that could be quite, I mean, that was quite helpful for me as a hiring manager.
[1:15] So, all right. Actually, let me just move this over here, this screeny screen over here.
[1:25] And let's see here live chat callers so yeah if anyone calls in uh free domain.com forward slash a live call free domain.com forward slash live call it rent um no that's all right, uh it's been fine uh i mean my camera chewed up my my sound my my video card you know like Like, I have this, it's a camera, it's a really, really nice camera. This is my favorite. I've owned, I don't know, like half a dozen cameras over the years. And this one wasn't even that expensive, but it is by far my favorite because it doesn't make me look ill or like I'm about to give birth to a giant spotted owl out of my forehead.
[2:05] Hopefully, the giant spotted owl of wisdom, that's the title for the show. But this camera's really nice, but it overheats if the battery's in and it's powered in. It doesn't have enough to last for a two and a half hour, three show. The battery's not long enough, so I got an external plug for it. But the problem is that when the external plug is kind of loose, I have to kind of jiggle it. And it fried my SD card like it just wouldn't read it. So what can I tell you? Just the reality. All right.
[2:38] So let's get to your other questions. Then I've got a rant. All right.
[2:44] Yeah, try not to burn bridges in the business world. I mean, in life as a whole, try not to burn bridges. All right.
[2:51] What are your thoughts on the great man theory? Right. So there's two general theories of history. One is an amalgamation of incredibly complex issues and movements and economics and some ideas. Right. So what is it that caused the Industrial Revolution? Well, it was the invention of this, and then the division of labor between countries called that, and there was this conflict, and then the invention of this weaponry, and it's all just like alignment of the planets stuff. And that is, well, wrong. History is willpower.
[3:38] History is willpower, nothing more, nothing less. you can see this playing around you every day history is willpower that's all you just donated at free domain.com slash donate thank you my friend i appreciate that i do appreciate that thank you thank you thank you so yeah history is willpower that's all do you have the will to achieve your goals do you have the will to speak the truth do other people have the will to amplify your truth because there's not much point speaking the truth if people aren't willing to go amplify it.
[4:10] Coffee fueled the industrial revolution. That is not true. That is not true. The industrial revolution was caused by one thing and one thing only.
[4:23] The Industrial Revolution was caused by the end of slavery slash serfdom. Once you had a free market in land, then you had increases in productivity from 10 to 15 to 20 times the amount of food. In other words, you need far fewer workers. And so you then have the capacity for an urban proletariat, and there was a free market in labor because they weren't slaves. slaves, when there's a free market and labor, you want to hire a bunch of people and eliminate their jobs. No, it's not true. It's not true. There's tons of places that have coffees and stimulants that did not have an industrial revolution.
[5:11] So you ended slavery, you ended serfdom, you had a free market and land, agricultural productivity went through the roof, you got an urban proletariat, people are competing with them to drive up their wages, and then in order to reduce their costs, they invent labor-saving devices, and that's your Industrial Revolution right there. It's really not complicated.
[5:27] So it was the willpower of the people who wanted to end slavery, or to be technical, shift slavery from the direct ownership of the person to indirect ownership of the person through wage taxes or taxes. I mean, most of the taxes were not wage taxes until 1913 or 1917 in Canada. Don't worry, though. It's just a temporary measure, that income tax. And don't worry, it's only just a couple of percentage points on the very richest of people, and it's just temporary, right? Yeah, all the places that coffee came from, did they have an industrial revolution? They did not.
[6:01] So, it's just capitalism. That's all it is. Thank you, Joseph. It's just capitalism. Just the free market gave us the Industrial Revolution. And the free market was promoted by a bunch of thinkers and reasoners and arguers and debaters.
[6:12] And then what happened was, see, this is the way that it works, right? The way that it works is people come up with great ideas, great, powerful, true, virtuous, wonderful ideas. And then what happens is they, I can tell you this from personal experience, they put them out into the ether. Off they go. Like when I was a kid and I had my first helium balloon and they said, little Steffi, do you want to keep that helium balloon or would you like to enter that little red helium balloon into a balloon race and maybe you could win a hundred pounds? And I'm like, I like a hundred pounds sounds good. And I let go my little red balloon. Neun in neunzig Luftballoon. And it went off into the sky. And as I let it go, I realized I was never going to see that hundred pounds. And what I was going to see was my very first beautiful helium balloon at the age of three floating off into a perfectly clear blue sky which is memorable because it was England after all and I realized, oh my gosh, greed got me nothing. It's a good lesson to learn. It cast me a balloon but it saved me a lifetime. Got me a balloon saved me a lifetime.
[7:27] So, great thinkers, thank you Kairos, great thinkers put their ideas out in the ether and the population either seizes upon them and amplifies them or the population ignores them and things fall apart. That's all. That's all it is.
[7:52] I mean, people in power will generally amplify those. So why was it that slavery and serfdom ended? Because the people in power realized that when you end slavery and serfdom, and you get that kind of agricultural productivity, you get to have an empire. Because now you need much fewer people to produce your food, so what you do is instead of having those people produce your food, you draft them and enlist them so that they can be your army and your navy. This is, of course, a little bit prior to ye olde First World War Air Force. That's what you do. So the end of slavery was amplified, of course, because the powers that be wanted the soldiers and the sailors. And this is why the agricultural revolution was followed by the Age of Empires.
[8:44] So, unfortunately, UPB serves the peace to come, but not the powers that are. Which is why it's very hard to share it and why there's so much hostility towards, something like UPB and peaceful parenting. That which benefits no powerful interest in the present tends to be ignored because it cannot be disproven. And the best way you disprove is to ignore and then to slander, right? So if you're not spreading UPB, you are spreading manure in the cribs of the future. If you're not spreading peaceful parenting, you're spreading manure on the future.
[9:27] Facts, what can I tell you? Facts, what can I tell you?
[9:33] History is powered by philosophy. No, history is powered by each individual decision that people made about whether they're serious about what they believe in or not. That's all. So the leftists who say, I'm going to disown and disavow people who don't take the vaccine, people who support Trump, people who are skeptical of mass migration, people who are skeptical of the the values and virtues of diversity. People who say, screw you, I don't care if you're a blood relative, I believe this. And if you don't get in line, you're out of here, bozo. Well, those people win. And if you're not willing to put your relationships where your values are, your values will fade into the trash heap of history. And it's hard to argue that it should be any different, honestly, why should it be different? Why should it be different? If you're not willing, to put your values.
[10:39] And have them like into the center of your relationships, then you're just, you're playing, you're playing around, right? All of the great movements in history have been driven by people who take their values and virtues extremely seriously. Extremely seriously. So no, it's not just philosophy, it's every person's individual decision to promote their virtues and values or to have them as a kind of posture and a kind of, well, I feel this and I think that and I believe and I value, and it's like, yeah, people are like, do you though? Do you though? Do you? If you believe the state is coercion, what's your relationship to people who advocate for the use of violence against you?
[11:35] Because people are scanning for whether you're full of shit or not, all the time. They're scanning for whether you're full of shit or not.
[11:42] And I say this as someone who was, for a good chunk of his life, full of shit, because I had all these virtues and values. I just didn't have them actually take effect in my personal life, because I was just on the forever treadmill of, oh, I'm sure I can get them to change their minds at some point. Oh, that's good to be magnificent. Oh, that's so much better. Oh, yes, I'll just, one more article, one more piece of facts, one more data, one, oh, gosh, one more, ha. All right, thank you for the tip. Cheesy, what have we got here?
[12:12] Hi, Stef, I had a question. And being self-critical. Well, I wish you were a little bit more self-critical about formulating your question, but you tipped, so all is forgiven. All right, hi, Stef, I had a question, I assume you mean about being self-critical. Today I notice that I'm extremely self-critical of myself. It's a little redundant. When I take too long on a job or if I screw something up small and it makes me think that my boss would think I'm an idiot. I have the technical experience and am efficient at my job. How do I give myself enough grace to know I'll be slow or wrong every now and again?
[12:50] I'll reflect on these moments after the fact and I think what could have gone better next time.
[12:59] I'm sorry, I'm not sure what's wrong with being self-critical.
[13:07] I mean, what's wrong with being extreme? I'm not sure what you mean by extremely self-critical. If by being extremely self-critical, do you, are you saying that you have an extremely high expectation of the kind of quality you can produce? Is that what you're saying? Are you trying to seduce me? Do you want me to seduce you? Is that what you're trying to tell me?
[13:36] Do you have, look, I have very high standards for the quality of the show that I want to produce, right? I have very high standards. I don't want to be doing the same old, same old. I want to be interesting, engaging, funny, have good analogies, tell you something I've not told you before. So I have very high standards for the kind of quality of the show that I want to produce. So what's wrong with being very self-critical? Because I... Every show I do, I think of ways I could have done it better, and I try to implement them going forward. Is that self-critical? I mean, I suppose. But it's just a dedication to quality, isn't it? Isn't that reasonable? Just have a dedication to quality?
[14:37] So I'm not sure why it's a problem. Are you saying that you berate and scream abuse at yourself if you fat-finger a digit or something like that? But that's not you being self-critical. That's like somebody who cuts themselves. I remember doing a call-in show. I don't even know if it ended up getting released, where a woman had been so verbally abused by her mother, she literally cut her mother's name into her thigh. Ah, cigars rolled on the thighs of Cuban women. I always found that strangely appealing, though I can't stand cigars. I've smoked one in my life, and I'm like, why don't I just give a blowjob to an exhaust pipe on a giant truck?
[15:22] So, what's wrong with being self-critical? If you are screaming abuse at yourself, you're not being self-critical. People don't just wake up and cut themselves. themselves they cut themselves because they have a habit of being aggressive against themselves to appease people who will attack them right because if you attack yourself often that will be like somebody wants to cause you harm if you harm yourself you'll appease them and you'd rather harm yourself because you've got control over that process right so if you are, attacking yourself that's the wrong way to say it because it's not accurate sorry to be so frank but it's just not accurate. You're not attacking yourself, you're appeasing an abuser.
[16:07] You're appeasing a historical abuser. Now, of course, if you're an adult, that historical abuser shouldn't have any damn power over you anymore, so now this is just a bad habit. But you're not self-attacking. You know, it's like the bully says, you punch yourself or I'll punch you. And you say, okay, I'll punch myself because I can control that, I can fake it, I can whatever, right? And so then Then even after the bully's gone, you've got a habit of...
[16:33] You've got a habit of punching yourself. Okay. Bro says, I'm dedicated to quality, but when I don't meet my own expectations, I feel incompetent. Well, incompetent is not a feeling. Incompetent is a judgment. So, if you don't meet your own expectations, you feel incompetent. Well, aren't you? What's wrong with being incompetent? I mean, what's wrong with being incompetent? I don't like I was watching some of my I don't normally watch my own shows back I was watching a little bit of one and I'm like oh that's good I could use a little bit of this uh this is a bit fast I was a little unfocused here and I'm just you know I could do it I could do it better this is why I keep doing shows I can do it better I want to do it better I want to be intense but not insane I want to be energetic but not manic I want to be focused but not creepy I want like Like, all these years, six million different juggling acts all got a balance on the pinpoint IQ spread of the Aristotelian mean. It's tough. Am I competent in every show? I can always do something better. What's wrong with being incompetent? That means you've got something to aim for.
[17:44] God forbid you did everything perfectly. You did everything perfectly, you'd have no reason to get out of bed in the morning. There'd be nothing to get better. I don't understand why it's so bad. Like, what's wrong with being, oh, I screwed that up. Oh, I faffed that up. Oh, I really made a mistake here. Oh, I really made a mistake there. It's like, and?
[18:09] And, I mean, all the front men are incompetent relative to Freddie Mercury.
[18:18] Does that mean they can't do anything? I mean, again, I'm happy to be schooled on this, and you're welcome to call in, of course, but what's wrong with being incompetent and having to improve? Isn't that kind of the fun thing in life? If I did every show perfectly, there'd be no more shows.
[18:40] I mean, was it Leonardo da Vinci only painted about 20 paintings and didn't even finish all of them because he was a famous procrastinator? Still one of the greatest artists in human history. Sorry, unless you're typing and I'm not seeing it, I really can't have this conversation with you because you're taking forever to respond. Again, unless there's something wrong with... Let me just try and refresh you. Unless there's something wrong, which does sometimes happen. Uh no no okay so i'm gonna just have to drop it because, you're not typing anything so i don't know so if you have a negative experience the entire point of that negative experience isn't oh my god i can't have this negative experience embrace it embrace the suck sometimes i suck sometimes you suck and that's fine what's wrong with that if you never suck you're not trying hard enough if you never fail you're not risking anything i'm pretty competent at walking these days pretty good pretty good at walking these days so i don't give myself any kudos for making it from one side of the room to the other right.
[20:03] A fear of incompetence is a fear of progress. I want to learn piano, but I feel incompetent. It's like, well, of course you're incompetent. You're just learning. My gosh. So what's wrong with that? But you can also be incompetent because you're underutilizing yourself. So in other words, if you're just doing something really boring and really repetitive and so on, then you may feel incompetent because you're just distracted and dissociated and bored and doing the same old, same old, and you're just off in la-la land, right?
[20:49] What about the crappy people out there who fail and just blame everyone else because they can't admit incompetence? Well, those are people who are attempting to ward off self-attack or appeasing of attackers by blaming others.
[21:04] Sure what about him Stef is it normal to feel just a pang of guilt for previous customers when you release a new and improved product a pang of guilt for previous well it depends i mean it is always the question when you have a new and upgraded because i did a whole bunch of upgrades, um for the software that i wrote i did four or five major upgrades and in fact in for one of of the upgrades i took my team and we rented an apartment in a really hip and happening part of town and we would code all day play some games go out to discos go go have some thai food it was great man it was a great great summer of of coding and playing and partying i mean by partying i just mean going to discos i barely drink but i do love to dance man so if you are buying a new uh phone And there's, you know, you normally can figure out when a new phone is coming out. And if you buy a phone before the new phone, then you should get some kind of discount or some kind of trade-in or something like that, right?
[22:14] So I had a wonderful habit for quite a while of buying phones right before the upgrade. Not like a real big guilt, but just, damn, the new product is so much nicer and better, right? And from where did you get the money to make the new product?
[22:31] From where did you get the money to make the new product? Well, you got the money to make the new product from the people who were buying the old product. So there is no new product without people buying the old product. So I don't know why you'd feel guilty about something that is entirely necessary. The new product is nicer and better because you bought it with the excess profits from the old product. Old product so if you uh lie to your customers and you say no no no there's not going to be a new product for a year or two and you've got one coming out next month well then you're going to feel bad because you're lying to your customers but if you're telling the truth to your customers, what's wrong with them choosing an older product i assume there's an upgrade path that's not full price so nothing wrong with that so i don't know why you'd feel guilty they can choose.
[23:27] To get the old products right they can choose to buy something right before the upgrade, um before i went to do my documentary in hong kong hong kong fight for freedom at free domain.com slash documentaries really good really good but before i went i needed an upgraded graded phone because I wanted, you know, better video quality and so on, right? And at the time that I went, I think I bought an iPhone. I'm still using it actually, but at the time I went, I think it was an iPhone 12, which apparently is radioactive in France. But when I was bought the iPhone 12, because I wanted selfie 60 frames a second, right? I wanted 60 frames a second selfie stuff, right? And, you know, it had really nice video quality. Apple's pretty good with cameras.
[24:12] So I went and I bought it and the guy's like there's a new version coming out in two months and I'm like yes but I'm leaving in two days to do a documentary so I need it now there's nothing wrong with that I have no regret about it no problem with it it's totally fine.
[24:30] So I think you might just be making up problems where they don't really exist. In my humble opinion, opinion, opinion. Sur le point d'avion, on y danse, on y danse. Yeah, sometimes it's perfectly okay to just buy what's available. Yeah, for sure. I remember from a company called Mighty Max way back in the day, I bought a notebook for $1,100, which is all the money in the world back then because I needed it for my graduate school program and I was also writing. And it was a 386SX with two megs of RAM and a 30 meg hard drive. This was a powerhouse. It booted up in less than four minutes. Absolutely remarkable. I could turn on 32-bit access and it did not burst into flames. Really, really something. Just amazing. It could do, it did 640 by 480 monochrome on its own screen, but you could do an external screen that could run at 800x600, which was God-given visual pixel improvement. It could not run Doom. For that you needed a 486. Osborne effect? Don't know it, sorry.
[25:53] Hit me with a P if you don't mind if I dip a tiny little bit into politics. Oh, the requests that I... Come back, Stef! We need you! You were the best politics analyzer in the known universe. Return to the fray. Return to the fray. Yeah, like, suppose you want a car that doesn't spy on you and give you a rectal exam when you hit a speed bump. The calls that I get, the siren calls, Oh, Stef, you must return, and we'll give you foot rubs and nipple clamps made of mink fur, just the way you like them. P.P., you want a little politics? Just a little. I can handle just a little, man. I don't have a problem. I'm not like an addict or anything. I can have just a little. I'm fine. I'm fine. Why do you keep looking at me that way? Don't make me go to PA. Not just Pennsylvania, also Politics Anonymous.
[27:00] Political rant. It's interesting. Congrats to your daughter on her promotion. Yes, she was promoted three weeks into her job. Because she understands everything there is about the business world. So yes, I will pass that along. Thank you very much.
[27:19] So do you want, I don't know, I'm just, I'm looking at the donations, which are nice, and I'm not complaining, but I don't know. Let me go and check over on Rumble. Let me just go and have a look, because lots of people watching on Rumble, a lot more people watching on Rumble. You know that you can, thank you for your counsel last Friday, you're absolutely welcome. welcome? Oh, it's when the company, Osborne, announced that the next computer will be so much better and then the customer stopped buying the current computer and the company went bankrupt. Yeah, for sure. As a young journeyman wire man, I've had to embrace the suck quite a bit. Yeah. Yep. Thank you, Mad Cheesiest. I appreciate that. Have you thought of streaming on kick the problem with kick is that it's the name of a fantastic album by in excess every single one of us the devil inside um i should think about i think we have looked into that haven't we james i think we've looked into streaming on kick we just haven't quite got around to it for reasons that pass human understanding i make a lot of sensible decisions, and later I'm like, I have no idea, thanks Lloyd, why I made that decision. But I'm sure it was sensible.
[28:45] What is it when I don't talk to someone for a while? I never remember why. My wife, she doesn't nurse grudges, but she doesn't forget them. We are streaming to kick. Damn. Yes. Look at them go, look at them kick. It makes you wonder how the other half lives. So, FDRURL.com slash kick.
[29:13] FDRURL.com slash kick. Wait, should I check for comments there? I don't think anyone's really watching us there, though. Yeah, not really. Damn, that's a lot of brown. That's a lot of brown. Thank you, Jabrone. Send a $6.90 tip. 6.9 tip. I am afraid I don't have the flexibility for what you're suggesting. Not that I'm saying it's wrong. So, yeah, I don't think anyone watches over on kick. but.
[29:47] Thank you Matt thank you Matt I appreciate it alright, so I appreciate the tips I think we can do a little politics I think so I think we can I think we can, the worst accents in the known universe some people are good at them namely Meryl Streep but I am not Meryl Streep or as they used to call her Meryl Weep because she seemed to just weep for a living, ah well the excess of emotional manipulation known as acting skill is pretty trashy, alright so let's talk a little bit about a single lady so this is from a guy on X.
[30:47] Republicans have been winning married men by 20 points, married women by 14 points, and unmarried men by 7 points. So who is keeping the Democrat Party competitive? Answer, single women are single-handedly saving the Democrat Party, favoring it 68% to 31%. Now, there is a big debate, and I want to know where you guys come down on this. So some people say and this is back to the jd vance cat ladies like single cat ladies are you know voting the republic into socialism or whatever i don't know what he said something like that and so all of the single cat ladies uh report with their cats and create rap songs and make it a whole meme and all of that it's kind of inevitable but so the question is if single If single women are propping up the left, and it's not just in America, and it's not just the Democrats, if single women are propping up the left, what should the strategy of conservatives be? If single women are propping up the left, what should the strategy of conservatives be?
[32:02] What do you think? Because obviously, well, no, I won't say this. I won't say this. I won't say this.
[32:19] I won't say this. All the single ladies, all the single ladies, get them married. Get men to take one for the team and marry the cat ladies. Meow. All right. Cat Scratch Fever was a fun song. Jailbait was not. You creep.
[32:46] Oh yeah, by the way, if you're a Free Domain Premium subscriber, you've got to check out the Don't Lie to Me show. It was pretty ferocious. Woo the single ladies with virtue. Marry single women. A lot of the women are older though, right? So if you want to have kids, it might be too late. What is it someone said? You ever notice that once we stopped objectifying women, they just got fat? A lot of them. I mean, it's a little harsh. Someone, Upper Matt says, just finished watching The Story of Your Enslavement after a decade or so. Still one of the most powerful things I've ever seen. Life-changing for me and my wife. Yes, it was. Yeah, I did a lot of those kinds of shows back in the day before copyright hell, but yeah, it was good. Thank you, I appreciate that.
[33:30] So there are two general strategies that are being proposed. One is scorn, the other is wooing them. I'm not saying it's an easy call. I can see both sides. I can see both sides. And of course, I wrote about this in my novel, The Present, which you absolutely, absolutely, absolutely should listen to or read. Listen to, I think, is even better. The Present at freedomain.com slash books. It's free. Thank you for your donations. So hit me with an S if you're drawn to scorn hit me with a W if you're drawn to wooing the single ladies who vote left, S for scorn W for woo woo woo what do you think, What do we got here?
[34:37] Datecatladies.com. Republicans should make that site happen. That's right. You get 19 pussies for the price of one. I really got to get it in a sensor. I really do. Does anybody know? I'm sure it might seem to be running on Linux. Actually, no, I shouldn't say that. Linux is pretty stable. All right. Wooing, wooing. Scorn. Scorn. Show younger women the horror of being single woman 50 and over. Well, but that's the scorn thing, right? That's the scorn, right? Scorn, win, woo, sorry, woo. I just followed you on kick. Your follow account is now six. Let's pump those numbers up, guys. Rookie numbers, rookie numbers. Woo, it's more enjoyable to try and convince people.
[35:27] Scorn, scorn. It's tough, right? It's tough. So, in general, in any negotiation, if you can't win someone over, then they become a competitor or an enemy. If you can win someone over, it's better to win that person over, right? If you can win someone over in a competition, if you can get them to join your team, they become an ally. If they won't join your team and they join the opposing team, they become an enemy, right? Is it even possible to woo the cat ladies? I think most are beyond help. See, now you're on the scoring side, and I'm just saying.
[36:16] S, because they should stop blaming men for why their life sucks, How can you woo somebody who already has animosity towards you? Well, I guess you're not a Christian because, of course, in the Christian world, that's love your enemies, right?
[36:33] So, the way that it used to work in the business world was we would be in competition with another firm for business and we would try to partner with them, right? Now, if they were to partner with us, and so we would woo them, and if they were to partner with us, then that would be good. We'd be a team, right? But if they were to compete against us, then they go from ally to enemy, right? We understand this. I'm sure it's pretty clear, right? So the pluses and minuses, if you scorn the cat ladies, then you set up opponents, which is then going to drive them further into the arms of the left, right?
[37:17] So that would be a mistake, unless they can't be wooed to your side, because every effort you made to woo this particular group is an effort you're not making to woo another group. So if you waste your time wooing the single cat ladies who are only going to go further, to the left then you're not spending your time wooing those who've given up on politics but you want to draw back into the fold right but gen z boss and a mini did you see that meme of the black i think it was an engineer the black guy who was just exhausted with all of these chanting and singing so it this cost benefits right so if you can woo them and you don't then that's bad, and if you try to woo them and you can't then that's bad because then you've wasted efforts where you could have more productively spent them elsewhere.
[38:12] So, what do you do? And if you woo them politically, and it's just a thought exercise, right? I'm not in politics and I just think it's an interesting thought exercise and it applies to, of course, a lot more than this, right? So, let me ask you this. If you were to woo them, what would you say? How would you woo them? Woo, woo. How would you woo them?
[38:42] How would you, I won't say seduce, sounds a bit creepy, but how would you woo them?
[38:57] Somebody, Chris says, now I'm thinking it depends on their age and state of life. Older, angrily short, dyed-haired, lefty cat ladies get scorned for sure. Well, that is interesting. right? So, I think that the argument that the single women, why are they going for the left? So I'm going to put, why are they going for the left? Now, if you can solve the problem as to why they're going to the left and provide them with a better alternative, then you can solve the problem, right? Does that make sense? Like if you can figure out why, they're going to the left and solve that problem in a better way, then you're doing well, right? That's a good thing. That's a good thing.
[40:13] And so the question is, if you can pierce through the defenses to get to the vulnerability on the other side, you can do some enormous good in the world. You can do, but it's a very volatile situation. It's a very, very volatile thing to be doing. Very volatile indeed. Right? So if you can get through people's defenses, so if somebody's really angry, but in fact, they're just really sad, if you can break through the anger and get to the sadness, you defuse the situation. But the problem is that trying to get through the anger often provokes more anger.
[41:10] So, why are they going leftward?
[41:19] So, I'll give you my thoughts on this, and I obviously don't have any final answers, I'm just curious what you guys think as well. So, if you are a bro, if you are a big swinging who's your vat of man meat, then you don't understand, fundamentally, neither do I, how vulnerable women feel. How vulnerable women feel the closest that i can give as an example is that man if you have to walk through a bad neighborhood with a clear backpack stuffed full of hundred dollar bills you'd feel pretty nervous and anxious the whole time that's women moving through the world in particular killer without a male. You look cool today. Total lie. I look cool every day. Sometimes just hide it better than others. So the reason why I think the single women are drawn to the left is they feel scared. They feel scared of failure. They feel scared of getting sick. They feel scared of getting fired. They feel scared of the world around them.
[42:38] A man without a woman lacks purpose and meaning. A woman without a man lacks stability and security.
[42:57] So what is it that the women are drawn to the left for? Stability and security. Stability because men, we sail through life blandly unconcerned with the health of relatives. Come on, guys, let's be honest. Let's shake them and show them. Come on. When was the last time you were very concerned about your great aunt's health? We are giant tanks of productive indifference sailing across the no woman's land of making shit work without worrying about people's spleens we don't care oh john wiesel got sick oh wow that's a drag anyway right we don't know we don't care, Right? Phone rings at 2 o'clock in the morning You're like, damn, that's the wrong number Whereas the woman wakes up and says, okay, who died? Who died? Or is someone calling me? There's a thump downstairs In the middle of the night A man leaps up, bracing for combat A woman shrinks back into the covers, bracing for rape.
[44:17] We don't care. I'm sorry, ladies. I don't mean to shock you. We don't care. We don't care. I mean, it's partly because, in general, people don't care about us getting sick. But, yeah. We don't care. We don't care. Oh. They've got dementia. Wow. Yeah, that's a drag. Anyway. So, like, sorry.
[44:49] It's just the way that it is we don't process that stuff we don't track it we don't really really care yeah they'll walk it off well for men for me what do we think we think well one of two things is going to happen either great aunt ethel is going to get better or, not if she gets better the problem is solved if she doesn't get better the problem is solved Either way, well, you get the point, right?
[45:23] Do you even know the health status as a man? Do you even know the health status of the people in your life? Do you? Do you? Do you, huh? You don't know. I don't know. But the women know. Oh, yes. The women. They doth know these things that men do not even know exist. Do you know, I hear this rumor, I hear this rumor that there are a lot of older people who need taken care of. Have you heard this? Have you heard about this? That there are older people, apparently, out there. I think they're in this dimension. Could be another dimension. I'm not sure. But there are older people out there who genuinely, deeply, and apparently, truly need to be taken care of. You've heard this right you've heard this.
[46:27] As men it's just a vague rumor it's a it's akin to lore in a video game from 1997 i mean i guess it's a fact but it doesn't really impinge much on our consciousness now i'm not saying this is better or worse. I say this without any particular moral judgment. I'm just saying, right?
[46:52] Oh, somebody says, when a colleague at work calls in sick, I think they're weak. I mean, they're walking around, aren't they? Yes. You always think they're faking it. Yeah, I mean, when, When a colleague calls in sick when I was in the business industry, I'm like, oh, I guess their wife had a day off and they're looking for some afternoon delight. Oh, dear. Right.
[47:25] So, as men, we don't scan and notice ailments. And the obvious reason why is that we aren't going to be taking care of them. I'm not saying this from a moral standpoint. I'm just saying factually. All right, raise a hand if you've nursed anyone for more than three days. If you're a guy, have you nursed? I mean, you know, your wife gets the flu and so on. You want to get her back on her feet because, you know, you're going to get hungry and all. So if you're a, I'm kidding. If you're a guy, have you nursed someone for more than three days? Like really taking care of them, got them their soup and pregnancy doesn't really count. But have you? When I was near death a couple of years ago, I didn't get much sympathy from my male friends. I didn't expect much either. Yeah, like I literally had cancer and my male friends were like, yeah, what's new? Sorry. The only consolation is I'm kind of the same way. Yes my mother right.
[48:32] It just is the way that it is we don't track this stuff but if you go to women and you say have you nursed anyone this that and the other right, i mean i remember many years ago so when i i worked for a um a mining company to do this gold panning and prospecting stuff and I remember being at a dinner downtown after we had some successful gold panning they took us all out for dinner and there was this woman who was like the heart and soul the admin assistant and the executive assistant of the heart and soul of the company and literally she held court and she was like and you know who else died you know who else died and and she just knew everything she was like the ticker tape of death she's like the grim reapers printout like like those old stock tickers in the old movies you know who else died, And so-and-so has got really sick.
[49:21] And you know, so-and-so has breast cancer. Do you know they're looking at a mastectomy? And she just knew all of this stuff. Men, we just sail above this. It's like trying to find sewage from a B-52 at night. Where are those underground tunnels with the mattresses? Don't know. We're up above the clouds.
[49:52] Very old women gossip so much. She wasn't even that old. But she was passing essential information to women. The men were all like, well, this is macabre. And the women were like, oh, really? Oh, my. Oh, my gosh. Really? And you know who else broke up? And you know who else's? Their marriages. Oh, and you know, I heard so-and-so had an affair. Now, you're saying, oh, this is gossip. And it's like, nope, it's not gossip. It's statistics. So you get a view into the obligations that are coming your way.
[50:23] This is why I say to people, to men, you date a woman, a woman dates your family. A woman looks at you and says, nice guy, got some abs. That's a satisfying pole vault to bulge in his pants. But I'm not taking care of that woman when she gets old. His mother can go pound sand.
[50:49] James says I was walking around my neighborhood the other day saw an ambulance at one of the houses ran into a neighbor several days later who asked me if I knew who died I was like somebody died? Well there was an ambulance but I don't know who and she was trying to figure out who it was yes who? who? Who? So men follow office politics to some degree who's in who's out.
[51:15] Because that has to do with our income, which is what we focus on. And women focus on statistics and birth and death and gossips and illness and so on, right?
[51:27] Somebody says, my father currently is in care of my mother who has Alzheimer's disease. He's been caring for her since COVID, very challenging, but refuses to put her into a home we all help as a family. For sure. Look, I mean, that's going to happen, but in general, we evolved why don't men take care of the sick? Why? Why don't men take care of the sick? Why? Especially when they get older, right? So you get into your 40s, your 50s, your parents get sick, your parents get old why don't men take care of the sick? In general, why have we not evolved to do that? Why have we evolved to not even particular care? A couple of reasons of course number one, we can't get sick number two, we have to be out hunting and we have to be out farming and we have to be out doing all of this stuff because we have to provide food for everyone. So we can't be taking care of the sick because taking care of the sick is a luxury, throughout most of human history. It's a luxury. And as a luxury, it has to be provided for by male ingenuity and hard work. Yeah, get on the ice flow, Dad. Yeah, absolutely. Absolutely. Absolutely. You know, this is the Inuit, right? That if somebody gets too old, somebody gets too old, put them out on the ice floor, right?
[52:46] So women feel vulnerable, and women are scanning for illness and ailment and unhappiness, which they then feel moved to solve, right? This is, you know, they're just coming here for a better life. You know all of this stuff, right? Men, I don't remember why I stopped talking to some people. I honestly don't. Pay me a million dollars. I'm like, I don't know. I used to hang out with that guy. I used to be more friends with that. I don't know what. I genuinely don't remember what happened. I don't. But my wife remembers. In fact, she basically brings out the whole miniseries. I don't remember the person's last name, but she's like, oh, Bob, pseudonym, right? Oh, Bob, well, let me tell you. Okay, if you don't remember, let me tell you. This happened, then this happened, then this happened, then we did this, then this happened, you tried this, then this happened, boom, boom, boom. It's like she's reading a private investigator detailed report in her mind with footnotes and diagrams.
[53:49] I sneezed once and my wife pounces at me with her neck. Right. Right. And remember, so women are vulnerable, right? So women are scared of illness because also if the man gets ill, right? I knew a woman once wrote a play, wrote a whole musical. It's actually quite a nice musical. And the musical started with a guy on a ship fell from the mast and died.
[54:12] And he had a wife with six children. And the children all had to be scattered. Throughout the country. Women have elephant memories. They absolutely need to remember this stuff. Because they need to know who's positive, who's negative. Who's there, who's not. Who's on their side, who's in. And these things can change.
[54:32] That's why it's important not to piss off men. Sorry, that's why it's important not to piss off women. If you piss off men, we get quite angry and then we forget about it. Right? We get quite angry, and then we forget about it. Women don't get so angry, but never forget about it. Tell me I'm wrong. A woman's life can sour really fast if the husband falls ill or dies. For sure. For sure. I mean, this is why men were able to take more risks, which fueled the Industrial Revolution in part because the industry called insurance came along because of calculus and probability theory that came out of one philosopher, a French philosopher, author of Pensees, Blaise Pascal. So women need security. Women need security. Women outlive men. Women need security. Women need a man to earn enough money that they can live off his savings after he dies and she lives for another five to ten years.
[55:41] Right. There's a... There's a speech in Glass Menagerie. Which is pretty... Pretty wild.
[56:06] Which is... What happens... Right? What happens? Laura Wingfield is talking to her mother, Amanda. The interplay could be described as a rather typical mother-daughter interchange. So this is the, the mother is frightened in this play, which is a great play. It's an absolutely great play to read. The mother is frightened because her daughter is pathologically shy and hit in 30. And so the mother is trying to get the daughter to at least get a job. She's sending her to a secretary school to learn typing and shorthand and all this kind of stuff, right? How to run the phones back when it was complicated, right?
[56:59] So, I won't give you all about the play. You should watch the Paul Newman directed a great one, a great version of this with his wife. And Karen Allen from The Shining and a young John Malkovich and some guy who played, the young gentleman caller who was also really good, but I can't remember his name, Joanna Woodward. She was very good. You can find it. It's hard to find, but you can find it and it's well worth watching. So Laura Wingfield is talking to her mother. And her mother is terrified that her daughter is not going to have a job and not get married. And the mother says, I know so well what becomes of unmarried women who aren't prepared to occupy a position. I've seen such pitiful cases in the South, barely tolerated spinsters living upon the grudging patronage of a sister's husband or a brother's wife. Stuck away in some little mousetrap of a room encouraged by one in-law to visit another little bird-like women without any nest, eating the crust of humility all their life. Is that the future that we've mapped out for ourselves?
[58:22] The terror. What happens? What happens? And of course, this is a woman who chose wrong. The mother, she chose wrong. Right? Amanda says to her son, no girl can do worse than put herself at the mercy of a handsome appearance. Because she just married a guy for his looks, and he ended up being unstable, right?
[59:02] So, terrifying. Terrifying. Truth. James says, I'll have a bad time at a restaurant and we'll remember for about three months and then it's like, why don't I eat there? Right. Right. I have forgotten far more than I've remembered. I'm male. Well, no, no. You remember where the good game is and how to shoot a bow and all of that sort of stuff, right? How many times have you guys walked into a room to say to yourself, what am I doing here? Too many hamster wheels spinning. Yes. Yeah, you can do a lot worse than go to the hyper gay Tennessee Williams to find out something about women. The man understood his mother. And his mother was both a man to Wingfield in the Glass Menagerie and, of course, Blanche Dubois and a streetcar named Desire are caricatures of femininity, but contain some quite essential truths, particularly for neurotic females, right?
[1:00:17] So women are frightened of randomness because women react men are not as frightened of randomness because men tend to be proactive whereas women tend to be reactive because if you're going out hunting i mean you don't know if you're going to get the right game or not but on average you will so you can go and act, right? I'm hungry, I can act directly on the world. Go hunting, go fishing, whatever, right? But a woman cannot act directly on the world. She has to act through relationships. Again, this is all evolutionary stuff. I say this without moral judgment. I'm just looking at the facts, right? A man can beat another man up. A woman has to get a man to beat another man up. Women control access to sex. Men control access to marriage. One of the great lessons of the great Kevin Samuels.
[1:01:32] Never read or seen them, not planning to either. Oh, these two plays? Your choice. Your choice. You don't have to take my recommendations. What do I know? I just came from a broken, violent home and have had 22, 23, 22 years of a successful, happy marriage. Women can't go out and get their own food. They have to get men to get their food. Not because women are lazy. Women are incredibly hardworking throughout most of human evolution, but because they're breastfeeding, they've got to take care of kids, they've got to keep a household running, they've got to pickle the vegetables, they've got to create the jam, they've got to plan for the winter, they work. Look at the mother, Bazarov's mother, incredibly described by Ivan Turgenev in the novel Fathers and Sons. I'm actually rereading that again for the first time in 30 plus years.
[1:02:39] So women act through relationships which means women have to manipulate people in the same way and with the same skill that men manipulate material reality, well men are engineers and women are in hr and men are scientists and women are psychologists It's like, yes, of course, playing to strengths. And the more choice women have, the more they go into traditionally female occupations. Men are the principals, women are the teachers, men are the doctors, women are the nurses, blah, blah, blah. We all understand, right? Men act directly on reality, women act through relationships. There's nothing wrong with it. It's not a negative. So in the same way you remember how to manipulate reality, do many people have to teach you a lot about how to hammer a nail in? You ever see a woman trying to hammer a nail in? And it's pretty painful, a lot. And I was actually a woman who built this studio, so no disrespect for that. We're just talking averages, right?
[1:03:43] And that's why women and men have a difficult time understanding each other because we're not celebrating the differences. So women say, you know, there's this comedian, right? He talks about how his friend Bob is going through a divorce, right? And he goes to play golf with his friend Bob for a couple of hours, comes back home and his wife's like, how's Bob doing? About what? About the divorce. divorce well how would i know that well you just spent four hours with the guy you don't know didn't come up what do you mean it didn't come up didn't you ask didn't come up i don't know how is he dating anyone how would i know you just spent four hours with him well it didn't come up i do know he got a new driver though it's incomprehensible for a woman it's because if you were with a if a woman was another woman who was going through a divorce for four hours and never asked her about the divorce, there would be a giant smoking crater where that relationship used to be.
[1:04:49] So men act directly. We get that strength and we get the weakness. And women act through relationships. Which is why a woman tends to be inspiring or a nag.
[1:05:13] Somebody says i heard a guy say a woman wants a man who has a plan women don't like to make decisions i agree with him well this is the old where do you want to eat well i don't know where do you want to eat and you what's the bro who cracked the code you just say i uh i know where you're going to eat but you i know i've decided where you're going to eat but what's your guess so and so's ah you're right it's endearing how some women work so hard to make sure every family Every member of the family is satisfied. Yes, absolutely. Absolutely. It's a beautiful part of women. I couldn't imagine two women silently fishing together for an hour. Well, if they hated each other, they might. Not going to pry into private matters. Right. What's the old... It's an old meme, right? It's a woman looking dissatisfied in a car. I do not understand how my husband can know about the world economy, the Federal Reserve, fiat currency, Bitcoin, inflation, and how a MacBook works, but never knows when I'm upset or why.
[1:06:29] So, what is it that the single women are looking for? They're looking for stability and security from the state. Because women live with a level of anxiety that would fry the brains of most men. We're just not equipped for it. We are blithely indifferent.
[1:06:49] To a lot of men, stress is like a bunch of seagulls squawking when we're half a mile under the ocean in a Das Boot-style manly sub. that's right it's long and hard and full of semen, right here's something i noticed about the trades a man can work on a machine if another totally random man walks by they can both start communicating without even knowing each other's names and begin problem solving yeah you know the meme i'm sorry don't mean to over meme everyone here but you know we've got to control the memes in production right so, it's two women should we invite sally oh we've only known her for eight months it's way too soon as opposed to hey two guys are like the third guy hey who's this guy i don't know i met him on the street said he doesn't like communism i thought i'd bring him along.
[1:07:46] So women live with a randomness and a sense of nervousness and stress about because Because someone can just get sick. Someone can just get sick. And that's the next 10 years of their life. Because they've got to drive the person to the hospital. They've got to take care of them, pick them up when they're sick. They've got to see how they're doing. There could be phone calls in the middle of the night. They need to arrange for care. They need to go out and figure out how adult diapers work. Honestly, we men, tiptoeing through the tulips, going through the daisies, dum-dee-dum-dee-dum and women all falling by and diving over to Sucker of the Sick and take care of the wounded and we're just like dum-dee-dum-dee-dum. Ah. We don't know what it is like to have, the smaller amount of self-direction and control that women have to evolve to live with on a daily basis. Thank you.
[1:09:06] So true. I'm like, hey, you seem cool here. Join my friend group. Yeah, that's right. That's right. Easy come, easy go, right? So what are these women looking for? They're looking for stability and security. Ivan Drago mean, if he dies, he dies. Yeah. Yep.
[1:09:30] I mean, because I grew up in a gynocentric world, right? Single. The matriarchal manners, right? Single mother, rent-controlled, craptastic, thin-walled, fridges from the Stone Age, cranky, rusty taps, and cockroaches crawling through the oven clocks kind of place. So everything was kind of high-strung and hysterical. Are you okay? I mean, are you okay? Are you okay? Are you okay? okay like if i stumble my wife's like are you okay right whereas you know we had this uh this scottish gym teacher you know i remember taking a elbow to the face during wrestling and my my mouth was full of blood and he's like ah you're fine you're fine i was told to walk it off although it wasn't exactly a leg injury but you know he's kind of prying in there it's like i don't know which hamsters or heifers ass these hands have been up but they smell that way and he's got like tobacco fumes that could kill a cossack army and it's like you're fine well thank you for the uh, detailed thorough examination i guess your hands didn't come out the back of my neck so i'm fine.
[1:10:52] Are you okay and it's lovely i don't i don't fault either side all work to get us to the top of the food channel no problem with it but we don't know what it's like because, if someone gets sick sorry when someone gets sick right you marry into a family you've got But, I mean, historically, grandparents, maybe great-grandparents, parents, and they all just kind of fade into each other, and they all need a crap ton of resources and help. When they get old. I mean, as a man, do you worry about this? I mean, I'm not saying you don't, right? But let's say, if you're a married man, if you're a single man, that's one thing, right? But if you're a married man and there's an elderly ailing relative on the street, do you worry that you're going to have to quit your job to take care of it? You've got a stay-at-home wife. Do you worry you're going to have to quit your job to take care of an elderly aging relative?
[1:12:09] You don't worry about that. We are blithely indifferent to the concerns and cares that women get ambushed with on a regular basis. Because women take care of the ailing. I mean, for men it's a lot of times, well, I see you fell and really hurt your leg. Let's hope you'll make it back. We'll put an extra light out for you. Like, I remember when I was working up north, we had to five-tone this story before I keep it brief, but we had to fly out the next morning, and I didn't want to get up crushingly early because we had another two samples to get with the Apionjo drill. We had to drill down to the bedrock and get the soil samples to figure out how much gold is in there. And my friend and I, we went to the arse end of nowhere. We thought we could make it, but it was a cloudless, sorry, it was a cloudy, moonless night, pitch black, could not see your hand in front of your face. But you go really slow carry the drill carry the drill bits the soil samples could not see a thing, You know to hold your hand in front of your face to make sure that you didn't get your eyeball scratched by the tree branches Now did people come out to look for us? No, cuz we're men and they were two other men back at base camp now What they did do was they hung a light out front, Excellent, it's only minus 40.
[1:13:38] So good you know they did that, that's nice women were like are they okay we gotta go look for them what's the matter do you have a flare can we they have a radio can we go out and holler just hang a light out they'll be fine coach after you get tackled and knocked unconscious walk it off pencil neck, yeah I guess you could use a helmet whatever some pencil neck law yeah, as men generally people don't particularly care about us but the downside is that the women have to care for the elderly and it's tough it's tough for them so women are hard wired to be concerned about this kind of stuff, i mean every man has these stories right, where you walk it off and your sister gets a cast and everyone signs it and she gets flowers and.
[1:14:52] So women are going to have to take care of things, and women are wired for that. And if women don't have their own families to take care of, they'll take care of cats, strangers, immigrants, whatever, right? Which is why when men are in charge, they tend to control physical violence. When women are in charge, they tend to control language. Because men fight with swords and women fight with words, which is why England is England right now. Lol no one signed my cast yeah i remember i was i think eight or nine years old and i went to school this is our boarding school was six to eight i guess it was nine years old and i went to school and nobody knew it was my birthday and i was very much keen for people to figure out that it was my birthday and i kept dropping hints nobody cared meanwhile the girl there was some girl uh at the other end of the playground people oh it's your birthday oh it's all right i'll just Just be here ho in the back 40 and fighting off the Huns. Don't mind me. I'll be fine.
[1:16:00] Leather helmets are fine. Don't want to be seen as a pansy after all. No, you need the helmets because you need to preserve the dental records so you can be identified when they scrape you off the soccer posts. All right.
[1:16:16] So, what are these women looking for? Why are they voting left? Because they need security, because they're terrified. So, what I would say to these women is, look, I really, really understand, man.
[1:16:26] It can be a nerve-wracking thing to be a woman, right? I really, I understand that. It is easy to feel vulnerable. It's easy to feel scared. I completely understand. I mean, I grew up with a very vulnerable mother who spent a lot of time both in pursuit of security, which ended up actually endangering her to some degree because she was so desperate for security that she was willing to compromise on vetting, right, on vetting things, right? So you're worried about what happens when you get older. You're worried about what happens if you get ill. You're worried about what happens when your relatives get ill, and you need a support system. You need a support structure. and in the past this used to be a wonderful group or crew of other women right it was a wonderful group and crew of other women and you could share your burdens you could share your laughter you could share your sorrows if you look at the big movies that appeal to women it is very much around a sisterhood of celebration and suffering right that the men don't really understand but the sort of fried green tomatoes thing and the sally field one whose name i can never remember, but Olympia Dukakis, Sally Field, Country and Western Girl, Dolly Parton.
[1:17:48] So you want the sisterhood of celebration and suffering.
[1:17:58] It makes perfect sense. You need to spread the risk and you need to spread the celebrations because you will be called upon to take care of the elderly. You are generally called upon to take care of the sick. We can get mad at it. We can say it's unfair. I understand that, but it is kind of how we evolved. And for whatever reason, you're just, you're way better at it. And I know that's not fair. I know that's absolutely not fair, but it is kind of the way things work. Steel Magnolias, thank you.
[1:18:33] So, Steel Magnolias, of course, has the daughter who is, it's the nightmare of the mother, right? So the daughter is ill and won't listen and won't take care of herself. That's the nightmare. That's the nightmare. Women have to absorb and process an enormous amount of sorrow relative to men. Men have inflicted upon us loss of status, humiliation, and violence, historically, and failure, and the feeling of being useless when we're old. But women have regular waves of suffering, right?
[1:19:17] There's a beautiful sequence in Harriet Beecher Stowe's Uncle Tom's Cabin, about the little drawer that every woman has. The little drawer. I'm going to see if I can find it.
[1:19:39] It is a beautiful. Every woman has the little drawer. No I won't be able to find it but basically it is the little drawer that every woman has for the child or children who died, that every woman has that little drawer full of the baby clothes that never got put on full of the named ideas that were never applied full of the booties that were pulled off, The dead child, the little drawer of keepsakes and namesakes that she goes to from time to time in great sorrow and memory of the child who didn't make it.
[1:20:32] And that is, and I remember the guy I worked with up north, it was just terrible, terrible situation. A guy I worked with up north, he was going to get married and he wanted to lose weight for his wedding and he was out jogging and he got hit by a car and killed instantly. And I went to, of course, I went to his funeral and I went to the reception afterwards and his father was just sitting and talking and you couldn't tell. It was eerie, really. It was eerie.
[1:21:06] Of course women would be wailing and rending their garments so to speak right but it's rough, and in particular a woman kevin samuels used to the late great kevin samuels used to talk about this with women and he would say how are you going to provide for your old age without a man, are you going to have the 1.4 or 2.4 million dollars that you need to live from 65 to 85, you're gonna have that without a man what if you get sick now of course for men when we get sick we will power through it and either we get better or we don't, especially single men it's different if you're married right i understand but then you have your life insurance right so at least your family's going to be taken care of right.
[1:22:04] So they're looking for stability and security because they live a life of unpredictable loss. At any time, I'm telling you this, as men, we don't understand this. At any time, boom, some relative could get ill. Some relative could get ill. Somebody could get injured. Somebody could need years of care and rehab. You know some kid could get meningitis and eat half of their brain and then they, have to be kept alive for decades and somebody could break a leg that doesn't set properly and be in constant pain someone could get some sort of reaction to medicine somebody could get an allergy somebody's throat could close up you know women are like right on the widow's the widow makers ventricle of mortality they are right on the edge we're just sailing along and And they're like, they dance on the edge of the cliff. They dance on the edge of the cliff of mortality, women. They can't stop seeing it. Injuries, problems, danger, fear, loss, tragedy.
[1:23:29] And they're taking a gamble. And the gamble the single women are taking is fundamentally economic. So the single women... So do you know that attractiveness in women predicts being conservative? And happiness in both men and women predicts being conservative, which, you know, small government free market stuff, right?
[1:24:00] So, the women who are less physically attractive tend to go to the government because the government will give them more resources than the kind of man they could get, right? So, you know the old thing that, you know, your mom is rich and your daddy's good-looking, right? So, the richer you are as a man, the more attractive a woman you can generally get. And so, the attractive women tend to be more conservative because they can get the kind of men who can provide them more resources than the state can. Or, you know, maybe they're smart enough to see that it can't last and all that kind of stuff, right? So the less attractive women, and they can have wonderful spirits and all of that, but the less attractive women tend to gamble with the government. Because the government can give them more resources than the kind of man they can get by being less attractive. And the less attractive could just be bad luck, could be genetics, could be overweight, could be any number of things, right? So in the past, a woman had to stay healthy and athletic because otherwise the man might cheat. The woman had to stay healthy and athletic and slender because otherwise she couldn't get a man or the kind of man she could get would be much lower quality in terms of income.
[1:25:14] But now, women don't have to stay attractive to get resources from men because they use the power of the state, though they don't see it this way.
[1:25:21] I understand that. They don't see it this way, but that's what it breaks down to. They use the power of the state to extract resources from men without having to provide fertility, attractiveness, and child raising in return.
[1:25:36] So the conversation to have for women is, I completely understand where you're coming from, a woman's life has a level of anxiety, I mean, they say, oh, women score higher in neurosis and anxiety than men, it's called hysterical, right, from hysteria, the womb, for a reason, and it's like, but it's not because there's anything wrong with women, it's because women live in a state of having to take care of the inevitable vicissitudes of life, and of course, remember, Remember, women evolved without modern medicine and taking care of and antibiotics and all of this extra care and treatment and so on. Women didn't grow up with any of that. They didn't evolve with any of that. So, the amount of nursing and helplessness and reactive and disaster and catastrophe and long lingering resource drains that women had to deal with over the course of their life was often in the dozens. The dozens. This is why women need each other, and this is why the sisterhood is very important. And you can take this to an extreme.
[1:26:39] Have every woman read your novel, The Present Problems Off. Yeah, you can take this to an extreme, where the sisterhood is all that matters. But the sisterhood is what's needed in the face of what they view as men's callous indifference to the suffering around them. And we men are, I'll be honest with you, and again, maybe you're different, and I think this is obviously it's a generality but we men are profoundly indifferent to the suffering around us. We just are and there's nothing wrong with that. We can't be that attuned to suffering because men survive by inflicting suffering and families survive by inflicting suffering. It's not like the deer wants to get shot in the ass with an arrow. It's not like the enemy you club over the head wants to get clubbed over the head.
[1:27:30] So we can't be that empathetic because if we're too empathetic we can't compete with other men like if we get the best looking girl then all the other men are upset and angry and frustrated and annoyed and hate us it's like well we have to be indifferent to that in order to get our just desserts if we're a high quality man or a high in demand man or whatever right so because men are competitive and women tend to be more cooperative at least after men are competitive before marriage and then competitive to provide the most for the family whereas women are They're competitive before marriage and then have to be cooperative afterwards. They're competitive for the men before marriage and they have to cooperate to minimize and share the risks and problems after marriage.
[1:28:09] So, women have been seduced into getting resources from the state, which is a little bit greedy. Right? A little bit greedy. If somebody said to some woman, you can date, I don't know, Hugh Jackman or apparently Pete Davidson is a big chick magnet these days for reasons that, I don't know, I can't quite. I mean, wouldn't you prefer a cucumber in ass blaster hot sauce? Well, apparently not. Apparently it's Pete Davidson. So whoever, right? Basketball players, right? So if a woman was offered a multi-millionaire basketball player as her husband or welfare, she would choose the basketball player. We understand that, right? And so women who don't feel that they can get many resources or as much resource from a man, they get a little bit lazy and they want resources from the state. Now, the problem is, of course, that the state doesn't care for them and the state is simply buying their vote and the state won't be there if they get ill or sick in the way that a husband will be there, a husband who loves them, a husband who really cares for them. Now you say, oh, Stef, you were just telling people that men don't care. It's like, but you care about your wife, right? That's a different matter, so, right?
[1:29:32] So.
[1:29:40] It is, an argument from self-interest to say to women, look, when you get old, the money won't be there. Right? I mean, what do we, we'll certainly, in America, I think it's five to ten years, at least according to official estimates, I assume that it's much worse than that. Five to ten years running out of social security. The healthcare system is generally getting worse.
[1:30:04] Old age homes are not good. good pretty much every every um i mean you turn on x and there's some old person getting beaten up in an old age home and again i know that's not typical but it's certainly happening, wasn't there a woman you were dating who wanted david beckham or something well she just you know david beckham was her ideal right i'm like and and almost nothing worse right you know these alpha widows right almost nothing worse can happen to a woman then she gets the alpha male of her dreams and then he goes sir and then she is now completely attuned to that and everyone else looks ugly right.
[1:31:00] Stef you've been so funny lately I've LOL'd many times catching up on you well thank you I appreciate that, so it is a strategy I understand and men come on I mean really men who are porn addicts are you really going to complain that women are taking cheap and easy substitutes for relationships really come on uh men like to uh you know you're taking video games instead of achievement and porn instead of an actual relationship, so well i don't know that there's a huge amount of superior legs to stand on so to speak, the issue is they want the security of stolen goods versus the potential goods of a potential marital relationship well no so in order to to i think appeal or understand these women is to say that, you are probably going to be a lot better off in the long run being married than relying on on the warmongering, indebted state. Your real risk now is the state. Your real risk now is relying on the currency.
[1:32:24] If you rely on the currency, it won't work. Think of all the women who relied on the state to provide their resources during the fall of Rome, or the fall of the Greek, ancient Greek empires. It's not going to work. What you think of as security is not security. The only chance you really have for security or the greatest chance you have for security is a man who loves you. And you want love and women live for love. love in i mean men live for love but women live even more so for love i think because men have model railroads or whatever nonsense substitutes for love for men, somebody oh girl dad i have trouble showing enough empathy to my wife when she's sick it feels unnatural to me i'm not sure what to say and what i do say feels fake oh yeah no i and there's nothing and women who judge men by female standards are looking for someone who's not a man, So who's better at taking care of sick people, men or women? We all know this, right? Which is why the male doctors diagnose and treat and the women nurses tend to comfort and aid, right? Chris says, I do see the suffering of single career women I work with as a tragedy. They don't seem to understand where the road they're taking leads. Well, and we need to help people, right? We need to help people.
[1:33:50] I mean if you've ever known a porn addict who hits his 40s and is single i mean it's brutal right it's brutal so we need to help we need to help each other and we need to help the women.
[1:34:09] I mean, we all know what's happening to the rape rates, right? And there's just grave danger. And it's not going to be safe to rely on all of this. Unfortunately, it requires a mathematical calculation, and most women look towards social gratification. No, I don't think. Look, women are smart. And women are incredibly great at resource prediction. They're incredibly great at resource prediction. So right now, in an amoral sense, and I understand that, but they are doing a calculation to maximize the resource consumption through the state. And once you say to people, look, that is a deal that could have worked, it did work in the 60s, 70s, 80s, the noughties, but it's fading out over the next 10 years. And if you're under 65, and you're waiting for a full-fledged pension, you are waiting in vain, like the old song, right? waiting, train in vain. That train ain't a-coming all night long. So you're going to need to try and find some man to, so you can protect each other, so you can take care of each other.
[1:35:20] And I think that's the conversation that needs to happen. I think that's the conversation that needs to happen. But just oh, they're just, you know, leftists and socialists and blah, blah, blah. It's like, well, most people, most people Men too are amoral resource acquirers. I mean, this is what we evolved to do, to gather resources in an amoral fashion.
[1:35:47] So the reason why we're at the top of the food chain is because we kicked everyone out who was not an amoral resource acquirer, right? So we are amoral resource acquirers.
[1:36:02] That's people as a whole. You can get mad at it, but that's getting mad at all the evolution that produced the brain to get mad at it. You're a spot on, Stef. Seeing women in my life change their tune on Donald Trump after seeing what's going on with increased violence. Yeah. Yeah, I mean, whatever the government offers you will end up being manifested as the opposite, right? Because violence achieves the opposite of its stated goal every time.
[1:36:31] So I think I'm again I'm not really talking politics I'm sort of talking male female stuff but I think that's the important conversation to have and those of us who've had mothers or have mothers who took the, run to the government route oof man it's rough man, I mean I I tried it's a really it's a very you know even you know a quarter century later it there's an ache in my heart, you know crack a toe high wide and deep It has an ache in my heart because I tried for so many years to genuinely, deeply, and compassionately help my mother, but she could just get her money from the government. She didn't need to listen to me. I tried giving her money. I tried helping her out financially. She just did really bad things with the money, and I just couldn't countenance it. And it's really sad because, you know, the government will pay her bills, but will not care about her.
[1:37:29] And it just did not work out it will not work out it will not work out and just having people understand that and it's tough it's tough for women particularly sort of post fertility right sort of post post 40 and so on it's tough because they're going to have to make some compromises but you got a lot of lonely guys and you got a lot of lonely women and the only way that that they're going to do well at all is to combine in the way that nature and or God or whatever intended, right? We have to, have to, have to join forces as men and women because an absolute shit storm is coming and those left isolated will not do well at all. And if you have to to make some compromises, right? The men who've been, you know, raised on a steady stream of great-looking women are going to have to deal with actual women and actually how they look like, and women who fantasized about Pete Davidson while reading Fifty Shades of Grey are going to have to deal with actual men who don't have helicopters, don't play piano, and don't make a billion dollars a minute.
[1:38:56] We need each other, and hoping for the government and hoping that that's all going to work out is not an even remotely productive strategy. It is not going to work out. The only redemption arc for these women is to become maids like Catherine for most. Yeah, so Catherine, Ursat's mother to Tom in my novel Almost, a wonderful woman, actually based her on one of the women who helped raise me, in fact, who raised me in many ways, right?
[1:39:32] So I went deep into my primal memory of the woman who was raising me and came up with this character who I absolutely adored in my novel, The Present. So please, guys, go out and find women. Will they look like Scarlett Johansson? No, but you don't look like Brad Pitt. And it doesn't. All the looks are going to fade anyway. I mean, did you see the latest picture of Katy Perry? I mean, Katy Perry was a stunningly beautiful woman. Great figure. She's aging out. Of course, it's nothing we all do, right? Every now and then I'll flash the picture of me at 20, right?
[1:40:10] So go out and find a woman. I'm not telling you to, you know, marry a woman to turn her into a conservative. What I am doing, though, is I'm saying that you're going to need a woman, and women are going to need men. And all of this artificial, splendid isolation crap that's entirely fueled by debt, theft, and inflation is coming to an end. You know, winter is coming, man. And you're going to need somebody else's body heat to stay warm. All right. Well, if you enjoyed the show, I really, really appreciate that. Freedomain.com slash donate to help out the show. I really would appreciate that as well.
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